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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.
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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.
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So I found out the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.
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His wife just reached out to me.
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Welcome to the meat market.
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The single scene is a slaughterhouse, and we are here to devour it.
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We are your hosts.
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I'm Lindsay.
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I'm Jess.
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And today's sizzling single is Amy.
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Welcome.
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Thank you so much.
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So I see that you're Mormon.
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Is that a deal breaker for you when you date?
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Do you require?
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No.
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No.
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No, no, no.
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Okay.
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Do you prefer non?
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No.
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Uh yeah.
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Mormon.
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Really?
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Now yeah.
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Okay.
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Yes.
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Are you still Mormon?
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Uh that's questionable.
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You don't want to talk about it.
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It's a gray area.
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It's like my whole family is, but you know, we've had quite a few guests on very recently that are in your same position.
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They were raised Mormon, they're divorced, and they are no longer with the church.
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Yeah.
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That we've had quite a few, right?
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We've had a couple, yeah.
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Yeah.
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But like, no, I found like if you want to find the craziest men, do the older Mormon men.
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Really?
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Oh my.
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You would never expect that.
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They always seem like so nice and clean cut and family-oriented and goody-goody two shoes.
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Oh, yeah.
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They've got the darkest skeletons in their closets over anybody.
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Really?
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Yes.
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I was dating this guy, and he was like, I started getting text messages from women being like, you might want to be careful because he's been texting 13-year-olds.
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And I'm like, oh.
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No, for real.
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What?
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Yes.
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And I'm like, do you want to hang out with me because I'm here?
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Like, because I have daughters.
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Oh yeah.
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And I'm like, okay, no.
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No, no, no.
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I don't know.
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That's disturbing.
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Yeah.
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Or or they're secretly closeted and they just don't want to come out.
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And so it's like, there's so much of that.
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Have there ever been any gay Mormons?
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Or is that it's it's totally like you would they excommunicate you from the church if you came out as gay?
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I don't know.
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No.
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They wouldn't?
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No.
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But I believe if you practice it, then they do.
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How are you a non-practicing gay?
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It's like, what's your what's your sexual orientation?
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I'm a non-practicing gay woman.
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No, I I I think that's what they do, where they're like, okay, you're gay, just don't, just don't do anything.
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Oh my god.
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Oh my god.
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I can imagine religion, religious people saying that.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I yeah.
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So funny.
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It's just like, it's just a little too much.
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And I grew up in like small town Alberta.
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So it like everyone was Mormon and it was just such a sheltered life.
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And then when I moved to the United States, I'm like, okay, this is fun.
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I can actually like be myself.
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Oh good.
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Yeah.
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So your ex was Mormon.
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And you have how many kids?
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Two.
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Two kids.
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Okay.
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Is the relationship amicable now?
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No.
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No?
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Oh no.
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It was.
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It was.
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Until he got remarried.
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And she's she just she's got all these rules.
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He's not allowed to talk to me.
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He's not allowed.
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You have kids together.
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Mm-hmm.
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What?
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So who do you converse with her?
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Like about kids and scheduling and I mean he doesn't really have them that much.
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I was just gonna say, do you guys share custody 50-50 or no, it's not 50-50.
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And he didn't he doesn't even take them when he's supposed to.
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Is she Mormon?
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I believe she is.
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Everyone's kind of like born Mormon, but you know Yeah.
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Is there a lot of because we hear a lot about these, you know, Mormon people like you were saying that have issues, you know.
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Is there a lot of trauma in the church?
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Like, like, you know, like um Catholicism.
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Is does that same thing happen in the Mormon church?
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I think it's just this unrealistic expectation of being per uh they do have that expectation that you have to be perfect.
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Yes.
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Wait until marriage and be the perfect wife, the perfect mother.
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Exactly.
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It's it's just too much.
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Or like I remember like wearing a tank top, and they're like, oh slot, horse, you're showing your shoulders.
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Exactly.
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And I it's yeah.
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And you grow up thinking it's normal, and then you get out of it, and you're like, it's not normal.
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And so, did you get married at a very young age?
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Oh, yeah.
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How old were you?
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19.
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I feel like a lot of the Mormon women that we've had on all got married at 19.
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What's up with the that age?
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Because it's like that's what you're expected to do.
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That's crazy.
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But I feel like that's not healthy because you're so young, you don't really know what you want or what you need.
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No, but there's also you can't have sex before you're married, right?
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So that's why another reason you get married so young.
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So you you will have people dating two weeks and then they're like, let's get married.
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It's insane.
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That is freaking crazy.
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It's kind of like arranged marriages without really being arranged marriages, like it's almost like a loophole a little bit.
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I think honestly, if I was pressured to get married that young, I think I would leave the church.
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Because that's a big decision, getting married and having kids.
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But I guess if you're raised in that community where you you're grown to feel that's normal, right?
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Then maybe you feel differently.
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But I don't know.
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I don't know if I would I I would not like that pressure.
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No, and I just and I feel like everyone doesn't have their fun years, they just are thrown into marriage and kids so fast, and then everyone like gets like that midlife crisis at the age of 26.
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That's true.
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You're kind of deprived of your fun, your prime years.
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Yes, your early 20s to party and explore yourself and explore dating and exactly.
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Like I have like all of my friends talk about how I lived my 20s in my like I'm living them in my 30s, which is like yeah.
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Yeah, sometimes I feel like a 19-year-old, just like with my experience.
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I mean not anymore, like I'm a little bit more experienced now, but when did you get divorced?
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Oh, like 10 years ago now.
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Have you had fun since?
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So much fun.
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Yeah, I can imagine.
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But also, like it's been a total shit show.
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So have you had relationships since?
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Yes.
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Long-term relationships?
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Um, yes.
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I've had like year-long relationships.
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But then it's just that whole thing where you're like, oh, I have a boyfriend, and then they cheat on you, and then they're like, You never said we were exclusive, and I'm like, what the fuck?
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Oh my gosh.
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What?
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Wow.
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Yes.
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So I don't want to say I was in relationships because I thought we were, but then then they say that we weren't.
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So it wasn't both, it wasn't a two-sided relationship.
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You were in one side one-sided relationships.
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Yeah.
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Or they, or they like, uh I don't know.
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I feel like guys, especially like around here, because they're so I feel like there's so many gorgeous girls that they just they're always looking on social media, they're always reaching out to girls on Instagram, like everything.
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So they keep you in your back pocket, in their back pocket, and then they're always just like putting their little feelers out there just to see who else they can get.
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You put a lot of content out.
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Do you get guys reaching out to you in your DMs?
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Mm-hmm.
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I don't is does that kind of stick in your head?
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Like, if guys are doing this to me, they're doing it to others too.
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So it makes you really not want to give uh chances to guys who reach out to you that way?
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No.
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And I've been like I've been strictly dating uh athletes lately, which is the worst decision that you could ever make.
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So I'm trying to like reform myself.
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I haven't been in a relationship since May.
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On apps.
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Yes, I have Raya.
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Um, I first started I I met a few through like mutual friends, but then like I don't know.
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I I I didn't do my research.
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One of them was training here for football, and then all of a sudden, um, I don't know.
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They just lie, and I'm not really good at going online and checking out, and then I like go look, and it's like, oh, he's married, and then you're like, wait.
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Oh boy.
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Oh, that's the one it's like so disappointing.
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So I'm getting better at uh and they probably feel like, oh, she's looked me up online already.
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So if she's willing to go on a date with me, she's okay with me being married.
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Do you know what I mean?
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Because no offense, but what woman doesn't look like the athlete before they go on a date with me?
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Lots of them are really sneaky where they don't put the girl their girlfriends on their social media.
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On their socials, yes.
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That's a big red flag.
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As a spouse of an athlete, if I'm not on his social media platforms, yes, have a conversation.
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Yes, like you'd have to deep dive to like find some of that.
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It's so cringe or Google, because Google will tell you if someone's married or not.
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True, usually, yeah.
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Like, how do they explain that to their wives that the wives are not shown on their social media?
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Oh, it's because it's for work and I want to concentrate on my career.
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Yeah, they want it, they want it to be like all about the sport.
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Yeah, I just I I have friends that don't post anything about their wives, and it's just I feel bad for the wives.
