Dating After Diapers: A Mom’s Swipe Saga 😅

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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the Meat Market.

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The single scene is a slaughterhouse and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess and today's sizzling single is Claudia.

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Welcome, thank you, thank you so much.

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So you had hired a private investigator on a guy that you went on a first date with and you found some pretty disturbing stuff.

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Tell us so.

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I would say it wasn't a first date, okay.

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So he had been really honest and he had, like you know, disclosed some things to me, but I'm a mom of two and I can't afford to trip, so I'm like I'm going to do my due diligence.

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Good smart.

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Yeah, and everything he had told me checked out, so he was honest about it, but still it like it didn't serve me, like the things that I discovered.

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And so was the private investigator because, as women, right Like we, are all private investigators in our own rights right.

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I feel like.

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I feel like with a first name in a city I can find out a lot of information.

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So did you do your own deep dive first and just were like hitting roadblocks or what led you to feel like you needed to actually hire someone?

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You know those like low hanging websites where it's like $5, $1.

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Like I did, all of those Truthfindercom or whatever.

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Yes, I did all of those and the only really reason I did it was because I have kids.

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Okay, it's really the only reason.

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So, had I had not have children or been married or whatever, I honestly probably wouldn't have done it, just truthfully, which is so scary nowadays that people aren't doing their due diligence.

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But yes, I tried all the original low hanging fruit websites and then I found this company and they're local here in Arizona and they're retired cops and we actually may potentially work together.

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So question you did the low hanging fruit companies, yeah, what made you go to the more experienced companies?

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Did you find something little yeah?

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So it was just so long ago the incident that took place that you're not going to find it online.

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You know, and had he had not been fully transparent, I probably would have stopped.

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He mentioned he had something yeah what like a felony or a it was a felony.

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It was a felony, oh okay, yeah, and um, it was just something I couldn't.

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I couldn't kind of move forward with let go you know, yeah, what was it?

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can you say no, I?

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Respect okay, and.

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I'm really grateful.

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Honestly, he was a really key player in the development of who I've become.

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So everything happens for a reason he served his purpose, he is amazing and actually I was like this isn't going to work.

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But we still chat all the time.

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We're not close and see each other too often, but I just wish him the best it's kind of scary to me because they say there are many articles about if you are single and you have kids.

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When you post your profile online you do not put any pictures of your kids, do not say you have kids, because apparently there are predators that go on these dating websites looking for the kids.

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No, Looking to access these women just to get to their kids.

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It's so disturbing to me, it's so gross well as a mom of two, they're like my first priority and my life is already so like enriched by them that I'm like listen, I can single life this and do a really good job on it, you know.

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So I'm like but I would love someone complimentary to come into my life.

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That is amazing for them and elevates it If it's if they're going to come in with this like third child syndrome, I would have just had another kid you know Right, true, I love how you made the comment that if you are to get married again, you want to check in monthly and be like is this marriage still serving us?

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I love that.

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I think that's so important still serving us.

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I love that.

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I think that's so important.

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I would say monthly is like too frequent.

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I would probably go like every five years.

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And it has to be on vacation outside of this country, not like local, like we're going to go to Santa Barbara, no, like like we're going to go on vacation.

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Exactly Because, like it's so hard to like invest that much and then have a terrible time.

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Like let's actually like have a moment and reassess.

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It doesn't have to be every five years, maybe every 10 years, but I think a nice check-in on vacation.

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Do you think it needs to be more frequent earlier on, as you're learning each other and sort of like learning?

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each other's.

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That would really make sense.

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Styles Like I could see that.

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I could see like a yearly check-in or something like that in within the first, you know, five years, and then, once you've made it that far, yeah, then it, you can start to.

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I actually really like that idea.

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That's a really great idea, yeah, yeah, instead of just like dating unintentionally willy-nilly like, let's go to dinner let's go to dinner.

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Like it gets old, it does, it does.

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I want to go back really quick a second and talk about the private investigator.

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Oh yeah, it's bringing me to this story, and I don't think I ever told you this, Lindsay.

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So the first guy that I dated seriously here in Arizona was back in like 2014, 2015.

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And years after I ended things with him.

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This was the guy who was catfishing online.

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Remember Hashtag no complaints.

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Yes hashtag.

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No complaints.

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I found out that he had all these fake dating profiles and social media profiles, that he was pretending to be someone else.

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Okay, so fast forward.

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Years later I was back home in the Midwest and we were driving somewhere.

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We were literally on the road in South Dakota in the middle of nowhere, and I was with both of my parents in the car and my other, my second guy that I have dated here in the past like 13 years.

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But I get a phone call and it's a private investigator looking for my ex what.

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Yeah, what was he hired?

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to find out.

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I don't know, he couldn't all he wanted, he wanted to see if I still was in contact with him, if I knew a current address, if I had an updated telephone.

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Now I didn't have any information for him and he unfortunately couldn't give me any information.

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But I remember being in the car and talking to my parents and my partner at the time and I was like oh my God, you guys will never guess Like this was a.

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It was a private investigator looking for my ex.

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They were like what the heck?

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It was so crazy.

