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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the Meat Market.

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The single scene is a slaughterhouse and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess and today's sizzling single is JC Welcome.

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Thank you.

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How are you, ladies, good?

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How are you?

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I'm doing awesome actually.

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So I have a question.

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You are from Canada.

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You live in the USA now.

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Are the Canadian men different from the American men?

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Well, they say, canadian men are nicer.

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They say, canadians in general are nicer.

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I mean come on on it's just like a stereotype.

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I mean I've met good and bad, whatever, but you know there's.

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There may be.

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I was in calgary for 15 years before moving here, so very rustic, kind of like denver oh, okay did you date much there in a couple, a little here and there.

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Yeah, I have a couple stories from canada, but yeah, but you know, I moved here and, with my dog, me and my dog decided to move to the US.

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So here I am are the men more aggressive here in America.

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More forward um, I don't know more aloof really more aloof, huh yeah, and maybe a little it depends.

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I think you know it depends.

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I've tried dating older, younger.

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I don't really have a stereotype of what age.

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You know there's a clicker if you have a vibe.

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Yeah, kind of go with it, you know, Do you typically make the first move or do you like the other guy to make the first move?

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I mean, come on, we all like somebody else to make a move right yeah.

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Right, but I'm not exactly shy, so you know I have no problems.

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I'll go out, travel by myself, do all that kind of stuff.

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I'm like if you want to do it, you got to just go out and do it.

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So, on the dating apps, do you ever reach out?

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Do you ever make the first move and take initiative to message?

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them first, I'll swipe in the right direction.

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I'll swipe and wait for that message to come in.

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But you know what?

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I've done both right.

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It's nice when you get a message.

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You know somebody takes the initiative, but I have no problems doing it as well, you know, and sometimes you meet a great person and sometimes you have a story for the friends.

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That's true.

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Do you have any go-to moves in person, like that you do when you're out, when you're traveling?

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I mean it's lame, but it's like you always buy somebody a drink Like I mean, that's classic right.

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Do you send a drink or do you ask hey, can I buy you a drink?

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I just like be observant as to what the person's drinking.

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Okay.

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And yeah, I usually buy them a drink or just hand them a drink.

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Okay, I think I'm past that point of just having a friend do it.

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You know, it's kind of like I don't know, I don't know kind of takes away from it.

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I think you know, when you're trying to get to know somebody and initially start up a conversation, so I kind of will do it myself.

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So you said you travel a lot.

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Do you have travel romances or travel one-night stands?

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A whole and every area counts, so you want the 411?

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Are you naughty on the road?

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You know, I've dated on the road.

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I had an ex that I met in denver and he moved here and then we moved there and then we moved back and then he moved back by himself, which is probably good.

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It wasn't definitely a good thing, but yeah, I mean, yeah, I figure it opens up your possibilities and opportunities, right, um, because I look after a few states and and, uh, have somebody that reports me from canada and so I travel a bit for work, which keeps it exciting.

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You make your own schedule.

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So it's that's just pros and cons, you know so you'd be open to a long distance relationship um, with an end in sight, you know like you have to have a conversation as to.

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You know, what does this look like long term, you know?

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But yeah, I mean, why, why would you not, I mean, if the right person's out there, I think so I have a question for you too.

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Are you members of the mile high club?

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What do you want?

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How did I not know this?

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I was gonna say it seems like it would be so uncomfortable and squished and like stressful right yeah, I feel like.

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I feel like the only way you could would be like on a private plane.

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You wouldn't, it would be hard on a commercial flight or on one of those dubai planes where they have the showers in there.

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So what is?

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like like to be on the mile high club.

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Do you have to go to the restroom?

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no, but I think you have to have sex Like it has to be.

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I don't think just like a quick finger bang counts, does it A quick blowy Well, a blowy might, a blowy might.

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Really I feel like.

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I feel like oral sex would count.

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Are you a member of the Mile High Club?

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No, no, okay.

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Yet, yes, yes, I know right, it's kind of on my bucket list, yeah, I don't even think I've fooled around on a plane, have you no?

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I think it's disrespectful to the people that you're sitting around.

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What if there's nobody beside you?

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Well, and that's the thing.

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If there's nobody beside you.

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It's one thing, but flights are so packed nowadays I feel like it's hard, that's true, they cram so many people in.

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Maybe if you're in first class it's empty.

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The lights are off.

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You have the blankets.

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You have a blanket.

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You have to have a blanket.

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You have to set the mood and light a candle.

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Well, you can't light a candle.

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You have to order champagne.

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Well for sure, right?

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I mean, like you're in first class, you need a little blanket.

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So, technically, if you're in first class, there's usually two of you right um, so yeah, yeah, I mean there's been a little hot and heavy in first class.

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Yeah, I think we should do a poll like what counts, what qualifies you for the mile high club, because just just you know first, second base I always assume it's having sex in the restroom, but there are other places to have sex on the fly, yeah you know that a lot of action happens in the cockpit.

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It's called the cockpit for a reason.

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There was this story going around online that there was some private flight that was designed just for that.

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It had like a bed in the back seat Really, and it was like yeah, it was like some sort of special like deal, so it was like the airborne Playboy Mansion.

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Kind of Wow, yeah, yeah, yeah, kind kind of the gay equivalent would just be any circuit party.

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I've seen some interesting things on the dance floor that's funny, I have two actually at that I've I've been to a gay bar or two and the the people watching on the dance floor is definitely top notch do they, they get down.

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Oh, yeah, really.

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Oh yeah, my biggest fear is like what if there's people that you don't want to participate?

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Try.

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Right, exactly, exactly, like you can usually pick your person.

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but I mean, you know there's, you put it out there.

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It's kind of like, well, you kind of have to expect there's people going to want to join, it's true.

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So I don't know.

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To each their own.

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I'm not a prude, but that's just a little bit too much for me.

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I'll be the one looking from a distance, but I won't be the one participating.

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We tow the line of public acts but we don't cross it right, exactly, you've got to have some standards First class under the blanket on an airplane is one thing, but in the middle of the dance floor at the club is something totally different.

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It is.

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It is.

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So how do you meet people out here?

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Are you on the apps?

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Do you go to clubs?

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All of the above yeah, so how are the?

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apps.

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Oh my god it's.

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I mean today it's 2025, so you know, we're fortunate because there's a lot more ways to meet people.

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But there's a lot more ways to meet people, but there's a lot more BS out there.

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Right, there's like scammers and catfish and I mean I remember this one experience where I mean so many times, catfish, you meet somebody and it's like, wow, I bet you were hot when you were 30, 40 or 50.

