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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.
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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.
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So I found out the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.
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His wife just reached out to me.
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Welcome to the meat market.
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The single scene is a slaughterhouse, and we are here to devour it.
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We are your hosts.
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I'm Lindsay.
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I'm Jess.
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And today's sizzling single is Marissa.
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Welcome.
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So I saw a video that you posted where you're talking about you're dating two guys, one's long distance, one's local, and you've been on about five, six dates, but you're just not feeling the spark.
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So I have so many questions about this.
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So first of all, how many dates do you go on before you're over the talking phase?
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Before it goes beyond talking?
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Um, that's a great question because I did not enjoy dating.
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That's the first time I've ever dated two people at one time, and I felt kind of guilty doing that.
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Um, but I figured I would do like until I caught feelings, like real feelings, which I don't know, maybe like four or five dates is what I was gauging at.
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That's a good average.
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Like like two months.
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If you're doing a date, were you doing like one date a week with each of them?
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Yeah, pretty much.
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Kind of.
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Yeah.
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So I feel like after then, after a month or two, like four to six, even up to eight dates.
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Once I start like liking someone a little bit more than the other, then I'm like, okay, great.
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I guess it's situational because if you don't start catching feelings, you never want to go past the talking phase, right?
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If you don't start liking them.
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Yeah.
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But you said you felt felt guilty.
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Why?
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I feel like there's such a double standard.
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Like men are free to date 20 women at the same time.
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But if a woman woman dates two guys at the same time, at the same time, oh she's a slash.
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She's a big thing.
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Oh my gosh, if you okay, the TikTok comments that I've gotten are insane that yes.
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I posted one um a little bit similar to this one, but it's like my dating rap for 2025.
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And the comments were crazy.
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I thought about disabling them for a little bit, but it was all men just like reaming me over being.
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Like saying you've dated too many people.
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Sleeping with a bunch of people, like claiming that I'm sleeping with all of these people.
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And I went on five first dates in 2025.
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Since when does this sleeping with?
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That's what I was like, why does that say that I'm sleeping with someone?
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And aren't you allowed to date multiple people until you've had that conversation and you're on the same page about being exclusive?
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Yes.
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Like, don't you date multiple guys at the same time?
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Yeah.
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It's normal.
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I feel like I feel guilty.
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That's what I thought it was normal.
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And then I was like re-watching Sex in the City.
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I'm like, they do it, so I feel like I can do it, but it still made me feel bad.
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It's like it's such an immature, closed-minded, ignorant mentality to have.
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But I feel like the groups too, because we've talked about those like Facebook groups, like the Are We Dating the Same Guy groups.
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I feel like they've sort of ruined that for both sides.
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Yes.
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Because the women on there now will post a guy that they haven't even met in person.
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Yes.
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And it's like, girl, you haven't even met this guy in person yet.
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Why are you posting him on a site?
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Like he is free to talk to whoever, go out with whoever, sleep with whoever, as are you.
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Yeah.
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So why are we?
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What's interesting about that website that okay, that Facebook page, I just recently had like a weird encounter with it because I am a part of it.
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I'm part of it at Phoenix and Tucson.
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That's where I'm live in Tucson.
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And um, this guy, I hadn't even met him yet, but we had been talking for maybe two weeks, and we were supposed to meet up.
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And I posted him in there, and the only reason why I used it is to make sure there's no like red flags, like, are you crazy or anything like that?
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Um, I guess his male cousin was in that group, and he found it and was asked me about it because I'm the only girl he's talking to.
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He's like, Did you post me?
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I said, Yeah, I did.
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Like, I'm just making sure you're not crazy or there's anything I need to be aware of.
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And he got so upset and he was like, I need you to take it down right away.
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You're the only girl I'm talking to.
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I was like, I'm not putting you in there because I'm asking what other girls you're talking to.
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I'm trying to make sure you're not like gonna murder me.
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Psycho.
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Yeah.
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And he demanded that I took it down.
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I didn't even go, I didn't meet him because I was like, that's a red flag.
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What do you start on?
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Did anybody say anything about him?
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Were there any comments?
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No comments.
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It was only up for maybe like not even 24 hours before he found it.
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So it's like I can see.
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So I have a childhood friend that lives here, and he was posted on that page, and he had a girl that he worked with, and she posted a bunch of false information in the comments.
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So someone posted him and was like, Does anyone know him?
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T or red flags or whatever they asked.
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Yeah.
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And then, and then his coworker commented, like, he's terrible.
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He's a bartender where I work, and he, you know, he's does this, this, this, da-da-da-da-da.
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And he was like, I texted her and I was like, none of that is true.
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We don't even know each other.
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You're the hostess, I'm a bartender.
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Like, you don't know this.
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We don't hang out, we're not friends.
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Yeah, why are you posting false information?
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And she ended up taking down all the comments.
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But it's like, women can put up whatever they want to put up in that group.
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And so it's like, it kind of goes both.
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You don't like take it with a grain of salt almost.
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Just like use your intuition, I feel like that I used my intuition, and I did not go on that date.
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Yeah, yeah, especially that reaction.
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Because if really he didn't have anything to hide, it would have been like, okay, I guess you're just being safe.
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Yes, right.
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And there's so many other red flags.
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I feel that was like my tipping point.
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And I was just like, oh, absolutely not.
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I feel like that site's kind of pointless because two reasons.
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One, I feel like women are very quick to believe other women when it comes to negative stuff, which is unfair to the man, because what if the girl's just crazy or he wasn't interested in her, so she's trying to destroy him?
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And B, like my sister's ex, who was legitimately crazy.
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My sister posted him in there saying, just a warning, this guy's a huge red flag, because he was legitimately crazy.
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And someone reached out to her and said, Hey, I'm dating this guy, and he's great.
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I love him, he's great.
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I don't believe you.
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And then two years later, she comes back to my sister and says, Well, I guess you were right, he was crazy.
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But I feel like sometimes pe women don't want to listen, you know.
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They're like, I'm different, I'm gonna change him, I'm the exception, you know?
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Yeah, that's all that's like you should take it with a grain of salt.
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Yeah.
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Yes.
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And I don't think guys should be posted if you haven't met them, if you've just started talking to them and and you haven't even established a date yet, I don't think it's fair to post guys in there.
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If you're meeting someone for the first time, if you have something planned, I think that's a little bit different because you are putting yourself in a situation that could be potential.
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The minute they match with them, yes.
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Like, no.
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Yes, but the minute you match with someone, if you're throwing them up on that site, it's like, come on, let's slow the roll a little bit.
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Yes, yeah.
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It's funny how the woman gets so angry.
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Someone posts, hey, I'm meeting this guy this week.
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Anyone else talking to him?
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Does anyone claim him?
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And then I'm talking to him too.
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I'm gonna cancel my date.
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Like, really?
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Because he's talking to two people at the same time.
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Like oh my god.
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How old are these women?
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Should be normal.
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So wait, you live in Tucson.
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How's the dating scene in Tucson?
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Awful.
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Oh, I bet.
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Awful.