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Like it's such a red flag.
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Like they're clearly trying to hide the fact that they have someone, you know.
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But are they though?
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Your friends that don't post their wives, are they are they shady guys?
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Yeah, yeah.
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And that's why I that's why I'm assuming that these athletes do it only because they want to, you know.
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I think a lot of them have agreements too.
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Yes.
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Actually, that's true.
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I've heard that.
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That the women, because of the money and the lifestyle that these athletes can offer them, they put up with it and they accept it.
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Yes.
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And then you hear these contracts where some of them say, okay, you can only have one affair a year, or like they have a contract.
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They do.
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I've heard that, yeah.
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Isn't that crazy?
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That is so weird.
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Like, would you ever do that?
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Like, uh, would you if you were dating a famous athlete?
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No, I wouldn't date a famous athlete.
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He's like, I just you know, when I'm away, I need to have one affair per trip.
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No, I would go crazy.
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I I yeah, I don't like to share.
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So I do have a question.
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I looked at your so first of all, you have a lot of followers.
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Like you're pretty like popular on TikTok and social media.
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Do is that how you make money?
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Is that your job?
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No, I just started that.
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Like I swear I had zero followers in June.
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Really?
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Yes.
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How did you're you have like hundreds of thousands of followers?
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Uh no.
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Don't you?
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Do you not?
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Like 20.
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Oh, that's still a lot.
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Since June?
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Yes.
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Wow.
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But no, I mean, I'm like, it'd be cool to make money off of it.
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Yeah.
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Like trying to, but I mean, it's also a little bit uh exhausting.
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Do you sell stuff on there?
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I I'll like promote stuff on there.
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Got yeah, but I mean, I mostly I teach piano, that's like my full-time job.
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I did hear that TikTok is one of the lowest paid social media apps for influencers.
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Like it pays like pennies.
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I hear that YouTube pays the most.
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Seriously.
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Yeah, there's this woman that did she did a comparison of a video that she got paid on TikTok and it was like 15 cents, and then what she got paid on uh YouTube and it was like$2,500.
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Well, and I think it depends because if you're looking at if you're looking at getting paid for views, it's different.
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But if you're doing like TikTok shop, it wasn't TikTok shop, no.
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Because like you can make a lot of money.
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I just think it depends on what you're doing.
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This wasn't TikTok shop, this was content.
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Yeah, yeah, just views.
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It was like views, yeah, exactly.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, and the views, I don't know.
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My most viral post, I did a post about a dog from Stranger Things.
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That's my most viral post.
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I'm like, are you kidding me?
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That's funny.
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We do love their dogs.
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I know.
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Or if it's like the soundbite that you used or what?
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Like it there's like there's no rhyme or reasons.
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No, it makes no sense.
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Yeah, it makes no sense.
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Yeah, so I did see that you have quite a few political posts up there.
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Is that important when you're dating someone?
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Is politics a deal breaker for you?
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No, it's it's not.
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Do you know what?
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I just knew someone who worked with Charlie Kirk, and so it was just it was just kind of bugging me when people were like celebrating the death.
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But I understand, like I fully understand why people disagree with him and stuff like that.
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It's just when people are like, yay, I'm so happy.
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Yeah, that's what I didn't know.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, I wanted to make a post, something like similar to that, like in support of him, but I was like, eh.
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I know but if I'm ready to do it.
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But then people really come at you.
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They do.
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Because I don't really want to be political online, like I really don't.
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I hate that.
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I I just wanted to have fun.
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Yeah.
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So if some if a guy is super political one way or another, is that a turnoff for you in dating?
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Yes.
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Like the righteous indignation is a total turnoff, yeah.
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I don't know.
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So what is your what would it take for a man to land you?
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What is your perfect type?
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I don't know.
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I need to reform my type, is my problem.
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I mean, I like tall, I like athletic.
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I like the swaggy guys that are like smooth.
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But then they're just the troublemakers.
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So I don't know.
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I I feel like I want to change my type.
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What's been the sport?
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What what type of athlete?
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I've done a couple from NFL, one MBA, two NHL.
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God is funny.
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They're the nicest ones.
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Aren't they?
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I saw this, I saw this reel the other day, and it was like, I'm gonna start going to hockey games because in their warmups.
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They do like the hip people.
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They like get down and like like slide their knees on the ice.
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And they are so funny.
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Is it so funny?
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Are most of them Canadian?
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Is that why they're maybe nicer?
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Probably.
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Maybe, maybe.
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Probably, probably.
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That's funny.
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That's funny.
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So, what are your deal breakers?
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Cheating, lying.
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Yeah, cheating, like if they've cheated in the past, like if they've cheated in a previous relationship.
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Beggars can't be choosers.
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But if they cheated on me while we're together, then I I need to stop going back.
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Yeah.
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That's for sure.
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I feel like a guy that once a man cheats, if you let him get away with it, don't you think he'll cheat again?
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Yes.
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Mm-hmm.
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Just get better at hiding it.
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And then I I literally had this guy that I dated for like we were dating for so long.
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And then all of a sudden he's like, I think I just need to work on myself.
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And I'm like, okay.
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Then I see like on my TikTok feed, it's like a new girl that he's with, and she's made like a couple's page, and it's like, this is how we maintain our healthy relationship.
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And I'm like, and then he literally DM'd me like a week later, and it's like, I miss you.
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And I'm like, okay.
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Healthy relationship might ask.
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It's like joint Facebook pages screen the biggest red flags.
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It's for insecure people and trust for trust issues.
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You don't trust him to have his own page, so you need to monitor it and have a joint page.
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I think that was the lamest thing when couples have joint Facebook pages.
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Yeah.
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How long do you think he had been with her?
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Like, was this like a double life situation?
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Like he'd been with her for a long time, but he then was also dating you, right?
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And he had a kid, and so it was like, Oh, I've got my kid today.
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And so you'd be like, Oh, okay.
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Yeah.
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No, I don't know.
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What's funny?
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He leaves you for her, she makes him do a joint Facebook page, and then he comes, he's like, Fuck, this bitch is crazy.
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I miss you.
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No.
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She would have never made me do a joint Facebook page.
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And I would not have, no.
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Oh my god, that's funny.
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So have you ever walked out mid-date?
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I haven't.
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I'm too nice.
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I'll just wait.
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Yeah.
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Do you have a have you ever used an excuse to get out of a date?
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I've used an excuse to not go.
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Yeah.
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Well, I've never used an excuse to leave.
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What is the craziest date you've ever been on?
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Okay.
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The craziest date that I've ever been on was it was it was it was with an athlete and he had me go to one of these hotels around here, and then he was like, My driver's gonna come and pick you up.
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I'm like, okay, this is weird.
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And then this guy comes up and he's like, Do you know this guy?
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And I'm like, Well, I haven't met him before, but I'm supposed to be, and he's like, Okay, come with me.
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And then we go to Cake, and then he walks in the the club.
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What?
00:16:14.639 --> 00:16:14.960
Yes.
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So I go in with his driver into Cake, and then I'm sitting there with like four other girls, and I'm like, This is anyways, and then he walks in with like this entourage, hands me his hoodie, like I'm his assistant.
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We've not like we were just like talking on the phone and this is the first date?
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Yes, like you would have thought I was his assistant.
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He just hands me his hoodie, doesn't talk to me.
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He's like dancing in the club, and I'm like, What?
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And then he would just go like this, and then we would walk to another place.
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We went to like Oasis, and then more girls come, and it's just him and a bunch of girls.
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But then my car is somewhere else.
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I'm like, I don't know how to get home.
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This is so bad.
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And then, but then all of a sudden, we're in the car and we go to his house.
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Are you the only girl at this point?
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Or the other girls with that car?
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He's not even in the car, it's just his driver with like me and four other girls.
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There's no other guys.
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Oh my god.
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And I'm like, what is this?
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And then we get there, and then finally he like sits down and talks to me.
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He's like, What do you think of the place?
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And he's like going off about this cost me$200,000.
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And then the funniest thing was he um he was like, everything here has meaning to me.
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And then he was like, take a look at that book over there, and I'm like, okay, and I look, and it's a Kate Spade book, and it's opened to this page that says she leaves a little sparkle wherever she goes, and I'm like, that's deep.