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Like, all right, I mean maybe you should have used the picture in the last couple of centuries, you know, I mean maybe you should have used the picture in the last couple centuries, you know I mean you try to be nice, but there gets to be a point, right, you know like yeah, there's just stuff like that.

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So, yeah, I'm on the apps.

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You know I'm you got to take the good with the bad, you know.

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So when?

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that happens when you go on a date and you're clearly being catfished.

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Do you follow through with the date?

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Do you leave?

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Do you call them out?

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it depends how bad the catfish is, I think, or how interesting like if you're interested.

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Have you have any interest at all in maintaining like a friendship or any sort of relationship?

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How can you maintain a?

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friendship when you started off lying it's true, that's true, that is true, right, um, and I think, like when you do a catfish, it's kind of like you plan on meeting the person and we all age, like God, we have my age coming up, that's I'm going to hit a birthday, which I don't want.

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No more birthdays.

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But you know, we all get older, you know.

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So it's not about getting older, it's about just being honest and truthful.

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Yeah, you know, there's a, there's a you're going to find out some stuff along the way, don't start from a point of a lie, and I feel like at our age, we're done with the bullshit, we're done with the lying.

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We just want authenticity over the bullshit.

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Yeah, but like you've said before, people think they still look how they looked 10 years ago.

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We're in denial right exactly, exactly, exactly.

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I mean, I wear glasses sometimes too it's like but you know it's, it's good to, and you feel great about yourself sometimes and you know, look after oneself and do all the things right.

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We age, you know.

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Everybody ages, you know.

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So it just kind of it's one of those things, I think, when you're going out there and you're putting yourself out there, if, I'm being truthful and sincere, you expect, and we try to expect, that from others, but you don't always get it back Right.

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But when you put yourself out there, you got to know that there's going to be good and bad.

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It's kind of part of the game.

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I don't understand If I was single nowadays meeting people online.

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I would 100% FaceTime before I make the time and effort and energy to meet them in person.

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Wouldn't you face her before you meet in person?

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Absolutely, because it's such a quick easy.

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Yes, like, not a test.

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I shouldn't call it a test, but it kind of is a test.

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Yeah, like it's a test, you know what I mean.

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Like it's are, is this a real person and do they look like what they look like in their pictures?

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you take, it takes away the fraud aspect right and the catfish yes, I have a friend that met a guy that was out of state and he was gonna fly out to meet her and they hadn't facetimed yet.

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I'm like, you've never met in person.

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He's gonna fly out for a weekend.

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I think you should probably invest 10 minutes in a face time, right?

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it's not that hard, it's not there's no reason why you can't nowadays, right.

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So that's, that's one thing, definitely that I've incorporated into the dating scene.

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If it's an online is you know, as long as there's blue dots, when you text, I'm like yes yeah, do you judge?

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I mean, we all judge a little come on like.

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Let's be honest, it is um, but when there's green dots, I'm like all right.

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So it's either an android or a google number yeah, so yeah, but yeah or whatsapp

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if they want to whatsapp you.

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That's a complete block and delete.

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Like when you talk, you're talking to somebody and they're like and I'm like, I've learned this you just kind of go.

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Is there any other platforms you'd like to talk on or you want to chat somewhere else?

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Like, yeah, Do you have WhatsApp or Telegram?

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I'm like WhatsApp, Okay.

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Yeah, block, delete Right.

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Because we're on whatsapp exactly, or even like somewhere in the us.

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That's how I always feel too.

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Unless you're someone that I've met on an international trip, there's no reason for us to be chatting on whatsapp on an international trip in first class, which sounds exactly, exactly, exactly.

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The standards are rising after this episode so tell us about your last relationship.

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How long was that?

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Why did it end?

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my last relationship was close to two years, quite, not quite, but up up there close to two years, um, I it ended just because, well, I mean, he was a narcissist for the most part, um, and I seen early on, you know he was always the smartest person in the room, always right, you know.

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Yeah, so, but you know he had a lot of great qualities, great everybody, nobody's perfect, you know.

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So, thinking things will change.

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And, uh, he'd always argue and there was no affection, lack of intimacy, and he flipped it back that there was no affection lack of intimacy.

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And he flipped it back that it was my fault.

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I remember one time I was staying at my place and he came in and I went to say, hey, how's it going?

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And you know, haven't seen him for a bit.

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Go to give him a kiss.

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And he goes not right now, just because you want it, and he walks upstairs.

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He walks upstairs an hour later.

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He's like do you want that kiss?

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I'm like I want to fucking kiss what a dick, but lots of little examples like that.

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I mean.

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So it's just like yeah, so it ended for those type of reasons, you know, and uh, wish them well, just not for me, you know sounds like you dodged a bullet and you're better off without you know yeah, and my, like my family and everybody's like wow, like yeah, like I'm no longer with so-and-so, and they're like awesome, we're happy.

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Look, you could have told me this before.

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I feel like that always happens with family they see it way and friends they see it way before you do and it's like oh, if you would have let me know like my rose-colored glasses were on.

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You know what I mean.

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So I mean, the thing that I've learned now is basically, when you look and you're wanting to meet somebody, flags are real.

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Trust yourself, trust your gut, you know, because it won't do you wrong.

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You have a story about not trusting your gut right, Ignoring those red flags, and then it didn't work out and you're like dang it.

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Yes, so which one?

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Yeah, I mean, I met somebody over the holidays and super nice person Actually that's not the one I want to use, because that one I trusted my gut and it ended.

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But my ex of five years, which we went from Denver here back and forth and you know, early on we kind of continued because I figured grass is not greener, and early on there were signs.

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You know he was a very beautiful man but he always seeked unnecessary attention.

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And we're going back a few years, like 2015, 2016.

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And social media was just kind of kicking off, like Instagram, that type of stuff.

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And you know he didn't have Instagram.

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I'm like, okay, well, whatever, you know.

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But my gut was always my spidey senses were tingling and whenever we would go out people would be like, hey, how are you doing?

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So?

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Brian was his name.

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I said, how are you doing Brian?

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And I'm like, oh, but you always complain, you have no friends, but everybody seems to know you.

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He's like whatever, he would ignore the people and my gut was always telling me like something's off, something's wrong.

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He did a whole photo shoot once and I found out by seeing the pictures posted online.

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Wow.

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Yeah, and I found an Instagram, I mean.

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So my senses were there, I just chose to ignore them.

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So he had all the social medias.

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He had them, but he wasn't sharing them with you.

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There were some DMs that I ended up reading Because it's like I never want to be that person again where you don't trust.

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Right, because when you don't trust and I travel for work it's hard.

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Right, I went into his phone.

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I know you're not supposed to.

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I went into his phone because I didn't trust and.

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I saw everything that I was fearful I would find.

