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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the Meat Market.

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The single scene is a slaughterhouse and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess and today sizzling single is Steven Welcome.

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Hi there.

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So you have one of the craziest cheating stories that we have ever heard, and we've heard a lot.

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Tell us about it.

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I came home early from deployment.

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I spent about six months in Ukraine, decided to come back a little bit early and I came home to a 19-year-old hiding in my child's playroom underneath their stuffed animals.

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That is crazy.

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That's so crazy, so crazy.

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So your wife partner girlfriend yeah, partner yeah.

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She didn't know no, so you were surprising her.

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Yeah, I came home, yeah.

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Did you have an idea that she was cheating?

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Yeah, there's been a lot of infidelity in the past.

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We went to a couple of therapy to try and work on it.

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So this was not the first time for her.

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What she had a problem with Snapchat and Facebook and all that good stuff.

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We talk about this a lot, like if an adult has Snapchat, is that a red flag?

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Such a red flag or not, because of the disappearing messages.

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It is a red flag For you, a red flag or not?

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Because of the disappearing messages.

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It is a red flag for you, obviously, if you're 16, 17, but when you're a grown-ass adult I feel like snapchat is a huge red flag she was 28 and messaging like 17 to 19 year olds what and it turns out this guy she was talking to him for pretty much my whole deployment for around like eight months and that is so disrespectful and so like I pulled up and I noticed the car was in my driveway and I was like should buy a new car.

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I was like that's a little strange.

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And so I went into the garage.

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The garage door was locked and I was like that's super strange.

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And so I just ended up hopping the back back wall, walking around, unlocking the back door and came in and I just hear like and like a bunch of moving around and I was like what the hell?

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And she comes out and she's like what are you doing home?

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wow, that was her welcome yeah, and I was like oh, I just wanted to surprise you guys, like I missed the kids, like I wanted to be in, my kids were in the house.

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That was the crazy.

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Yes yeah, that was the crazy.

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That made me more mad than anything that's crazy and like.

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I'm fresh off of a deployment, so I was I was pretty fired up already.

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I hadn't had any time to decompress like I usually do and uh, the kid he was, I pulled up on him and I concealed carry all the time.

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So I pulled my gun on him because I was like there's an intruder in my house.

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She was like nobody's here, I don't know who that is, and so I'm like okay, this dude like snuck into the house somehow, like and so, and so I'm questioning him.

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He starts crying and he literally defecated himself on my children's playroom floor.

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Oh so that was fun cleaning it out the next day.

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The only reason I didn't like hurt him or anything was because he was literally 110 pounds, soaking wet and like 5'6" and he was just crying his eyes out and I was like, really Like you got this little twink guy coming in here trying to, so she acted like she didn't know him.

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Yeah, yeah.

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But he was hiding in a pile of stuffed animals like the 101 Dalmatians when they're hiding from Cruella de Vil like trying to look like stuffed puppies.

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Exactly, exactly so what happened?

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So did he leave.

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I ended up calling the police and, uh, turns out I guess snapchat didn't delete all his messages like they did on hers, and so he showed them everything and that he was there to meet her.

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And it went back like months and they had like a I think it's called a snap score or something and they were like best friends on it and I was like okay, like I see what's happening she was busted that's crazy because she tried to play it off as if he were an intruder, yep

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that is insane.

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He forgave her because are they still together now?

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yep, they, they ended up.

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They live in a apartment together, yeah wow, and how old is she?

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she's 28 and he's a year younger than me.

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Yeah, and then, yeah, he's 19.

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Yeah that's crazy.

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Are you still living in the house?

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I am yeah.

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Have you replaced the carpet Well?

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that's the craziest thing is she kicked me out that night and so I was told by the police and her to leave.

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So I said that's fine.

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How is that fair?

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What a welcome home from being in the military.

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That's what you get.

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That's not fair.

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That's crazy.

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And so I got a hotel room and then the next day I was like, hey, I ordered a U-Haul for you, get all your stuff and leave.

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And she was like I was already going to and so like she already had like apartment lined up, because that takes a little bit of time to get that done.

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So she already had all that stuff lined up.

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Wow, just planning on doing this, it does take time, because so I had a friend stay with me last summer for a couple of months while she was getting an apartment lined up for herself and it she ended up having to stay with me longer than she had planned.

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Because it is, you have to apply for these and then you have to get approved, and then sometimes if someone else applies that's willing to pay more for the apartment, they give your apartment away or there's things.

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So it in this town it seems it does.

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It is a process to get an apartment, so she, so she had that plan that's crazy.

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Before she left, the final thing that she did was she destroyed all my appliances, my countertops, ripped off the hinges of my cabinets in my kitchen, like yeah sorry to interrupt, I'm just confused.

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What did you do?

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She's the one that screwed you over, why?

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was she destroying?

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Your property just to hurt me one last time, I guess crazy.

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Well, it sounds like you dodged it, but at least you didn't marry her.

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Oh yeah, thank god, we were planning on to on it.

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Uh, we were together 10 years.

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This year would have been our 11 year anniversary.

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We're gonna get married on our anniversary, just to keep the same date and I was like thank god, like I was, I was very upset.

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Now it's been a couple, like couple months, so now I'm finally like okay that's, you are better off without her.

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What about the kids?

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Is she that she's the mother of your?

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she is, yeah, okay, and uh, she took them with her, with them to the apartment with her new boyfriend.

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They did not feel safe there.

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And then one day she just showed up unannounced, dropped them off and literally told my 10 year old and my and me and my three-year-old I don't want to be a mom anymore.

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I can't do this you're gonna live with your dad now and signed over like complete custody.

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So that's insane.

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So she wants nothing to do with them.

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Oh my god, that's so heartbreaking those poor kids oh yeah how did they react?

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Were they upset?

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my 10 year old definitely is like she's having a hard time with it.

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I was going to say do you have like a family counselor?

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or something we do.

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Yeah, Because that I'm in therapy that will mess.

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We're very pro-therapy, yeah.

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But you are an amazing father.

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Look at his nails, are they pink?

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Pink with sparkles oh, I love that.

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We were listening to the Pink Pony Club last night, oh my gosh, my nieces are eight and six and that is their favorite song, and in the barn at my parents' farm.

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I was home back in March and we were playing around outside and we went upstairs to the upstairs of the barn and I played the pink pony club song for them and we're like we're gonna turn this into the pink pony club and so now they've, like they've, hung signs they have my dad like fixing up the upstairs of the barn turning it into the pink pony club.