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I think Arizona in general, and I'm not really sure why it's such an issue, but I post these TikToks about Tucson, and then I get Phoenix Hute like girls saying it's just as bad up here in Scottsdale.
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I've actually started dating up here now, um, like the guy that's long distance, he's up here.
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Oh, so that was long distance, so that's not too far.
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Well, he's moving to Florida like next month.
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Yeah, so a little sad.
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So you really like him, so you can date.
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Is he open to dating long distance from Florida?
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Um, well, I was just with him last night.
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Yeah.
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Oh nice! Um, yeah, he originally seemed like he was down to do long distance.
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I feel like I'm not down to do long distance.
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I want to get married.
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I want to have kids, like I want to do all that pretty soon.
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Like I'm 31.
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Um would you move to Florida?
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I would move for sure.
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Where in Florida?
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Wait, where in Florida is he moving to Florida?
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I think he's even a Tampa.
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Okay.
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I like Tampa.
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I love Tampa area.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Um, I've never been to Florida, so I'm like, I would be down at some point, I guess.
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But then I don't know, like last night we were at dinner, and he just seemed to be like going the opposite direction, like no longer interested in doing long distance, like kind of giving like a slow letdown.
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How old is this guy?
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Like 27.
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That is like a big step, sort of.
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For sure.
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Because how long have you guys been?
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Not long, and that's so fair.
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Like, I wouldn't up and move tomorrow like with him.
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But like, I don't know, as much as like he's let on that he likes me, I've also have like let on that I really like him too.
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I thought that maybe he would be like, well, let's try at least, but that's okay.
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It's I feel like when you're with someone casually dating, and then one moves away.
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If you do decide to date long distance, it kind of automatically makes the relationship more serious.
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Yeah.
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You know what I mean?
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Because you can't casually date, you can't continue to really casually date someone in another city if you've been doing just the whole like one date a week, sort of casual, not really have a title on it yet.
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And then one moves away.
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And if you do want to continue dating, it sort of forces you into that next step of like exclusivity.
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Yeah, right?
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Absolutely.
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I feel like if we had like maybe another couple months, it would be a lot different.
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So totally makes sense.
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I'm not super upset.
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It's timing.
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We talk about this all the time, like with timing, and if it's like just not the right timing.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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But you know, maybe he'll move to Florida and he'll date there and he'll realize there's no one as good as you out there.
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So then he'll come back to you.
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Maybe he just needs that few months of, you know, to see that the grass is not always greener.
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We'll see.
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So you had also said in your video that you were dating two guys, one was long distance that you like, and this other one is perfect on paper.
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Everyone loves him, everyone thinks he's perfect, but you just don't have that spark.
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And they're like, why?
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Why?
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What are you doing?
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Yes.
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Uh yeah, poor guy.
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I feel so bad about that.
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Um, he really was fantastic.
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Like, I genuinely feel like there's something wrong with me for letting him go because he was so perfect.
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Like, he's such a great guy, so intentional, so sweet.
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Really weird kisser, though.
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Um in itself can be a deal by her, right?
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I know.
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I was really trying to look past it.
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I was really trying to like I could fix that, you know, maybe how was he trying to train?
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Oh god, I really hope he never sees this.
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Um just like like his mouth was just like permanently open the whole time and just uh just open, just oh my god, like I opened my eyes one time and it was a jump scare.
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I was just um yeah, so other than the kissing though, he was okay.
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He was in Tucson.
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Yeah, I feel like that would make like for really drooly kisses, potentially.
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Like just really it was super weird.
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Yeah, just no, like no tongue, nothing.
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It's just open mouth, open mouth.
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Oh my nose.
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Yeah, it was weird, yes, yeah.
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It was very, very weird.
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Like one of those fish that is on the side of the fish tank that like sticks on the wall to clean it.
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I would have been okay with that.
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Oh my god.
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So yeah, I don't know.
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But I hate it because I've dated a couple guys in my life that were perfect on paper.
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My family were pushing for them, my friends were pushing for them, and I just didn't feel that attraction.
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Yeah.
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And so I ended things, and everyone's like, What are you doing?
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You're stupid, you're dumb, you're back to you.
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Don't you hate that?
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Has that ever happened?
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This is the second time I've done this.
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Really?
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Yes, the first okay.
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So I dated someone I was engaged previously, so I just barely started dating again in the last like three years.
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And this first guy that was like my actual boyfriend outside of my engagement, his uh he was a doctor, he was uh came from a really good family, like he was so nice.
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Him too.
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I just I don't know, there's something missing.
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I think for me, it was like intellectual stimulation, which is crazy because he's a doctor, so he's obviously very smart, but like I could not hold a conversation about uh meaningful topics.
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Um but I think that's the reason why so many relationships don't work is because people stay with the person who's perfect on paper.
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And then eventually it doesn't work, and then you both end up damaged and then don't fix it.
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And so if more people were just honest about their what they're looking for and what they're willing to sort of like settle for, or you know what I mean, like settle down for, I should say, not necessarily settle for, but it's like people stay when someone seems perfect, and then it's like you go two, three, four, five years, and then it's like, oh well, I guess maybe it wasn't so perfect.
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I should have listened, and then it's by that point, it's like too late.
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Do you think maybe you're like a bad boy?
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Are some of these guys a little too nice?
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Uh maybe.
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Um yeah, I think so.
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I feel like I need some like edge.
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Yeah, just a little bit.
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Like if you're too I that's what I kind of felt like with this guy, this recent guy.
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Like, I feel like it's a little boring for me.
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He was too he gave me dad energy.
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He was not a dad, but he gave me dad energy, gave me like finance bro energy, just very like plain vanilla vanilla like white guy.
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You know what I mean?
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Um, so yeah, I feel like I just need like a little seasoning.
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I don't know.
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Maybe some tattoos, maybe a little, a little fun.
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Um, yeah, I don't know.
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I felt bad, but so you made a comment.
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Um you dated the doctor and he was just socially awkward, yes.
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Weird to talk to.
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And I'm sure there are the exception, but that's my experience with doctors too.
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When I was single and I dated doctors, they're just maybe because you have to be super smart to be a doctor, but they're just not very socially, they're just awkward and odd.
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And have you noticed that?
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I take a little bit of offense to that.
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No.
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Well, you're the exception.
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I did say that was an exception.
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You're the exception.
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Well, you spent so much time studying, like it's well, and I do think that a lot of especially like the higher level, the like the specialists who are super, super smart, a lot of times it is.
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Like the focus is has been on education their entire lives, their entire careers.
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Yeah, and so they I feel, yeah.
00:14:08.799 --> 00:14:10.080
I feel like there are a lot out there.
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In the ones, in the ones that aren't that way, the ones that are, that do have it all, that are super social, but also are really good practitioners, they get swiped up like that, like right away.
00:14:21.200 --> 00:14:22.159
So they're not single dating.
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So exactly, it's the leftovers.
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It's the leftovers.
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Really?
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I feel like I'm picking through here is leftovers.
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Like, all the good ones are taken already.
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It's so impressive.
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Like I dated a doctor, and every date he had to bring someone with him.
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He couldn't go on a date just me and him.
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Like, I don't know.