00:15:09.850 --> 00:15:13.071
Well, there's a reason why he was hiding his social media from you.

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You don't have to hide something unless you're doing something wrong.

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Exactly In today's day and age.

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My niece she's gorgeous, she lives in Orange County, she's going to school in Orange County and like the photo she takes on the beach, I'm like, oh my God, but she's beautiful, Like I mean, she's dating someone.

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It's fine.

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Just be honest and upfront.

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I don't care.

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You know, it's nice if you have an attractive partner that looks after themselves he or she, whatever you fancy.

00:15:35.961 --> 00:15:36.965
You know what?

00:15:36.965 --> 00:15:38.861
If you're honest and upfront, nobody cares.

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Yeah, yeah, I mean, you shouldn't.

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You should be like, wow, yeah, look at them, that's awesome, you're proud of them.

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Yeah, I've learned that lesson too.

00:15:51.905 --> 00:15:59.186
I had an ex that it was like going through the phone situation, and it's like now I know, if you have to go through the phone, the relationship is already over you know there's no trust there there is no trust and everybody hated me.

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I think, like he would tell these stories that I found out after the fact about me that I was such this mean person, or I saw an email that he was telling a professor that I need some more time because I'm going through an abusive relationship oh my god, I mean it was just insane.

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I'm just like wow, yeah it was just just.

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You know you live and learn and I mean I had, I've had a couple relationships since then and my last one I learned the most you know of what I want, what I don't want.

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You know I've gotten a couple dates with some people and those flags, you know they're deal breakers.

00:16:31.455 --> 00:16:32.660
So what are your deal breakers?

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Some of my deal, like anger issues, how you treat other people.

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You know empathy, people with lack of empathy.

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I'm very sincere and genuine.

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So when you go out and you go on a date and you have something that's so rude to the staff, oh, deal breaker.

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I mean there's no reason.

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Like who do you think you are?

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yeah, right like, those are deal breakers.

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And you know, confidence is fine but when you, when you take it to like I'm vain sometimes about me, how I look, how I present myself, we all are a little bit, I'm arrogant and I'm not.

00:17:11.459 --> 00:17:13.965
You know, yeah, I'm just not.

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You don't believe you're better than anyone else because of how you look.

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So describe your perfect partner.

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What are you looking for?

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So Zac Efron oh, he's a bit of all right, he just doesn't know it yet.

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He just doesn't know it yet Is Zac Efron gay.

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What's that?

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Is Zac Efron gay?

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No, I'm sure he's not.

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I mean, I could put it in the universe you never know, in Hollywood, though you never, know it is true it is.

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I'll let you know when we do the FaceTime okay.

00:17:41.082 --> 00:17:44.964
Uh-huh okay, so my perfect partner, I think, would be obviously somebody.

00:17:44.964 --> 00:17:47.047
Being truthful, you have to be attracted to the person, right?

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Usually, if somebody's a little bit taller than me looks after themselves.

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I mean, I'm turning 50.

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God, I can't believe.

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I just said that you look amazing, by the way.

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I'm turning.

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I'm 49 in the holding 50 in September and I mean I'm the 8th.

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That's close to your husband's 25th yeah, yeah, so yeah, I mean, I look after myself, so there's no reason.

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And I usually like dating somebody younger.

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I just feel I have a younger vibe and I mesh well with somebody, so there's no reason for somebody in their 30s to look after themselves or take care of.

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You know, we have one body, so it's just kind of.

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You know, I like everything.

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I shouldn't like chocolate cakes chips.

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I mean red wine.

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I have, yeah, I have wine nights.

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So I mean somebody who looks after themselves, somebody who's driven, you know Somebody who is.

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I mean, I'm a romantic at heart, so somebody who's romantic and somebody who just a good person are you looking to get married?

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are you looking for something long term?

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I'm long term.

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Long term, slow and steady wins the race.

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You know, I've learned there's no reason to rush, but somebody who's genuine, sincere, caring, loyal, um, yeah, and eventually, if it comes to marriage, I'm not opposed.

00:19:03.125 --> 00:19:03.767
And what are your hobbies?

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What do you do in your spare time?

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Like long walks in the park Paint the picture.

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I mean okay so hobbies in the spare time, my dogs.

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Dogs are important.

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I love my baby dogs.

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I have an English and a French bulldog.

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And what else do I like to do?

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Go to the gym.

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I classic cars.

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I'm restoring a 1957 Chevy.

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Oh cool, my girl's Dolly Parton.

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Love me some, dolly.

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I love Dolly.

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I named her Dolly, so my car's name is Dolly.

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I love that.

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So my dad is restoring it in Canada Wine nights with my BFF, mary.

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I'm so lucky she watches my dogs when I travel, so we have wine nights.

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I love entertaining at the house, all of those type of things pretty normal, I don't know.

00:19:46.782 --> 00:19:48.871
I think they're normal, but maybe maybe not so much, I don't know.

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There's other things too, but uh, we'll talk about that on a date.

00:19:53.364 --> 00:19:58.448
Um, just yeah, just pretty just about the earth yeah, what is your craziest date story?

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do you have any disaster?

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States he's like which one.

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I mean, this one's pretty crazy.

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So again, met on the app right and chatting, I was like, oh, this is awesome facetimed.

00:20:10.782 --> 00:20:13.836
So the guy was legit, like this is so awesome.

00:20:13.836 --> 00:20:18.132
When facetime met and we made plans to go out for a bite to eat sushi.

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I love sushi, sushi is my favorite meal, so went out to, uh, have a bite to eat, have some sushi.

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And the guy walks in.

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I was like, yes, he looks exactly like he does facetime as you should, but there was somebody else walked in with him.

00:20:30.096 --> 00:20:48.659
So I'm like, hmm, this is kind of weird, but I'm like, well, maybe he was just like, wanted a friend right, which is still kind of weird, but he never mentioned for a first date for a first date, so I was just like all right so we sat down and and he's like yeah, this is my husband, blah, blah, blah, what I'm like.

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I'm like what?

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This is your husband.

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And he's like yeah, I'm like you didn't say that I'm like anywhere through the last couple weeks of chatting, whatever right there's no talk of you having a husband or being married and he's like yeah, but you know, I figured, if you met us in person and we talked about this, I'm like, hey, I'm not one to judge people like, whatever your sexuality, who am I to judge?

00:21:11.522 --> 00:21:13.166
If you want to have a, what is a truffle?

00:21:13.166 --> 00:21:13.287
Or?

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whatever it is yes or open marriage, it's hard not to deal with one man like, can you imagine?

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We've talked about this before.

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I'm sorry iamorous, so it's just like I was just so pissed I was you know, like to put me in that awkward, awkward setting right, and I was like, I was like no, I mean this isn't.