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It's hilarious.

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My daughter's not.

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That song too.

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Yeah, I don't know if I could listen to it another time.

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It's non-stop morning tonight.

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I'm like oh my goodness so funny so you've had some crazy first dates tell us about some of the crazy ones.

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I think the I've had a.

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I've had a handful.

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Thank you, hinge um but the first one that comes to mind is I took a girl out for coffee.

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She seemed great, like it was.

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It was a great time.

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We conversed very well.

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She seemed good, head on her shoulders.

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And then she was like hey, do you want to come over tomorrow and have some steaks and we can just barbecue and hang out.

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And I was like amazing, I love steak, it's like my favorite meal.

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But uh, went over there and as soon as she opened her door, this like five-year-old girl runs out and jumps into my arms and goes dad's home.

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No, didn't tell me she had a kid.

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I'm perfectly fine with food.

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She didn't tell you she had a kid.

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No, didn't tell me she had a kid.

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Said that she lived by herself.

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She just moved here from Alabama and and the kid's already calling you dad, oh yeah.

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And so I was like okay, and I felt bad, I wasn't just going to leave because that would be rude.

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And so I went in there and this kid is sitting on my lap and meanwhile she comes out and she's in lingerie like a corset lingerie set with pajama shorts In front of her daughter.

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Yes, what?

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She is desperate for a baby daddy, very loose shorts, and kid's like sitting on my lap and she's on the other side of me like rubbing my leg, like in front of the kid.

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Yep, yeah, yeah.

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And I was like, okay, this is very strange, wow.

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And I'm sitting there and then she's like, uh, go play, go play.

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And like tell him the kid to leave.

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And then the kid like runs outside and she's like drawing with chalk and she's like all right, like let's go.

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And I was like what, what do you mean?

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She was like, oh, let's go fuck.

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And I'm like no, like your kid's awake, like she's outside, it's like summertime, it's hot, like what if she needs something?

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And it was just, I was just like what the hell?

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And I was just like, hey, actually I'm gonna go help my mom with something.

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And I left and she like nonstop like blew my, like I had like 162 text messages from her that day saying that she's going to have a panic attack, she's going to kill herself if I don't come back and all this, and I was like hey, like I'm just really busy tonight, like, and then the next day I finally was like hey, you didn't tell me you had a kid.

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I'd have been totally okay if you did, but that whole situation was just like made me very uncomfortable.

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Because had you told her that you had children so she knew that you had children, so why?

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Wasn't she just honest and upfront?

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That's crazy.

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You are attracting the crazies my friend it was insane and then kind of stopped the first dates for a couple days and then matched with a girl again and then I was like, okay, let's try it, and went back and the first red flag was let's go to my house instead of let's meet somewhere.

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Women are just as bad as men, I feel, and I'm like, oh my goodness Like okay.

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And so I drove like two hours to go to her house, which was another.

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I was like why am I doing this?

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But I felt like she was different.

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we conversed for like a good, like day, day and a half had you facetimed like had you already seen, we actually knew she wasn't a catfish.

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Yeah, we facetimed that night for about like three, four hours.

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So I was like I really like this girl, like she seems like super awesome and was like exactly my type, and I was like, okay, like I'm just gonna do it, let's do it, and I was free, so might as well drove out there and had a couple beers hung out and uh, by the pool and stuff like that, and she's like, oh, let's go inside, and we start like making out and stuff, and I was like, okay, cool.

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And then she's like let's go to my bedroom and I was like, all right, like you seem great, like she had four kids.

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She told me she had four kids and I was like that's awesome, like we're both single parents, like so custody, like this is nice.

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And then, um, going to the bedroom and I always carry a knife on me and she like pulled out my knife and was like take off your fucking shirt.

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And I was like oh shit, I was like what the hell is happening?

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And like she like throws me on the bed and she like gets on top of me and she's like I'm going to carve my name into your chest.

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So, everybody knows that you're mine.

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And.

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I was like oh fuck.

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And I was like okay, like um no.

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And then she was like no, and so she had these like super long nails.

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And she goes okay, fine, Throws my knife knife and just starts carving her like drawing blood with her nails into my chest oh my gosh and she's like not everybody's gonna know, so you better not fuck me over and I was like holy shit lady, like wow, and so like I didn't, I was like okay, uh, I gotta go.

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Babysitter's calling me oh my gosh, and this is the first date.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah, but I get up it'd date.

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Yep, yeah, yeah, but I get up it'd just be crazy, yeah and I get up out of her bed and like, put my shirt back on and I look over and her entire like bookshelf is full of like witchcraft books, full of like Ouija board stuff oh, you need a.

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You need some sort of a like a chakra cleansing, oh yeah because she put a spell on you for sure, oh, 100%.

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She has a voodoo doll with your face on it.

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And I look over and on her right shelf she had all her parents' ashes like stacked next to each other and she goes.

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Oh yeah, just say bye to my parents before you leave.

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Oh, I was like what the hell?

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And I'm looking around her house because I don't know why I did not pay attention when I walked in.

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I pay attention when I walked in, I was just like infatuated.

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That's crazy.

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And she has jars of like dead animals, like all over her house and like formaldehyde.

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Like I was like what the fuck dude?

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And I look over in her kitchen and there's like a big ass sign saying this is where the witchcraft is made.

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Um, and I was like, okay, we're going to need to sage you.

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I know I was like I gotta go call my pastor, what is going to happen?

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Like super worried I'm like my truck's going to fall apart when I'm driving home.

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Like what is going to happen?

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But yeah, just crazy, crazy stuff, that's funny, so you left.

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Did you hear from her again?

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I did, yes, I did multiple times.

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What's your?

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policy Is your policy to block?

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Or is your policy just to let them harass and just not respond?

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There I feel like there's a like fine line.

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So the first lady with the kid I definitely blocked her because she was just non-stop calling me, threatening to kill her.

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I was like this is not, she needs help and she needs to do it on her own because I'm not there to do that yeah um with the second lady.

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I uh, I didn't block her and because I was like, okay, it'll stop, and then she'll text me.

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Hey, I love you, like when are we hanging out again?

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I love you so much Like you're my soulmate.

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She said I love you.

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Yes, yeah, she was like we have a soul tie.

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I think she called it a red string theory or something like that, oh my God.

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And she was like I knew you from the moment we met, like I saw your eyes and like I knew that we were together in a past life.

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I was just going to say that she probably thinks you were together in a past life.

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Oh, my goodness, that's so funny.

