From DJ to Motivational Speaker: Ramsay's Journey to Authentic Living

Ramsay on Emotional Intelligence, Dating, and the Power of Perspective

Episode Recap: The Meet Market Podcast with Lindsay and Jess

In this episode of The Meet Market, hosts Lindsay and Jess sit down with motivational speaker and author Ramsay to unpack everything from dating and self-worth to grief and growth. Named by MSN as one of the top 10 speakers to follow, Ramsay shares his journey with vulnerability, humor, and practical wisdom.

From Wedding Cake to Life Philosophy

The episode opens with the story behind Ramsay’s book, Cake on the Floor. During a wedding he attended, the cake collapsed—and instead of freaking out, the bride laughed. That moment shifted Ramsay’s entire mindset.

“It’s not what happens to us. It’s how we choose to respond.”

This became the foundation for his work as a coach and speaker, helping people shift perspective, especially during chaos or uncertainty.

Criticism and the “Green Socks” Trick

When it comes to dealing with judgment or online hate, Ramsay offers a practical tool: imagine someone says, “I hate your green socks,”—but you’re not wearing any. The comment obviously isn’t about you.

That’s the point.

Criticism often reflects more about the speaker than the target. This reframe, Ramsay explains, gives you power over your emotional reactions and protects your energy, especially in the social media era.

Grief as a Catalyst for Growth

Ramsay opens up about losing his best friend during the pandemic—an experience that forced him to reexamine everything. He went back to school to become a certified coach and made the tough decision to leave his marriage.

Rather than resisting change, he leaned into it.

“Facing hard truths is the only way to make space for something better.”

His story is a reminder that painful chapters often mark the beginning of transformation.

A New Approach to Dating

Gone are the days of chasing unavailable partners or looking for someone to “complete” him. Ramsay now views romantic connections as something that should add to a full life, not fill a void.

He encourages listeners to reflect on their own patterns and expectations when dating.

“When you’re whole, you don’t settle for half-built relationships.”

He also shares his three-list method:

• Deal-breakers (non-negotiables)

• Must-haves (core values)

• Nice-to-haves (ideal traits, but not deal-makers)

The key? Stay open, but grounded.

Communicate Like an Adult

Ramsay calls out how many adults communicate like wounded children—either avoiding hard conversations or exploding after bottling emotions.

His advice:
Say what you need. Early. Clearly. Without guilt.

Because the longer you stay in something misaligned, the more time you lose from finding what is right.