00:21:32.742 --> 00:21:35.477
No, that's not what I want that's deceitful, that they went up front about that.

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But they just show up right like who does that, who does that.

00:21:37.968 --> 00:21:45.767
So I was like but and then he was just like well, I thought if we're both here and and they're both really good-looking guys, right and just they seem both professional.

00:21:45.767 --> 00:21:47.277
I mean, I don't know, the one was.

00:21:47.277 --> 00:21:49.664
I thought I didn't know a lot about the second one, yeah.

00:21:49.664 --> 00:21:54.145
So I mean, just that was one that stands out, obviously.

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Which apps do you find?

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Do you use like Grindr, the ones that are designed specifically for gay relationships, or do you use like the tinder?

00:22:06.396 --> 00:22:06.537
gay sex.

00:22:06.537 --> 00:22:06.857
Is that?

00:22:06.857 --> 00:22:07.159
Is it the gay?

00:22:07.159 --> 00:22:07.700
It's the gay hookup app.

00:22:07.700 --> 00:22:11.386
Grinder is okay, I mean, I mean what is it called grinder right?

00:22:12.769 --> 00:22:14.297
he's like wait what I've never heard of it.

00:22:14.336 --> 00:22:16.281
He's so he's like, he's like.

00:22:16.281 --> 00:22:18.528
Let me delete the app off my phone right now.

00:22:19.416 --> 00:22:22.462
I've used grinder, yeah, um, but it kind of is what it is.

00:22:22.462 --> 00:22:25.028
There's Facebook Dating.

00:22:25.028 --> 00:22:26.839
It's like kind of an app that's out there.

00:22:26.839 --> 00:22:30.140
I've tried Hinge is actually a little bit better one.

00:22:30.140 --> 00:22:31.203
Okay, you know.

00:22:32.154 --> 00:22:34.480
I feel like we've had multiple people say that.

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Hinge is the best one that they've used.

00:22:37.595 --> 00:22:39.761
So Tinder is like the straight-up version of Gay Grindr.

00:22:40.042 --> 00:22:46.342
Okay, Okay, grindr and Tinder are equivalent, the and then the rest of them are just like a little step up.

00:22:46.362 --> 00:22:51.659
You know, years ago there was like match matchcom and it was great like probably 10 years ago.

00:22:51.659 --> 00:23:03.339
And then I tried it like about five years or whatever it was, and it was all scam like there's so much fraud and it was just like, like, probably the one that stands out the most disappointed you know, I mean, I tried some things.

00:23:03.420 --> 00:23:07.307
I mean I I'm not going to say the name, but I actually paid.

00:23:07.307 --> 00:23:11.781
I had a matchmaking service here, paid seven thousand dollars for unlimited dates.

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They interviewed me, everything was great.

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You know, oh yeah, we'll find you somebody.

00:23:15.680 --> 00:23:16.381
Blah, blah, blah.

00:23:16.381 --> 00:23:20.517
I did not check the yelp reviews or the better, better business bureau.

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So make sure people do that moving forward check, do your due diligence.

00:23:23.742 --> 00:23:32.223
I did not and uh, it was seven thousand dollars for unlimited dates and I got maybe three or four in phoenix how were the dates?

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were they caliber of caliber?

00:23:33.646 --> 00:23:33.707
Oh?

00:23:33.727 --> 00:23:35.479
my god, the first one that showed up.

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First of all, they asked for like 10, 15 photos of me, right, so that you know what you're getting.

00:23:40.056 --> 00:23:43.546
Um, and then they sent two photos of this person.

00:23:43.546 --> 00:23:46.503
The first one, they're probably seven, ten years apart.

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I was like, do you have anything a little bit more accurate, kind of thing.

00:23:50.026 --> 00:23:59.001
So they sent another photo and then the person shows up and hey, I don't care if somebody has a six-pack, whatever, just look after yourself within reason.

00:23:59.001 --> 00:23:59.222
Right?

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My dad has a smaller belly than this person, okay.

00:24:04.585 --> 00:24:05.727
And my dad's 77.

00:24:05.767 --> 00:24:11.787
He earned his pot belly just saying this guy was like 32, 33, 34.

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No excuses, all right.

00:24:13.811 --> 00:24:18.402
So I was so pissed, this is what I paid $7,000 for.

00:24:18.402 --> 00:24:23.459
The person walks in and they say you know what we kind of recommend you pay for dinner and stuff.

00:24:23.459 --> 00:24:24.260
Because it's that chivalry.

00:24:24.260 --> 00:24:25.503
I'm like, yeah, whatever, no problem.

00:24:25.503 --> 00:24:41.084
He walked in and I was just like so we sat at the bar and I'm stewing, right, and I paid the tab at the bar and we went and sat down, we're ordering and we're talking, and I couldn't even tell you what he was talking about because I was just like, I was just I felt like I was warm like just upset before.

00:24:41.404 --> 00:24:43.388
Just you know your face gets hot.

00:24:43.608 --> 00:24:49.324
Yes, I was warm and we ordered an appetizer and I went to the restroom and I was talking to my sister in the bathroom like what do I?

00:24:49.324 --> 00:24:50.576
She's like are you still there?

00:24:50.576 --> 00:24:53.424
I'm like, yeah, because I feel I want to do the right thing.

00:24:53.424 --> 00:24:59.066
I don't want to be a complete ass, but yet this person wasn't honest with me and the service was like horrible.

00:24:59.066 --> 00:25:01.317
So I went and talked to the waiter.

00:25:01.317 --> 00:25:02.859
I'm like here's my credit card.

00:25:02.859 --> 00:25:06.167
Whatever the person wants, I'm not doing this.

00:25:06.596 --> 00:25:09.406
I went and sat back down and said look, this is not going to work.

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And I just said you know how?

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Would you want the bills paid?

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And I left and, as I was, I sat in the car for like 20 minutes writing my little scathing thing to the matchmaker and then they found me somebody else.

00:25:23.803 --> 00:25:28.779
Actually, they never, ever found me anybody else in Phoenix and then I traveled for work.

00:25:28.779 --> 00:25:30.695
So I was like, okay, we'll try.

00:25:30.695 --> 00:25:32.037
What about this state?

00:25:32.037 --> 00:25:32.797
Blah, blah, blah, blah.

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And they found people in other areas that I told them about.

00:25:37.300 --> 00:25:40.403
But I learned they didn't really have a database.

00:25:40.403 --> 00:25:42.585
Everybody that met me.

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They actually maybe entered their information years ago and they reached out and they never paid a single thing.

00:25:47.288 --> 00:25:53.093
So I'm going on dates being set up with people that have never put five cents into it.

00:25:53.093 --> 00:25:57.376
So there's, it was just just.