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So do you think it was another woman that hired this private investigator?

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I'm not sure he told me.

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He said, said I was given your number by and then it was a woman's name.

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That he said it was a woman's name and I remember texting.

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We had one mutual friend with the same name and I texted her and I was like hey, are for some reason are you looking into?

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You know so and so, and she was like no and so I don't know.

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So I don't know who it was, I don't know what they were looking for.

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I don't know that poor woman.

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Yes, yes, yes, so I so I have no idea, but somebody was doing their due diligence on him you have to do your due diligence especially if you have kids especially if you have kids.

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It's I think it's critical.

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It may come off like kind of a little too much, but I don't think you need to do that immediately like first, like actually see if you're interested to even look, because that requires time and energy and money, so it has to be worth it, yeah for sure.

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So they had said that during COVID, during lockdown, the divorce rate skyrocketed.

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You are a victim of that or you are one of those statistics?

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So you got a COVID divorce.

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Tell us about that, I did.

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I was divorced in 2020.

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Was it the lockdown that kind of created the?

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problem Actually.

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No, we both worked from home, like we were always home.

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Now some of my girlfriends, on the other hand, their husbands, were like coming home and they were like, oh my God, they're not used to spending this much time together.

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So for him and I, we were always together and I think like things just got kind of flat.

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And then the whole COVID pressures and having a young family and being a relatively young mom, you know, you kind of just like go through these motions and it kind of you realize whether your person is really your person.

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But we co-parent and he's an amazing dad.

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So I really don't have anything negative to say.

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That's awesome, so you have an amicable relationship and good co-parenting.

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Working on it.

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You're lucky.

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I mean every day just working on it 're lucky, I mean every day just working on it so what are you looking to get married again?

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what are you looking for?

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um, great question.

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Um, I'm not saying no to the idea of marriage.

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It just has to be like a really um, like an organic fit.

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If that's gonna happen, like this has been my best friend that I finally just met, type of feeling, you know.

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So I'm not saying no, but I am looking for just an amazing human who can stand in my corner, I think teaming.

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I have amazing parents and their relationship, although sometimes they want to kill each other, which is totally normal they are.

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Take bonnie and clyde you know they are like in it for the win.

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So thanks mom and dad for setting the bar so high so now I'm like who can match that like naturally right, so um so we'll see.

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I feel like back in the olden days, when something was broken, you fix it.

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You take the time to figure out what's going wrong and you fix it.

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Nowadays, I feel people just throw it away and go and buy their shiny new toy because there's so many options out there.

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They don't want to take the time to fix it, don't you think?

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Yeah?

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agreed.

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There's this back door, this emergency door that you can just exit the relationship at any time.

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Regarding my marriage, I felt like I was willing to do the work.

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You know I was married for eight years, but we were together for 15.

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So we were together since I was 19.

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Oh wow.

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One of those really sticky cohesive relationships are to break.

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But yeah, so I feel like what I'm looking for is just like an amazing human who can stand in my corner, preferably a dad.

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I've realized dating humans who are not fathers, not for me.

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How old are your kids?

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um, I have a soon-to-be seven-year-old and a nine-year-old, okay, so do you want someone that has kids that are a similar age as your kids?

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Or do you have a preference?

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Um like, would you date a man with like a two-year-old?

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that's hard.

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I mean, I have um and they're amazing dads, but I find that I want to help them and I need to, like, protect my energy because, it's not my place.

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The motherly instinct just sort of kicks in and it's like that's like a hard dance, you know, and and then I've also went on a few dates where I found that the guy was just looking for, like his next built in babysitter because he works so much, and that's also definitely not me.

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Not at all.

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My ex was that way a little bit.

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He couldn't be alone with his kids ever.

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He had his kids and it was like I.

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We were together for four years and I don't think he ever spent one weekend just being alone with the kids.

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I think that's hard.

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It's hard it's hard for some.

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Yeah, yeah, I get that.

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Um, so, yeah, definitely a dad.

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I think maybe high school to college would be really nice, because then, like, I need to be inspired by someone.

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So I can only see that that person would have vision and experience.

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So I would hope that by having older kids, they'd be like listen, claudia, that's great what you're doing, but this is how I would do it.

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Like I would hope that by having older kids, they'd be like listen, claudia, that's great what you're doing, but this is how I would do it, like I would love that redirection, or to be able to give you examples of how it went for them Like.

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Oh, when my kids were this age, this is how we navigated through this so that you can sort of take their experiences and feedback and learn from it.

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Yeah, I like that.

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Are you on the dating apps?

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Actually, as of recently, I have X'd out of all dating apps.

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Oh, wow, yeah, except one, which one?

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are you still on Hinge, hinge, okay, has your experience been bad?

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How's that been?

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I use this analogy a lot.

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Dating apps are like looking in a trash can that's caught on fire it's like where's the gem, you know?

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No offense to anyone on dating apps.

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I'm on dating apps but um, as of recently I closed down all of them except hinge.

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So we'll see.

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I'm good you made the comment that so disturbing.

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You have gone on a bunch of dates where the guys refer to their exes as the c word.

