What Does Your Love Language Really Say About You?
Dating these days? It’s not for the faint of heart. In our latest episode of The Meet Market, we sat down with Pam—a healthcare exec, single mom, and certified boss—to talk about modern romance, red flags, and what happens when you Google your date and find a mugshot.
Yes, that really happened.
Pam met an NFL player during a layover (because where else would a romantic story begin?) and things were going great—until she did a quick online search and found out he had a pending assault charge. Fast-forward to New Year’s, he ghosted... probably because he was in jail. Lesson learned: sometimes background checks are just self-care.
But that’s not even her wildest story.
Pam also shared the tale of confronting a live-in boyfriend who was double-dipping in the dating pool. How did she handle it? Oh, just by inviting the other woman over, hiding her in the stairwell, and letting her eavesdrop while Pam grilled him on everything. The two women left together. The man was left speechless. And honestly? It was iconic.
Pam brings a refreshing honesty to the dating conversation—not just because of the stories, but because of how clearly she knows what she wants. She values masculine energy and leadership, but she’s not here for the performative alpha stuff. She wants respect, honesty, and a man who can plan a date without asking what time Target closes.
As a successful woman with a doctorate and a thriving business, Pam talked about how difficult it is to find someone who brings real partnership energy—someone who communicates well, listens deeply, and doesn’t start off conversations by sending... that kind of photo.
She also offered her own take on love languages. Sure, “words of affirmation” are great, but for Pam? It’s attention to detail. Like when someone remembers something she said three weeks ago and brings it up in a meaningful way. Forget grand gestures—just listen when she talks and maybe learn how to use a calendar.
We also dropped a stat that made everyone's jaw hit the floor: Only 7% of men on dating apps message first after matching, while 57% of women do. So much for the “men pursue, women respond” narrative. The apps are chaotic, the DMs are weird, and somehow, women are still doing most of the emotional labor.
Pam’s stories are funny, bold, and painfully relatable. More importantly, they serve as a reminder to trust your instincts, set your standards, and never underestimate the power of a good stairwell stakeout.