00:25:57.376 --> 00:25:57.919
It was a bad experience.

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So I just, if you ever did a match making service, do your due diligence.

00:26:00.887 --> 00:26:04.137
I did not, so it is what it is so I've tried.

00:26:04.499 --> 00:26:05.300
I've tried some things.

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So this is our listener question of the day.

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Let me pull it up here.

00:26:24.717 --> 00:26:28.946
All right, we have a question from Jenna.

00:26:28.946 --> 00:26:33.617
My boyfriend wants to bring his ex into the bedroom for a threesome.

00:26:33.617 --> 00:26:37.768
He swears it's just for fun, but I'm worried there's unfinished business.

00:26:37.768 --> 00:26:42.306
Am I being insecure or is this a red flag wrapped in lingerie?

00:26:43.174 --> 00:26:44.299
For me, that would be a hell.

00:26:44.299 --> 00:26:52.093
No, why would you need to bring your ex into the bedroom unless you still have feelings for the ex and still want the ex and miss him?

00:26:52.354 --> 00:26:52.555
right.

00:26:52.855 --> 00:26:59.869
I think that's a very slippery slope, like I mean, if it's's an ex, there's a whole other degree of difficulty there.

00:26:59.869 --> 00:27:03.343
Somebody ran, if you're they want to like play or be experimental.

00:27:03.343 --> 00:27:10.304
It would be somebody completely random in another city you'll never see again yes, exactly right, but not an ex yes, absolutely 100.

00:27:10.364 --> 00:27:14.701
No red flag yeah agreed like agreed that if you want to play around, that that's fine.

00:27:14.701 --> 00:27:20.121
To invite a third party, completely fine, but someone that you have no history with and no ties with?

00:27:20.402 --> 00:27:23.662
Yeah, because if it's your ex, there were romantic feelings at one point in time.

00:27:25.395 --> 00:27:28.932
And like what if bringing them in the bedroom opens up that box again?

00:27:28.951 --> 00:27:31.936
you know, yeah once you open Pandora's box, you can't close.

00:27:31.936 --> 00:27:32.598
It is true.

00:27:32.598 --> 00:27:33.500
It is true.

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That would be like a no, it'd be a hell no it'd be an it'd be a hell.

00:27:36.326 --> 00:27:38.191
No for me no, for me too, three no's.

00:27:38.191 --> 00:27:39.252
No exactly.

00:27:39.272 --> 00:27:52.720
Maybe go on only fans and find a random right it's funny because my I have friends that like to bring in a third and they do that exact same thing they go out of town they go to vegas, yeah, they go to vegas, they vegas, yep, exactly, they go to.

00:27:52.720 --> 00:27:53.261
Vegas.

00:27:53.261 --> 00:27:58.304
Well, they usually find someone before they go, but they go to Vegas, then meet and then do their little.

00:27:58.634 --> 00:28:00.743
Unless you get herpes and that shit comes back for you.

00:28:02.476 --> 00:28:03.638
The gift that keeps on giving.

00:28:05.223 --> 00:28:06.006
That's hilarious.

00:28:06.006 --> 00:28:08.683
So I wanted to chat about this article that I read.

00:28:08.683 --> 00:28:14.101
It's 20 random, interestingly short, weird and cool facts about the LGBT community.

00:28:14.101 --> 00:28:15.766
Some of these were super cool.

00:28:15.766 --> 00:28:21.997
So did you know?

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The oldest known pornography dates back 3,000 years ago and features male and male, female and female and male-female couples.

00:28:25.134 --> 00:28:29.762
But my question is this how did they have pornography 3,000 years ago?

00:28:29.762 --> 00:28:31.936
Was it like drawings or yeah, like.

00:28:31.977 --> 00:28:34.104
I think it's like the carvings on the wall, yeah.

00:28:37.535 --> 00:28:38.196
You know the carvings on the wall?

00:28:38.196 --> 00:28:38.698
Yeah, yeah, stone carvings.

00:28:38.718 --> 00:28:43.376
Well, like I was, I can't remember what I was watching or reading or something, but it was about a brothel.

00:28:43.376 --> 00:28:43.857
Is.

00:28:43.857 --> 00:28:46.343
Was it in the same thing, but it was about a brothel?

00:28:46.343 --> 00:29:02.804
And it was like there were carvings on the walls in front of each room and the way you chose which you know sex worker you wanted to be with was by what the drawing was like in the stone wall.

00:29:02.804 --> 00:29:06.650
So it was like brothels of, like the caveman.

00:29:06.650 --> 00:29:13.522
This stuff is still intact, I don't know.

00:29:13.522 --> 00:29:14.263
Yes, that's funny.

00:29:14.304 --> 00:29:21.519
Yes, so a billionaire from Hong Kong offered 50 million pounds to any man that could woo and marry his lesbian daughter.

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And guess what Didn't work.

00:29:23.365 --> 00:29:30.760
In the early 17th century in London there was a gay brothel situated where Buckingham Palace is today.

00:29:30.760 --> 00:29:32.820
Wow, it used to be a gay brothel.

00:29:32.820 --> 00:29:34.160
I wonder if the royals knew.

00:29:35.454 --> 00:29:36.136
I bet that's why they chose.

00:29:36.136 --> 00:29:37.823
I mean, I'm sure they still have a secret room.

00:29:37.823 --> 00:29:38.284
They probably do.

00:29:38.304 --> 00:29:44.567
They probably do soundproof right, so added in the movie back to the future.

00:29:44.709 --> 00:29:51.007
There was a scene that was deleted where marty tells doc that he's scared that hitting on his mom could make him gay.

00:29:51.007 --> 00:29:59.451
Do you remember that scene where he goes back in time and the mother's like the mother's there and she's all right, so maybe he's thinking that yeah, I don't know.

00:29:59.451 --> 00:30:01.356
Anyways, interesting, that's interesting.

00:30:01.356 --> 00:30:02.519
Uh-huh, it's interesting, right?

00:30:02.519 --> 00:30:04.746
Do you know where the word drag comes from?

00:30:04.746 --> 00:30:13.922
The word drag is an acronym for a stage direction coined by shakespeare and his contemporaries, meaning dressed resembling a girl.

00:30:14.363 --> 00:30:14.723
Drag.

00:30:14.723 --> 00:30:19.688
Oh interesting, I was just telling you I went to a drag show recently in Des Moines, iowa.

00:30:19.688 --> 00:30:20.611
I'm from Iowa Really.

00:30:20.611 --> 00:30:21.438
And I went.

00:30:21.438 --> 00:30:29.265
My cousins my cousin and his partner just moved back a couple years ago from San Francisco, and so I went to visit them in Des Moines before going home.

