Love, Leases, and WTF Moments: Alli’s Dating Hell Tour 🏠🔥

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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the Meat Market.

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The single scene is a slaughterhouse and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess and today's sizzling single is Allie from the Valley.

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Welcome, hey.

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Oh my God, I'm super excited to be here.

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So you had mentioned that you grew up for a part of your childhood in your car, but now you own four homes, so tell us about this transition.

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Yeah absolutely so.

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My sister and I my twin sister and I are super close.

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Her name is Taylor and you know it was.

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It was kind of unfortunate just being a child, you know, a product of domestic violence and you know, gosh, we're really getting in the thick of it right now.

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And she's someone.

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Better take a Xanax.

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Take a Xanax if you're listening to this like over here, morphine soup, you know, but um, no.

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So yeah, it was.

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It was very interesting at such a young age like just seeing the the iciness and the sharpness that life could be.

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Um, and it was.

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You know, there's funny things when you grow up like we were in a domestic violence shelter some days, and some days we couldn't be there because there's so many people that need help, and so it's like a reason why I hate peanut butter jelly sandwiches because it's like all you know we would eat some weeks like on and on and on, um and then um, yeah, just kind of saying like, oh, my god, like you know, there's no cell phones, there's no nothing, there's no call for help.

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And seeing how strong my mom was, that she was always just like, as long as I have my girls, you know I'm good, and that was so inspiring to me.

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But yeah, absolutely, my sister and I, when we finally got in school you know first grade it was pretty apparent that like we need to get the fuck up out of here.

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You know, we had traveled from Texas to Nogales, we had eventually settled in Tubac and Rio Rico.

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So I'm a true native here to Arizona.

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I love Arizona.

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I just I love that we're growing and all those amazing things, but it was definitely just challenging.

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It's something that I would never wish on.

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You know my worst enemy just making it through that.

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But no, you know, I realized I got to get an education, I got to better myself.

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No one's going to do it for you and if you want something done, you do it yourself.

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So I'm still the only college grad from my family.

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And yeah, but yeah, very hard.

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What was your college degree in?

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It was in secondary education.

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I have two minors in African American literatureAmerican literature and business administration.

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Oh wow.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, so in high school I was a CB student.

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I had to like beg the teacher you know, can I be in National Honor Society?

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And she's like you got to pull your GPA up by like two points, and so it was just always like backwards planning, like I know where I want to get, how do I get there, how do I do it?

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Let's work smarter, not harder.

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But it was interesting.

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All throughout high school I cleaned homes for a lot of my teachers and I'm like, ooh, okay, here's the underwear drawer we're going to, or the, the, the couple, the teacher couple that were like the most gorgeous thing I've ever seen clean their house and I'm like, oh, they're in the bedroom.

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Okay, got here a little too early oh my gosh, what do we do?

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but um no, so it was like it just was survival mode, like up until I was pretty much 25, when I felt like I was really, you know, making money and living good so you're a hustler.

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You know the meaning of hard work and you worked hard to get to where you are now yeah, absolutely, and it's kind of one of the things of who you surround yourself with like a hundred percent, and you know, um, I know I'd mentioned a little bit of like my last relationship and you know the thing is is that, um, you know, when you surround yourself with people who are constantly like allowing you to be yourself, be creative, like all my friends are business owners or um, you know, they're, they're older and they offer something, you know, which I think is just so beautiful, and I was, um, yeah, that relationship was a little bit of a.

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It was a little bit of a, you know, of a, of a, of a mess.

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What did you learn from your last relationship?

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of a mess.

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What did you learn from your last relationship?

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Um, you know, I learned that, unfortunately, I was dating a shell of a person.

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And you know, toxicity can it's not just associated with females or it's not.

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You know, it's not your sex, your gender, however you identify with is not, you know, does not associate being toxic one more with the other.

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But you know, I had someone that was demanding space at my table and granted, none of my friends, you know, get to eat at my table for free, or people that are in my circle, but you don't have to.

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You know, you don't have to earn your spot.

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But you know, some of my friends, they either bring the people in my circle, they bring joy, or they bring mentorship, or they bring guidance, or they bring passion, or they're influential to me.

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You know, allie, you should go for that thing that you want to do.

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Or you know, hey, allie, you know I noticed that.

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You know you want to do more of this thing.

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Let's do it together, let's learn something together, and so I think what was difficult with that is that I had a group of people in my last relationship that really wanted me to provide for them as well, whether it be spiritual, physical, or hey, can we use your car, or hey, can you spot me at dinner?

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And I will tell you, older is not always better.

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And I will tell you, older is not always better.

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You know, it's very difficult and challenging to get someone up to your level and it's go.

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It's always going to be easier for people to bring you down to their level.

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It's always going to be easier for you to downgrade yourself, you know, than to say hey, you know, let's, let's go up here together.

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And you know you're dating someone who's 54 years old and is judging you while they have $12 in the bank and their whole group of friends are saying you guys are messy, you guys are, you know, chaotic.

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Yeah, man, what the fuck Like.

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We're all business owners.

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We take care of each other's kids.

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You know, sometimes we wake up in the middle of the night with a great idea and we're calling each other, or some of my friends that are in their 60s.

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You know they're, they're, they offer that, you know, just guidance and mentorship, like I said, and so I, you know I wasn't really fitting in with this group of people who, you know they, they want to seek validation from 20 somethings.

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They want to still be out in old town.

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They want to wake up at 11 and, you know, grab the marijuana gummies.