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Oh my god.
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Thank you for that.
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Wow, that's funny.
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So it basically was like a roster audition.
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I don't know.
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A first date.
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Yeah, because then after a while, I was like, I think I'm just gonna get an Uber back to my car, and he's like, babe, if you're tired, the bed's back there, I'll be right there.
00:17:54.799 --> 00:17:55.920
And I'm like, uh no.
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No, so that's the weirdest.
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I mean, I don't even know if you call it a date.
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It sounds like a typical date with an athlete.
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Yeah, I don't call that a date.
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I've never had anyone be like that.
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But the the the thing that's crazy is that he's not well known enough to be like that.
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Like interesting.
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I didn't even know who he was.
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We yeah, I didn't know who he was, and I watched a lot of sports.
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That's funny.
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So yeah, I don't know.
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That's crazy.
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Have you met anybody interesting off the apps?
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Yes.
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I mean, I've talked to a few, but then the thing with Raya that I can't stand is it will be they'll like match you with people in like Amsterdam.
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You know what I mean?
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So like I remember I matched with a guy from Bridgerton and I was so excited.
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Like an actor from Bridgerton?
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Yes! I love which one?
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Um, the the older the older one that dates the mom.
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Oh, I I don't know.
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I haven't seen it for a while.
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How funny though.
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That's interesting.
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But he was in Amsterdam?
00:18:55.599 --> 00:18:56.559
No, he was in London.
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London?
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But but he like left this voice note, and I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm dying.
00:19:01.039 --> 00:19:01.599
Oh my gosh.
00:19:01.839 --> 00:19:03.279
But then but then you never meet, right?
00:19:03.359 --> 00:19:03.519
Yeah.
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Do you feel like so?
00:19:04.799 --> 00:19:09.519
We've had a couple of guests previously on, male and female, talk about Raya.
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That what is it like the guys, because all the women are so beautiful on there, the guys just sort of treat it like a buffet.
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And so, like, none of the guys are actually really that serious about dating.
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Is that kind of your experience?
00:19:25.279 --> 00:19:25.440
Yeah.
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As well.
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Like, what kind of guys are on there?
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Like athletes, CEOs, like what do they look for?
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Is it money?
00:19:30.720 --> 00:19:41.759
Like rich, powerful, wealthy men, or they don't even know because you'll have like an athlete and then you'll have like just some random guy and you'll go check out his Instagram and he's got like 300 followers.
00:19:42.000 --> 00:19:45.359
So I never know what the criteria is.
00:19:45.680 --> 00:19:52.240
But I know it's like if you know someone on there and they refer you, that's kind of how you get on.
00:19:52.720 --> 00:19:58.240
But remember we had that guy on, and he was like, I had six people refer me and I still haven't got a
00:20:00.319 --> 00:20:03.839
No, we I had like applied for it as a joke.
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Like 10 years ago, I swear.
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And then it was like three years ago, I all of a sudden I get the notification.
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Really?
00:20:11.119 --> 00:20:11.519
Oh my gosh.
00:20:11.839 --> 00:20:12.720
I know it was so random.
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It's crazy.
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It was just weird.
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You like applied for it when you went through your divorce, like screw this, I'm going on Ryan.
00:20:18.640 --> 00:20:21.119
I like stuff thinking about Ben Affleck talking to somebody.
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I was like, that could be fun.
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That's hilarious.
00:20:25.680 --> 00:20:28.480
So would you date an average guy?
00:20:28.720 --> 00:20:29.039
Yes.
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Yes, a guy that makes average money.
00:20:31.519 --> 00:20:31.920
Yes.
00:20:32.240 --> 00:20:32.480
Okay.
00:20:32.960 --> 00:20:40.799
So the athletes and sort of this like exciting life, it's not necessarily something that is that you need to have in a partner.
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I don't even necessarily want it.
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I don't think that it's realistic for settling down.
00:20:45.839 --> 00:20:46.079
Okay.
00:20:46.240 --> 00:20:50.960
I just think I've gotten so tired of men lately that I'm just kind of like, screw it.
00:20:51.440 --> 00:20:52.160
Having fun.
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Yeah.
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Sometimes you need that.
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Sometimes you need to just not be serious and just have fun and do you not think too much about anything.
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Go out and have fun.
00:21:00.160 --> 00:21:04.319
Have you had any really positive experiences dating athletes?
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Or has it all been negative for you?
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I haven't had anything positive now.
00:21:10.000 --> 00:21:10.319
No.
00:21:11.359 --> 00:21:12.960
Okay, I think it's time to change your type.
00:21:13.119 --> 00:21:13.759
Yeah, I think so.
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I think so.
00:21:14.880 --> 00:21:19.920
That's actually a good question because I knew athletes when I was single and young and dated them.
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And I don't think I ever knew one that was like faithful and a good, genuine, family-oriented person with good ethics and morals.