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He had to bring someone on the That's how I met this guy because I was actually on a date with his friend, and his friend brought him.
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I've never had that experience before.
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So weird.
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I was so weirded out.
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Why did his friend bring a why did he bring a friend?
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No, I think he had an excuse or like a reason for that.
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No idea.
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He couldn't, yeah.
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I was talking to his friend the whole time.
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And obviously, you started dating a friend.
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Yeah, it's hilarious.
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He did.
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It was too, okay.
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So we have something called like a Fourth Avenue street fair in Tucson, and it's huge.
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So I was gonna go to that and when it's super casual meetup.
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So he's like, Oh yeah, I'm just gonna bring my friend with me.
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So I didn't know.
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Maybe he didn't realize it was gonna be a date.
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I thought it was like obvious.
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Like we had been chatting on Instagram for a few days and like trying to figure out like a good time frame.
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I don't know.
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It wasn't basically an E, doesn't it?
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I'm wondering if it's the same guy.
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Yeah, it was very weird.
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And then he we kind of mutually ghosted each other a little bit.
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Like I didn't feel it, he didn't feel it.
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I did like the friend, but I didn't want to jump and say, go after the friend.
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That's weird, I feel like.
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Yeah.
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Um, so yeah, he texts me and was like, hey, like obviously we didn't really work out, but my friend is into you and keeps asking about you.
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So can I give him like your Instagram info?
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I was like, absolutely.
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That's weird that he set it up.
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Yeah, and it wasn't like a sneaky thing.
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Because I was gonna ask that.
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Did you ever talk to the friend afterwards to see if they were still friends or how did it go?
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Yeah, he was respectful about it.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Honestly, super mature on both of their like I don't know.
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The whole thing was very weird, but I guess nice, like organic.
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It felt organic, I guess.
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So you were engaged, if you don't mind me asking, why did that end?
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Oh, uh, yes.
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Um, so we were together for 10 years.
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Um, and he cheated on me every single at least once a year.
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What?
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That I knew about every single day.
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And you forgave him?
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Yeah, yeah.
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And you didn't have a law pass agreement.
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I stayed the whole time.
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Yeah.
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Why did he like beg you back?
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Oh my gosh.
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Uh yeah, he just would like make up these really like really crazy stories to like cover up what he was doing.
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And I knew at the time, like in deep in my bones, I was like, this is bullshit, like it's not a real story, but I just had really self-worth, like really low self-worth, like really low self-esteem, I think, and that's why I stayed.
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But yeah, he he was interesting.
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And so how did it finally end?
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Was it you?
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Yes, yeah.
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So if I we got engaged, and in my head, like the whole time, I had thought, okay, maybe whenever we like officially become boyfriend, girlfriend, he'll stop talking to other girls.
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And then I was like, that didn't work.
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So maybe whenever we move in together, that's when he'll stop.
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Maybe whenever we get engaged, so on and so forth.
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And it just never stopped.
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And then finally, once we got engaged, I really only want to get married one time.
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So I felt a little bit more serious about it.
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And then, like, four months into our engagement, I found a thong in our house, in our home.
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And he tried to tell me that this thong was out, like mine.
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I was like, not even a brand that I wear.
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Like, we know what our underwear collection was.
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He tried to gaslight me into thinking this underwear, like he still to this day will tell people that the underwear were mine and that I'm crazy.
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I could have 300 pairs of underwear and recognize a pair that's not mine in my house.
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Yes.
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Like, what an idiot.
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It is crazy.
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Yes.
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I literally grabbed him, I put him on, he was like playing video games.
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I put him in front of him.
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He didn't even look at me, he just looked at them and then kept playing.
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Um, and then I yeah, immediately went out, got my nose pierced, um, got super drunk, and then took off my t-shirt and gave back.
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Wow.
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Yeah.
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And that was three years ago?
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Yeah, that was about three years ago.
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And now you teach Pilates?
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Yeah, I do.
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Have you ever had like a male student hit on you or Oh my gosh, we never have male students.
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Really?
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I know I was gonna say, I've never been to Pilates.
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I've never seen a few.
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Like they're like little adorable men.
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Yeah, but we never have men, and it makes me so upset because I'm like, you know, that would be great if I could have some.
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This one lady was trying to get me with her son.
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Um, I was like, well, bring this son in, and then she's trying to describe the son, and then she told me the son was 5'9, and I lost interest.
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Um but at first she was like really hyping him up.
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Um, so I do have some of like the moms or the older ladies looking out for me because I do tell everyone that I'm single and that I'm looking for a husband.
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So that's that's how you saw last year on my fork.
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I would just like to put a PSA before we start this class.
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I don't think I can talk about it enough.
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Um, what's your physical type?
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Um, I feel like I don't have one.
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Like if you lined up every guy I've ever talked to, they all look very, very different.
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Um so I don't really know.
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I think I know more so what I don't like.
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What don't you like?
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I you've gotta be taller than like I think my shortest would be like 5'10.
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I don't know.
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I wanna wear heels, you know.
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Um I don't I would need you to be, I'm a very active person, so I need you to be active.
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So obviously you'll look like physically active and attractive.
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Um I don't know.
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What are your deal breakers?
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Physically?
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Or in general?
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In general, if you ever cheated on anyone, absolutely not.
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Um what if they did it in their past and they said I've learned I didn't know what I'm saying?
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I think it depends on the answer for sure.
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Yeah, like I uh dated this other guy that did come out with it and say that he did cheat, but like his explanation of it and like him taking accountability and like learning from it, sure, absolutely.
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Like people do stupid things all the time.
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Um so yeah, that definitely depends on their answer.
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Um I'm trying to think what other deal breaker.
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Uh politics is definitely a deal breaker, religion is a deal breaker.
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I'm not afraid to ask those questions immediately.
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So are you religious?
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Um, no.
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So you couldn't date someone that goes to church every Sunday?
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No.
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Is that what I just feel like I want work?
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No.
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Um What if they're religious but they're but they're not pushy to you about it?
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That's totally fine.
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If it's like, hey, I'm gonna go to church every Sunday, you don't have to go, but I'm going to go.
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It's just you just don't want someone that's super the only thing that like come into play to be a problem is if you have kids and they want to raise their kids super religious, yes, and take the kids together.
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That is where like I get like I don't know, that's I guess where my deal break comes from.
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Because I very much am also thinking about my future children when I'm like dating and thinking about who is gonna be their father one day.
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I want them to be, you know, what I want for my child.
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Um, so yeah, that plays a huge factor.
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Like, what are you gonna be teaching them?
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Like, what values are you trying to teach them?
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Like, all those things are super important.
00:21:29.839 --> 00:21:33.440
Um so I guess religion in general is not necessarily deal breaker.
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Like another guy that I just recently dated uh was uh Islam.
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So I was trying to learn all about that just so I can understand like him and his culture, his background, all of that.
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So I'm not opposed, but it just depends on how you approach it to me, I think.
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And now you say politics is a deal breaker.
00:21:49.920 --> 00:21:50.000
Yeah.
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So someone that's a Trumper you won't date, or you need to date a Trumper.