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And that's not me.

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I'm waking up at seven saying let's go get this fucking bread and let's do it together.

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Because, you know, I very much practice the Michelangelo effect.

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I love being able to like okay, I'm going to reach this level.

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But then also I have friends that come to me and say, hey, Ali, I have this amazing idea, how do I monetize it?

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What do I do with it?

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And I say, oh, my God, you know, let me catch your blind spots for you.

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So it wasn't really working out, because if your lifestyles are different, it's never going to work out.

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And I had a person that was not only demanding a spot at my table but then wanted to bring their bottom feeder friends with them and I couldn't provide for them everything that they needed.

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And if someone can't even show up for themselves, you know, you don't have to be judgmental in a relationship, but being like, observant, like, okay, my partner said they're going to go to the gym this week, but they've never gone.

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Or my partner said he's going to start picking up my son from school.

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You know, I didn't even really ask him that, but it hasn't happened yet.

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He hasn't done it.

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So if you can't show up for yourself, there's no way you're going to show up for me or be able to lead a family or guide a family.

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Or, you know, you're in your beta stage of masculinity and now you're pulling me out of my feminine space, where I should never even be I'm.

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You know, you've gone from an asset to a liability, and because I'm so business oriented, that's what I think and um, so it's gonna be, that's gonna be challenging you would make the comment that Scottsdale is the absolute worst place that you've ever dated.

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So tell us about some of your bad dates that you've been on oh god, um, most of them are gonna end in me like fading into the bushes, like simpson style I had a guy years ago.

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You know, I had a guy years ago who was selling drugs on our date.

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Wait what?

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yeah, he said he was an entrepreneur and I was like oh okay, that type of entrepreneur okay cool so, just like, only fan models are entrepreneurs Right right, yeah, exactly.

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So I was like, okay, but he kept going to the bathroom and it was at Loco Patron in Scottsdale.

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So the thing is his friends are coming in the back to meet him in the bathroom to sell drugs and I'm thinking this guy must have IBS.

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What kind of drugs, though?

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The important question.

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What was?

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What kind of drugs, though?

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The important?

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question.

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I don't know.

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You know it was like I had no, you know it ended up being cocaine, but and I'm like you know I was a high school teacher at the time, so I'm like, oh my God, you know, freaked out like totally just the hair on the back of my neck stood up.

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And you know, my sister and I have held down like two to three jobs at a time.

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So you know, scottsdale is going to be an interesting place because my sister and I lived in Newport beach, we lived in Laguna beach, we lived in areas where people really have money.

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I mean, we worked Coachella like four to five times.

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And you come to Scottsdale and you're like this person really thinks they're something, like this person really thinks you care.

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This person really, you know, thinks that okay, when they walk in the room everyone's taking notice and um, that it's just it's a very weird place and so, and and it's funny, that's where, you know, my ex is now and, um, again, I don't need validation from young 20 somethings because that's, I'm past that.

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But yeah, you won't catch me in Scottsdale, I'll probably be like Arcadia or you know, just somewhere else, but yeah, so you made the comment that you you look like you're an untraditional woman in the sense that you ride motorcycles, you have tattoos, but you're actually traditional at heart.

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You're religious.

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You waited a very long time to have sex for the first time.

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Tell us about that yeah, oh God, and thank you for asking about that.

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Um, I just feel and I've noticed, and this kind of leads back to Scottsdale.

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I had a guy who sold drugs on a date, you know.

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I had a guy who, like, was texting two other girls and you know, one of them sent a picture of, like her breasts and I saw it, you know, and all that stuff you know I had.

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Oh my God, I had a guy who, like, didn't have a car and then, like, lied about it and it's weird, weird shit, man.

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So just don't date in Scottsdale, but anyways, so it was, yeah, like I just didn't find my identity in who I was with or who I was going to have sex with or who I was.

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It scared me.

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It has scared me growing up.

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Like how many people when they go out, they're not just out to have a good time with their friends?

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I had no idea.

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Like the ulterior motive is like who can I go home with?

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I've never been that person.

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I was engaged for a very long time when I was young and then when I came out after I lost my virginity to my fiance at the time I was 22 and I was celibate for two years.

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So I dated myself.

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I got.

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My parents would feel so bad.

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My dad thought I was a lesbian for like the longest time.

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You know, like Allie, can I ask you something?

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I'm like dad, I'm not gay.

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Like my God, he's like no, where's the remote?

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You know shit?

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Okay, but no, so it just to me.

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I really wanted to figure out who I am, and the more and more that you know who you are, the faster it is to identify red flags going into a relationship.

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Um, because you're not looking from validation, from from others and things of that.

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But I felt like God, just totally, just let me know, like you're beautiful, You're more than capable.

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And I think the good message for women these days even like you're beautiful, you're more than capable.

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And I think the good message for women these days, even though you're hurt, it's for men and women is you know there's a difference between being available and being accessible.

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You can look available and nice and laugh with some guys that buy you a drink at the bar and be nice and have really great bedside manner, but when you're bitter and you're negative, that's just not any.

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You know you don't want to be around a person like that.

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So what are you looking for?

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Are you looking to get married?

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Are you looking to have kids?

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So you have been married and you have kids, right I?

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was almost married and then I found out he cheated on me three weeks before our wedding.

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No three weeks before your wedding.

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Before your wedding.

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Yeah, yeah, and again, you know God, I just did it all wrong because I'm the one that put the fucking deposit down, you know, at 21.

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Like.

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Why am?