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Like all the ones I knew were cheaters.
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Yes.
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And are there, I mean, I'm sure there has to be, but maybe they're the ones that aren't out there dating.
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They're they're married, and so we don't get to meet them.
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Yeah.
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Interesting.
00:21:36.880 --> 00:21:44.400
They also have like this huge double standard where it's like if they if they text you and you don't respond in like 0.2 seconds, they're like, what are you doing?
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Who are you with?
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What's going on?
00:21:46.640 --> 00:21:47.519
The projection.
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Yeah.
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Because they're just and then you'll respond to them and it'll be like two days later, oh hey.
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It's like okay.
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Wow.
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Yeah.
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Have you ever been cheated on?
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Oh yeah.
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How did you find out?00:21:59.359 --> 00:22:04.079
Um, I had girls reach out to me a few times, like three three separate times.00:22:04.160 --> 00:22:06.160
I've just had a girl reach out to me on Instagram.00:22:06.400 --> 00:22:08.079
What and how did she find out?00:22:08.799 --> 00:22:11.359
Uh I don't even know how she found out.00:22:11.680 --> 00:22:12.480
Was it the same guy?00:22:13.119 --> 00:22:14.799
That she reached out to you three times.00:22:14.880 --> 00:22:15.680
Oh, so it was different guys, okay.00:22:16.079 --> 00:22:16.559
Different guys.00:22:16.880 --> 00:22:17.279
Dang.00:22:17.920 --> 00:22:18.160
Yeah.00:22:18.799 --> 00:22:20.400
It's yeah, it's a mess.00:22:20.880 --> 00:22:29.279
I I feel like though, when you're dealing with athletes, that world is kind of small because the groupies sort of they'll take whatever they can get.00:22:29.519 --> 00:22:29.759
Yes.00:22:30.000 --> 00:22:30.240
Sort of.00:22:30.720 --> 00:22:31.039
Yes.00:22:31.279 --> 00:22:34.400
Or it's like um girls will really watch.00:22:34.960 --> 00:22:41.599
Does Instagram still do this where like if you follow somebody, it will like show at the top who they recently followed?00:22:42.160 --> 00:22:49.119
I I think you can filter my most recent, but I thought I'm not sure.00:22:49.359 --> 00:22:51.680
I'm not I don't do Instagram that much.00:22:51.839 --> 00:22:55.039
I know you can filter your own followers that way.00:22:55.279 --> 00:22:55.599
Okay.00:22:55.759 --> 00:23:00.640
But I don't know that you can see it on someone else's profile.00:23:00.960 --> 00:23:01.759
I'm not sure.00:23:02.160 --> 00:23:03.920
I feel like it might have used to be like that.00:23:04.319 --> 00:23:04.480
Yeah.00:23:05.039 --> 00:23:09.519
Like the newest, the people that they were following most recently would be at the top of the follower list.00:23:09.759 --> 00:23:10.000
Yes.00:23:10.160 --> 00:23:11.839
Yeah, I think it was like that for a while.00:23:12.000 --> 00:23:13.519
I don't know if it still is or not.00:23:14.240 --> 00:23:16.079
I feel like that's how people would find you.00:23:16.640 --> 00:23:19.279
Or it's like, oh, he most recently followed her.00:23:19.359 --> 00:23:20.559
This must be who he's dating.00:23:20.720 --> 00:23:20.799
Yes.00:23:21.039 --> 00:23:22.160
Let me send her a message.00:23:22.480 --> 00:23:22.799
Yeah.00:23:23.039 --> 00:23:23.440
Mm-hmm.00:23:23.599 --> 00:23:23.920
Yeah.00:23:24.240 --> 00:23:28.079
Or maybe they're just like messaging everybody that's like, go down the list.00:23:28.559 --> 00:23:28.880
Right.00:23:29.359 --> 00:23:29.839
In my.00:23:30.480 --> 00:23:31.279
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We have a listener question.00:23:42.160 --> 00:23:43.839
Okay, this one's kind of a long one.00:23:45.519 --> 00:23:52.400
I recently started seeing this guy who treats me like a friends with benefits, but we haven't gone all the way yet.00:23:52.640 --> 00:23:59.200
He does minimal planning for dates, but then acts over-emotional when I decline to stay over or reject his plans.00:23:59.440 --> 00:24:08.079
But I do sometimes feel pressure to hook up or have a friends with benefits type relationship, as he sometimes does spend quite a bit of money on me.00:24:08.319 --> 00:24:13.519
For example, buying us tickets to a music festival in a few weeks, totaling about a thousand dollars.00:24:13.759 --> 00:24:24.000
Reasons why I'm not interested in him romantically include he acts immature, he's not a great communicator, he's not quite my type physically, and he parties a lot.00:24:24.240 --> 00:24:27.680
But I do enjoy him as a person and we have fun together.00:24:27.839 --> 00:24:30.880
How do I tell him I'm only interested in him as a friend?00:24:31.279 --> 00:24:31.839
Be honest.00:24:31.920 --> 00:24:32.960
Just tell him that, right?00:24:33.200 --> 00:24:34.640
What's so difficult about that?00:24:34.880 --> 00:24:35.279
Yeah.00:24:35.519 --> 00:24:36.480
Don't you think?00:24:36.720 --> 00:24:37.039
Yeah.00:24:37.200 --> 00:24:39.839
I also am wondering why she even wants to be friends with the guy.00:24:40.000 --> 00:24:40.720
It's kind of true.00:24:40.880 --> 00:24:41.119
Yeah.00:24:41.279 --> 00:24:42.240
Like there's no point.00:24:42.480 --> 00:24:44.400
Maybe he makes her laugh or yeah.00:24:44.640 --> 00:24:52.640
I mean, she does say that she enjoys spending time with him, but it sounds like he's not interested in being only a friend if he's making advances.00:24:52.960 --> 00:24:56.240
And I feel like you can't be just friends if one wants something more.00:24:56.400 --> 00:24:56.559
Yeah.00:24:56.799 --> 00:24:56.960
Right?00:24:57.200 --> 00:25:00.400
Because then it's gonna get old, because if you go out for some drinks, he's gonna come onto you.00:25:00.480 --> 00:25:02.640
Or he's gonna always try something, I feel.00:25:02.799 --> 00:25:03.039
Yeah.00:25:03.200 --> 00:25:03.920
So maybe they need to.00:25:04.079 --> 00:25:05.440
And I feel like it's gonna get messy.00:25:05.519 --> 00:25:09.599
I feel like he's trying a little bit to maybe buy her love.00:25:09.920 --> 00:25:16.079
And if she keeps not putting out and allowing him to pay for things, I feel like it's gonna harbor resentment.00:25:16.400 --> 00:25:16.720
Agreed.00:25:16.799 --> 00:25:16.960
Yeah.00:25:17.119 --> 00:25:18.240
He's gonna blow up one day.00:25:18.400 --> 00:25:19.119
I think so too.00:25:19.279 --> 00:25:20.160
I think it's dangerous.00:25:20.319 --> 00:25:21.920
I think I would just end things altogether.00:25:22.319 --> 00:25:23.759
Communication is key, I feel like.00:25:24.160 --> 00:25:24.319
Yeah.00:25:24.480 --> 00:25:24.799
Yeah.00:25:25.119 --> 00:25:27.119
So we're gonna discuss this article.00:25:27.359 --> 00:25:31.519
Recent infidelity stats as of this year, so extremely recent.00:25:31.759 --> 00:25:39.039
20% of married men and 13% of married women report having sex with someone other than their spouse.00:25:39.200 --> 00:25:41.200
It's a huge number, isn't that a lot?00:25:41.359 --> 00:25:42.240
Wait, say those numbers together.00:25:42.480 --> 00:25:44.640
20% of men and 13% of women.00:25:44.880 --> 00:25:45.279
Wow.00:25:45.440 --> 00:25:45.680
Right.00:25:45.920 --> 00:25:46.559
That are married.00:25:46.799 --> 00:25:47.359