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No, okay, okay.
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I will not date a Trumper at all.
00:21:56.799 --> 00:21:58.799
Um, so yeah, that's my very first question.
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Why waste my Time too loud.
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Yeah, no.
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Um, yeah, so I feel like very serious about those things.
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Everything else, you know, not so bad.
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And so you want to get married, you want to have kids?
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Yeah.
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Do you want to be a stay-at-home wife, stay-at-home mother?
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No.
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No.
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I would have to work.
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At least I want to continue at least a I have a like an actual job, um, a day job.
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I'm an analyst.
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Um, but I have been loving my Pilates instructing, so I would love to do that.
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So you'd be cool to ditch the financial job and just stick to Pilates?
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Because that's flexible, right?
00:22:30.559 --> 00:22:31.519
You could do that around kids.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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You could do that while the kids are at daycare.
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Yeah, I get like 20 hours full-time like a week.
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That's like not.
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How old are you?
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31.
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Do you date guys your age?
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Do you date older?
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Do you date younger?
00:22:42.799 --> 00:22:43.440
You date younger, right?
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Wasn't you Alaska young?
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A mixed bag, I would say.
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I never thought I would date younger.
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And I am think I'm going to steer clear from now on.
00:22:51.519 --> 00:22:51.759
Really?
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After this one.
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Yeah.
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Just, I don't know.
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The youngest I had done, I was 28 and he was 24.
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That was too much.
00:23:03.279 --> 00:23:05.519
Um that's not even that big of an age difference.
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But at least that is true.
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At that age, because 24 could still be in college.
00:23:11.359 --> 00:23:11.519
Yeah.
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You're in like postgrad.
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24-year-old must have been a good idea.
00:23:15.279 --> 00:23:15.759
Yeah, that is true.
00:23:16.079 --> 00:23:16.319
Exactly.
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Yeah.
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Like they're just not fully developed.
00:23:19.039 --> 00:23:20.000
Um, I did not realize that.
00:23:20.079 --> 00:23:24.880
Even though he tried to convince me he's fully developed mentally, I'm like, no, like it's very clear.
00:23:25.039 --> 00:23:28.319
Um you need like a little bit more time to thought.
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Um, yeah, and then this one, the 27-year-old, like, I didn't think that one was gonna be that bad, but just like where you're at in life, it makes such a big difference.
00:23:37.839 --> 00:23:47.759
Like, he's needs to travel and like go for work, like go to Florida, like go do all these things and still still try to find himself figure himself out, yeah, figure out what he wants to do with his life, and that's totally fair.
00:23:47.920 --> 00:23:48.720
Like, that's okay.
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Um, but yeah, I can't.
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You want someone more established?
00:23:51.680 --> 00:23:53.519
Yes, like I just I'm ready to go.
00:23:53.759 --> 00:23:54.799
Yeah, it's so true.
00:23:54.880 --> 00:23:58.000
I dated a guy recently that was like 10 years older than me.
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And there were times when I felt like it it like it felt like he was younger than me.
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And I was like, how are you 10 years older than me?
00:24:06.000 --> 00:24:14.319
But there were certain things that I felt like he was less experienced or he was less mature, yeah.
00:24:14.559 --> 00:24:20.880
So it's like the it deal, it does still, it does still make a difference, even the other 30s and 40s.
00:24:20.960 --> 00:24:23.200
Yeah, have you ever walked out mid-date?
00:24:23.759 --> 00:24:24.400
Yes.
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Um you seem so nice.
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I want to hear the story.
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I would never do that.
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I never in a million years thought I would do that because I just felt like that's so rude.
00:24:31.279 --> 00:24:36.240
But this guy was so atrocious, like he was such an asshole.
00:24:36.559 --> 00:24:40.000
Um, he uh he's in Tucson.00:24:40.400 --> 00:24:43.119
Um he was so hot, like so so hot.00:24:43.200 --> 00:24:47.599
He was like an ultra marathon runner, I don't even know, but he was so good looking.00:24:47.839 --> 00:24:55.920
Um and yeah, he immediately just like laying back, like trying to seem very disinterested.00:24:56.319 --> 00:25:01.759
The waitress also knew him, so I'm like, clearly you like bring a lot of dates here, um, which is fine.00:25:01.920 --> 00:25:11.759
Uh, but then he just started like talking down about like the car that I drive and how he was like, Oh, I have a beamer, like what do you have?00:25:11.920 --> 00:25:12.720
And I was like, I don't know.00:25:13.200 --> 00:25:18.079