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I dating these broke men, like you know.

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So anyways, but yeah, I would love to get married.

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If I can stay looking like this, I'd love to have four more kids, three more kids.

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Really you want a big family.

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Yeah, like I love the noise in the house.

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My sister and I were the first homeowners out of our friends and so I just fit.

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I feel like when people come in, you know, like I tell them, like I'm not gonna offer twice, you know where the food is, you know where this, like I'm already just that true built-in best friend.

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So speaking of a lot of kids.

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Don't you have a cousin that's married or a baby mama?

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To Nick Cannon.

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I do, yeah, yeah, elisa, she's living in Long Beach.

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Nick bought her a beautiful home and you know she is just so beautiful.

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I mean, everyone in my family is pretty much modeled, so I'm like what the fuck happened to me?

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You're beautiful, what are you talking about?

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No, that's okay, but yeah, yeah, and so it was.

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It was sad learning about bb's in and um, just, that's my mom's side of the family and that side of the family is actually greek and irish, and so that's what elisa is.

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And then my uncle, scott is, is, uh, this like big, handsome black guy that used to be like, um, I think he was deputy of like fresno police or something.

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So yeah, so tell us what your ideal partner is.

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My ideal partner is someone who really knows who they are and loves themselves.

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Because when you go from someone who's looking to you to be able to provide that, that sense of identity for them, that is not only going to be challenging challenging but it's going to be very difficult because we're not made to provide that for another.

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Um, you know, I mean I, I want someone who, if they're 54, has friends that are around 50 and not 30 somethings, because it makes them feel younger.

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You know, those are things that I don't identify with, because I'm like the way that I feel about myself is totally just from my internal being, my connection with God and how I feel bold and loving and successful, and so, no matter how much rejection or abandonment you want to throw at me, I actually don't have to receive it.

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And.

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I think that's just so beautiful.

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So I would say for my ideal guy is them knowing who they are, and execution, you know, trust and faith.

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All those fucking things are amazing and great, but like sometimes when the bottom of the barrel is, like here, like okay, is he out of jail?

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Does he have a job?

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Does he have a job?

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Does he have more than $12 in his bank account?

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Thank you, yeah, exactly Does he have teeth.

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Oh exactly, does he have teeth?

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Oh yeah, or like you know, my ex had two roommates and I'm just like why are we dealing with roommates right now, like you guys are in your 40s?

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and your 50s.

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And he was 50-something.

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Yeah, yeah exactly so.

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I would look for someone who's a homeowner credit score over 700.

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If you have a kid, great, whichever.

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Like you know, I'm totally not judgy and I just want someone who's committed to themselves, because when you observe and see someone doing so much for themselves and showing up, you know that that's a pretty good indication that they're going to be able to do that for you.

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So what are your hobbies?

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What do you do on the weekends?

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Oh, cry, have an existential crisis?

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Um, you know, ask, you know, increase credit line?

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No, I'm kidding.

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Um, no, I ride my motorcycle.

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I skateboard with my son.

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Um, you know, I, I, I paint.

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Um, I work a lot.

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So I'm a website developer and I love doing things for my clients, like, even when they don't ask, I'm like, oh, my God, you need to see this, like this is really cool.

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So everything I do, like I'm just so fucking passionate about it you seem very passionate about life and about everything Like.

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I'll get up out of bed if I'm like that's a fucking good idea and I'll write it down in my little black book and so.

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But it's spending a lot of time with good, good people and good friends.

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Like I said, my whole circle is creatives.

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They're here in Phoenix, they're good people, they're inclusive to everyone, which I just think is so beautiful.

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You know whether you're Republican black, blue, yellow so a lot of times it's, you know, spending time with my friends and their kids.

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So if you catch me on a Saturday, I'm probably at a park with a bunch of kids and we're playing and we're just, we're just hanging out out so is it true that you?

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pay child support.

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I do, yeah, um, so, please, please, wife me up someone who's rich someone who's?

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and has money and has some money.

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Um, yeah, it's.

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Uh, arizona is not a mother state and I just, you know, there's things that have happened in my life where I'm like, of, of course, that would fucking happen to me, you know.

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But this is, the thing is like there's every sugar baby under the sun in Scottsdale and I dress like this I wear $45 Vans, I wear $25 jeans.

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You know, this shirt is probably from T-Mu, it probably has some lead in it.

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Sponsored by Froyo.

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No, sponsored by fro-yo.

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No, like I, uh, yeah, like it's.

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It's unfortunate, but again, it was another partner that I was with that really looked to me to be the decision maker, to be the alpha, and that was exhausting because at our true core and femininity, we're looking for rest, we're looking to be enablers and influencers, but we, we do.

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You could be the most like you know feminine person out there, but when you get with a man, you're looking for there to be a man who can also take those burdens off of you when it comes to decision-making.

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Or what are we going to have for dinner?

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I don't want to think about what we're going to fucking have for dinner.

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I made 25 business decisions today.

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I talked to 10 people, one who was, like, kind of deaf and with a cockeyed, you know?

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are you looking at me or?

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the bitch behind me, like I want to get home and I want you to tell me be ready at seven, we're going to the Hillstone, or the kids are taken care of, or blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

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So it's not because, as women, we can't make those decisions for ourselves.

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It's because when we have a true partnership, we have a lot of burdens on us.

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Just from the workday, just from being like god, I can't even think about what's the next thing I need to do or what's the best move I should do.

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So, um, you know, that's kind of that's.

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You know, again with my son Wiley, who I love him.