That are married.00:25:47.759 --> 00:25:48.960
Have had sex with someone else.00:25:49.279 --> 00:25:51.039
Other than their significant other, yeah.00:25:51.519 --> 00:25:52.000
It's high.00:25:52.240 --> 00:25:56.960
Nearly one in three affairs, 31%, reportedly begin in the workplace.00:25:57.279 --> 00:25:57.920
That makes sense.00:25:58.079 --> 00:25:58.640
I can see that.00:25:58.720 --> 00:25:59.200
Yeah, yeah.00:25:59.440 --> 00:26:04.000
Yeah, I'd be worried if I was like married to a doctor or a lawyer, you know, where they're around, you know.00:26:04.319 --> 00:26:06.559
People who say like work wife, work husband.00:26:06.799 --> 00:26:09.200
Like if it's not a gay person, yeah.00:26:09.440 --> 00:26:11.599
It's like the that's probably an issue.00:26:12.000 --> 00:26:12.160
Right.00:26:12.400 --> 00:26:13.200
Yeah, big time.00:26:14.240 --> 00:26:25.680
40% of married people admit to some form of financial infidelity, secret spending, hidden credit card debts, accounts, hidden spending, which experts say can erode trust similar to physical infidelity.00:26:25.839 --> 00:26:26.559
Like, why lie?00:26:26.640 --> 00:26:31.119
That would kind of hurt me if my husband's being secretive about what he's spending his money on.00:26:31.279 --> 00:26:32.960
Like, why do you have to lie?00:26:33.440 --> 00:26:33.680
Yeah.00:26:34.240 --> 00:26:34.319
Yeah.00:26:34.559 --> 00:26:37.599
Is this like like are most people not having joint bank accounts?00:26:37.839 --> 00:26:38.720
Like, how do you do that?00:26:39.039 --> 00:26:39.359
It's true.00:26:39.519 --> 00:26:40.079
How do you do that?00:26:40.160 --> 00:26:42.880
If you because maybe some people don't have joint bank accounts.00:26:43.039 --> 00:26:49.519
I think it happens probably to women more because women trust men to control the finances.00:26:49.920 --> 00:26:59.359
And then they're able to and then they can they can take out a second mortgage or they can invest in a business, or they can open up another credit card.00:26:59.680 --> 00:27:03.920
Because my husband handles everything, like the HELOC and oh the mortgages and everything.00:27:04.000 --> 00:27:07.039
I'm like, hmm, do I need to get involved?00:27:07.440 --> 00:27:07.759
Yeah.00:27:08.480 --> 00:27:12.559
Because you hear these stories of people women that are like, I trusted him so much, I never would have thought.00:27:12.720 --> 00:27:16.240
And then he had this secret account and a secret family that he was funding.00:27:16.400 --> 00:27:16.880
Oh, yeah.00:27:17.440 --> 00:27:20.799
And and guys will usually like they'll like set everything up before they leave.00:27:20.960 --> 00:27:25.039
Like, guys will never just leave like out like on a whim.00:27:25.119 --> 00:27:26.559
They'll have everything lined up.00:27:26.720 --> 00:27:32.160
They'll have the girl lined up, they'll have where they're going lined up, the apartment, everything ready to go.00:27:32.640 --> 00:27:32.960
Yes.00:27:33.440 --> 00:27:34.319
Yeah, it's true.00:27:34.480 --> 00:27:41.839
Um, studies estimate that between 40% of married individual will engage in infidelity at least once in the course of their marriage.00:27:42.000 --> 00:27:42.799
That's almost half.00:27:43.200 --> 00:27:43.359
What?00:27:43.599 --> 00:27:44.720
That's crazy, right?00:27:45.279 --> 00:27:46.480
Okay, this cracks me up.00:27:46.640 --> 00:27:53.279
So um 55% of married couples who experienced infidelity eventually get divorced.00:27:53.599 --> 00:27:57.279
What age range do you think cheat the most for men and women?00:27:57.759 --> 00:27:58.799
What would you guess?00:27:59.279 --> 00:28:03.839
I'm gonna guess men like in their 40s, 50s.00:28:04.240 --> 00:28:06.640
What age range of married people cheat them in?00:28:08.160 --> 00:28:10.160
I would have thought younger, because you're young and dumb.00:28:10.319 --> 00:28:11.920
No, I think 40s.00:28:12.640 --> 00:28:15.519
So for men, 70 to 79.00:28:16.000 --> 00:28:16.319
What?00:28:16.559 --> 00:28:16.960
What?00:28:17.200 --> 00:28:18.559
Isn't that crazy?00:28:19.200 --> 00:28:25.440
Okay, if it still works, I mean so I guess those theories like, oh, when you get older you lose your libido.00:28:25.599 --> 00:28:26.880
I guess those untrue.00:28:27.440 --> 00:28:29.599
For women, 60 to 69.00:28:30.000 --> 00:28:30.240
What?00:28:30.480 --> 00:28:31.519
Isn't that crazy?00:28:31.759 --> 00:28:33.119
Like they're out here cheating.00:28:33.279 --> 00:28:38.319
Like, I wonder if their spouses are just getting like dementia.00:28:40.960 --> 00:28:42.880
I'm just gonna go out and find me.00:28:44.480 --> 00:28:48.240
Because at home, my my partner doesn't even know who I am anymore.00:28:49.680 --> 00:28:51.440
At that age, I'm like, I just don't give a fuck.00:28:51.599 --> 00:28:54.000
I know the clock is ticking, I don't have much time left.00:28:54.160 --> 00:28:56.960
I'm just gonna go out and you know, bang a bunch of chicks.00:28:57.039 --> 00:28:57.440
I don't know.00:28:57.680 --> 00:28:59.039
They're just happy to get the alone time.00:28:59.119 --> 00:28:59.920
Okay, you go.00:29:00.720 --> 00:29:01.039
Right?00:29:01.440 --> 00:29:04.799
So religious people cheat less, but it's people who attend church.00:29:04.960 --> 00:29:07.680
So people who go to church regularly do cheat less.00:29:07.839 --> 00:29:12.400
And this article says that Thailand has the highest reported infidelity rate.00:29:12.559 --> 00:29:15.599
51% of married people in Thailand admit to cheating.00:29:15.839 --> 00:29:22.720
And then other rankings are Denmark, 46%, Germany, 45%, Italy, 45%, France, 43%.00:29:23.039 --> 00:29:25.200
Those naughty little European deviles.00:29:26.480 --> 00:29:29.119
Europeans are a lot more open about their sexuality, okay?00:29:29.759 --> 00:29:31.279
And they're a lot hotter over there too.00:29:31.440 --> 00:29:33.279
They're all pretty, I don't know, hotters.00:29:35.279 --> 00:29:37.200
I feel like everyone over there is just like gorgeous.00:29:37.519 --> 00:29:39.200
And classy and sophisticated.00:29:39.519 --> 00:29:40.720
And it's yeah, it's true.00:29:40.960 --> 00:29:43.039
Where is your favorite place to go on a first date?00:29:43.680 --> 00:29:44.720
Are you a dinner girl?00:29:45.039 --> 00:29:48.400
I like dinner, but I also just like okay.00:29:48.960 --> 00:29:58.000
My my favorite thing to do is to find like almost like a sports bar where we can like watch a game together because then there's like something to talk about.00:29:58.160 --> 00:29:59.440
I hate small talk.00:29:59.680 --> 00:30:01.039
I'm really bad at it.00:30:01.279 --> 00:30:07.119
So if we're watching like a game and we can talk about that while we're eating, drinking, that's my favorite thing to do.00:30:07.279 --> 00:30:08.319
It's like your every guy's dream.00:30:08.400 --> 00:30:09.039
So you watch sports?00:30:09.119 --> 00:30:09.839
What's your sport?00:30:10.079 --> 00:30:12.319
I love football, basketball, hockey.00:30:12.640 --> 00:30:13.759
Who's your football team?00:30:14.000 --> 00:30:15.279
The Dallas Cowboys.00:30:15.440 --> 00:30:15.920
Oh, me too.00:30:16.079 --> 00:30:16.559
Isn't that your team?00:30:16.720 --> 00:30:17.039
You really are?00:30:17.200 --> 00:30:18.240
Did you like the cheerleaders?00:30:18.480 --> 00:30:19.519
When I was a little girl.00:30:19.759 --> 00:30:20.079
Yeah.00:30:20.640 --> 00:30:20.880
Love.00:30:21.200 --> 00:30:21.440
Yeah.00:30:21.599 --> 00:30:23.440
And who's your basketball team?00:30:23.680 --> 00:30:28.640
Uh, I like the Toronto Raptors, but then I've been going for the Suns since I've been living here.00:30:29.440 --> 00:30:29.680
Yeah.00:30:29.839 --> 00:30:30.960
How many kids do you have?00:30:31.200 --> 00:30:31.440
Two.00:30:31.599 --> 00:30:32.960
You have two, and they're both girls.00:30:33.359 --> 00:30:33.599
Yeah.00:30:33.839 --> 00:30:38.079
