Are we optimizing love or avoiding it?
Modern Dating Isn’t Romantic. It’s Strategic.
Dating today feels like a game where everyone knows the rules but no one wins.
We sat down with Beau “Big Boner” Bobier for an unfiltered look at what happens when dating becomes data-driven instead of heart-driven.
Beau’s a former comic turned sales pro who thinks in punchlines but speaks with brutal honesty. His take? Romance got replaced by tactics. Efficiency. Self-preservation.
The Playbook of Modern Dating
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Stacked reservations in case one cancels.
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Height inflation on apps.
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“Just seeing where it goes” as the new emotional firewall.
It’s all strategy.
People optimize for control, not connection.
Why Trust Feels Rare
Beau shares stories that are raw and uncomfortable.
A date that turned combative after he said, “I’m using you.”
The quiet calculation behind every match, message, and meet-up.
He isn’t promoting cynicism, just honesty about what dating has become. When everyone’s protecting their time, money, and pride, sincerity starts to look like a risk.
Humor Keeps It Human
Despite the chaos, Beau keeps it light.
He jokes about height filters, ghosting patterns, and the absurdity of trying to look “authentic” online. His stories hit because they’re too real to ignore.
The Takeaway
Beau doesn’t claim to have the answers.
He’s just showing what modern dating looks like when you strip away the filters and let people speak plainly.
It’s messy. It’s strategic. It’s very human.