Like, I'm a CX5, and he was like, Ew, why would you drive one of those?00:25:18.240 --> 00:25:22.160
And then he's like, My wife would never, she won't be working.00:25:22.319 --> 00:25:25.119
She also needs to be like dressed up all the time.00:25:25.359 --> 00:25:29.119
She is not buying anything from Amazon and wearing that.00:25:29.359 --> 00:25:37.359
She is only wearing designer clothing, like just so demanding and give me this list of like what his wife will be.00:25:37.599 --> 00:25:41.759
Um, and was he also offering to fund this wife's lifestyle?00:25:42.400 --> 00:25:49.920
Because it's like, I'm sorry, but if you want to be driving a certain car and wearing certain clothes, like I'm going to be a card baby.00:25:50.240 --> 00:25:50.480
Exactly.00:25:50.640 --> 00:25:51.920
I'd be happy to make it happen.00:25:52.319 --> 00:25:58.640
Like, I would love to I would love to wear designer all the time and drive whatever you want, but like you're gonna have to you're gonna have to pay for that.00:25:58.880 --> 00:26:02.319
The fact that he's demanding, like, God forbid she buys something from Amazon.00:26:02.720 --> 00:26:11.039
Day one, like night one, I've never even met you before, and you're already telling me your list of demands, like I can only see what else you're gonna be demanding about.00:26:11.359 --> 00:26:13.279
Exactly and so superficial demands too.00:26:13.599 --> 00:26:15.440
Superficial, very superficial.00:26:15.680 --> 00:26:20.960
So I immediately got up and I was like, I'm just gonna go because it was so awkward.00:26:21.039 --> 00:26:21.839
I couldn't handle it.00:26:22.079 --> 00:26:23.519
Did you order drinks at this point or food?00:26:23.680 --> 00:26:24.559
Yes, and you just left.00:26:24.720 --> 00:26:25.680
I did finish my wine.00:26:25.759 --> 00:26:28.400
Um, I tossed it back and then walked out.00:26:28.720 --> 00:26:29.599
Did you say something to him?00:26:29.759 --> 00:26:35.839
Did you tell him you were leaving or did you just Yeah, I told him I was just like, you know, I I can't continue the date, but it was great meeting you, like I'm gonna go.00:26:36.000 --> 00:26:40.640
And he seemed very like taken aback that I was getting up and leaving, understandably.00:26:40.960 --> 00:26:47.920
Um, but also like I felt like he needed to overcompensate for his ego, so he was trying to make it seem like he didn't care.00:26:48.240 --> 00:26:49.039
Was this in Tucson?00:26:49.200 --> 00:26:49.839
It was in Tucson.00:26:49.920 --> 00:26:53.119
So and he's good looking, so he probably is used to women just fawning over.00:26:53.519 --> 00:26:54.559
Oh, I'm sure, yes.00:26:54.880 --> 00:26:57.200
Like he definitely insinuated that he has no problem.00:26:57.359 --> 00:26:59.519
Like, yeah, he's a big fish in a small pond.00:26:59.759 --> 00:27:01.279
Yeah, so it's like the ego.00:27:01.440 --> 00:27:01.680
Yeah.00:27:01.920 --> 00:27:03.279
You've just got salmon, so yeah.00:27:03.599 --> 00:27:04.480
Yeah, 100%.00:27:04.799 --> 00:27:06.160
Yeah, he would not know.00:27:06.319 --> 00:27:07.440
He's not that good looking.00:27:07.839 --> 00:27:09.920
Do you have any other crazy first date stories?00:27:10.160 --> 00:27:11.039
Oh gosh.00:27:11.359 --> 00:27:15.279
Um, I got catfish pretty hard.00:27:15.440 --> 00:27:18.960
So when I finally was ready to date again, I went on hinge.00:27:19.359 --> 00:27:23.119
Um I was just gonna ask where you've been meeting these guys, if it's the apps.00:27:23.440 --> 00:27:24.240
Mostly not apps.00:27:24.559 --> 00:27:25.200
Mostly not apps.00:27:25.440 --> 00:27:26.319
Mostly not apps, yeah.00:27:26.480 --> 00:27:29.759
Lately it's been like Instagram, TikTok, I feel like has been really huge.00:27:30.079 --> 00:27:30.640
Wild.00:27:30.799 --> 00:27:36.559
Um, but I went on hinge and I decided to like fully send it because I had never dated before.00:27:36.640 --> 00:27:41.119
Like I dated my ex-fiance through my whole 20s, so I've never had that experience.00:27:41.279 --> 00:27:45.039
So I went on eight first dates in a row, all in one weekend.00:27:45.279 --> 00:27:45.839
Oh my god.00:27:49.920 --> 00:27:53.359
Friday, Saturday, Sunday, or Friday, Saturday, how many dates?00:27:53.680 --> 00:27:56.000
Thursday, Thursday, night, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.00:27:56.480 --> 00:27:57.039
Okay, okay.00:27:57.599 --> 00:27:58.480
But then it's a dad.00:27:59.599 --> 00:27:59.680
Yeah.00:28:00.480 --> 00:28:01.119
Hilarious.00:28:01.440 --> 00:28:03.119
Um, it was so bad.00:28:03.359 --> 00:28:06.640
So the first one I went on was a full catfish.00:28:06.720 --> 00:28:10.240
Like, I'm surprised that I wanted to continue because it was so bad.00:28:10.480 --> 00:28:13.359
He and I stayed on this date for three hours.00:28:13.680 --> 00:28:14.319
Oh god.00:28:14.720 --> 00:28:16.160
I just felt bad.00:28:16.480 --> 00:28:19.279
Um, so he just looked very different.00:28:19.440 --> 00:28:22.559
Like he looked like a completely different person in his photos.00:28:22.720 --> 00:28:27.200
Like he had like a voice memo thing on there too.00:28:27.279 --> 00:28:28.799
His voice sounded different.00:28:28.960 --> 00:28:32.240
His voice in person was very like small and low.00:28:32.400 --> 00:28:35.599
He was also like smaller than me, shorter than me.00:28:35.759 --> 00:28:38.240
On his profile, he put that he was 6'3.00:28:38.720 --> 00:28:39.839
He was for sure 5'3.00:28:40.240 --> 00:28:41.519
Oh my god! No way.00:28:42.079 --> 00:28:42.880
Not joking.00:28:43.279 --> 00:28:44.400
He was extreme.00:28:44.720 --> 00:28:46.160
Extreme catfish.00:28:46.400 --> 00:28:48.240
Like just the small, small me.00:28:48.960 --> 00:28:51.440
Um it was so bad.00:28:51.680 --> 00:28:53.039
It was my first one, too.00:28:53.119 --> 00:28:54.079
I was like, what do I do?00:28:54.799 --> 00:28:55.519
Come back from that.00:28:55.680 --> 00:28:57.680
Like, how do you how do you explain that?00:28:57.839 --> 00:29:00.000
How do you explain a full foot?00:29:00.400 --> 00:29:01.039
I don't know.00:29:01.279 --> 00:29:06.240
Like a type of like typo, like my fat finger like flipped and hit the six instead of the five.00:29:06.559 --> 00:29:12.240
And I like he never had any like full body shots on his, and then I'm like looking back, thinking about his hinge profile.00:29:12.400 --> 00:29:14.319
Because as soon as I left, I went back and looked at it.00:29:14.400 --> 00:29:22.319
I'm like, there's no way that I was like, You're like, I need to see him standing in front of a door so I can see like where his head is to the top of the door, like standing in front of him.00:29:22.720 --> 00:29:25.839
He had very like specific angles, which is crazy.00:29:26.000 --> 00:29:26.640
Like, I don't know.00:29:26.720 --> 00:29:29.440
I didn't realize like males also did this.00:29:29.599 --> 00:29:36.480