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I was like okay, and then so I finally ended up blocking her, like probably a couple weeks ago now.

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Okay, just because I could not handle the I love you bombs, and then all of a sudden I'm going to fucking kill you.

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That's so crazy.

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It was never just normal conversation.

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Yeah, yeah.

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So have you had any relationships since your ex?

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No, any good dates.

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Yeah definitely yeah, I met with one girl.

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She's still very weird, but she was definitely my type.

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It was a great date, but she was weird.

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It was great.

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We ended up hanging out for a good couple, I think, like a good month, and I was like, dang, I really like this girl and something like changed in her, I don't know.

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It was very just quiet and I was like, okay, something's, something's a little weird.

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And so I was like, hey, like we've been talking for a month now, I'd love like if I could be your boyfriend.

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And she was like, oh yeah, I'd love that.

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And so I was like, okay, cool, like everything's going great.

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And then just stopped Like just cold, ghost me.

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What I was like what the fuck?

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And it was Memorial Day actually and my buddies were all in town and of course they downloaded the hinges and the Tinders and all that because we were all partying.

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And he goes hey, isn't this the girl that you were talking to?

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And she fucking went back on hinge completely did.

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All her profile pictures were completely different pictures that she sent me so it was a new profile yes, from when you had met her yeah wow, that's savage like she could have been honest with you and not said yes when you asked her to be oh yeah, and she like booked it.

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I booked a trip to go meet her parents down in Boston.

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Wow, I ride motorcycles, she rides motorcycles, so we were going to ride down there.

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Make a whole, like you know.

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Like a road trip yeah.

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Her name's not Ali, is it?

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No.

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Okay, she rides motorcycles.

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No yeah, but that Dang.

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That's nuts.

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I knew she was a.

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She does like pole dancing and then she's also like a boudoir boudoir, boudoir.

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Boudoir Like a Photographer.

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Model oh a model.

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And so I was like okay, I gotta stop, I just gotta go for the simple.

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I was just gonna say that.

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So, besides not crazy right, like no one, that's batshit crazy what else are you looking for in your?

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I'm a simple guy.

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I just want somebody who's kind, who's caring and doesn't make me change.

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Or change is good, growing is good, but doesn't um want to mold me into something that I'm not.

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I just want to be true.

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I want it to be true on each side.

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Communication is like the biggest part.

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I think one of my biggest red flags is I over communicate.

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I I'm truthful to like a fault where it's like almost too much, but I just there's no.

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Life is way too short.

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Yeah, to not be true and be up front and to tell things right away rather than wait.

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Well, you can tell like you're a genuine, sincere you're kind, you're a good person, you're a gentleman, you're salt of the earth're kind, you're a good person.

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You're a gentleman, you're salt of the earth.

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Like you had made that comment, I'm not just living on this earth, I'm living with this earth yes, yeah so you need a good girl yeah, that's exactly what I want.

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I just want somebody who's just, who's just nice.

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Yeah, like that's all I need so you grew up playing baseball yes, yeah, I've been playing baseball since I was five.

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Um signeded a contract with Syracuse University to go play up there and then got transferred to the University of Minnesota and I was like I'm going to go pro, Like let's do it.

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I turned down going with the Rockies out of high school because I was just like seeing it happen where you get a bunch of money and you don't come from money and then life just fizzles out and then you kind of want to go experience college right and the main reason I was like I want to get away from my parents.

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My parents were very controlling, very overbearing, and I was like I just want to be by myself, I want to go try life as a fresh 18-year-old with all the knowledge that you have.

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But yeah, and then I went to college.

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And then, in Minnesota was when I was thinking about going to the military, because the whole ISIS thing was happening, like they just bombed the Ariana Grande concert and all this stuff was happening.

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So that's why I enlisted in 2015 and just started contracting ever since and my first appointment was literally like three weeks after I signed my contract and I was like dude, yes, let's get it.

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And just fell in love with it.

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And then, talking to my therapist, I was like dude, yes, let's get it.

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And just fell in love with it.

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And then, talking to my therapist, she was like the whole reason you did that was because you didn't have a protector growing up, so you wanted to be a protector for other people interesting.

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That's how I view my whole life is like.

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I want everybody else around me to feel loved and good, no matter how like shitty I feel.

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I just want to make sure everybody's life is good that's all that that matters, you know, just spreading kindness.

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So are you retired now from the military?

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Kind of yeah, so I'm a private military contractor so I do go on contracts.

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I've been here for about five, six months now back from Ukraine.

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So then, what happens with your kids if you would get called?

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Would you ever get called out to deployment again?

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No, I mean so contracting-wise.

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You can say yes or no.

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They want me to come out again on this month on the 29th, but I have kids full custody now, so I'm kind of I don't really need to go Figure out how to balance that.

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Yeah, and like I have, a good family.

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So the house I bought six years ago is on the same street I grew up on, so there's five generations of family on the street.

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That's awesome.

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So yeah, they love the kids and they help a lot with childcare and stuff like that.

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What that's nice.

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So, yeah, they love the kids and they help a lot with childcare and stuff like that.

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What are your hobbies?

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What do you do in your free time?

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I love being outdoors, I love camping.

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I just love exploring.

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I really enjoy like restaurants and like food.

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I'm a huge like even if it's like not good, I'll go just because I just want to experience that.

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I don't know, I'm a huge like adrenaline junkie.

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I like skydiving Right now.

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I love bull riding.

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That's like one of my favorites, really, bull riding yes.

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Yeah, I love to bull ride.

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I actually want to.

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Real bulls?

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Yes, where do you do this?

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I ride, so my buddy raises bucking stock out in Rio.

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Verde, and so I go out, oh wow.

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So it's like the big rodeo.

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That's great, we should go up for it.

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When is it?

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It's July 18th is when I ride.

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Let's do we should go, I'll be here Wait.

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Oh, we're recording on the 19th, I think.

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Oh dang.

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Maybe, we'll have to.

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I want to see you but.

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I do, I want to go.

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That would be fun, I want to try to ride a bull.

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I've never even ridden a mechanical bull.

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And here I am.

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I'm like get me on one of those babies.

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It's a good time I started.

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So my whole like teenage years I always worked on ranches.

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I was like doing horse stuff and fell in love with it, like I love caring for animals, because I was like this is awesome.

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And then my buddy was like you should try bull riding.

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You're a big guy, I bet you'd do well.

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And I was like okay, and just did it one time and I was like Doesn't it hurt?

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Are you sore?