00:30:29.265 --> 00:30:30.681
It's about four hours from where we live.

00:30:30.681 --> 00:30:38.601
He was like, do you want to go to a drag show?

00:30:38.621 --> 00:30:40.344
and I was like in des moines, iowa um yes, sign me up.

00:30:40.344 --> 00:30:41.967
And it was an amazing drag show, yes, in iowa.

00:30:42.027 --> 00:30:42.567
Yes, yes, yes.

00:30:42.567 --> 00:30:49.280
I can't remember the name of the bar, but shout out that that drag show in des moines, that is awesome I know they have drag brunches here yes, they do.

00:30:49.280 --> 00:30:52.598
I've never been, but I want to go yeah, it's a lot, it's good times so did you know?

00:30:52.659 --> 00:30:57.742
up until the late 1400s, the word girl only had meaning for a child of either sex.

00:30:57.742 --> 00:31:02.999
Male children were referred to to as knave girls, whereas females were known as gay girls.

00:31:02.999 --> 00:31:12.044
Interesting um, in 1962, american rock guitarist, singer and songwriter jimmy hendrix pretended to be gay in order to get out of the army.

00:31:12.044 --> 00:31:13.346
That's hilarious.

00:31:13.446 --> 00:31:13.748
Isn't that?

00:31:13.768 --> 00:31:14.087
funny.

00:31:14.127 --> 00:31:15.592
Oh my God, that's hilarious.

00:31:17.434 --> 00:31:26.684
This is crazy to me, it wasn't until 1982 that the gay-related immune disorder, grid, was renamed, acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome, aids.

00:31:26.684 --> 00:31:30.122
It used to be called GRID, gay-related Immune Disorder.

00:31:30.122 --> 00:31:32.006
Isn't that crazy, that's?

00:31:32.046 --> 00:31:33.296
a fun fact, that is a fun fact.

00:31:33.316 --> 00:31:33.876
That is a fun fact.

00:31:33.876 --> 00:31:34.376
That is a fun fact.

00:31:34.376 --> 00:31:34.798
That is a fun fact.

00:31:34.798 --> 00:31:35.117
Did you know?

00:31:35.117 --> 00:31:38.282
The entire species of the dwarf chimpanzee are bisexual.

00:31:38.282 --> 00:31:43.130
In fact, homosexuality has been observed within 1,500 animal species globally.

00:31:45.515 --> 00:31:48.663
Oh, so is half a bottle of tequila.

00:31:48.682 --> 00:31:49.826
That is hilarious.

00:31:49.826 --> 00:31:52.317
So this is.

00:31:52.317 --> 00:31:53.044
I think I kind of knew this.

00:31:53.044 --> 00:31:58.467
With over 800,000 LGBT residents, san Francisco is the highest LGBT populated city in the world Because it's the mothership.

00:31:58.467 --> 00:31:59.898
The mothership.

00:31:59.919 --> 00:32:00.401
The mothership.

00:32:00.401 --> 00:32:00.962
That's funny.

00:32:02.714 --> 00:32:06.003
Guess what year the first ever sex change operation was carried out.

00:32:06.986 --> 00:32:08.780
Oh gosh, I bet it was a really long time ago.

00:32:11.797 --> 00:32:12.339
What's his name?

00:32:12.339 --> 00:32:14.386
The one that Kris Jenner or?00:32:14.407 --> 00:32:14.789


not Kris Jenner.00:32:14.789 --> 00:32:16.136


Kris Jenner yeah was that, or not Kris Jenner?00:32:16.136 --> 00:32:19.326


Bruce Jenner I mean Sorry, kris, I don't know.00:32:19.326 --> 00:32:20.951


Bruce Jenner, did he go all the way?00:32:20.951 --> 00:32:23.459


I don't know, did he do bottom surgery?00:32:23.459 --> 00:32:24.782


I don't know.00:32:24.782 --> 00:32:25.987


That's a good question.00:32:26.615 --> 00:32:31.422


But anyways, the first sex change operation was carried out in 1968.00:32:31.582 --> 00:32:33.384


Oh, oh, that's recent, not 69?00:32:33.384 --> 00:32:33.384


.00:32:33.644 --> 00:32:36.869


I know right, they couldn't have waited one more year.00:32:40.595 --> 00:32:44.306


There's no research that has conclusively proven what creates homosexuality, heterosexuality or bisexuality.00:32:44.306 --> 00:32:50.285


The pink triangle was used to symbolize gay men within Nazi concentration camps during World War II.00:32:50.285 --> 00:32:53.825


Lesbians were sometimes required to wear a black triangle.00:32:53.825 --> 00:32:55.636


Interesting.00:32:55.878 --> 00:32:57.056


I never knew that I like the.00:32:57.236 --> 00:33:04.060


I've seen the triangle, but I didn't know what I know also like if you're in a nazi concentration camp, why do you need to be?00:33:04.060 --> 00:33:06.486


Why do we need to differentiate between?00:33:06.527 --> 00:33:12.526


I have a horrible place to be exactly exactly why exactly that's what I mean why?00:33:12.526 --> 00:33:13.086


What did it?00:33:13.086 --> 00:33:13.709


Would it matter?00:33:13.709 --> 00:33:20.623


Records of same-sex relationships have been identified in nearly every culture throughout history, with varying degrees of acceptance.00:33:20.623 --> 00:33:22.321


Remember, in ancient Greek times?00:33:22.321 --> 00:33:25.719


Don't they say that homosexuality was very like everyone was.00:33:25.719 --> 00:33:27.063


Don't they say that?00:33:27.263 --> 00:33:31.157


Or they just looked like promiscuous right, yeah they were promiscuous, seeuous.00:33:31.198 --> 00:33:33.201


there's a lot of alcohol and wine going on right.00:33:33.221 --> 00:33:40.933


A lot of wine, yeah yes, um, it's been highlighted that gay people are more likely to be left-handed, much more than heterosexuals.00:33:40.933 --> 00:33:43.381


Isn't that funny that is oh you, right-handed or left-handed?00:33:43.421 --> 00:33:43.922


right, my, what?00:33:43.922 --> 00:33:44.344


Bi-handed?00:33:44.344 --> 00:33:52.166


Right-handed I mean, depending I can do right or left, but I mean, do you know?00:33:52.186 --> 00:34:00.125


where the word lesbian derives from from the greek island lesbos, which was home of the greek poet, sappho, who proclaimed her love for girls within her poetry.00:34:00.125 --> 00:34:01.847


Okay, um.00:34:01.847 --> 00:34:10.885


And then the first celebrity to publicly come out as gay was american actor and interior designer, william hayes, back in 1933.00:34:10.885 --> 00:34:15.461