What's your do you have rules about introducing them to people that you're dating?00:30:38.319 --> 00:30:39.119
They've never met anybody.00:30:39.359 --> 00:30:40.160
They've never met anybody.00:30:40.400 --> 00:30:42.559
So since your divorce, they've never met another man.00:30:42.960 --> 00:30:43.119
Smart.00:30:43.599 --> 00:30:43.920
Wow.00:30:44.079 --> 00:30:47.680
And have they met his new wife, obviously?00:30:47.920 --> 00:30:48.160
Yes.00:30:48.400 --> 00:30:50.400
But what was there a rule on that?00:30:50.480 --> 00:30:53.440
Like it was once he was engaged to someone they could meet.00:30:53.599 --> 00:30:55.839
Did you guys have an agreement of some sort or no?00:30:56.079 --> 00:30:57.200
He kind of does what he wants.00:30:57.359 --> 00:30:59.680
Even if I wanted him to do something, he wouldn't care.00:30:59.920 --> 00:31:00.160
Yeah.00:31:00.400 --> 00:31:01.839
Do your girls like her?00:31:02.160 --> 00:31:02.480
No.00:31:02.880 --> 00:31:03.359
Really?00:31:03.599 --> 00:31:03.759
No.00:31:04.240 --> 00:31:04.720
That's hard.00:31:04.960 --> 00:31:06.319
Is she all nice to them?00:31:06.960 --> 00:31:07.279
No.00:31:07.599 --> 00:31:09.039
Oh, how old are they again?00:31:09.279 --> 00:31:12.960
She's just uh 14 and 11.00:31:13.359 --> 00:31:17.440
She's just very controlling over his time.00:31:17.680 --> 00:31:18.400
Ah, really?00:31:18.799 --> 00:31:23.839
And feels like there should every every time spent, she needs to be there.00:31:24.480 --> 00:31:30.079
And he's not allowed to talk to me unless she's there and she seems awful.00:31:30.640 --> 00:31:31.519
It's been a little bit.00:31:32.799 --> 00:31:35.440
A little bit, because him and I actually used to get along really well.00:31:36.799 --> 00:31:37.759
How did he meet her?00:31:38.400 --> 00:31:38.880
Online.00:31:39.119 --> 00:31:40.079
Is she Mormon 2?00:31:40.240 --> 00:31:40.720
Did you say?00:31:41.039 --> 00:31:42.480
I think used to be maybe.00:31:44.160 --> 00:31:44.559
Yikes.00:31:44.799 --> 00:31:45.359
Your poor daughter.00:31:45.519 --> 00:31:47.200
But you said they don't spend much time over there, right?00:31:47.440 --> 00:31:50.960
No, it's supposed to be like every other weekend, but it's we don't even do that.00:31:51.279 --> 00:31:51.599
Yeah.00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:55.599
So now it's time for the celebrity cut where we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.00:31:55.759 --> 00:31:58.160
So Madison Pruitt, do you know Madison Pruitt?00:31:58.240 --> 00:31:59.680
She was on The Bachelor.00:32:00.319 --> 00:32:00.640
Yes.00:32:00.799 --> 00:32:01.599
And she's very religious.00:32:01.759 --> 00:32:02.240
Yep, yep, yep.00:32:02.480 --> 00:32:04.799
And now she's come out, she's married to a pastor, right?00:32:04.880 --> 00:32:08.079
And she's come out saying that she loves being a submissive wife.00:32:08.240 --> 00:32:10.079
She loves speaking about submission.00:32:10.400 --> 00:32:12.559
She's totally given up her life for her husband.00:32:12.640 --> 00:32:12.960
Have you heard?00:32:13.119 --> 00:32:14.160
Did you hear that podcast in view?00:32:14.880 --> 00:32:15.920
It's so crazy to me.00:32:16.000 --> 00:32:18.000
And like she sparked a lot of backlash.00:32:18.480 --> 00:32:21.759
But it's but she then says it was really hard for me to get to get used to.00:32:22.079 --> 00:32:24.960
So were you submissive to your is that a part of the Mormon?00:32:25.359 --> 00:32:27.359
Does the is the man like the dominant one?00:32:27.680 --> 00:32:29.440
It yeah, it's a it's supposed to be.00:32:29.759 --> 00:32:37.759
It's supposed to be, they're supposed to be like the patriarch and they're in charge of the house, and you, you know, the women just stay home and do everything.00:32:38.000 --> 00:32:39.440
Which which is what I did.00:32:39.680 --> 00:32:40.079
Really?00:32:40.319 --> 00:32:41.119
That is what I did.00:32:41.279 --> 00:32:42.880
I put him through dental school.00:32:43.680 --> 00:32:46.400
My parents paid for his dental school.00:32:46.720 --> 00:32:53.200
And then he graduated, and then the day that he graduated, he was like, I don't think I'm gonna be with you anymore.00:32:53.440 --> 00:32:53.759
No.00:32:54.240 --> 00:32:54.480
Wow.00:32:54.720 --> 00:32:55.519
Was there some cut?00:32:55.680 --> 00:32:58.960
Did he pay you guys back or are you serious?00:32:59.119 --> 00:33:02.240
He was like, if you want, he was like, You're gonna have to sue me for it.00:33:02.880 --> 00:33:06.400
So my dad was, yeah, anyway, it was a nightmare.00:33:06.720 --> 00:33:08.319
I feel so bad for you and your family.00:33:08.400 --> 00:33:08.880
That's terrible.00:33:09.200 --> 00:33:11.759
I know, and so I'm just like, well, I don't know.00:33:12.319 --> 00:33:18.640
Like with my girls, I'm like, you prepare like you're gonna be single because like I don't know.00:33:18.960 --> 00:33:22.079
I put him through dental school and then I had nothing, you know?00:33:22.319 --> 00:33:24.799
So when you got divorced though, you you had nothing?00:33:24.960 --> 00:33:27.920
Like because I guess he was a student, so that you really didn't have much to split.00:33:28.480 --> 00:33:30.480
No, yeah, like he did it very smartly.00:33:30.720 --> 00:33:32.000
Wow, that's crazy.00:33:32.640 --> 00:33:36.240
Would you be a submissive wife again to someone?00:33:36.400 --> 00:33:44.640
Would you do the I think to only to a degree, only in the way where I I'd love to be taken care of.00:33:45.039 --> 00:33:48.400
Like what what girl doesn't want their man to take care of them financially?00:33:48.640 --> 00:33:49.279
Yeah.00:33:49.680 --> 00:33:54.160
But doing everything that they say and all that, just asking no questions, absolutely not.00:33:54.319 --> 00:33:54.480
Yeah.00:33:54.960 --> 00:33:55.759
No, not like that.00:33:55.920 --> 00:34:02.640
So going back to this Madison Pruitt girl, she also says that she's free from porn and masturbation for 10 years.00:34:02.880 --> 00:34:07.359
It was the enemy ruining my life, and I confessed to God, and now I'm free and clear.00:34:07.440 --> 00:34:17.840
And it seems like, and she's like, I started in middle school exploring my sexuality, and it was the enemy inside, but it seems like she's trying to be someone that she's not for religion purposes.00:34:18.000 --> 00:34:20.159
Yeah, you know, like try to change who she is.00:34:20.320 --> 00:34:23.760
Like from what I've read, she's a very sexual person, yeah.00:34:23.840 --> 00:34:28.559
And she's very independent, and it was really hard for her to get used to being submissive and not being sexual.00:34:28.639 --> 00:34:30.079
But why not just be yourself?00:34:30.320 --> 00:34:31.599
I guess if you're super religious.00:34:32.000 --> 00:34:32.559
What religious?00:34:32.639 --> 00:34:34.800
What's like Christianity or Catholicism?00:34:34.960 --> 00:34:35.679
One of those two.00:34:35.840 --> 00:34:36.880
He's a pastor.00:34:37.119 --> 00:34:40.079
It just evangelical, right?00:34:40.159 --> 00:34:41.760
Like oh what I'm not sure.00:34:42.000 --> 00:34:43.039
I don't even know.00:34:43.519 --> 00:34:46.800
But it's just crazy the things that people, you know.00:34:47.360 --> 00:34:50.079
Like, isn't it a part of being a human to be sexual?00:34:50.400 --> 00:34:51.280
Yes, right?00:34:52.559 --> 00:34:54.239
I mean, God gave us these things to use.00:34:54.559 --> 00:34:55.199
Oh, I know.00:34:55.920 --> 00:34:59.519
And I feel like they put so much shame with it where it's like they do put so much shame.00:34:59.840 --> 00:35:07.039
The weirdest thing, like growing up Mormon and like not like doing any of that, it's like, okay, so now, so now I can.00:35:07.360 --> 00:35:12.880
And then and then I'm like, I I can't even enjoy it because they've there's they like attached so much shame to it.00:35:13.360 --> 00:35:16.880