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The next day it just looks like your body is Well and your balls, my hips, what is that situation?

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They're doing fine.

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No, yeah, the only time I had like a bad accident was I broke my neck what but other than that I just had like a stage two concussion.

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He's like no, it's fine, the worst accident was just a broken neck.

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It's no big deal, and you still do it after breaking your neck.

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Yes, that's crazy to me.

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I did end up winning that night, though, so I got a new belt buckle and it was.

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It was all worth it.

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Yeah, exactly and the craziest thing is I didn't even know I broke my neck like I thought I was just, I thought I just had a really bad whiplash.

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And then because I started drinking right after because that's what you do and, um, the next morning I woke up and I was like this is not hangover.

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Like I couldn't get out of bed because like I couldn't lift my head up and I was like, okay, something's fucking wrong and I'm going to the hospital that day and they're like yeah, you broke your C3 and C4 vertebrae in your neck and like tore all the ligaments in your neck too.

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So I was in like a neck brace for like a good couple weeks and I was like let's get back to it.

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You know, my mom always told me, if you're gonna be dumb, you gotta be tough.

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So that's what I kind of try to do, because I'm I'm very dumb the big dumb animal.

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But also you're tough.

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Are you looking to get married?

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I am have more kids.

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Are you done with kids you open?

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I'm definitely open.

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I'd love to have a boy.

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I have two girls right now, so I'd love to have a little boy, just a little cowpoke, and my youngest is just she's basically a boy.

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I was just going to ask that Are your girls tomboys?

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Oh my, goodness, my oldest is a straight up princess like, loves art, loves being like reading and just music and stuff like that.

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My youngest is like, loves being like reading and just music and stuff like that, my youngest is like dad when I'm 18, we're drinking beer.

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Oh, that's so cute, this man.

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I was like maybe we should wait a couple more years and she goes.

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Nope, we're drinking beer on horses.

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Oh that's so cute yeah, she's amazing, she loves these.

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Uh, the topo chicos oh yes she calls them her baby beers and it's just that is so my heart, I'm like yes, I, I love you.

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That's cute.

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I'm ready for it.

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Question Question this week is from Maria in our question question this week is from Maria.

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I'm in a long-distance relationship with a guy I adore when he actually responds.

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He's sweet, loyal and great in person.

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But texting him is like sending a message by carrier pigeon.

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I'll pour my heart into a cute good morning text and he replies 11 hours later with lol.

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Is he just bad at phones or am I dating someone who time traveled here from 1347?

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that's a pet peeve of mine, like I feel like there's always time to send a text.

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Whether you're on the toilet or you know, waiting for the doctor, or before you go to bed, there's always time.

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Being too busy is not an excuse, like what's his excuse.

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Yeah, what do you?

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well, I feel like sometimes there isn't time to send a text and so like 11 hours later is okay, but not just an lol, like if it takes you 11 hours to respond to a text, it should then be a legitimate text, like a substantial text, because I will, I will do that like I will see a text and I'll be like oh yeah, I need to respond to this, but I'm in the middle of something else and so I'll set my phone down and then I'll forget for a few hours, but then when I come back around and respond to the text, I don't know it's actually a thoughtful response priorities.

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If someone's important to you, I don't think you'd wait 11 hours.

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If there's a girl that you really, really, really liked and she texted you, would you ever wait 11 hours to respond?

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No, right.

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Sometimes I can't.

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If I'm with patients, I can't respond.

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If you're a doctor and you're in surgery or sometimes there's the exception.

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I'm not doing surgery.

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I know I'm just saying.

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Sometimes there is the exception, if you're like you know an fbi agent, like in the middle of a raid but for the most part, for the normal people, I don't think there's an excuse and lol, that's so lame yeah yeah, I'm.

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I mean, I think I think forgetting to send a text every once in a while and it taking all day to respond is fine, but if your response is lol to a long thoughtful text, that's a little.

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Yeah, I wouldn't be okay with that I definitely see your viewpoint on the.

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You know you're busy.

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Yeah, you're human, you get busy.

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Yeah, but if they're a priority and you've been talking to them, I always, I would always find the time.

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Yeah, there's always a time, well, and sometimes I'm busy or and I will say that too and sometimes I will say I have a really busy day today.

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I'm going to respond to this when I get a minute, and so I will do that too.

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But I I mean some people are just, they're scatterbrained and they, you know, see, see a text and set your phone down and you're doing something else and then you forget and some people aren't texas.

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I think that's more of the older generation.

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They just don't like to text, so they're very short.

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But yeah, that's more of the older generation, they just don't like the text, so they're very short.

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Yeah, that's true, I don't know, I think I think Maybe have a conversation With this particular question.

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I think it sounds like she's not a priority to him.

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Is what kind of what it?

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sounds like, because it sounds like it's happening a lot.

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That's the thing is when, when, if once it happens once, it's not a big deal, but if it's happening multiple all the time, then I think it's a problem.

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We always talk about communication.

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Communication is key.

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She needs to sit down and have a conversation with him and tell him it's important to me yeah texting is important.

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I need you to respond and give him the opportunity and then if he doesn't change after she's had that conversation with him, then move on.

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Yeah, exactly, yeah, agreed.

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So now we're going to chat a couple articles, so one let's chat infidelity and debatable takes Once a cheater, always a cheater.

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Is that a myth, or do you think that's true In my?

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experience, I think that's true.

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I think it's true as well, because I met that girl, my ex, my baby mama, I guess you could call it.

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I was in a relationship, she was in a relationship and we ended up cheating together and then she continued the trend, yeah, yeah.

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But if you cheated also, then once a cheater, always a cheater.

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I know, yeah, that's a scary, that's a slippery slope.

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I don't know right.

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Do you think there are certain?

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I mean, I think, typically speaking, yes, I think once a cheater, always a cheater, I definitely do.

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But do you think there's the exception where maybe someone learns their lesson?

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Where you've done it in the past, it completely effed everything up and you learn that, oh, it's not worth doing it all over again me, I would you cheat again?

00:27:54.565 --> 00:27:55.307
I don't know.

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See, I feel like you seem very genuine and authentic, and when you say I would never cheat again, I believe you, yeah.

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Yeah, when I did I mean we were in high school, so we were just kids but I thought I found like the love of my life.

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So I was like, yes, like that's it.

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I thought I did it for a good reason, even though cheating is never a good reason.

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I think it's like absolutely disgusting.

00:28:15.981 --> 00:28:18.423
but yeah, so you cheated when you were like 18?