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Yeah, that's crazy that they just throw that word around.

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It's so unclassy it's so unclassy and it so speaks to like a place of like who they are, as their, as a man, like within their masculinity, and that does not serve me and it makes you think are they going to refer to you as that word if you don't work out?

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yeah, you know.

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I mean, I just I don't think I could be with someone who doesn't just like have a great relationship with the mom of their kids, you know, like such an important role.

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So so, yeah, definitely not younger.

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I'm clearly everything points to like the older generation so what are your hobbies?

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what do you do on your day off or your weekends?

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so I am really focused on health and wellness.

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Um, so, within the past two years, I've been practicing meditation, like yin yoga style meditation.

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So, um, I found it to be amazing and helpful in broadening my capacity to deal with life.

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But really I want to say shit, just deal with shit, but, um, but life in general, you know, just had more capacity.

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It's almost like your plate goes from being really small to being really big and now you can just deal with more and handle more.

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So that's been really nice.

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I'm hitting up the farmer's markets and trying new recipes and, yeah, I love hanging out with my friends and family family first, always and yeah, is your family here in Arizona?

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do you have?

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Yeah?

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yeah, they.

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They originally uh bought property out here, and so I transferred for college to ASU.

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Okay, so what are your deal breakers in a man?

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Great question.

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Another one Um, I would say, ooh, that's a good one.

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I would say, um, so many are like flooding my mind right now that I'm trying to be like really selective with what I say.

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I'm like I just saw like a Rolodex of I'm just kidding.

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No, I would say well, the relationship with the mom, I think, is a mega deal breaker.

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Also, you have to be a morning person to like jive with my energy.

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I can't wake up at six and like go to the gym and I come back and like you're still sleeping, like I would die.

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I would die.

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So just someone that can keep up and like inspire me, um, is what I'm looking for.

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But another deal breaker yeah, you gotta be active, that's a big one.

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Um, alcohol is a really big one too.

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Um, do you drink?

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at all.

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Yep, socially okay.

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So drinking too much would be a deal breaker yeah, but there's a lot of functioning alcoholics out there, oh for sure.

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And it's like I don't know that world.

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I've never seen addiction like in the eyes, so I don't really know.

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Um, I did go out with this guy and I'm like, just like something's up.

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Like a month we we dated.

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And I'm like looking at him and I'm like, is he autistic?

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No, he was an alcoholic.

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So like, maybe I'm the special one because I'm like, oh, something's not wrong with him, no, something's wrong with him.

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So, um, but yeah, so I would just say, uh, alcohol intake is a big one.

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And describe your perfect type, experienced, seasoned, someone who, like, calms my energy, like there's people you can meet and you're just like they're overstimulating Too much.

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Yeah, no, someone I can like who can serve as my confidant I think that's pretty big.

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And someone who's worldly is a must, like worldly is important for me, you seem very worldly, very educated, Did you?

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where did you go to?

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college, you're kind.

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I went to Virginia Commonwealth and then I transferred to ASU.

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You can tell you're very educated and you've got a smart head on your shoulders.

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I think it's kind of screwed on a little too tight.

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Sometimes I've noticed all my friends are aries and they're all like let's go salsa dance, like let's do this, let's do that and I like need that push you know, because I'm like very rigid.

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Naturally do you have any unique facts about yourself that not many people know, or crazy talents I wish um crazy talents.

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Can you sing.

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I mean, my voice isn't bad.

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I mean, I'm not I mean when I hear myself no, I'm, I'm actually uh, creative.

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Oh so, um, sometimes I get like super inspired.

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I'll paint.

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Um, I like to do a lot of arts and crafts projects with the kids.

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I'm not scared of like getting dirty with them, but recently I purchased a home and I gutted it to the studs and I just created my space and it was like so therapeutic.

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How I can turn that passion into like more of a career would be amazing, but it's really more so of a passion.

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I think it belongs there.

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Do you travel with your kids?

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I do, do you?

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do you?

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Yeah, not as much as I want to, though.

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Yeah.

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How do you find that?

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Is it easy?

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Are they easy to travel with?

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they're amazing yeah, they're amazing.

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Um, my son really cute.

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He'll like run up to the luggage belt.

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He'll be like I got this mom oh, what a gentleman you raised him well he's so machismo.

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I know, and I'm like no, you don't.

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I'm like I got this, but I think that has to play into the fact that, like there's no male figure in my house, so he's picking up.

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He's trying to step up, yeah that's so sweet, it could go both ways.

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Just know like that's the cute factor.

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And then all of a sudden, like you have a guy friend over who's like truly a guy friend, and he's like mom, yeah, no, he, he can't come here.

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I'm like what?

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I like that do you?

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Are you paying the mortgage?

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man of the house like who do you think you are?

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so I think, like the sooner I meet someone I mean, it's been five years, I've been divorced, so I think like the sooner I meet someone, as far as like it's like such a great time for to introduce someone to my kids you, know, I think they're like ready to like embrace that without it feeling like a replacement.

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It's really more like a bonus role.

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Do you have any crazy date stories or terrible date stories?

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You can think of.

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I know one of your former guests had like really good stories.