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But you know I pay child support and I have no qualms about it because he's going to understand that when he's 18 or 19 or 20, that mom provided and she made it fucking happen, cause your kids are always going to be taken care of.

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Have you ever dated a man who's super masculine, who is able to sort of take you out of that space and put you back in your feminine?

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No, um, masculine, who is able to sort of take you out of that space and put you back in your feminine?

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No, I don't think I.

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You know I've also there's been long periods of time where I've been single because I have to go through a lot of self-reflection, you know, I would say it definitely takes two, and I have ownership for my last breakup.

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You know, what I did which I'm not proud about is I started a fight to get us to the finish line and I did that because you know he told me he had stage four cancer, you know and that, and he didn't.

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I don't know your guys' experience with cancer, but unfortunately I feel like when people have stage four cancer they have like a year or two to live, but you know he's still going to raves and hanging out with 20 year olds and hanging out with people that really don't have a pot to piss in, and I don't want it to become that totally like shitting on people, but to me it's just matter of fact.

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You know, the sky is blue or you have blonde hair, it's just those are the things that that are, that were going on, and so I've never dated a guy.

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That's very you.

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You know machismo, and if my dad was still here, earth side, I think he would be not so happy with you, know.

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But you know, I think people do take advantage of good people.

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Your first impression of whoever you know, I'm going to believe it.

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I've been fucked over so many times.

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I'm still not that person that's like, oh, you have to earn my trust.

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No, you fully have it until you break it.

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So yeah, I probably need a month.

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I've always had more tattoos than the guy I've dated.

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I probably had more balls than anyone that I've dated.

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You know, and you know certainly I've never dated anyone who can keep up with me and or rides motorcycles.

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You might butt heads, though, you know, yeah, or do you think you would be able to sort of submit, I guess?

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for lack of a better word to uh like more of an alpha, Absolutely.

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Um, you know, I did it with my ex, you know.

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If he said, hey, you know this is, you know, this is what we're doing this weekend, oh, okay, I am going to give every man the opportunity to show that he's a man.

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And that's what's difficult right now in our dating culture, because we have so many women who have had to step in the masculine space of being the alpha woman.

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You know, we hear the term girl boss.

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Right, I don't really like that term.

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It's not something that I use, you know, even with myself, I would just rather say, hey, I'm a hardworking, dedicated person.

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Notice, I didn't even say woman.

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You know, I take gender out of it.

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I'm very equal.

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I hate both sexes equally, but both toxic equally.

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But, um, yeah, I, I, I will let you know.

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If you say you're going to do something, I'm going to let you do it and then, when it doesn't happen, I'm not going to say anything about it, Just know that it's like okay, I noticed that, that you noticed I noticed Speaking of sugar babies.

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Apparently I still got it Because on TikTok I've had multiple older men ask yeah girl To send me money in exchange for certain things no way.

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I said to my husband, I'm like should I let him pay for a new wardrobe?

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Seriously, if it's like feet pics or some shit like that, just like it has just the feet and like bigger the bungin, more the money, or something.

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You know what I mean.

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I should be like.

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So what exactly are we wanting in return?

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Come on, girl, Take one for the team Like jeez.

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I'm over here eating wiener schnel you and your Louis bag back there.

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I was so chuffed because I'm in my 40s and I still got it, you still got it.

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Yes, are you ready for it?

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I'm ready for it.

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We have a listener question.

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Jenny from the block wants to know.

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I've been dating someone amazing for six months but I recently found out they are still in touch with their ex.

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They say it's no big deal, but it's making me uneasy.

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Am I overreacting or is this a red flag?

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I feel like there's no reason to stay in contact with an ex unless you have kids together.

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Personally.

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Yeah, what do you think?

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You know I'm going to be very honest.

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Like you, have to set boundaries and what I would say is the way that sometimes it's not what we say, it's how we say it.

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So I feel, you know, personally, being a Christian woman, like I pray, you know, like God, please help me in a way to deliver this that doesn't hurt or totally annihilate the person or doesn't make me out to be the bad guy.

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But there is no reason for it unless you have children, absolutely not.

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It tuition, whether you want it, whatever you serve, whether it's buddha or something, if something is happening internally that's taking you out of peace and it's bringing confusion and chaos.

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You probably need to shut that down right away.

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Agreed, agreed, and I feel like so many people go back to their exes time and time again.

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Yeah, so for you to continue to chat with them and have a relationship with them.

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It always kind of leaves that door open, right?

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It?

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does I mean my son's dad?

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You know he was waiting for the shoe to drop, you know, on on.

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So he was talking to me but still talking to his ex and you know, when I ghosted him, you know they ended up.

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They were together like two weeks later and engaged four weeks later.

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That's what I feel like a lot of people keep their exes around as like a backup plan.

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Yeah, and it's more sad For when the new thing doesn't work out.

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If anything, it's more sad for them because you know that they're settling.

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For sure, For sure.

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So now we're going to discuss an article not really an article, but we posted that video on the professions most likely to cheat.

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Do you remember that?

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We got a lot of negative feedback from men.

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Surprise, surprise, that thought it was sexist that we were all referring to men cheating.

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Okay, so then there was this video female professions most?

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likely to cheat.

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There actually was this woman that released the video talking about what females are most likely to cheat.

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Number one females, who are the income earners, the breadwinners they're more likely to cheat yeah, oh for sure I.

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I mean it's funny because I made a joke.

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I was talking to this guy.