There are now 1 million children within the us who are currently being raised by same-sex couples.00:34:15.461 --> 00:34:23.184


And then, thanks to the opening ceremony of the London 2020 Olympics, the first gay kiss was screened in Saudi Arabia.00:34:23.184 --> 00:34:23.985


That's crazy.00:34:23.985 --> 00:34:27.463


The first gay kiss wasn't screened until 2020 in Saudi Arabia.00:34:27.463 --> 00:34:28.525


Yeah, isn't that?00:34:28.565 --> 00:34:33.610


crazy, that's crazy, and the first televised lesbian kiss in the UK was in 1993.00:34:33.610 --> 00:34:35.240


That's still pretty late too.00:34:35.240 --> 00:34:36.699


No, I would yeah.00:34:36.699 --> 00:34:38.204


And then the last one.00:34:38.204 --> 00:34:46.295


The world's oldest surviving LGBT organization is the Center for Culture and Leisure COC C-O-C in the Netherlands.00:34:46.295 --> 00:34:50.822


It was founded in 1956 and used this name to cover its taboo purpose.00:34:50.822 --> 00:34:51.585


That's it.00:34:51.846 --> 00:34:52.427


Interesting.00:34:52.427 --> 00:34:55.456


Do you want kids Speaking of that?00:34:56.059 --> 00:35:01.804


Yes, I mean I thought I would have a family at this point but, you know, it wasn't in the cards.00:35:01.804 --> 00:35:05.474


Um, I have amazing nieces and nephew.00:35:05.474 --> 00:35:15.601


Both nieces are in us going to school and they're coming to visit me next weekend so if it was something my partner, I mean, or husband wanted, husband wanted to do, I'm open to the idea, okay.00:35:15.601 --> 00:35:20.047


But I mean the clock is ticking Right, you know Right.00:35:20.047 --> 00:35:21.570


So I mean, yeah, we'll see.00:35:21.570 --> 00:35:25.603


I mean I have a little brother from Big Brothers.00:35:25.623 --> 00:35:25.846


Big Sisters.00:35:25.846 --> 00:35:30.501


We've been hanging out since he was seven, yeah, and we've been together four years, so we hang out still.00:35:30.521 --> 00:35:30.882


Super cool.00:35:30.882 --> 00:35:39.496


Yeah, he's awesome.00:35:39.496 --> 00:35:42.324


So, yeah, now it's time for the celebrity cup, where we marinate in the juices of the celebrities, and I want to talk about lavender marriages.00:35:42.344 --> 00:35:43.849


You know what a lavender marriage is right, so you want to explain it, jess.00:35:43.849 --> 00:35:54.610


I think the traditional lavender marriage is when a gay man and a gay woman get married to each other to maintain a certain I guess I'm a bad gay or for legal benefits.00:35:54.610 --> 00:35:57.724


Yeah, yeah, but then they still have their relationships on the side.00:35:58.036 --> 00:36:00.034


And apparently they're very prevalent in Hollywood.00:36:01.137 --> 00:36:07.344


for these actors that don't want people to know that they're gay, at least they used to be they marry, so I would marry a woman, but yet I have my plan.00:36:07.574 --> 00:36:08.860


I'm on the side, not in public.00:36:08.860 --> 00:36:10.300


Yes, yes, like.00:36:10.320 --> 00:36:10.742


Tom Cruise.00:36:15.514 --> 00:36:15.655


Exactly.00:36:15.655 --> 00:36:24.166


Tom Cruise is a huge one and it is weird that his marriage to Nicole Kidman lasted the exact same amount of years that his marriage to Katie Holmes, and as soon as both Nicole and Katie turned a certain age, that's when they got divorced.00:36:24.715 --> 00:36:27.574


That makes it seem like it was a contractual marriage.00:36:27.574 --> 00:36:28.195


I love me some.00:36:28.195 --> 00:36:29.818


Nicole Kidman, come on, she's such a class act.00:36:29.818 --> 00:36:31.099


I know she's beautiful, I know she's beautiful.00:36:31.179 --> 00:36:31.579


I know.00:36:31.659 --> 00:36:31.920


Do you know?00:36:31.920 --> 00:36:39.530


What else is rumored to be going around is that Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively are in a lavender marriage, and it is kind of weird.00:36:39.530 --> 00:36:43.313


Please, god, you may have a chance.00:36:43.494 --> 00:36:44.336


He's not Zac.00:36:44.458 --> 00:36:46.682


Efron but, he'll do.00:36:46.702 --> 00:36:47.083


He'll do.00:36:47.083 --> 00:36:48.516


Ryan Reynolds will do Ryan.00:36:48.516 --> 00:36:50.262


Reynolds like just saying Like come on.00:36:50.574 --> 00:36:59.164


Because it is kind of weird how every interview he does, Because it is kind of weird how every interview he does, he somehow ends up bringing up his sex life with Blake Lively when he's not even asked about it.00:36:59.164 --> 00:37:07.340


He goes on and on about how much sex they have or how good their sex is or how they just had sex and it's like why would you do that, unless you're trying to convince us of something?00:37:07.360 --> 00:37:09.737


Well, I'm glad to hear that and all of his like what is it?00:37:09.737 --> 00:37:11.463


Telecom commercials Right.00:37:12.014 --> 00:37:12.978


Yes, commercials, right?00:37:12.978 --> 00:37:14.161


Yes, I mean, I don't know, I love me some.00:37:14.161 --> 00:37:17.259


Ryan reynolds, yeah, come on although I do think blake lively is straight.00:37:17.259 --> 00:37:20.735


I don't think that's, I don't think she's the true what I think now.00:37:20.735 --> 00:37:34.583


Lavender marriages can be described as if just one of the one of the partners is gay and the other one is straight because I think she is, because I think she fell in love with justin baldoni I think, that's what happened in that whole scenario.00:37:34.583 --> 00:37:35.565


That's what I think.00:37:36.197 --> 00:37:41.583


They also say that Hugh Jackman is gay and that him and Ryan have this like thing going on because they are very.00:37:41.583 --> 00:37:45.903


They have that bromance that they go on and on about always and they're very touchy feely For that to be continued.00:37:45.923 --> 00:37:46.867


let's watch it on OnlyFans.00:37:46.867 --> 00:37:52.217


I'll sign up for $29.95 a month.00:37:52.217 --> 00:37:52.538


We'll subscribe.00:37:52.538 --> 00:37:55.501


We'll subscribe Ryan Reynolds and Hugh Jackman.00:37:55.521 --> 00:37:57.784


Yes, thank you, god Right.00:37:57.784 --> 00:38:02.110


John Travolta is another one who was rumored to be in a lavender marriage with Kelly Preston.00:38:02.110 --> 00:38:03.110