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I don't know if mine are.

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Are mine are gonna match?

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Um, uh, I mean not super crazy, yeah, no, not super crazy, but I mean the alcohol thing yeah, can get really sloppy, real fast you know, so it's just not for me.

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I don't know, not your cup of tea, it's not.

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No, I'd rather have tea.

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Actually, I remember I went on a date once and the guy came and he was so hung over that we could it, and so it wasn't that he drank too much on the date, but he was so hung over and and part of me was like that's not attractive either, like why didn't you just cancel?

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We could have done this at another time.

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You know what I mean, and so then it was like we.

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you know we didn't see each other again after that, but it was just like if you're not going to come bringing your best self to a date, why even go on?

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a date?

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I agree.

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Why even go on a date?

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I agree.

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Yeah, I agree 100%.

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So we have a listener question.

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Okay, I recently started dating someone who seemed perfect, kind, funny and great company.

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But when we went out to eat I saw his true form.

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He snapped at the waiter for bringing him the wrong type of water.

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He waved his empty glass in the air like he was summoning a butler and when the food arrived, he dramatically sighed and muttered I guess this will do.

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I was so embarrassed I left an extra tip and mouthed I'm sorry to our server.

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Is this a deal breaker, or can I train him not to act like he's a medieval king demanding his feast?

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this, for me personally, is a deal breaker abso-freaking-lutely, deal breaker 100 would never, ever, ever go on a second date.

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I wouldn't even try to communicate and change him yeah no, not worth the effort, Because he's either just so impressed by her that he needs to be this person so it could be a compliment to her actually that he's not enough and he has to act extra or I think it's a weakness in his masculinity.

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And bad manners and he's just a shitty person.

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Yeah, maybe a shitty mom.

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You have a shitty mom dude right, you know, I was raised everyone the same and with the same amount of respect, whether you're a ceo or a janitor or a server like.

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We're all human beings at the end of the day and we all deserve to be treated kindly right yeah, absolutely.

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I've been on so many dates where they treat the wait staff like absolute crap and I used to be a server and I know how that feels, so I will absolutely never go on a second date.

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I won't even have a conversation.

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Done Run Save your energy.

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I've never had it happen to me in real life.

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You're lucky yeah.

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I've never had it happen to me in real life, but but I wouldn't.

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There's no way I'd go on another other date.

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It just shows who they are.

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As a person, I feel, yeah, like core rudimentary.

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Yeah, like problems exactly if you can treat other people like that.

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I feel like you're just not a good kind person also like birds of a feather.

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So she flocks with him, she's the same, and then she can't say anything exactly and then you're setting yourself up to always be like that couple who comes into the restaurant who nobody wants to wait on, like.

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Is that who you want to be and how?

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exhausting to have to constantly apologize to the service staff and have to sneak them tips and have to, you know, defend him.

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And yeah, just ain't nobody got time for that.

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No, definitely not so I want to talk about the video that kylie kelsey I love kylie kelsey do you listen to her podcast?

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no see her social clips I see her, her sometimes.

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She's amazing.

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I like her, she's cute.

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It's funny because after I posted that rant on Meghan Markle, I got so many people commenting you're such a woman hater, you just hate women.

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But I freaking love women.

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I love Kylie Kelsey, I love Scarlett Johansson the list goes on Angelina Jolie, jennifer An irk me.

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You know just Meghan Markle and Blake Lively, that's it.

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Those are the only women I have spoken negatively about, but Kylie Kelsey, I love Kylie Kelsey and she did this video ranting about the crazy things that people take in their hospital bag when they go to give birth.

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So what, what do you take?

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What did you take when you gave birth?

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That was a long time ago.

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Um, I wouldn't say anything kind of crazy, but should there have been a bottle of voodoo?

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Absolutely, absolutely, um, yeah, so nothing kind of crazy.

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I was just ready to in and out.

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It was like a nail appointment, like I get these kids out, let's keep going that's exactly how I was.

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I think I had a toothbrush, a change of clothes to leave in and I think that's it.

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But so people bring number one, a tripod for a camera, like to document, I guess.

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But I feel like nowadays people are so concerned with filming everything that they don't enjoy the moment right.

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I don't think I'd want that moment.

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I don't like either and she was saying that it's like a trip hazard for the nurses.

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Oh yes, do you really want the people that are supposed to keep you alive and save you and the baby tripping and do you?

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want to create that kind of hazard.

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Imagine oh, my people are way too public.

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There's like so much beauty in like privacy.

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Yeah, and like that moment should really be between yeah, the partner, like your partner, and yourself and your baby and why do we need to put everything?

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Why out there?

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I know, you know I actually on the birth of my daughter sloan.

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Um, we had no guests at the hospital and it was really nice because your body's going through all these transformations.

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I mean people are more so focused nowadays on like what everything looks like and what people are going to think of like their captured moment on social media, versus actually enjoying it, like you said, agreed.

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You know, I actually lost a friend because I wouldn't allow her to be in the delivery room with me.

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She was so offended and I'm not friends with her to this day because of it, but luckily for her because they induced me and I was there for like three days.