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The guy that, remember, you'll remember, asked me for money for his rent on our first date yeah, and I remember like I was out with a girlfriend and she was like, well, aren't you still talking to so and so?

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And I'm like, yeah, but he's asking me to pay his rent.

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Like I can do whatever the fuck I want it is.

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You know, men have that mindset, and so sometimes it's like you know yeah, it's.

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I mean, there's definitely that dichotomy.

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Right like, money equals power and in a weird way, that I saw that with my ex was like he looked to his roommate to you know, make moves or you know, everything depended on his room.

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Right, but to some people, money equals power and it also equals identity and then lack thereof.

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They have no identity or they have no power.

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But the thing is, listen, if you're going to be a guy that has no pot to piss in, then you better be the nicest fucking person I've ever met.

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You better be blowing leaves on me or something you know, listen, pick a struggle.

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You cannot be broke and an asshole okay, and so it's true.

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You know no it's so true, because that's what I was dealing with.

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I was like, oh my God, I have a guy that has like no money, 54, dependent on his male roommates who have money.

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But you know, I couldn't even go out in the dining room and work or I couldn't be out in the common spaces.

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I'm like I own four homes.

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I don't need to fucking be here, like what the fuck you know.

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And so there's that money aspect, when you are the breadwinner, to be like you know what, at any time I can leave, and also this person needs me more than I need them, so even if they break up with me, that's okay, break up with me.

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Tell everyone you broke up with me.

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Tell everyone oh, I'm done, that's fine.

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You know I instigated a fight to end it with my ex and blocked his number, and you know there was a couple emails exchanged hey, can I get my stuff?

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But I felt immediate relief because that person becomes just another liability in your life of someone that you have to take care of.

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And as women, we're naturally already prone to be taking care of our friends.

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You know this or that or whatever.

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So it's interesting to be the woman with it.

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It does equal power and it allows you to be like well, if I leave, you know, I don't feel as bad.

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I know a couple girls and they're with rich men who pay all their bills.

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They don't work and the men cheat.

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But what are they going to do?

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Leave because they don't want to get a job.

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These men take them on lavish vacations and buy them whatever they want, so it's like they're fine with it.

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You know, crazy, hey, different horses different courses.

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What are their numbers?

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Can I learn something I'm doing?

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it all fucking wrong.

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From the valley wants to be a sister.

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I want to be a sister wife.

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I'm okay with it yeah, are you guys in a commune do you wear jean skirts like I'm fine with it, like literally position, please.

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No, yeah, like you know, do you need me to do like a song and dance jig?

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Type of thing like please, mr rich man, I would love to you know, master, I would just love if you could provide for me with the sandals and the monies, or something you know because I'm like fuck, I'm paying child support, own four homes and I'm like, what am I?

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you need a break because you've worked hard for the money.

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I need a lobotomy, yeah.

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So number two was singers and entertainers.

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Oh yeah, I feel like actors too.

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Oh, I feel like you do a movie, a love scene with the guy you spend all that time together.

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That's got to be tough to stay well I mean angelina jolie slept with all of her coat like her and and then she married them.

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You know, I mean billy bob thornton.

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She took from laura dern, right, yeah, you know, you take brad from you know, I mean she was a serious, I mean, but she knew it, you can see it.

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Brad from you know I mean she was a serious, I mean, but she knew it.

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You can see it in her eyes.

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You know what kind of makes me sad.

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So do you watch 1923?

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Oh, yes, I do, spencer Dutton, I'm in love with Spencer Dutton.

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Hello, yes, so the actor, Brandon Sklenar.

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So he has been in a relationship for since COVID.

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It was a COVID relationship.

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They were dating online about this and I do and so well and because he's kind of like a homebody, he's shy, introverted, he doesn't go out so he was, like you know, when covid happened, I went online and I met her.

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She's a nutritionist and a personal trainer.

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Anyways, lovely couple, great, they seem great together and he's always been talking about how in love he is with her and how he's so excited to get home to her and I'm like, oh, that's nice, finally an actor that doesn't you know go around town with his co-work co-star or his partner is another actress yeah, but then there have been pictures circulating of him at a concert canoodling with sydney sweeney canoodling.

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Who knows, they could just be friends or they could be practicing for a role.

00:29:59.582 --> 00:30:01.042
No, they're not friends, they're not.

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I don't canoodle with my friends, I'm sorry, but Sydney Sweeney, have you seen her Like?

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If you're canoodling with her, you're more than friends.

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She's got a hot body Because she is so fucking hot.

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Yeah, like she is so hot, her body is fire.

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Yeah, because, like face wise, she does look like the girl next door.

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You know like I swear to God.

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I just saw Sydney Swinney this morning at like 99 cent store, don't?

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ask me why, I was there.

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Okay, I just paid shots for her.

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Anyways, number three is flight attendants.

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Surprise, surprise.

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Flight crew.

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I was going to say nurses, pilots, were on the men's list anyways.

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Yeah, but it is true.

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You have so many flight attendants that not only become flight attendants to meet the pilots, but so many of them play around with the pilots.

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even if the pilots are married, it happens a lot, oh God, just still fly the plane if we're on Spirit or Frontier.

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Do whatever you want, just please, I don't want to be going down, right.

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Or someone's going down in that cockpit.

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Oh yeah, oh geez.

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So the number four one is social media influencers.

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They're just all about getting attention they love getting popular and yeah, so that's it.

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Wow, there was another um there were not nurses on there like oh, I know I am a little bit surprised yeah well, female nurses are.