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Uh, we were, I think I met her when I was 15, 16.

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That's young.

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Does that even count as cheating?

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when you're 15 or 16?

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Exactly, you know, as an adult, I think, if you're a grown mature, I think if you're a grown mature adult, once a cheater, always a cheater For sure.

00:28:35.382 --> 00:28:42.397
But if you cheated when you're 15, I think that is a little bit of an exception, because you grow up and you mature 100%.

00:28:42.417 --> 00:28:50.098
But my question is this If you're constantly cheating on your spouse because I know people that constantly cheat multiple times on their significant other why be in the relationship?

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Why not just end it?

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You're not happy.

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I feel like they're comfortable, they're comfortable, they're comfortable, but is it fair to your?

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significant other.

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It's not no, Consider it no.

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I feel like that means you're a bad person, right yeah?

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100%.

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So I feel like you should just end it if you're not happy.

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Yeah, agreed.

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Can a relationship survive?

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Infidelity?

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Think this is tough?

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I think this is.

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I think it ruins the relationship.

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You're always going to be questioning, second guessing, I think only with therapy.

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I think you.

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I think a relationship can survive infidelity, but there has to be work a lot of work and a lot of proving, I feel yeah I feel like you, definitely.

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I mean it's happened where people do survive it but at the same time, like she said, a lot of work has to be done, like I don't know if I would want to stay in a relationship if they've cheated on me, because it would drive me crazy.

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If they're late at work or they're stuck in traffic or they're going out with the boys, I would always think is he or is he cheating again?

00:29:47.681 --> 00:29:49.285
Yes, it would drive me crazy.

00:29:49.305 --> 00:29:57.126
That's not a fun place to be in, that's literally how I spent 10 years so really constantly questioning, constantly feeling I'm not enough and stuff like that.

00:29:57.126 --> 00:30:17.169
So it definitely miserable for, oh it is, but at the same time you're like I have two beautiful girls with this person that I love, but it just wasn't reciprocated on her end yeah, and you've created like this life in your head like you can see where it's going where it could be, and so then you hold on to that and you sort of overlook the shitty parts.

00:30:18.494 --> 00:30:22.785
Should you tell your partner if you've cheated, but it was just a one-time mistake that you regret.

00:30:22.785 --> 00:30:23.846
Should you tell your partner?

00:30:23.967 --> 00:30:25.298
Yes, I 100% think.

00:30:25.318 --> 00:30:29.676
yes, honesty is my best policy, because if they find out from someone, else it's going to be even worse.

00:30:29.696 --> 00:30:30.356
It's even worse.

00:30:31.238 --> 00:30:31.897
Micro-cheating.

00:30:31.897 --> 00:30:34.920
Is that a real red flag or just an insecure overreaction?

00:30:34.920 --> 00:30:38.760
You know micro-cheating like liking a pretty girl's posts.

00:30:38.760 --> 00:30:43.384
Or you know texting a guy at work, but you've never done anything physically but you're just texting.

00:30:43.384 --> 00:30:45.104
So not physical cheating.

00:30:45.184 --> 00:30:47.490
But that's a hard question.

00:30:47.490 --> 00:30:49.289
I feel like I know it is kind of a hard question.

00:30:49.289 --> 00:30:50.260
It's very situational.

00:30:50.260 --> 00:30:57.196
I feel, yeah, I feel like, if you like you're into a relationship, I don't see a reason why to look at.

00:30:58.565 --> 00:31:00.270
Continue conversations with other people.

00:31:00.270 --> 00:31:01.173
Yeah, yeah.

00:31:01.884 --> 00:31:12.406
But I mean, if you're just like, if you know the person, oh cool, she's in Cali or whatever, that's cool.

00:31:12.406 --> 00:31:12.750
Sure, why not.

00:31:12.770 --> 00:31:13.942
But if you're sitting there putting hard eyes, or hey you?

00:31:13.961 --> 00:31:14.224
look so good.

00:31:15.026 --> 00:31:16.030
It's very situational.

00:31:16.244 --> 00:31:17.209
It is very situational.

00:31:17.209 --> 00:31:22.487
I do think it is kind of a red flag, though, because I think it can snowball out of control really quickly.

00:31:22.487 --> 00:31:35.265
One message or one comment can really quickly snowball into a situation like a cheating situation yeah, so another one red flags.

00:31:35.325 --> 00:31:37.731
That should be deal breakers, but we ignore them anyway.

00:31:37.731 --> 00:31:48.436
So have you had someone that exhibited a red flag that you just overlooked and that yes, well, I mean, I didn't just overlook it.

00:31:48.698 --> 00:31:55.448
So I had with my ex and I've talked about this before there were red flags on our first date.

00:31:55.448 --> 00:32:02.347
But a mutual friend had set us up, a mutual friend who at the time I trusted her opinion of him.

00:32:02.347 --> 00:32:14.167
And so then when I called her after the date and was telling her like, hey, this is what happened and I didn't really like it and it was a red flag to me.

00:32:14.167 --> 00:32:19.719
And she was you know, no, no, no, he was really nervous to meet you.

00:32:19.719 --> 00:32:26.984
He's a great guy, he's not normally like that, and so it caused me to overlook the red flag.

00:32:26.984 --> 00:32:33.517
She was like give him another chance, go out on one more date with him and see, like if it'll be different, it'll be different.

00:32:33.517 --> 00:32:49.732
And so it wasn't necessarily just me overlooking blindly the red flag, but it was me trusting my friend who set us up when I presented her with the red flags and she sort of convinced me otherwise.

00:32:50.515 --> 00:32:54.449
yeah, I've, definitely, I've, definitely, I've definitely overlooked red flags before.

00:32:54.608 --> 00:33:06.760
Yes, yeah, um, especially this, uh, this last girl I went on a date with, I was just like, oh, yeah, yeah, like seems cool, but she kept like texting people or not wanting to go to certain locations and that was like a huge thing.

00:33:06.780 --> 00:33:08.487
I was like what the heck like that's a red flag.

00:33:08.627 --> 00:33:14.574
Yeah, I was like why don't and come to find out like her like ex-boyfriend, like frequents these places and she didn't want to see him.

00:33:14.574 --> 00:33:15.890
I'm like how long have you guys been broken up?

00:33:15.890 --> 00:33:19.554
Oh, like a couple years, and I'm like that's kind of strange.

00:33:19.554 --> 00:33:26.538
Like wouldn't you want to like have your new boyfriend be with you for, I guess?