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I need to know who this is.

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Do I know this person?

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And I was there for like three days.

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I need to know who this is?

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Do I know this?

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person.

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I don't know if you know this person.

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Again, I lost friends because of my wedding.

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I lost friends when I gave birth.

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Maybe it's me, maybe I'm a common thread.

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Actually, it's probably like the best thing that's ever happened to you.

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right, they're just like packaged differently.

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I always say this it's the trash taking itself out.

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It really is Absolutely.

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So the second thing is your entire makeup kit.

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Like I don't get why people do their makeup after they've given birth Like their whole full face of makeup.

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I mean I do Because women, you know, like you said, like you've gone through so many changes, and you, just you want to feel beautiful and for a lot of women that means makeup.

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And if you're doing it for yourself, for yourself to feel normal again, that's fine.

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I'm all for that.

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But a lot of the articles state that women do it because they want the first impression that the baby has of them.

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That's why they do it.

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But they can't even see.

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The baby can't even see.

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There's a reason why certain body parts get darker and bigger they can only see 12 inches from their face, so they're not gonna see you.

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Are they gonna remember?

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No, and you're their mother.

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You made them.

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They're gonna love you, no matter what.

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They see like a black and white abstract form yeah, exactly that's all they see for me I would say, like skincare was like man I can see that.

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I can see the skincare routine over the makeup, totally for sure when I go to give birth, the last thing I'm thinking of is hair and makeup and what I look like.

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I'm thinking about having a healthy baby coming out alive, my baby coming out alive, and that's it, and are there any like rips and tears?

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That's so funny.

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So then the third one is curling, iron and straighteners.

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It's the whole beauty problem.

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I can't imagine you've given birth.

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It's so painful.

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I'm standing there like concerned about your hair.

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Honestly at that point.

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why would you like get your hair done before you like, like?

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That's what I did, because I knew I wasn't going to shower for a few days.

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You know, I'm like I'm like healing, it's like going on this journey, so it's like get a blowout.

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It's funny.

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We were talking about this with my grandmother and it's like if I learned one thing from always.

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Like if you have an event coming up, make sure you have your appointment scheduled for your hair and your nails before it's like just take care of it before you go but it's also like a sign of like respect too.

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Like when you take care of yourself, even for a date.

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Um, when you take care of yourself and you show up as your best self, you know what I mean.

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Yeah, not like a complete fake version of yourself, but like you're well maintained and you know.

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Like when you go on a date with a guy and he like didn't trim his ears, like yeah, yeah, we're good and you know again.

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If you're doing it for yourself to feel normal again, then great, but if you're doing it for anyone else, I just I don't understand that.

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I mean, I think for me, I like did my hair down there to make it a pleasant experience for the doctors and nurses, but I didn't care about my hair up there.

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Oh, my god, that's amazing, that's so funny.

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So the last thing is a huge suitcase, like a large check-in size suitcase, to the hospital, like what do you have in there Of clothes?

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I don't know.

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But she says a lot of people take these really big, gigantic check-in size suitcases, I guess hair and makeup and curling irons.

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I mean, yeah, again, I just had my purse, I had a toothbrush.

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Change of clothes, that was it.

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Jeez, yeah, I had nothing.

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I'd need snacks Because hospital food.

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I'm sorry, but forget the hair and the makeup and the beauty products.

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But I'm going to need snacks.

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I know For me, I'm going to need snacks.

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I know For me it was like I think I crave sushi.

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I was like bring me sushi.

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Well, because you can't eat sushi, I know.

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That was always my sister's first meal too.

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It was like I can't wait to go for sushi, I know, Good sushi.

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I have a question Do people in Japan eat sushi when they're pregnant?

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Yes, so why is it?

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here Because it's like think about it, like for civilizations that are raised on the water right.

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They're eating fish when they're pregnant.

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And actually when I was pregnant, I traveled to Croatia and all the Croatians would come up to me and serve me like sardines and smoked trout and smoked fish, because all along the Dalmada Coast, right, they're all eating fish.

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So like why in the US can women not eat fish when they're?

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pregnant.

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It's just raw fish, though, right.

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So, because it was smoked and preserved.

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Oh, maybe that was probably maybe Okay Okay.

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But they say it's great for brain development.

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Like it's like, it's like critical for but I feel like the list when you're pregnant of things you can't eat is pretty long.

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Here it's like melon and I know certain types of deli meats and you're pushing me into like a favorite conversation of mine which is like how unhealthy american food is, so it's a rabbit hole for me.

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It's all the preservatives.

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I mean the ingredients are like banned here.

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It makes my blood boil, yeah they're like banned in dubai, but you can like eat them here and it cracks me up how they can ban tiktok here, but they can't ban the ingredients that has been proven to cause cancer and make people sick, right, like what's going on here.

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I know anywho time for the celebrity cut where we marinate in the juices of the celebrity.

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I want to talk about something that's kind of disturbing to me.

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Did you read about that story of the only fans model in Dubai?

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Did you guys hear?

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I feel like I heard.

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I heard something, so there was an only beautiful.