So then you like you feel guilty.00:35:17.280 --> 00:35:17.679
Yes.00:35:18.239 --> 00:35:21.199
So I just feel like that that aspect is just not healthy.00:35:21.519 --> 00:35:23.039
It doesn't seem healthy at all.00:35:23.519 --> 00:35:24.639
No, I don't condone it.00:35:24.880 --> 00:35:26.639
Because it's such a natural thing, you know?00:35:27.199 --> 00:35:40.639
I think that's the problem with being like pushing your religious beliefs like that, because it's just like could you could you convert to someone that was like hardcore Catholic, went to church every Sunday?00:35:40.960 --> 00:35:42.320
Could you I am Catholic?00:35:42.480 --> 00:35:48.880
Oh, you are a church and before No, my whole family's Catholic.00:35:49.039 --> 00:35:49.760
Yeah, yeah.00:35:50.639 --> 00:35:53.920
Now it's time to get to know you with Zoya, sponsored by Zoeya, your neighborhood yogurt.00:35:54.079 --> 00:35:55.920
So we're gonna ask you some rapid fire questions.00:35:56.239 --> 00:35:58.000
What's your favorite body part on a man?00:35:59.119 --> 00:35:59.760
Chest and arms.00:36:01.119 --> 00:36:03.599
What is the craziest thing you've done to impress a date?00:36:04.800 --> 00:36:06.880
Um I don't know.00:36:08.079 --> 00:36:08.800
We can skip that one.00:36:09.039 --> 00:36:09.199
Yeah.00:36:09.360 --> 00:36:11.199
What should someone not do on a first date?00:36:11.440 --> 00:36:12.239
Uh brag.00:36:12.719 --> 00:36:15.119
Where should someone not take you on a first date?00:36:17.679 --> 00:36:18.239
The club.00:36:19.519 --> 00:36:20.559
Yeah, the club.00:36:20.880 --> 00:36:21.920
Do you have a pickup line?00:36:22.000 --> 00:36:23.119
Or do you uh make the first move?00:36:24.400 --> 00:36:25.039
I'm so shy.00:36:25.199 --> 00:36:25.920
I'm so shy.00:36:26.079 --> 00:36:26.400
Really?00:36:26.559 --> 00:36:26.880
Yes.00:36:27.039 --> 00:36:30.000
Do you like it when men when what's the craziest line you've heard?00:36:30.320 --> 00:36:32.159
Have you heard any crazy pickup lines?00:36:32.559 --> 00:36:34.079
They're no.00:36:34.320 --> 00:36:34.480
No.00:36:34.719 --> 00:36:36.719
They're the I I feel like people don't do that anymore.00:36:36.800 --> 00:36:37.519
They're just like, yo.00:36:37.920 --> 00:36:38.320
Yo.00:36:39.760 --> 00:36:40.159
Nice.00:36:40.320 --> 00:36:42.639
Is watching porn considered cheating?00:36:43.920 --> 00:36:44.880
I don't know.00:36:47.039 --> 00:36:51.039
Before you're intimate, is it appropriate to ask your date how many people they've been with?00:36:52.480 --> 00:36:55.039
I mean, if you've been dating for a bit, I feel like you can ask.00:36:55.840 --> 00:36:58.239
Is it acceptable to have sex on the first date?00:36:59.199 --> 00:37:04.639
Um in a relationship?00:37:05.039 --> 00:37:06.320
If they're big ones, yeah.00:37:07.679 --> 00:37:09.360
Okay, and yes or no questions.00:37:09.519 --> 00:37:11.119
Do you consider these red flags?00:37:11.360 --> 00:37:12.880
He's BFFs with his ex.00:37:13.119 --> 00:37:13.280
Yes.00:37:13.679 --> 00:37:14.800
He uses Snapchat.00:37:15.360 --> 00:37:15.760
Yes.00:37:16.000 --> 00:37:17.599
He posts Jim Mirror selfies.00:37:17.840 --> 00:37:18.480
Oh gosh, yes.00:37:18.719 --> 00:37:19.920
He doesn't make his bed.00:37:20.639 --> 00:37:22.079
No, but I like making the bed.00:37:22.320 --> 00:37:23.519
He doesn't believe in foreplay.00:37:24.079 --> 00:37:24.400
Uh yeah.00:37:25.119 --> 00:37:26.800
He owns a sword and it's not decorative.00:37:27.039 --> 00:37:27.519
Yes.00:37:28.239 --> 00:37:30.320
He brings up his ex on the first date.00:37:30.480 --> 00:37:30.880
Yes.00:37:31.119 --> 00:37:33.760
He follows his ex on social media and likes her posts.00:37:33.920 --> 00:37:34.159
Yes.00:37:34.320 --> 00:37:36.400
He wears flip-flops and pajamas on a plane.00:37:36.639 --> 00:37:37.039
Yes.00:37:37.519 --> 00:37:39.280
He uses LOL in texts.00:37:39.440 --> 00:37:39.920
I know.00:37:40.079 --> 00:37:43.280
And last but not least, what is your favorite sexual position and why?00:37:43.519 --> 00:37:44.079
Mmm.00:37:45.440 --> 00:37:50.800
Probably I I mean, I like I probably doggy style, actually.00:37:51.360 --> 00:37:56.400
Can I ask, what would be a red flag about using LOL in text messages?00:37:57.199 --> 00:37:57.840
Did you say yes?00:37:57.920 --> 00:37:58.639
It was a red flag for me.00:37:58.880 --> 00:37:59.519
No, she said no.00:37:59.920 --> 00:38:02.000
But I'm just wondering why, like, where that question is.00:38:06.320 --> 00:38:09.039
Doesn't it a little bit immature, maybe?00:38:09.199 --> 00:38:09.679
I don't know.00:38:09.920 --> 00:38:11.760
I feel like every guy that I've talked to does that.00:38:11.920 --> 00:38:12.079
Yeah.00:38:12.159 --> 00:38:13.519
It's LOL.00:38:13.920 --> 00:38:14.559
I use LOL.00:38:14.880 --> 00:38:15.599
I feel like girls do.00:38:15.840 --> 00:38:16.960
I use LOL too.00:38:17.039 --> 00:38:18.639
And it doesn't really bug me that much.00:38:18.800 --> 00:38:20.239
I think my husband uses it too.00:38:20.719 --> 00:38:22.719
Yeah, I don't see that as a potential.00:38:22.800 --> 00:38:24.480
I'm just curious, like, who sees that?00:38:25.039 --> 00:38:26.400
I think a lot of people see that as seen.00:38:27.360 --> 00:38:27.920
Younger, immature.00:38:28.320 --> 00:38:28.559
Why?00:38:29.119 --> 00:38:30.480
Is it better to say haha?00:38:34.159 --> 00:38:34.719
I don't know.00:38:34.960 --> 00:38:40.159
See, I used to do ha ha and I used to be so embarrassed to use LOL because I judged people that used LOL.00:38:40.559 --> 00:38:42.719
But it's so much easier to do LOL.00:38:43.599 --> 00:38:45.039
Why did you judge LOL?00:38:45.280 --> 00:38:46.480
Because it just- What was the reasoning?00:38:46.639 --> 00:38:47.199
Explain me.00:38:47.440 --> 00:38:52.320
It just, I don't know, I just assumed it was made someone look stupid.00:38:52.880 --> 00:38:54.079
I knew what it stood for, right?00:38:54.239 --> 00:38:55.280
I knew what it stood for.00:38:55.440 --> 00:38:57.920
But it just made someone look immature and stupid and dumb.00:38:58.000 --> 00:38:59.280
But I use it now all the time.00:38:59.440 --> 00:39:01.039
Because it's easier to use them ha ha.00:39:01.360 --> 00:39:02.639
So I don't judge anymore.00:39:02.880 --> 00:39:03.199
Okay.00:39:03.360 --> 00:39:04.079
Because I use it.00:39:04.239 --> 00:39:05.039
Because it is easier.00:39:05.119 --> 00:39:05.360
Yes.00:39:05.760 --> 00:39:06.239
Convenient.00:39:06.880 --> 00:39:10.400
Like when we first started using it, it would be on like like five-year-olds' t-shirts, right?00:39:10.639 --> 00:39:12.000
Like a pink shirt that said lol.00:39:12.400 --> 00:39:15.599
Maybe that's what it is back in the day when a few people first started using it.00:39:16.000 --> 00:39:16.400
I don't know.00:39:17.360 --> 00:39:18.400
Because of the LOL dolls.00:39:18.559 --> 00:39:18.960
Yeah, maybe.00:39:19.280 --> 00:39:20.639
So now it seems like juvenile.00:39:21.039 --> 00:39:21.360
Maybe.00:39:21.599 --> 00:39:22.000
That's funny.00:39:22.159 --> 00:39:28.559
But then I'm also like with texting, if you don't, if you say something and then you don't have the ha ha or the lol, I'm like, are you mad?00:39:28.719 --> 00:39:29.599
Like I will say.00:39:30.480 --> 00:39:31.039
I'm the same.00:39:31.280 --> 00:39:33.119
I'm bad about typing.00:39:33.280 --> 00:39:37.760
I have to delete LOL a lot or ha ha a lot because I'll put it.00:39:37.920 --> 00:39:40.960
And then I'm like, wait, but that's not even funny.00:39:41.119 --> 00:39:42.480
So why am I putting it?00:39:42.639 --> 00:39:44.000
I'm not actually laughing at loud.00:39:44.239 --> 00:39:45.440
I'm actually laughing.00:39:47.360 --> 00:39:48.000
Yeah.00:39:49.199 --> 00:39:50.079
Do you have any other questions?00:39:50.480 --> 00:39:51.440