I know women like people men say we catfish all the time with filters and stuff, but I just didn't think it would be on the reverse.00:29:36.720 --> 00:29:38.160
I was very wrong.00:29:38.319 --> 00:29:39.759
Uh it was crazy, yes.00:29:39.839 --> 00:29:42.319
But I stayed for three hours and had a conversation.00:29:42.480 --> 00:29:46.799
So did you continue to date any of the eight first dates?00:29:46.960 --> 00:29:47.119
No.00:29:47.359 --> 00:29:47.839
No, no.00:29:48.000 --> 00:29:50.559
So eight first dates and all sucked.00:29:51.839 --> 00:29:52.240
All sucked.00:29:52.400 --> 00:29:53.279
You must be traumatized.00:29:53.359 --> 00:29:54.240
You must have been traumatized.00:29:54.559 --> 00:29:55.440
I immediately deleted it.00:29:55.519 --> 00:29:56.480
I was I can't do this.00:29:56.559 --> 00:29:59.200
Like, and I'm such a waste of time, right?00:29:59.359 --> 00:30:06.960
Like, because if you think on average, if three hours was the longest date, so you're spending an average of maybe an hour and a half to two hours.00:30:07.039 --> 00:30:09.440
Because you're spending probably an hour minimum, right?00:30:09.759 --> 00:30:11.119
Like an hour up to three hours.00:30:11.279 --> 00:30:11.519
Yeah.00:30:11.680 --> 00:30:14.079
So times eight, that's a lot of time wasted.00:30:14.640 --> 00:30:14.880
Over one.00:30:15.359 --> 00:30:16.000
It's exhausting.00:30:16.240 --> 00:30:19.039
Having the same conversation over and over again.00:30:19.119 --> 00:30:20.400
Like, what's your family?00:30:20.480 --> 00:30:21.200
Like, all these things.00:30:21.359 --> 00:30:22.160
What's your favorite color?00:30:22.480 --> 00:30:22.960
What's your middle?00:30:23.200 --> 00:30:23.599
Oh my god.00:30:23.839 --> 00:30:27.200
If someone asks me what's my haircut on the first day, I'm never talking to you again.00:30:27.359 --> 00:30:29.200
Um stranded on a line.00:30:29.279 --> 00:30:29.920
I mean, what is the one?00:30:30.480 --> 00:30:31.839
Oh my god, it's so bad.00:30:32.079 --> 00:30:36.400
Yeah, I started getting confused too, like halfway through these dates of like, what did I say?00:30:36.480 --> 00:30:37.599
What did I talk about already?00:30:37.680 --> 00:30:42.079
Like, you have to start making notes in their contacts in your phone so you remember who said what.00:30:43.519 --> 00:30:43.920
I don't know.00:30:44.000 --> 00:30:45.119
It's too much dating.00:30:45.359 --> 00:30:46.160
Are you ready for it?00:30:46.400 --> 00:30:47.119
I'm ready for it.00:30:47.279 --> 00:30:50.240
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So we have a listener question.00:30:56.640 --> 00:31:00.960
And this one's actually perfect because it is about a long distance relationship.00:31:02.079 --> 00:31:09.119
Um, so it says, I've been in a long distance relationship for a couple of months, but we have been talking to for close to eight months.00:31:09.359 --> 00:31:12.799
We are finally planning to meet in a city in the middle for the first time.00:31:12.960 --> 00:31:16.799
And as a woman, I have mixed feelings about doing the deed the first time we meet.00:31:17.119 --> 00:31:22.160
I normally am not a sex on the first date kind of girl, but I feel like our situation is a little bit different.00:31:22.480 --> 00:31:23.440
What would you guys do?00:31:23.599 --> 00:31:26.880
Give it up on the first meeting or hold off and wait until the second.00:31:27.759 --> 00:31:30.319
I feel like she should just do whatever she feels like doing in the moment.00:31:30.559 --> 00:31:32.960
I mean, they know each other, they've been getting to know each other.00:31:33.119 --> 00:31:33.359
Yeah.00:31:33.759 --> 00:31:34.960
So don't think about it too much.00:31:35.279 --> 00:31:42.400
I feel like with long distance too, uh you're you're not on a first date because you've been dating.00:31:42.799 --> 00:31:44.559
You've been dating virtually.00:31:44.960 --> 00:31:48.319
So technically, it's not a first date.00:31:48.559 --> 00:31:51.680
So I think if you feel like it, you should just do it.00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:59.839
And I feel like people shouldn't be so hard on themselves and feel shameful and feel guilty about having sex on the first date.00:32:00.000 --> 00:32:03.359
If you're safe about it and you feel like doing it, we're all adults.00:32:03.920 --> 00:32:05.839
Why, why should there be any shame in that?00:32:05.920 --> 00:32:06.079
Yeah.00:32:06.240 --> 00:32:06.480
Right.00:32:06.640 --> 00:32:08.319
And she's gotten to know him, clearly.00:32:08.480 --> 00:32:08.960
Yeah.00:32:09.200 --> 00:32:14.559
And if they've been talking for eight months, they've probably sent some like spicy pictures back and forth anyway.00:32:14.880 --> 00:32:16.240
Or social face.00:32:16.480 --> 00:32:18.079
Like I'm definitely probably FaceTime.00:32:18.400 --> 00:32:20.880
I'm sure they've had sex already, albeit phone sex.00:32:21.279 --> 00:32:22.160
Yeah, possibly.00:32:22.400 --> 00:32:22.559
Yeah.00:32:23.200 --> 00:32:23.839
I totally agree.00:32:24.000 --> 00:32:25.759
Especially, I think it just depends how you feel.00:32:25.920 --> 00:32:30.880
Like long distance, I'm sure, like you FaceTime like this guy that I've been dating up here.00:32:30.960 --> 00:32:34.799
Like, we FaceTime so much before we met, officially, even.00:32:34.960 --> 00:32:44.400
Um, so I felt like even the first time that we met, like I already knew who he was, and I would have felt comfortable doing that, like right away with how like close we got over FaceTime.00:32:44.640 --> 00:32:46.160
So I'm sure she's probably the same way.00:32:46.319 --> 00:32:46.480
Yeah.00:32:46.559 --> 00:32:46.640
Yeah.00:32:47.920 --> 00:32:50.079
So we're gonna discuss this article that I read.00:32:50.319 --> 00:32:53.680
Scientists recommend that you sleep in the nude.00:32:53.920 --> 00:32:56.079
There are actual benefits to sleeping in the nude.00:32:56.160 --> 00:32:57.039
Some of them will shock you.00:32:57.200 --> 00:32:58.880
So, first benefit, you sleep better.00:32:59.119 --> 00:33:01.039
Turns out your body likes to cool down at night.00:33:01.200 --> 00:33:05.839
So sleeping naked helps with that, meaning you fall asleep faster and hit that deep REM.00:33:06.079 --> 00:33:09.599
Yeah, whenever I sleep with clothes on, I always wake up in the middle of the night.00:33:09.839 --> 00:33:10.079
Really?00:33:10.160 --> 00:33:10.480
Uh-huh.00:33:10.720 --> 00:33:14.240
Because sometimes sometimes I fall, like I'll accidentally fall asleep with clothes on, you know?00:33:14.319 --> 00:33:14.480
Yeah.00:33:14.640 --> 00:33:16.559
And then I always wake up in the middle of the night sleep.00:33:17.759 --> 00:33:17.920
Really?00:33:18.079 --> 00:33:18.319
Nude.00:33:18.480 --> 00:33:18.720
Yeah.00:33:18.880 --> 00:33:19.119
Yeah.00:33:19.200 --> 00:33:22.480
But if and then if I wake up in the middle of the night, it's because it is, it's because I'm hot.00:33:22.640 --> 00:33:26.160