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I think she was Russian, 20, she was from Ukraine, yeah, and she was in Dubai to go to this party and was going to meet her family in Thailand a couple days later.

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She never showed up to Thailand, so they filed a missing persons report.

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She was found on the side of the road with all her limbs broken, a broken spine, but she was alive.

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Okay, she went through four life-saving surgeries but she can't talk at this point.

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But she went to this.

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Have you heard of these porta-potty parties?

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What it's so disturbing.

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They're these parties that these extremely rich men put on.

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I don't know if it's just in Dubai.

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This one was in dubai.

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I don't know if it's a nationwide, uh, worldwide thing.

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These porta potty parties are where they invite these women and pay them obscene amounts of money for them to just treat them like crap, no pun intended.

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They poop on them, they make these women eat their poop, they tie them up, they do.

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They just treat them like animals, worse than animals.

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They just dehumanize them.

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It's so disturbing to me.

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Anyway, she went to one of those parties and then this is how she was found and the police are saying oh, she fell from a construction site.

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She was in a construction site that she wasn't supposed to be and she fell.

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But the parents are like nope, this is a cover-up, because there are so many high powered people involved.

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This is not what happened.

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She did not go into the construction site, but no one knows what happens happened and she can't talk, so until she's able to talk, we won't know what happened.

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Oh my god.

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And is she even gonna have a memory of what happened?

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Because is it like a diddy freak off situation where the baby oil is laced with right drugs.

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You know what I mean?

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like who knows what they gave her and people are saying they're scared for her safety.

00:32:23.724 --> 00:32:24.526
Is someone gonna go?

00:32:24.686 --> 00:32:29.374
in and you know, pay off the nurse or something to slip her something so she doesn't, you know, come out alive.

00:32:29.433 --> 00:32:39.153
It's so scary to me, crazy yeah, that's really scary, I don't know, and it's so sad that women and maybe she didn't know what she was getting into when she was invited to the party.

00:32:39.213 --> 00:33:03.548
But oh, just heartbreaking and she was being paid to be there, obviously, and so it's like, even if she didn't realize what she was getting into at some point whether she knew or not what she was getting into it was worth it to her to go for the money at some point, but like that's crazy and I just don't understand how people can treat people like that, can put people through that.

00:33:03.667 --> 00:33:05.603
You know how can you be okay with that and sleep at night?

00:33:05.663 --> 00:33:08.355
you know well, you know what like you have to think about these people.

00:33:08.355 --> 00:33:28.112
They're like so high caliber, high functioning, weirdo, billionaire geniuses that like nothing entertains them and if you take it back like generationally, like even to like the turkish ottoman empire, like there was weird shit happening then too, with like women and men treating them a certain way.

00:33:28.112 --> 00:33:36.670
So it's like I think it's just like tragically it's intertwined with like who humans are to themselves, especially culturally.

00:33:36.670 --> 00:33:39.269
But I'm just like it just makes.

00:33:39.269 --> 00:33:41.627
I honestly got goosebumps when you were telling me.

00:33:41.720 --> 00:33:43.210
I was like over here like I.

00:33:43.250 --> 00:33:53.472
just it's so disgusting, but it's always going to happen, and women are putting themselves in these situations, and then we always look at the men and we're like, how can you?

00:33:53.492 --> 00:33:54.638
do that, but like you allowed it, and that's the thing is.

00:33:54.638 --> 00:34:03.282
Like she, she accepted the invitation to go and it's just like you know you're putting yourself at risk, but I wonder what they told her.

00:34:03.282 --> 00:34:04.684
I wonder what they told her too.

00:34:04.684 --> 00:34:10.072
I wonder how it was how it was communicated to her what exactly she was being paid to do.

00:34:10.072 --> 00:34:11.474
If she, how old is she again?

00:34:11.679 --> 00:34:13.244
I think she's 20, what like?

00:34:13.244 --> 00:34:13.987
So what is she?

00:34:13.987 --> 00:34:18.021
Doing in dubai I think she was being flown out there to go to that party?

00:34:18.202 --> 00:34:27.900
yeah, just exclusively yeah yeah, I have some friends that I have some friends that subscribe to OnlyFans as a couple.

00:34:27.900 --> 00:34:40.706
They have girls that they have these subscriptions to and she was showing me a few weeks ago their account in some of these videos that these women send them.

00:34:40.706 --> 00:34:42.668
And it's wild.

00:34:42.668 --> 00:35:15.170
They ask, and it's funny, because her husband has a pet name that he likes them to call him, and then they have a pet name for her that they call her and it's just, it's so funny because you know these, these women are on these platforms will literally do whatever their customer, their paying customer, is asking them to do and, like they're on the very low end of it in terms of, like you know, the the wildness of it.

00:35:15.170 --> 00:35:27.871
All they want is, you know, for the girls to talk to them and to call and to call them by their pet names, into maybe, maybe you know, whatever, like play with themselves a little bit in front of the camera or whatever it's like a 75 video or a hundred dollar video.

00:35:27.911 --> 00:35:42.786
It's like it's, you know, it's fairly normal, like in terms of like the kink spectrum right but it's like these, these girls, you know, and women, whatever, like you know, for the money.