Really, yeah.00:38:03.110 --> 00:38:06.798


Weren't there a lot of rumors about him getting happy ending massages from males?00:38:07.420 --> 00:38:09.262


I don't remember that Like masseuses kind of.00:38:09.521 --> 00:38:10.123


I don't know.00:38:10.143 --> 00:38:11.565


What are you reading?00:38:11.644 --> 00:38:14.307


I know when are you getting your celebrity gossip.00:38:14.307 --> 00:38:16.411


I love it though right, it's like keep it coming.00:38:16.411 --> 00:38:20.016


So where is your favorite place?00:38:20.036 --> 00:38:23.059


to go on a first date, I would say somewhere where it's a little bit quieter.00:38:23.059 --> 00:38:28.965


There's this place that has a nice rooftop restaurant and you can see sunsets.00:38:28.965 --> 00:38:32.329


Oh pretty Something like that.00:38:33.351 --> 00:38:33.911


Is that in Tempe?00:38:37.596 --> 00:38:38.759


It's in downtown phoenix, central phoenix.00:38:38.759 --> 00:38:41.905


Um, also, I would say going for ice cream sometimes is always a great place to go.00:38:41.905 --> 00:38:44.599


You know, talk, go for a little walk somewhere.00:38:44.599 --> 00:38:51.045


I mean I love movies, but I don't think a movie theater is great for a first date because you're sitting there, quiet, you know, you don't want to be rude and talk to other people.00:38:51.045 --> 00:38:53.320


Um, hikes are great.00:38:53.320 --> 00:38:55.827


I like love going on hikes, I like being active, like I said before.00:38:55.827 --> 00:39:02.507


So I think, food you're pretty safe with food and maybe like a little walk to get some ice cream or something afterwards.00:39:02.507 --> 00:39:07.954


I think it's pretty classic, but somewhere you can sit and talk, get to know each other, get to know each other.00:39:07.974 --> 00:39:17.168


Speaking of frozen treats, it's now time for the most delicious segment of the show, zoyo and Tell, sponsored by Zoyo, your neighborhood yogurt place.00:39:17.168 --> 00:39:30.818


Now, have you guys ever been to their pajama night, where, if you wear your pajamas and go to Zoyo on a Wednesday after 7 pm, you get 50% off, which is a huge discount, and they have amazing toppings, like the most toppings I've ever seen.00:39:30.818 --> 00:39:37.885


They have boba and they have like not only toppings but like creams you can put on like a melted marshmallow caramel chocolate.00:39:37.965 --> 00:39:38.407


It's amazing.00:39:38.407 --> 00:39:42.820


I always take my little brother from Big Brothers, landon, and I go all the time and he loves it.00:39:42.820 --> 00:39:47.371


He loads it up with the little gummy worms and I mean it goes by weight right.00:39:47.371 --> 00:39:50.418


So I'm like, make sure you eat all that.00:39:50.418 --> 00:39:52.422


I taste everything and I always go to the same.00:39:52.422 --> 00:39:55.947


I always have, like my salted caramel, cake, batter and vanilla.00:39:56.289 --> 00:39:56.969


I do the same thing.00:39:56.969 --> 00:40:04.085


I always go in there thinking I'm going to get something different, and then I try every single one, and then I end up exactly with the exact same thing I always get.00:40:04.375 --> 00:40:05.637


I mean, I do like me some chocolate.00:40:06.480 --> 00:40:07.501


Traditional chocolate.00:40:07.623 --> 00:40:08.304


And ice cream too.00:40:08.344 --> 00:40:09.788


Okay, pick one.00:40:09.788 --> 00:40:11.762


Some are innocent, some are not so innocent.00:40:26.235 --> 00:40:26.635


Uh-oh, are innocent.00:40:26.635 --> 00:40:27.177


Some are not so innocent.00:40:27.177 --> 00:40:27.538


Oh, my glasses.00:40:27.538 --> 00:40:28.860


I was just like did you see that he's looking at the card I wear?00:40:28.880 --> 00:40:29.822


them when I work sometimes.00:40:29.822 --> 00:40:35.266


All right, tell us about the worst sex talk that you've experienced in the bedroom.00:40:36.436 --> 00:40:37.360


That's a good question.00:40:37.360 --> 00:40:38.222


That is a good question.00:40:38.222 --> 00:40:39.541


We haven't had that question yet.00:40:39.541 --> 00:40:44.086


That's the worst when you're like making out with some guy and he tries to sex talk and it's not attractive.00:40:44.255 --> 00:40:45.398


Like he does a baby voice.00:40:45.398 --> 00:40:55.014


Oh my God, let's see here Somebody who thinks they're in a porn, right?00:40:55.014 --> 00:41:00.161


And I'm like uh, no, that doesn't work for me.00:41:00.161 --> 00:41:04.842


I mean, or it's yeah, it's like just somebody making noises and voices.00:41:04.842 --> 00:41:06.657


I'm like are you done yet?00:41:06.717 --> 00:41:09.481


I mean are you done yet?00:41:10.043 --> 00:41:11.324


Like just shut up.00:41:11.324 --> 00:41:16.052


Yeah, it's just like you're pretty when you don't talk.00:41:16.132 --> 00:41:17.195


That's funny.00:41:17.195 --> 00:41:18.634


Yeah, I would just say something like that.00:41:18.634 --> 00:41:26.382


People like over-exaggerating stuff, or when you can tell it's forced and not supernatural, or they're saying it because they heard it in a porn.00:41:26.382 --> 00:41:27.760


Yeah, because they saw it somewhere.00:41:27.974 --> 00:41:29.380


I mean, you know, porn's not real.00:41:29.922 --> 00:41:30.605


Right, right.00:41:39.114 --> 00:41:39.956


So yeah, I would say something like that.00:41:39.956 --> 00:41:40.679


For sure, that's funny, do you?00:41:40.699 --> 00:41:41.300


have any other questions?00:41:41.300 --> 00:41:41.460


I don't.00:41:41.460 --> 00:41:43.867


Do you have any other questions or comments or concerns or anything you want to say or add?00:41:43.867 --> 00:41:47.094


No, I just think, be nice one day to meet my person and, uh, I figured, why not try this out?00:41:47.094 --> 00:41:50.023


You know, and he is out there, you have nothing to lose exactly.00:41:50.043 --> 00:41:55.103


Thank you so much for joining us here at the meat market and thank you so much to jc sizzling single.00:41:55.103 --> 00:42:02.503


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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.00:42:18.396 --> 00:42:25.463


He looks absolutely nothing like his picture, so I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:42:25.463 --> 00:42:27.610


His wife just reached out to me.