And so then I have to take my clothes off and then I immediately fall back to sleep and sleep the rest of the night.00:33:26.480 --> 00:33:28.400
So it's also good for your genital health.00:33:28.640 --> 00:33:31.359
Um, air circulation is important, people.00:33:31.920 --> 00:33:35.599
Moist, warm environments are a rave for bacteria and yeast.00:33:35.839 --> 00:33:38.240
Sleeping naked shuts that party right down.00:33:38.400 --> 00:33:41.759
Women benefit, men benefit, your bits will thank you.00:33:42.000 --> 00:33:42.480
Hilarious.00:33:42.799 --> 00:33:43.359
Skin health.00:33:43.440 --> 00:33:49.039
Your skin also needs a break from tight waistbands, twisted pajamas, and laundry detergent residue.00:33:49.200 --> 00:33:51.519
Let her breathe, ladies, and men let the dude breathe.00:33:51.680 --> 00:33:54.799
Stress reduction, better sleep equals lower cortisol.00:33:54.880 --> 00:33:58.240
Lower cortisol equals fewer emotional breakdowns over unread text.00:33:58.400 --> 00:33:59.039
That's a coincidence.00:33:59.200 --> 00:34:00.240
The science says no.00:34:00.559 --> 00:34:02.000
Also, possible weight support.00:34:03.039 --> 00:34:07.440
Sleeping cool activates brown fat, which burns calories to keep you warm.00:34:07.599 --> 00:34:09.119
But is it a weight loss plan?00:34:09.280 --> 00:34:09.920
Absolutely not.00:34:10.079 --> 00:34:13.360
Is it hilarious that your body might burn calories while you sleep naked?00:34:13.519 --> 00:34:13.840
Yes.00:34:14.320 --> 00:34:17.360
Circulation improves because nothing is cutting off your blood flow.00:34:17.519 --> 00:34:21.280
No elastic bands, no seams, just free-range limbs living their best life.00:34:21.519 --> 00:34:23.280
And then for the relationship, it's good too.00:34:24.239 --> 00:34:28.480
Skin-to-skin contact releases oxytocin, also known as the love hormone.00:34:28.719 --> 00:34:31.039
So translation, more bonding, more intimacy, more.00:34:31.119 --> 00:34:32.800
Maybe we do like each other energy.00:34:33.039 --> 00:34:34.000
And finally, confidence.00:34:34.079 --> 00:34:37.360
I guess sleeping naked gets you comfortable in your own skin, literally.00:34:37.519 --> 00:34:40.400
So you stop fighting your body and you start accepting it.00:34:40.800 --> 00:34:41.360
I can see that.00:34:41.440 --> 00:34:50.880
My also my only thing is I have to keep like my t-shirt and either shorts or pajama pants right, like right on the floor at the foot of my bed.00:34:51.039 --> 00:35:00.960
Because I have this irrational fear of like having to get up in the middle of the night and like run outside because the house is on fire, or I have an emergency with the dog or their spot.00:35:01.199 --> 00:35:06.400
And then I'm like standing outside naked, and my neighbors are like, what the fuck is this girl doing?00:35:06.960 --> 00:35:07.840
That's so bad.00:35:08.159 --> 00:35:09.199
Do you sleep in pajamas?00:35:09.519 --> 00:35:11.599
I am a pajama set person, yes, yes.00:35:11.760 --> 00:35:14.159
But I used to sleep naked and I don't know.00:35:14.239 --> 00:35:16.400
And then I started wearing pajama sets and I can't go back.00:35:16.559 --> 00:35:17.039
I love them.00:35:17.360 --> 00:35:26.400
I used to sleep naked when I didn't have kids, and now I have kids, and I feel like my stepson wakes up, and you know, I just I need to be yeah, yeah, yeah.00:35:26.559 --> 00:35:38.000
In my own house, it's different, but if I'm ever, if I'm like at my sister's and with the kids or at my parents, like it's I will wear a pajama, like a pajama set, but something cool because I don't like to be hot when I sleep.00:35:38.239 --> 00:35:38.880
See, I don't mind that.00:35:38.960 --> 00:35:43.199
I just I hate the elastic bands, like anything feeling tight against my skin, I hate it.00:35:43.440 --> 00:35:45.360
I think it's wearing people sleep in socks.00:35:45.679 --> 00:35:46.800
You do sweat, I do too.00:35:46.880 --> 00:35:47.760
Yeah, it's very weird.00:35:47.920 --> 00:35:49.519
Yeah, I always wake up when I sleep in socks.00:35:49.840 --> 00:35:50.639
It seems so uncomfortable.00:35:51.039 --> 00:35:53.440
I sound, I don't know, it was like psychopath behavior for sure.00:35:53.760 --> 00:35:57.199
Now it's time for the celebrity cup where we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.00:35:57.280 --> 00:35:59.519
So, did you see the uh documentary?00:35:59.679 --> 00:36:00.239
What is it called?00:36:00.400 --> 00:36:02.559
The reckoning with Puff Daddy about Puff Daddy?00:36:02.639 --> 00:36:02.719
Yeah.00:36:03.119 --> 00:36:04.159
That 50 Cent created.00:36:04.480 --> 00:36:04.800
Yeah, yeah.00:36:04.960 --> 00:36:08.559
Yeah, it's crazy too how 50 Cent, he just hates Diddy, doesn't he?00:36:08.880 --> 00:36:09.360
I love it.00:36:09.519 --> 00:36:14.480
When he did all his promo interviews, he made sure to do it on ABC because that's the only channel they show in the prison.00:36:14.639 --> 00:36:15.679
He wanted Diddy to watch it.00:36:16.079 --> 00:36:18.320
Because it's because Diddy dated his baby mama.00:36:18.639 --> 00:36:19.199
Yeah, I didn't know that.00:36:19.599 --> 00:36:23.119
So it was like a it was almost like a revenge thing, I think, for him.00:36:23.599 --> 00:36:24.960
So funny how petty he is.00:36:25.280 --> 00:36:26.159
He's like so into it.00:36:26.400 --> 00:36:27.840
And I'm like, I need that energy.00:36:29.199 --> 00:36:29.760
For sure.00:36:30.159 --> 00:36:30.480
For sure.00:36:30.719 --> 00:36:35.280
But doesn't it seem obvious that Diddy is behind the murders of Tupac and Notorious B.I.G.00:36:35.440 --> 00:36:36.400
It seems so obvious.00:36:36.480 --> 00:36:37.679
Like, how did he get away with that?00:36:37.840 --> 00:36:38.639
There's so much evidence.00:36:39.360 --> 00:36:39.760
The cover-up.00:36:40.079 --> 00:36:40.320
Right?00:36:40.400 --> 00:36:40.480
Yeah.00:36:40.719 --> 00:36:42.320
And then that's how he made it big on his first.00:36:43.519 --> 00:36:48.000
And it's so ironic that he was allegedly behind the notorious B.I.G.00:36:48.159 --> 00:36:52.239
murder, and that's how he got big as an artist was that song as a tribute to him.00:36:52.800 --> 00:36:53.440
That's just crazy.00:36:53.840 --> 00:36:55.280
They made him pay for his own funeral.00:36:55.519 --> 00:37:00.079
That was that was I was like, damn, that's that's crazy.00:37:00.400 --> 00:37:03.679
I like all the AI stuff with Maduro and Diddy.00:37:03.840 --> 00:37:04.719
Have you seen some of the videos?00:37:05.119 --> 00:37:08.960
They've like, they've like AI'd them together in a in a prison cell.00:37:09.599 --> 00:37:11.199
Is he wearing his Nike text suit?00:37:11.840 --> 00:37:25.840
Yes, yes, and he's like dancing and Diddy's just like standing in the back, like watching and like it's funny because Diddy's camp has fired back, claiming that the footage was um stolen and it's unauthorized.00:37:25.920 --> 00:37:32.800