00:35:42.786 --> 00:35:48.396
What to think of the lengths that they're willing to go to to make money?

00:35:48.695 --> 00:36:00.443
it's crazy it's sad, so a little bit, but it's also like if everything wasn't so expensive I know right ever feel like so combined?

00:36:00.443 --> 00:36:01.974
If any, if there was ever a time.

00:36:01.974 --> 00:36:04.489
Right now we're like at max, max, everything it's true.

00:36:04.489 --> 00:36:08.956
So life is expensive, Breathing is expensive, so I'm like geez, I mean sad.

00:36:08.956 --> 00:36:11.856
So I want to end this one on a good note.

00:36:11.909 --> 00:36:13.335
Did you hear that love story?

00:36:13.335 --> 00:36:28.228
There was this woman from California living in London and the California fires happened and that's where she was from that area, Her whole and that's where she was from that area.

00:36:28.228 --> 00:36:28.320
Her whole town was burned down.

00:36:28.320 --> 00:36:28.528
So she was super upset and depressed.

00:36:28.528 --> 00:36:31.380
So she rented a cottage in the English countryside and their Airbnb owner said you know, there's no way.

00:36:31.380 --> 00:36:32.050
It's pretty far from the train station.

00:36:32.050 --> 00:36:33.235
There's no way to get to the property from the train station.

00:36:33.235 --> 00:36:36.041
Is it okay if my son picks you up and drives you to the property?

00:36:36.061 --> 00:36:37.452
oh, I heard this did you hear, and so she's like sure.

00:36:37.472 --> 00:36:37.992
So the son picked her up.

00:36:37.992 --> 00:36:39.615
They're about the same age, they're chatting and he's like you sure.

00:36:39.615 --> 00:36:40.436
So the son picked her up.

00:36:40.436 --> 00:36:42.480
They're about the same age, they're chatting and he's like you know.

00:36:42.480 --> 00:36:44.384
There's no grocery store within walking distance.

00:36:44.384 --> 00:36:44.965
It's quite late.

00:36:44.965 --> 00:36:46.456
Would you let me take you out to dinner?

00:36:46.456 --> 00:36:49.157
They went out to dinner and they're dating to this day.

00:36:49.217 --> 00:36:52.536
Yes, no way they should make a movie out of that.

00:36:52.536 --> 00:36:57.954
That should be a movie, because she stayed, didn't she?

00:36:58.034 --> 00:37:00.498
She ended extended her trip or something like that, to be with him.

00:37:00.498 --> 00:37:01.960
I can't remember what it was exactly.

00:37:01.960 --> 00:37:03.503
It makes you think about, like where?

00:37:03.543 --> 00:37:14.262
those two people were in the timing of their lives for that to just like be a thing like just to connect on such a level where she's like oh, I'm not even gonna go home, like wow yeah, wow, yeah, good for her.

00:37:14.784 --> 00:37:16.650
So what is your favorite place to go to on a first?

00:37:16.710 --> 00:37:16.971
date.

00:37:16.971 --> 00:37:19.335
Um, you know, a basic restaurant.

00:37:19.335 --> 00:37:20.757
It doesn't have to be crazy.

00:37:20.757 --> 00:37:23.443
Um, I mean, don't.

00:37:23.443 --> 00:37:25.195
Yeah, do you have a favorite restaurant in town?

00:37:25.195 --> 00:37:26.099
I love Pomo.

00:37:26.769 --> 00:37:29.690
Pomo is yeah, pomo is a really great spot.

00:37:29.690 --> 00:37:38.201
Um, I live in Scottsdale, so just somewhere local and I think it's like you know how you said, like what's a deal breaker?

00:37:38.201 --> 00:37:54.197
One of my deal breakers is also people that like also don't drink, so like they're very straight edge because they're always going to be like one drink away from like blowing up your whole life you know what I mean, so like that's like a ticking time bomb type of person to me personally, although I do respect sobriety.00:37:54.597 --> 00:38:04.782


But, like recently, I've just been noticing, like it, where you go on a date is so important and how they, what they choose to eat, is so telling too.00:38:05.001 --> 00:38:06.123


Really Super telling.00:38:06.123 --> 00:38:06.965


That is true.00:38:06.965 --> 00:38:09.097


Yeah, do you like a man who orders for you?00:38:09.097 --> 00:38:10.574


I like if they ask.00:38:11.050 --> 00:38:15.601


If they ask what you're thinking about eating and then do the order, yeah.00:38:15.601 --> 00:38:30.969


I mean, I have like two humans that I'm like fully, 100% responsible for and I I manage your life and I make decisions for, plus myself, and then my business and my company and I'm like I would love for someone to please order for me Like I just a moment of not thinking would be amazing.00:38:31.231 --> 00:38:34.518


So has a guy ever ordered something that you judged him for ordering?00:38:35.862 --> 00:38:39.840


No, I think the last thing someone ordered me was like a zinc bistro martini.00:38:39.840 --> 00:38:41.239


I hadn't tried it before, cause I'm like a zinc bistro martini.00:38:41.239 --> 00:38:45.177