00:31:13.372 --> 00:31:16.257
Well, they're big alkeys, sorry are they really?

00:31:16.458 --> 00:31:17.618
I did not know that.

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Yeah, I can imagine the things that they see at work.

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Well, and I have a friend who was she cheated on her husband.

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So she she cheated with her doctor.

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So she worked for this doctor and her and the doctor ended up getting married.

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But they both were cheating on their spouses.

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So he was a doctor, she was his nurse, they were both in relationship separately, started cheating with each other, they ended up getting married and then and then she ended up cheating on the doctor with her personal trainer.

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So oh god, wow so karma for him but she's a good friend, though no, no she she's a friend that I am no longer friends with.

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I should say an old friend.

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She's an old friend.

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She's someone I knew in the past.

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I feel like that's got to be.

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The worst is for your significant other to leave you for someone else and for you to be sat there single inside and depressed, and to see them so happy in a new relationship in the honeymoon phase.

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Hasn't that got to be hard?

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you know what, though I think it's like there's when you come out of a relationship.

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You know, this is what I've.

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I full-on practice is like the immediate feeling you feel, let's's say the morning of right.

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If it's a negative feeling, allow yourself to feel that for like 15 to 20 minutes.

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Get put, at least put a timer on that negative feeling, to feel that space.

00:32:33.070 --> 00:32:50.757
If it's a positive feeling whereas, like with my ex and myself, I woke up and felt immediate relief If it's a positive feeling, though, lean into that positive feeling and run on that feeling, and that is something that, even coming out of my most recent relationship, I have.

00:32:50.757 --> 00:33:03.109
You know, go back to that place where you felt that sense of relief, but it must be heartbreaking, you know that's like Shania Twain, you know her husband went for the best friend, so she went for the best friend's husband, and now they've been together for like 20 years.

00:33:03.130 --> 00:33:09.411
Yeah, so, um, I think sometimes we think the way that you meet someone is indicative of whether or not it's going to work out.

00:33:09.411 --> 00:33:13.568
I don't think it has anything to do with anything really, but I can't imagine.

00:33:13.628 --> 00:33:18.409
Yeah, that's very hard now it's time for the celebrity cut, where we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.

00:33:18.409 --> 00:33:26.326
Speaking of gold diggers, did you hear about Bill Belichick and his 24 year old girlfriend and her attitude on the interview?

00:33:26.326 --> 00:33:30.576
Oh man, so it's crazy to me how they apparently met on met on a flight.

00:33:30.576 --> 00:33:31.487
Which is that true?

00:33:31.487 --> 00:33:46.045
Because I'm sure he was flying first class, or I would assume he flies private jet guardian that got her into first class her father is a fisherman and her mother owns a sex toy shop, so does she come from money?

00:33:46.125 --> 00:33:50.503
it doesn't seem to be the case you know there's a ton of money in sex toys oh, is there my?

00:33:50.503 --> 00:33:59.409
Yeah, my ex wasn't my ex was in commercial real estate and one of his clients owned something in the sex toy industry.

00:33:59.549 --> 00:34:08.257
And there is so much money, so maybe she was flying first class and maybe they did meet on an airplane, but so they've been together for what a year maybe.

00:34:08.257 --> 00:34:16.126
And they did this decent amount of time interview because he's coming out with the book and the host asked him hey, how'd you guys meet?

00:34:16.126 --> 00:34:20.235
And she just went off and was like no, we are not talking about that you are not asking.

00:34:20.255 --> 00:34:35.572
That was last week, that was recent, yeah, and she stormed off and like delayed the interview for 30 minutes and I apparently kept interview um, interrupting yeah, and ruined the whole interview to the point where they really had to like shut it all down, edit and try to salvage the interview.

00:34:35.572 --> 00:34:43.677
There was supposed to be two parts to the interview but they scrapped the second part because it was so bad, because she was so controlling and kept interrupting.

00:34:43.737 --> 00:34:45.268
Did she tell them beforehand?

00:34:45.268 --> 00:35:03.246
She didn't want to talk about that, though, yeah because they can do that because journal like I feel like journalists do do that is they try, you know, you give your non-negotiables beforehand like I'm not talking about this, this or this, because I would be pissed too if I said, listen, we're not talking about this, this and this and then the journalist tries to ask the question.

00:35:03.246 --> 00:35:06.333
Yeah, for that reason I could.

00:35:06.333 --> 00:35:11.255
That would be the only reason I could see the response warranted but why not answer the question?

00:35:11.295 --> 00:35:11.998
what do you have to hide?

00:35:11.998 --> 00:35:18.496
That means it was an innocuous question, that she just blew up about it, and if you really did meet on a plane, just say you.

00:35:18.496 --> 00:35:19.425
Just say you met on a plane.

00:35:19.425 --> 00:35:21.751
It makes me think was she an only fans model?

00:35:22.070 --> 00:35:23.233
I say what are the rumors?

00:35:23.233 --> 00:35:25.938
Are there rumors that they met some other place?

00:35:26.445 --> 00:35:28.472
There are rumors that they did not meet on a plane.

00:35:28.472 --> 00:35:30.789
Yeah, I would like to see what I mean?

00:35:30.809 --> 00:35:32.556
you know, it wasn't frontier spirit.

00:35:32.684 --> 00:35:41.510
Okay, I'm back there sitting next to Uncle Cracker right, who's last hit was like 2002, you know, with your knees in the seat in front of you, southwest is throwing peanuts in my mouth.