00:33:26.538 --> 00:33:44.272
Or like even just uh, continuing with like posting like I think they're called thirst traps when you're seriously talking to somebody is like a red flag for me, I think yeah, because you're like dude, I like you're beautiful and like I don't think you need to, especially when they're not like a social media influencer yeah, I feel like you know why?

00:33:44.333 --> 00:33:44.733
why did other?

00:33:44.773 --> 00:33:44.953
people.

00:33:44.953 --> 00:33:58.391
We just had this conversation with another male guest too, because he was like, if I have to scroll through 30 pictures of your ass to find like a wholesome picture of you with your kid and you're not making money off of posting pictures of your ass.

00:33:58.652 --> 00:33:58.971
Why are?

00:33:59.011 --> 00:33:59.133
you?

00:33:59.133 --> 00:34:01.156
Why are you doing it?

00:34:01.156 --> 00:34:04.586
Yeah, so are these red flags or just quirks?

00:34:04.586 --> 00:34:12.039
He has no bed sheets, just a mattress oh red flag.

00:34:12.039 --> 00:34:13.481
How cheap are they to buy?

00:34:13.481 --> 00:34:13.782
You know?

00:34:13.822 --> 00:34:17.070
also, it's like a sanitary thing like gross.

00:34:17.070 --> 00:34:20.880
Who just sleeps on a mattress with no sheets?

00:34:20.942 --> 00:34:25.472
yeah, that is kind of gross calls his mom mommy at 28.

00:34:25.472 --> 00:34:27.255
Mommy, my mommy.

00:34:27.456 --> 00:34:30.623
I don't like it, I don't like it, I don't like it, I don't like it, I don't like it.

00:34:30.623 --> 00:34:31.505
I don't think it's a red flag.

00:34:32.666 --> 00:34:33.507
It's kind of weird.

00:34:33.688 --> 00:34:33.929
Yeah.

00:34:34.289 --> 00:34:36.695
Doesn't believe in tipping Red flag red flag.

00:34:36.835 --> 00:34:38.038
Yeah, that's terrible.

00:34:38.545 --> 00:34:41.213
Sends 15 TikToks a day, but doesn't text back.

00:34:41.425 --> 00:34:42.543
I hate it when people do that.

00:34:42.543 --> 00:34:44.706
Yeah, that's a red flag when you get all these.

00:34:44.766 --> 00:34:45.969
TikToks or memes.

00:34:45.969 --> 00:34:47.213
They don't respond to your text.

00:34:47.213 --> 00:34:49.737
Has an.

00:34:49.737 --> 00:34:54.163
I love women who read tattoo, but has never finished a book, Duh yeah.00:34:54.625 --> 00:34:56.530


Who has a tattoo that says I love women.00:34:56.952 --> 00:34:57.715


That's wild.00:34:58.826 --> 00:35:03.271


Ex-girlfriends or ex-wife pictures still in his dating profile, or vice versa.00:35:03.271 --> 00:35:08.831


A guy that had you know someone has pictures of their exes Still, like that, aren't cut out.00:35:10.525 --> 00:35:11.313


Do people do that?00:35:11.313 --> 00:35:11.878


I don't know.00:35:11.878 --> 00:35:15.451


On the apps do people post pictures of themselves with their significant or their exes.00:35:15.532 --> 00:35:25.329


So I know people who their exes still have pictures of their wedding pictures on their facebook yeah, on your social media is well.00:35:25.550 --> 00:35:48.905


I mean, it's still kind of, but that's different than being on your dating profile okay dating profile, I think is absolutely that's a huge red flag but on social media, like if you're in a relationship with Bob and you're married to Bob and he has pictures of his him and his ex, their wedding pictures and stuff my ex had still had pictures because he's like that that was my life, like I was married to her.00:35:48.925 --> 00:36:15.539


There were family vacation photos of like him and his ex-wife and their daughter in like old photo albums on Facebook from 10 years ago and it's like it that never bothered me because I'm like that was part of his life but it's weird to me, like if I was married, I got divorced and I'm married again out of respect for my current partner, I would take all the old pictures down.00:36:16.286 --> 00:36:16.869


You know, don't?00:36:16.869 --> 00:36:26.746


You 100 right, I agree with you 100, not so much that I want to erase that memory from my life because it was a part of my past and who I am, but for respect for my partner, I don't know.00:36:26.907 --> 00:36:27.548


I think it's a little weird.00:36:27.548 --> 00:36:43.733


I think I think it depends on if it's important to your partner or not, because if the partner feels disrespected having my ex have pictures of his ex-wife and daughter from when he was married, I didn't feel like that was disrespectful to me.00:36:43.733 --> 00:36:52.487


I don't know, I mean, maybe I'm not right, but I didn't feel disrespected by that because it's like that's a part of your life, so what?00:36:52.487 --> 00:36:56.300


I would never ask you to delete those memories.00:36:56.300 --> 00:37:03.568


So I guess it probably depends on how it makes your partner feel yeah, right, if your partner feels disrespected by it, then take it down, why not?00:37:03.588 --> 00:37:04.150


you've moved on.00:37:04.150 --> 00:37:04.896


You're with someone else.00:37:04.896 --> 00:37:06.784


How easy is it to delete, delete, delete.00:37:06.784 --> 00:37:07.346


I don't know.00:37:07.346 --> 00:37:09.929


Yeah, easy, you think this is a red flag.00:37:09.929 --> 00:37:12.233


I don't just caught a fish picture in his profile.00:37:12.914 --> 00:37:14.096


I don't think it's a red the picture.00:37:14.096 --> 00:37:23.969


No, I said there was a a viral like post going around that said that that was a red flag and I said I don't understand it why is it a red flag?00:37:24.010 --> 00:37:24.510


I don't know.00:37:24.510 --> 00:37:25.594


I don't think it's a red flag.00:37:25.594 --> 00:37:26.846


I don't think it's a red flag either.00:37:27.286 --> 00:37:31.813


I have pictures of myself holding fish.00:37:31.934 --> 00:37:34.038


Only when they lie about how big they are.00:37:34.038 --> 00:37:34.579


Right, right.00:37:34.579 --> 00:37:36.735


That's the only red flag there, exactly.00:37:36.777 --> 00:37:39.289


Yeah, no, there was this whole thing going around recently.00:37:39.289 --> 00:37:40.371


That was it said.00:37:40.371 --> 00:37:45.190


If he's holding a fish in his dating profile picture, it's a red flag, and that's what I was asking.00:37:45.331 --> 00:37:46.974