Because I always wondered a lot of the footage is of Diddy, like they were planning on creating a documentary themselves, and somehow the other side got it.00:37:32.960 --> 00:37:59.280
But does it matter if it's got information that you know So what I read was that so Diddy hired um the videographer to film like the whole process, and what I read is allegedly he didn't pay the videographer, and so then when 50 Cent came in and said, I will pay you X amount of money for this footage, the videographer was like, Well, it's free game because no one owns it.00:37:59.360 --> 00:38:01.599
That's it because I have because I haven't been paid.00:38:01.920 --> 00:38:03.760
Because Diddy didn't pay a lot of people, apparently, right?00:38:04.000 --> 00:38:04.320
Yeah, yeah.00:38:04.400 --> 00:38:06.800
For someone that has so much money is so cheap.00:38:07.119 --> 00:38:07.519
So cheap.00:38:07.679 --> 00:38:09.280
I can't believe people would do business with him.00:38:09.440 --> 00:38:09.599
Yeah.00:38:09.760 --> 00:38:11.599
He just save it for his baby oil parties.00:38:11.760 --> 00:38:12.320
Uh-huh, right?00:38:12.559 --> 00:38:20.239
But it's funny because 50 Cent came out saying he wants to do what's right and what's moral, but a lot of people are like, is this accountability or cancel culture?00:38:20.320 --> 00:38:24.960
Is this document a necessary expose or is it revenge dressed as journalism?00:38:25.119 --> 00:38:26.000
Do you think it's revenge?00:38:26.239 --> 00:38:28.159
I think it's both, yeah, to be honest.00:38:28.320 --> 00:38:29.360
Like, I think it's both.00:38:29.519 --> 00:38:30.480
Yeah, I agree.00:38:30.639 --> 00:38:35.360
But you know what makes me kind of sad is that after watching this documentary, Diddy is not a good person.00:38:35.519 --> 00:38:37.519
He screwed over so many people, he's terrible.00:38:37.679 --> 00:38:38.559
Scum of the earth.00:38:38.719 --> 00:38:39.920
I guarantee he's gonna have a comeback.00:38:40.079 --> 00:38:41.760
He gets out in what, three years, something like that.00:38:42.000 --> 00:38:49.360
Yes, I guarantee he's because he had a lot of supporters outside the courthouse, you know, claiming he's innocent or like in support of him.00:38:49.599 --> 00:38:50.159
That would be insane.00:38:50.480 --> 00:38:51.679
Don't you think he's gonna make a comeback?00:38:51.920 --> 00:38:53.039
People are stupid, I feel.00:38:53.280 --> 00:38:53.840
Yeah, yeah.00:38:53.920 --> 00:38:54.239
We'll see.00:38:54.400 --> 00:38:55.119
It'll be interesting.00:38:55.440 --> 00:39:04.000
And it's crazy to me how there are other people in jail for longer that have done like financial crimes or smaller crimes that haven't affected people, you know?00:39:04.320 --> 00:39:04.719
It's wild.00:39:04.880 --> 00:39:12.800
But then Diddy, after he's done all of this to so many women and so many people and screwed over so many people, he gets only what, three, four years?00:39:13.039 --> 00:39:15.599
But he wasn't tried for the things that he did.00:39:15.920 --> 00:39:18.320
He wasn't tried for domestic violence.00:39:18.559 --> 00:39:20.480
But why he wasn't tried, I don't know.00:39:20.719 --> 00:39:21.360
I mean, I don't know.00:39:21.440 --> 00:39:31.599
He like the things that he was on trial for, yeah, were not necessarily the things that you saw in the videos, like the hotel footage with Cassie and that kind of stuff.00:39:31.920 --> 00:39:37.440
And I agree with the jury when they said, you know, yes, he beat her up and it was terrible, but that's not what we're judging.00:39:37.760 --> 00:39:39.280
That's not what he was on trial for.00:39:39.840 --> 00:39:40.639
So yeah.00:39:40.880 --> 00:39:43.119
Where is your favorite place to go on a first date?00:39:43.599 --> 00:39:45.039
Ooh, I like an activity.00:39:45.280 --> 00:39:46.800
I don't like dinner drinks.00:39:46.960 --> 00:39:48.320
I try to stay away from that.00:39:48.480 --> 00:39:50.559
Um, but activities like top golf.00:39:50.880 --> 00:39:54.400
Um, I'm even down-ish for a hike.00:39:54.639 --> 00:39:56.239
If I if you don't take me out.00:40:00.159 --> 00:40:02.880
I feel like don't murder me in the in the desert.00:40:03.039 --> 00:40:07.119
Um, yeah, I feel like it's just like an activity in general is the way to go.00:40:07.440 --> 00:40:11.199
Now it's time to get to know you with Zoyo, sponsored by Zoey, your neighborhood yogurt.00:40:11.360 --> 00:40:12.400
Rapid fire questions.00:40:12.559 --> 00:40:15.360
What's your favorite part of the body on a man?00:40:15.840 --> 00:40:16.400
Ooh.00:40:16.800 --> 00:40:20.800
Um if they have that like V-dip thing.00:40:21.360 --> 00:40:21.599
Yeah.00:40:21.920 --> 00:40:24.400
Where should a man not take you on a first date?00:40:25.440 --> 00:40:28.239
Um their house.00:40:30.239 --> 00:40:32.559
Do you have a pickup line, a go-to pickup line?00:40:33.440 --> 00:40:33.599
Yeah.00:40:34.079 --> 00:40:36.400
If you see a hot man at a bar, do you approach him?00:40:39.360 --> 00:40:39.679
Yeah.00:40:40.159 --> 00:40:41.920
Do you consider porn cheating?00:40:44.480 --> 00:40:44.880
Maybe.00:40:45.199 --> 00:40:45.599
It depends.00:40:46.239 --> 00:40:49.679
Before you're intimate, is it appropriate to ask your date how many people they've been with?00:40:50.559 --> 00:40:51.679
Appropriate or inappropriate.00:40:52.000 --> 00:40:52.639
Is it appropriate?00:40:52.800 --> 00:40:58.159
Do you think it's okay to ask how many people have is it acceptable to have good sex on the first date?00:40:59.599 --> 00:41:04.239
And should you disclose mental hate mental health issues early on in a relationship?00:41:07.599 --> 00:41:10.079
Do you have a crazy talent that not many people know about?00:41:10.480 --> 00:41:12.320
Or a unique fact about yourself?00:41:17.599 --> 00:41:18.239
I don't know.00:41:19.519 --> 00:41:22.719
Last but not least, what is your favorite sexual position and why?00:41:23.280 --> 00:41:23.599
Oh.00:41:24.079 --> 00:41:26.480
Um doggies.00:41:28.400 --> 00:41:31.360
She's gonna be the most quiet voice possible.00:41:32.079 --> 00:41:33.760
Let me just curl into myself.00:41:34.880 --> 00:41:35.760
Sorry, Mom.00:41:37.920 --> 00:41:38.159
No.00:41:38.559 --> 00:41:42.320
Thank you so much for joining us this week at the meat market, and thank you so much for making Marissa.00:41:42.400 --> 00:41:46.800
If you want to go on a date with Marissa, go to any of our social media platforms at Meat Market Podcast.00:41:46.960 --> 00:41:49.280
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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.00:42:00.159 --> 00:42:02.239
He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.00:42:02.480 --> 00:42:07.280
So I found out the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:42:07.440 --> 00:42:09.920
His wife just reached out to me.