Do you have any other questions?00:39:51.519 --> 00:39:53.679
Or did you want to say anything to anyone out there?00:39:53.920 --> 00:39:54.480
Ooh.00:39:55.840 --> 00:39:58.159
You know, I don't I don't know.00:39:58.320 --> 00:39:59.760
I would almost love to hear your guys's.00:40:00.159 --> 00:40:02.559
Like, I want to hear the worst thing that's ever happened to you guys.00:40:03.760 --> 00:40:04.400
Oh boy.00:40:04.559 --> 00:40:05.280
On a date?00:40:06.480 --> 00:40:06.800
Oh.00:40:07.360 --> 00:40:08.559
I've had so many, I feel.00:40:08.880 --> 00:40:09.199
I know.00:40:09.360 --> 00:40:10.800
I'm trying to, I should think of that.00:40:10.960 --> 00:40:13.280
I had so many guys' comments more than anything.00:40:13.440 --> 00:40:15.920
People tell me that I needed to get fake boobs multiple times.00:40:16.320 --> 00:40:17.519
Multiple You've had that?00:40:17.840 --> 00:40:20.159
Why do people think it's okay to say that on a first date?00:40:20.320 --> 00:40:20.559
Yeah.00:40:20.800 --> 00:40:21.440
Like, why?00:40:21.599 --> 00:40:21.840
Yeah.00:40:22.079 --> 00:40:25.599
Do they think we're gonna go on a second date with them when they're truly so superficial?00:40:26.000 --> 00:40:26.239
Yeah.00:40:26.559 --> 00:40:32.960
Or they'll text me, like it'll be like second date, and it'll be like, you know, your body's perfect except for this.00:40:33.119 --> 00:40:36.639
If you did this, then your body would be great.00:40:38.719 --> 00:40:42.000
I had a guy, it was a blind date, and a friend set us up.00:40:42.079 --> 00:40:45.920
We hadn't seen pictures of each other, and he picked me up, he got out of the car, looked me up and down.00:40:46.079 --> 00:40:47.039
We were supposed to go to dinner.00:40:47.119 --> 00:40:47.199
Yeah.00:40:47.360 --> 00:40:49.360
And he's like, okay, I guess we'll just go for coffee then.00:40:49.519 --> 00:40:52.159
And I was like, sure, that's fine, because I wasn't attracted to him.00:40:52.320 --> 00:40:56.559
So as we're driving to coffee, he's like, Oh, how funny, that's the restaurant I was gonna take you to dinner.00:40:57.039 --> 00:40:57.679
What the hell?00:40:57.760 --> 00:40:58.320
Isn't that crazy?00:40:58.960 --> 00:40:59.679
Who says that?00:41:00.639 --> 00:41:01.039
What about you?00:41:01.199 --> 00:41:02.400
You've had some crazy stories.00:41:03.199 --> 00:41:04.000
Not really.00:41:04.559 --> 00:41:10.320
I've never had a guy, I've never had a guy comment on my body before on a date in a negative way.00:41:10.880 --> 00:41:12.320
Um, I don't know.00:41:12.480 --> 00:41:13.760
I haven't been on a date in so long.00:41:13.920 --> 00:41:15.360
I haven't had any bad dates recently.00:41:16.719 --> 00:41:19.039
Um I don't know.00:41:19.199 --> 00:41:20.400
Have you ever been catfished?00:41:20.880 --> 00:41:21.440
Yes.00:41:21.920 --> 00:41:22.800
Oh gosh, yes.00:41:23.199 --> 00:41:25.920
Like height, weight, both.00:41:26.320 --> 00:41:28.559
I I really don't care about height because I'm only 5'2.00:41:29.199 --> 00:41:30.800
But weight, every yeah.00:41:31.119 --> 00:41:31.519
Really?00:41:31.840 --> 00:41:32.239
Yeah.00:41:32.639 --> 00:41:39.039
I also had this guy that um he had like 300,000 followers, he would like flash around money.00:41:39.360 --> 00:41:47.519
And like like after like a month of dating, he would he did the whole thing where he was like, Oh my gosh, I need like$500 and I'll pay you back.00:41:47.599 --> 00:41:48.719
And I'm like, oh hell no.00:41:49.039 --> 00:41:49.760
I'm like, what?00:41:50.320 --> 00:41:56.639
And and but but then like when you said sorry, I'm not gonna send you any money, then they'd get all mad, like, I thought you loved me.00:41:56.880 --> 00:41:57.679
Oh my god.00:41:58.000 --> 00:42:01.679
I'm just like, I'm a single mom, what the f it's funny, you know what?00:42:01.760 --> 00:42:02.960
I just thought of something.00:42:03.199 --> 00:42:05.760
So this wasn't a date, it wasn't a romantic date.00:42:05.920 --> 00:42:23.280
I had met this guy out in the wild, and I immediately, immediately when I sat down next to him and we started chatting, I told him right off the bat, I'm not interested in in anything romantic with you, but I find you to be a very interesting person.00:42:23.440 --> 00:42:26.480
Um, and so we can be friends because he had asked for my number.00:42:26.639 --> 00:42:26.800
Okay.00:42:26.960 --> 00:42:33.519
And I said, Well, I don't want to give you my number under like the assumption that you think I'm interested in you romantically because I'm not.00:42:33.679 --> 00:42:36.000
And he was like, No, no, no, that's totally cool.00:42:36.159 --> 00:42:39.280
So he calls me the next morning and you know, he's like, Jay, what's up?00:42:39.440 --> 00:42:40.639
Like, so good to see you.00:42:40.719 --> 00:42:41.920
You're awake, blah, blah, blah.00:42:42.079 --> 00:42:46.000
Like, and so then we sort of developed this friendship, right?00:42:46.239 --> 00:42:51.679
And so then a couple weeks later, he invited me to go have a drink with him around lunchtime.00:42:51.840 --> 00:42:56.639
And so I met him at this bar that's they serve food during the day.00:42:56.719 --> 00:42:58.719
It's an old town, but it's a club at night.00:42:58.880 --> 00:43:01.360
But during the day, it's more chill or whatever.00:43:01.440 --> 00:43:10.239
And so we were sitting there in this booth, and he pulls out his phone, he starts to tell me this story, and he's like, I just I gotta show you this.00:43:10.480 --> 00:43:13.840
He opens up his phone to the camera and it's a picture of his dick.00:43:14.000 --> 00:43:18.239
Woo! And and he was like, he was like, Oh my god, I can't believe that was open.00:43:18.320 --> 00:43:19.599
I'm so sorry you saw that go.00:43:19.840 --> 00:43:22.639
And I was like, You made to do that.00:43:22.960 --> 00:43:23.679
Was it a big dick?00:43:23.760 --> 00:43:24.960
It was a huge dick.00:43:25.199 --> 00:43:27.840
That was a huge dick.00:43:28.719 --> 00:43:34.719
I just don't know what guys think when it's like if you're on the fence about somebody and then they're like, well, just just wait.00:43:34.800 --> 00:43:35.199
Yes.00:43:35.360 --> 00:43:39.599
If you see this, then you'll like no girl ever has been like, okay, well, now I yes.00:43:39.840 --> 00:43:40.159
Like never.00:43:40.320 --> 00:43:40.639
Yes.00:43:40.719 --> 00:43:42.960
My question is, where did you go on your first date?00:43:45.679 --> 00:43:47.119
We never went on a date.00:43:47.280 --> 00:43:49.280
We never went on an official date date.00:43:49.440 --> 00:43:51.440
But and and I did, I called him out for it.00:43:51.519 --> 00:43:53.440
I was like, you did that on purpose.00:43:53.599 --> 00:43:55.039
And he was like, I swear I did it.00:43:55.119 --> 00:43:55.679
I swear.00:43:55.840 --> 00:43:59.920
I was just, I had sent it to this chick right before, like, right before we were talking.00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:01.119
He's like, I totally forgot.00:44:01.199 --> 00:44:02.239
And I was like, whatever.00:44:02.639 --> 00:44:05.760
He played it off and it was fine, and we like laughed about it.00:44:05.920 --> 00:44:09.760
But in my head, I was like, that was completely on purpose.00:44:10.320 --> 00:44:10.719
100%.00:44:11.280 --> 00:44:11.519
Yes.00:44:11.679 --> 00:44:11.840
Yeah.00:44:12.159 --> 00:44:14.320
Well, thank you so much for joining us this week at the meat market.00:44:14.480 --> 00:44:15.440
And thank you so much, Amy.00:44:15.519 --> 00:44:19.920
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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.00:44:33.360 --> 00:44:35.519
He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.00:44:35.679 --> 00:44:40.480
So I found out the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:44:40.639 --> 00:44:43.119
His wife just reached out to me.