I hadn't tried it before because I'm like a dirty martini kind of gal and I was like very impressed.00:38:45.177 --> 00:38:52.898


I was like it actually is very telling of like what they're thinking of you right, yes, it shows kind of what they think.00:38:53.199 --> 00:38:57.619


What they think that your tastes are going totally yeah, and sometimes I'll like throw it.00:38:57.719 --> 00:39:03.815


Throw them for uh like a trip, like uh buck and rider is a good spot too I love buck and rider buck and rider is a good one.00:39:03.815 --> 00:39:07.523


Um, and earlier on in the day, like why do we have to like?00:39:07.971 --> 00:39:09.112


you know, I agree with that.00:39:09.112 --> 00:39:09.675


I do too.00:39:09.755 --> 00:39:22.577


I like earlier in the day, earlier, yeah so I have like time to like feel it out, yeah, and if I if, if I was dating with kids, like you, go to bed early when you have kids, right, so you don't want to be out till like 10, 11 o'clock.00:39:22.577 --> 00:39:24.501


I don't have kids and I go to bed early.00:39:24.561 --> 00:39:25.403


Thank you very much.00:39:25.403 --> 00:39:36.483


Like I'm on do not disturb by like 8 pm I need to learn how to turn that setting on I just, I just you learn.00:39:36.503 --> 00:39:37.644


I just discovered it.00:39:37.644 --> 00:39:47.702


It was so funny because I'm I'm I'm fairly good at setting my phone to the side and not picking it up, just like doing the do not disturb thing myself.00:39:47.702 --> 00:40:02.436


And it was when we started this podcast that I actually discovered it, because I wanted to like screen grab something or something and I didn't want notifications, so I turned on do not disturb and I forgot to turn it off and you're like my life is great.00:40:03.570 --> 00:40:04.713


So then, like three hours later, I was like, oh my gosh.00:40:04.733 --> 00:40:05.858


I'm still on do not disturb and I forgot to turn it off.00:40:05.858 --> 00:40:06.519


You're like my life is great.00:40:06.519 --> 00:40:06.721


It was so.00:40:06.721 --> 00:40:08.768


Then, like three hours later, I was like, oh my gosh, I'm still on do not disturb, hold on a second.00:40:08.768 --> 00:40:15.724


And I so I flipped it back off and, like all these notifications popped up and I was like I was like this is great.00:40:15.724 --> 00:40:24.704


I was like I literally went three hours and I was not disturbed, not once something finally works.00:40:24.724 --> 00:40:40.416


Nowadays it's crazy, like just there's so many distractions there's so many distractions and you sometimes you don't realize it, even though I'm I am good at setting my phone aside and not looking at it it is still like the watch is pinging and the airpods are telling you who's?00:40:40.416 --> 00:40:49.862


Texting and it's like, even though you can sort of put it on mute in your brain and you can turn it off, it is still distracting and so it is, it's nice.00:40:49.862 --> 00:40:53.570


I would recommend using the do not disturb function on your phone.00:40:53.670 --> 00:40:57.079


Yeah, I need to learn those setting functionality and set it up.00:40:57.079 --> 00:40:57.460


I know.00:40:57.750 --> 00:41:04.702


So, speaking of dirty martinis, it's now time for the dirtiest segment of the show the meat grab you down for the challenge, up for the grab, willing to share.00:41:04.702 --> 00:41:07.353


Pick one if you dare.00:41:07.353 --> 00:41:11.222


Some are innocent, some are not so innocent.00:41:13.449 --> 00:41:16.655


Gotta say that line every time.00:41:16.655 --> 00:41:17.958


Wait, which one am I reading?00:41:17.958 --> 00:41:19.199


The one that's taped on there.00:41:19.199 --> 00:41:20.202


Yeah, the one that's taped on there.00:41:20.202 --> 00:41:26.411


Okay, what is the most attractive quality to you?00:41:26.411 --> 00:41:41.157


Um, I think the most attractive quality in a man, okay, um, in general, I was like in general, I was like are you attracted to women?00:41:41.336 --> 00:41:54.000


no, no, no, no, because it says what is the most attractive quality to you, ah, so I'm like to me, okay, anyway, just overanalyzing, um, I would say how large you live your life.00:41:54.000 --> 00:42:07.418


Like a lot of men can be like really small-minded and like not see past the next month, or like have a dream about what it is they want to do or achieve, or like what their retirement looks like.00:42:07.418 --> 00:42:09.422


Like are you on a farm, are you by the beach?00:42:09.422 --> 00:42:19.396


But I think, like so, vision, vision, yeah, I would say vision, yeah, like that that's the most attractive, because it's like I have to see it great.00:42:19.416 --> 00:42:20.179


Well, that's a wrap.00:42:20.179 --> 00:42:24.677


Thank you so much for joining us this week at the meat market, and thank you so much, claudia.00:42:24.998 --> 00:42:26.724


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Oh my God, I just totally got catfished.00:42:48.407 --> 00:42:50.452


He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.00:42:50.913 --> 00:42:55.543


So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:42:55.543 --> 00:42:57.637


His wife just reached out to me.