00:35:41.510 --> 00:35:42.893
They don't even hand them out, right they?

00:35:42.914 --> 00:35:46.873
just throw it in your bobbing for peanuts you know there's a 49-year difference.

00:35:47.105 --> 00:35:48.711
She's 24, right.

00:35:49.065 --> 00:35:50.472
So he there's.

00:35:50.472 --> 00:35:52.744
Just I don't think there's any business of you being.

00:35:52.744 --> 00:35:54.512
I mean, picture that woman as a little girl.

00:35:54.512 --> 00:36:01.577
I just think, that's, you know, my ex was 22 years older than me and now that I think Like we had no business actually being together.

00:36:01.597 --> 00:36:03.119
Was that too much of an age difference for you?

00:36:03.119 --> 00:36:12.985
I was just going to ask how that makes me think it wasn't, but it was too much of an age difference for him to be broke and judging me constantly and telling me my life was messy and chaotic.

00:36:13.065 --> 00:36:16.456
If you're going to date way older, at least make sure he has a ton of money, you know.

00:36:16.945 --> 00:36:18.150
Yeah, exactly.

00:36:18.150 --> 00:36:21.596
So anyways, but I mean yeah, 49 age difference.

00:36:21.704 --> 00:36:22.567
49's too much.

00:36:22.567 --> 00:36:27.237
I think around 20 years would be the very most I could do.

00:36:27.844 --> 00:36:42.717
49 year age difference is a lot, it's a lot right, and so she just purchased $9 million in real estate I'm assuming it was his money and she just signed on with this investment firm that you are required to have a minimum of $2 million to join them.

00:36:43.005 --> 00:36:45.550
And she has a minimum of two million to join them.

00:36:45.550 --> 00:36:49.697
And she has a minimum of two million and she also is now the COO of Belichick Productions.

00:36:49.697 --> 00:36:54.733
So he's like giving her a lot of responsibility and there's no ring or anything.

00:36:54.733 --> 00:36:55.534
No, ring, no.

00:36:55.534 --> 00:36:58.547
And didn't he break up with his 60 year old girlfriend?

00:36:58.547 --> 00:36:59.869
For for this girl?

00:37:00.472 --> 00:37:00.913
oh well.

00:37:00.913 --> 00:37:02.777
I'm sure I mean, and I'm sure they were.

00:37:02.777 --> 00:37:05.771
I'm sure they've been together a lot longer than nine months.

00:37:05.771 --> 00:37:06.693
You know a year.

00:37:06.793 --> 00:37:11.451
That's just if I was his kids, I'd be kind of a little worried and pissed, you know like.

00:37:11.451 --> 00:37:15.028
And what if he leaves all of his money to her and his kids are left out of the will?

00:37:15.429 --> 00:37:17.556
oh, I doubt that will happen.

00:37:17.697 --> 00:37:24.965
I doubt it it's just, it's a lot that's, that's just crazy bananas so what is your favorite place to go on a first date?

00:37:24.965 --> 00:37:29.655
So I'm very old school and the thing is I'm not on any dating apps.

00:37:29.655 --> 00:37:34.574
You're not gonna see me on, you know, tinder, or what's I heard about grinder the I?

00:37:34.614 --> 00:37:36.847
don't even know what that is, but it had nothing to do with me.

00:37:36.967 --> 00:37:41.418
It had nothing to do with prosciutto and meat and I was very upset about it.

00:37:41.418 --> 00:37:49.826
Um, I thought, oh man, maybe they have like premium steaks on there no, no, no no so anyway, but yeah, you're not gonna see me on any of the dating apps or anything.

00:37:49.885 --> 00:37:59.960
But you know, dinner wine, I have like one glass alcohol minima, like that's always just been my rule, and it's like, hey, let's just have a, you know a cool two hours together.

00:37:59.960 --> 00:38:13.317
But yeah, just anywhere around like Arcadia, phoenix, I love to go somewhere where it's like, hey, let's, let's go somewhere here for dinner and then go somewhere else for dessert and then, like, have a glass of wine and then I'm in bed by nine, because I have to be in bed by nine.

00:38:13.317 --> 00:38:16.351
You know, my lower lumbar is like screaming at that point.

00:38:16.452 --> 00:38:25.034
So yeah, so now it's time for the most delicious segment of the show, zoyo and and Tal, sponsored by Zoyo, your neighborhood yogurt.

00:38:25.034 --> 00:38:25.876
Oh, here we go.

00:38:25.876 --> 00:38:27.898
Good card, some are innocent.

00:38:27.918 --> 00:38:28.900
Some are not so innocent.

00:38:28.900 --> 00:38:31.353
Don't make me sweat like a horned church over here you might.

00:38:31.806 --> 00:38:32.992
The cards are spicy.

00:38:32.992 --> 00:38:37.644
Oh, I should pick one, you pick one from the bowl.

00:38:38.005 --> 00:38:38.949
Okay, am I answering.

00:38:39.210 --> 00:38:39.311
Yes.

00:38:41.146 --> 00:38:42.793
It's all about you, allie from the Valley.

00:38:42.793 --> 00:38:44.047
Oh crap, yeah, you answer.

00:38:44.047 --> 00:38:48.175
It's all about you, ali from the valley.

00:38:48.195 --> 00:38:52.344
Oh my gosh, this one is not bad at all wait you might want me to pick a juicier.

00:38:53.246 --> 00:38:53.447
What's?

00:38:53.626 --> 00:38:54.909
your okay, what's your?

00:38:54.990 --> 00:38:55.773
worst habit?