I was asking why is that a red flag?00:37:46.974 --> 00:37:47.375


I don't understand.00:37:47.375 --> 00:37:48.135


Because it shows she likes to fish.00:37:48.135 --> 00:37:48.755


She has hobbies.00:37:48.755 --> 00:37:49.998


You know outdoorsy hobbies?00:37:49.998 --> 00:37:51.059


Yeah, I don't understand.00:37:51.059 --> 00:37:52.541


Claps when the plane lands, that's kind of.00:37:52.541 --> 00:37:58.552


But with all the plane crashes nowadays, can you blame people for being glad that you landed safely?00:37:58.552 --> 00:37:59.394


No, I don't like that.00:37:59.545 --> 00:38:01.166


I don't like people looking at me Like.00:38:01.166 --> 00:38:02.572


I don't like attention on me.00:38:11.764 --> 00:38:14.934


And so if I'm sitting next to the whole plane is turning to look to see where the clapping is coming from and I am like get me out of here right now.00:38:14.934 --> 00:38:17.143


The last one is talks loudly on speakerphone in public.00:38:17.182 --> 00:38:20.891


That's kind of annoying that is annoying, that's annoying, that's kind of like.00:38:21.753 --> 00:38:23.865


So what is your favorite place to go on a first date?00:38:24.807 --> 00:38:26.471


oh, it depends, I really.00:38:26.471 --> 00:38:28.956


I just I just started going to this place called postinos.00:38:28.976 --> 00:38:30.940


I love just he's like I just started going to this place called Postino's.00:38:30.960 --> 00:38:31.280


I love Postino's.00:38:31.300 --> 00:38:32.963


He's like, I just started going to this place.00:38:32.983 --> 00:38:33.224


It's so good.00:38:33.224 --> 00:38:34.532


Did you just discover Postino?00:38:34.532 --> 00:38:35.235


Oh yeah, the bruschetta boards.00:38:35.235 --> 00:38:36.282


Yes, the bruschetta's are amazing.00:38:36.282 --> 00:38:38.590


Have you ever been on a Monday, tuesday?00:38:38.590 --> 00:38:39.813


No, do you know about their deal.00:38:40.094 --> 00:38:52.447


No, oh my gosh On Mondays and Tuesdays after 7 p.00:38:52.447 --> 00:38:53.831


They've increased their prices the last time I went.00:38:53.851 --> 00:38:54.333


I think it's 30 now.00:38:54.333 --> 00:38:56.278


It used to be 20, it used to be 20, but it's either 25 or 30 now.00:38:56.278 --> 00:38:58.164


Yeah, that's a good place, or, uh, I really like going to this.00:38:58.164 --> 00:39:03.858


This like speakeasy bar called the whining pig or pigtails or something oh, I've been to pigtails.00:39:04.085 --> 00:39:04.686


It's downtown.00:39:04.686 --> 00:39:05.927


Yeah it's, yeah it's super cool.00:39:05.947 --> 00:39:09.474


It's very dark and like quiet and I like that one.00:39:09.554 --> 00:39:11.097


I like it's if's pigtails.00:39:11.097 --> 00:39:12.940


That's the one that's inside the little meat counter.00:39:13.125 --> 00:39:14.849


There's a meat counter, and then you go in the back door.00:39:14.971 --> 00:39:15.853


Yeah that one's cute.00:39:15.853 --> 00:39:16.815


Yeah, that's a good one.00:39:16.815 --> 00:39:19.974


Other than that, I mean just normal, normal stuff.00:39:20.905 --> 00:39:24.155


So now it's time for the celebrity cut, where we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.00:39:24.155 --> 00:39:25.927


So, speaking of dating apps, did you see Jenny?00:39:25.927 --> 00:39:31.619


You know, know, jenny garth used to be married to peter facinelli I don't know how to pronounce his name, but she found when they were still together.00:39:31.619 --> 00:39:36.634


She found him on raya, the dating app, looking for girls the same age as their daughter.00:39:36.634 --> 00:39:42.213


You know, because they have three daughters and I guess the eldest like isn't that weird, dating someone that's the same age as your daughter.00:39:42.253 --> 00:39:44.067


How can you bring that girl home?00:39:44.067 --> 00:39:47.813


So she'd be the stepmother to the daughter and they're the same age.00:39:47.813 --> 00:39:48.853


That's just just weird.00:39:48.875 --> 00:39:52.219


What is with celebrities and their obsession with Younger women?00:39:52.304 --> 00:39:54.773


Like yeah, it's weird, I don't know.00:39:55.925 --> 00:39:57.010


It's like Chomo.00:39:58.224 --> 00:39:59.250


Like Leonardo DiCaprio?00:39:59.250 --> 00:40:01.313


Doesn't he cut his women off at like 26?00:40:01.313 --> 00:40:03.891


They turn 26 and he trades them in for a younger model.00:40:03.891 --> 00:40:05.175


I don't know.00:40:05.405 --> 00:40:07.192


They need to be psychologically analyzed.00:40:07.271 --> 00:40:16.226


I think it's predatory and it psychologically analyzed.00:40:16.226 --> 00:40:16.708


I think that's for sure.00:40:16.708 --> 00:40:18.713


It kind of sucks for us women as we get older, like I feel men do age like a fine wine.00:40:18.733 --> 00:40:19.577


They get better looking as they get older.00:40:19.577 --> 00:40:20.418


Us women, we just get dumped to the curb.00:40:20.418 --> 00:40:40.077


Well, and I think too it is because, as women, as we get older we become more opinionated and our, like, ability to deal with bullshit becomes much less, and as, when you think about when you are younger you were, you know you would just whatever it's, whatever like, I'll just deal with whatever he's great and so I think it has something to do with that too.00:40:40.077 --> 00:40:47.501


Like the younger, women are just more easily yeah, true, don't fight back as much, yeah, yeah, see, I'm the exact opposite.00:40:47.583 --> 00:40:52.797


I go for older women because of that reason right there, where they're not dealing with bullshit anymore.00:40:52.797 --> 00:40:55.393


Now I'm 29,.00:40:55.393 --> 00:40:57.864


I go for the mid-30s to 40s.00:40:58.005 --> 00:40:59.110


Ooh, you like a cougar?00:40:59.652 --> 00:41:03.925


Okay, especially if they're established, they know what they want.00:41:03.985 --> 00:41:05.525


I'm going to have so many submissions for him.00:41:05.666 --> 00:41:07.693


I know I feel so Sliding off the dates.00:41:07.693 --> 00:41:08.909


I appreciate it.00:41:09.686 --> 00:41:10.690


So what's your age range?00:41:10.690 --> 00:41:14.686


I feel so.00:41:14.686 --> 00:41:15.027


What's your age?00:41:15.047 --> 00:41:15.148


range.00:41:15.148 --> 00:41:15.548


What is your ideal?00:41:15.548 --> 00:41:16.492


What's the youngest you'll go in the?00:41:16.492 --> 00:41:26.527


Oldest you'll go youngest I'll go is my age 29, but yeah, I will not go any younger because I just feel like, especially like having two kids and experience like multiple lives within this short life that I've lived.00:41:26.527 --> 00:41:34.570


There's no way I can date somebody that's like 21, 22, 20 any of that just because they haven't figured anything out yet it's a different.00:41:34.570 --> 00:41:44.016


Yeah, I have like my shit together so I think uh probably like 30s to 40s well, even like the early 50s.00:41:44.077 --> 00:41:47.009


Now they look hot, they're on fire like look at J-Lo and Gwen.00:41:47.009 --> 00:41:51.730


Stefani, and I feel like now all the women are so beautiful if they can afford to have the work done.00:41:51.750 --> 00:41:52.331


That's true.00:41:52.331 --> 00:41:52.954


That's true.00:41:54.206 --> 00:41:55.155


The oldest one I've dated.00:41:55.175 --> 00:41:57.690


I'd love to see them without all the work, without any work.00:41:58.246 --> 00:42:02.135


The oldest one I've dated is 57 or 58.00:42:02.536 --> 00:42:02.898


Oh wow.00:42:02.918 --> 00:42:03.740


Whoa that's way.00:42:03.740 --> 00:42:04.422


Cougar, that is old.00:42:04.422 --> 00:42:06.626


Why did that not work out?00:42:06.947 --> 00:42:09.309


The age for her was an issue.00:42:09.309 --> 00:42:11.030


Yeah, she was like I can't.00:42:11.030 --> 00:42:16.514


She brought me around a couple of family things and was questioned and all that good stuff she was.00:42:16.514 --> 00:42:19.838


She was like, ah, it's just not, I don't want the drama within my own family.00:42:19.838 --> 00:42:22.760


You're the same age as, like, multiple of my kids.00:42:22.760 --> 00:42:23.481


Yeah, yeah.00:42:25.164 --> 00:42:43.666


And so I understand Well and I was reading something recently that one of the big concerns with older women dating younger men is the fear of looking much older, like later in life right, so say, when you're 40 and she's 70, you know what I mean.00:42:43.666 --> 00:42:44.367


So then it.00:42:44.367 --> 00:42:49.534


Then it becomes this fear, because, as women, we're vain, obviously.00:42:49.534 --> 00:42:55.065


So it's like when I look way, way older, then what then?00:42:55.065 --> 00:42:56.269


What are people gonna think?00:42:56.469 --> 00:43:05.534


I'll dye my hair gray now it's time for the most delicious segment of the show zoyo and tell sponsored, sponsored by zoyo, your neighborhood yogurt.00:43:05.534 --> 00:43:08.891


We are gonna get to know you with zoyo rapid fire.00:43:08.891 --> 00:43:16.277


Okay, the best or worst pickup line that you've ever heard uh, for me like on my own or used?00:43:16.438 --> 00:43:16.858


do you even?00:43:16.858 --> 00:43:17.782


Do you have a good pickup line?00:43:18.023 --> 00:43:21.474


my go-to is I think you're absolutely breathtaking.00:43:21.556 --> 00:43:32.376


I'd love to get to know you oh, that's like my genuine, just my go-to um, I think the worst one I've ever heard was what that mouth do what.00:43:32.376 --> 00:43:34.498


Yes, that was her line.00:43:34.498 --> 00:43:35.521


Yep, how'd you respond?00:43:37.065 --> 00:43:40.936


Just started drinking my whiskey, didn't reply no response, no words needed.00:43:41.445 --> 00:43:43.929


Yeah, I was like no, thank you, it drinks whiskey.00:43:43.949 --> 00:43:44.992


Thank you very much.00:43:44.992 --> 00:43:45.635


Yes, ma'am.00:43:45.925 --> 00:43:47.469


Favorite body part on a partner.00:43:47.771 --> 00:43:48.032


Butt.00:43:48.373 --> 00:43:48.875


Butt yeah.00:43:52.264 --> 00:43:56.516


What gives you the ick Ooh, taking care of somebody that doesn't have their shit together?00:43:57.766 --> 00:43:59.572


Is watching porn considered cheating?00:43:59.692 --> 00:43:59.952


Yes.00:44:00.273 --> 00:44:00.835


Yeah, yeah.00:44:00.835 --> 00:44:05.275


Before you're intimate, is it appropriate to ask your date how many people they've been with?00:44:08.021 --> 00:44:10.751


No, not appropriate I don't think it's appropriate.00:44:10.751 --> 00:44:10.831


No.00:44:11.704 --> 00:44:13.431


Is it acceptable to have sex on a first date?00:44:13.713 --> 00:44:13.934


Yeah.00:44:15.326 --> 00:44:18.215


Should you disclose mental health issues early on in a relationship?00:44:18.434 --> 00:44:18.655


Yes.00:44:19.405 --> 00:44:21.130


And then what's your favorite position and why?00:44:23.416 --> 00:44:24.117


I'm old school.00:44:24.117 --> 00:44:29.463


I like just straight up missionary or cowgirl where she's on top, just super old school.00:44:29.463 --> 00:44:32.896


I just like looking how pretty they are when they're underneath you.00:44:33.565 --> 00:44:34.769


Do you have any other questions?00:44:34.769 --> 00:44:35.753


No, do you have any other questions?00:44:35.974 --> 00:44:36.034


No.00:44:36.385 --> 00:44:40.351


Well, thank you so much for joining us this week at the Meat Market and thank you so much, stephen.00:44:40.351 --> 00:44:57.672


If you want to take Stephen on a date, go to our social need, to go to tactical tax strategies.00:44:57.672 --> 00:44:59.096


Thank you so much and we'll see you next week at the meat market.00:44:59.096 --> 00:45:01.722


Oh my God, I just totally got catfished.00:45:01.722 --> 00:45:03.793


He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.00:45:04.255 --> 00:45:08.887


So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:45:08.887 --> 00:45:11.009


His wife just reached out to me.