00:38:55.773 --> 00:38:57.617
Okay, answer that and then pick another one.

00:38:57.617 --> 00:39:02.793
Okay, my worst habit is that I can watch dateline in 2020 like 48 hours.

00:39:02.793 --> 00:39:10.456
Yeah, um, and I know a lot about the US statutes from Dateline, so interesting fact I know.

00:39:10.456 --> 00:39:11.659
Okay.

00:39:11.659 --> 00:39:14.867
Oh, my god, have you ever had sex with more than one person in a day?

00:39:14.867 --> 00:39:16.992
No, you guys, I haven't.

00:39:17.092 --> 00:39:19.259
I haven't even had sex in the last month.

00:39:19.259 --> 00:39:20.427
I know, I know.

00:39:20.686 --> 00:39:23.213
I'm like such a vanilla beige person.

00:39:23.213 --> 00:39:23.976
Okay.

00:39:28.485 --> 00:39:29.987
Have you ever gone out on more than one date?

00:39:30.007 --> 00:39:30.347
in a day.

00:39:30.347 --> 00:39:35.456
Yes, I was 19 and I really needed food, so we were working.00:39:35.456 --> 00:39:38.300


Listen, we've all done a lot worse for us.00:39:38.300 --> 00:39:50.711


Okay, like, seriously Like a lot of my friends are dancers and strippers and some of my friends are like and strippers and some of my friends are like into OnlyFans and stuff and I'm like there's no way I could talk down upon them, because at least they're getting fucking paid.00:39:50.711 --> 00:39:54.914


I'm getting fucked over here for free, that's hilarious.00:39:55.295 --> 00:39:56.297


Did you have any other questions?00:39:56.605 --> 00:39:59.353


I need to know how you got the nickname Allie from the Valley.00:39:59.974 --> 00:40:02.932


Oh my God, Okay, so I was okay.00:40:02.932 --> 00:40:08.967


Valley oh my god, okay, so I was okay.00:40:08.967 --> 00:40:09.929


I got this nickname from an ex.00:40:09.929 --> 00:40:10.811


His name, um, is nasium nasium razul.00:40:10.811 --> 00:40:15.226


If you're out there, I still think you have the most amazing blue eyes, um, so I was drunk in old town.00:40:15.226 --> 00:40:19.333


Surprise, surprise, we were right there with you.00:40:19.373 --> 00:40:20.677


Yes, I know, yeah.00:40:20.677 --> 00:40:31.710


So I roll up on my motorcycle and my roommate is dating this guy and she's dating Najim, and I'm like, first off, you can't really get a reaction out of me ever Like a guy cannot at a bar.00:40:31.710 --> 00:40:33.295


Because I want to be there, I want to have fun.00:40:33.295 --> 00:40:35.994


I've gone to bars by myself, like on my motorcycle.00:40:35.994 --> 00:40:37.748


I just sit there, enjoy a drink, leave.00:40:37.748 --> 00:40:39.791


So I was, you know.00:40:39.791 --> 00:40:43.179


I don't know what it was, but I started calling him Aladdin because he's Middle Eastern.00:40:43.179 --> 00:40:45.664


Oh my God, that is hilarious.00:40:45.664 --> 00:40:46.025


Yeah, girl.00:40:46.025 --> 00:40:48.293


And I was like where'd you park your magic carpet?00:40:48.293 --> 00:40:50.463


That is hilarious.00:40:50.463 --> 00:40:53.534


And he thought it was the funniest fucking thing.00:40:53.905 --> 00:41:00.690


And my friends are like they're like white knuckling, like the dirty leather seats at the district, like their hands are sticking to it.00:41:00.690 --> 00:41:06.438


They're like cut, cut, don't be yourself right now, because I'm just like this is what you're going to get, you know.00:41:06.438 --> 00:41:09.608


And so I just thought it was funny as fuck.00:41:09.608 --> 00:41:13.677


And so he started talking to me and he was like, hey, your roommate and I did not work out.00:41:13.677 --> 00:41:16.871


She's like so negative, you're the fucking life of the party.00:41:16.871 --> 00:41:26.994


Like I've been wanting to date you ever since I saw you two months ago, like I have been dying to be with you, um, and it ended up being a really great relationship.00:41:26.994 --> 00:41:27.757


That just didn't work out.00:41:27.757 --> 00:41:29.664


But one day I walked in I graded my students papers.00:41:29.664 --> 00:41:33.094


I used to, you know I I used to be a middle school and high school teacher.00:41:33.094 --> 00:41:38.454


So I'm like okay, like Luis's paper is done, c minus, let's go out to old town.00:41:38.494 --> 00:41:45.807


Like fuck this, I'm ready to go and he's like woo Allie from the Valley's ready and it just stuck.00:41:45.827 --> 00:41:55.365


But let me tell you, I have it trademarked and I have it LLC'd and he got so pissed a couple of years ago he actually reached out to me and said you know, if you ever make money off that name, I'm coming after you.00:41:55.646 --> 00:41:58.010


Wow Are you serious?00:41:58.590 --> 00:41:59.853


Yes, yes.00:41:59.853 --> 00:42:04.460


And I was like, well, good thing, I only have like 50 bucks in my bank account.00:42:04.460 --> 00:42:06.389


Like you have nothing to worry about right now.00:42:06.389 --> 00:42:09.793


I just got laid off and you know, it was like a couple of years ago.00:42:09.813 --> 00:42:11.385


Did things end badly with him.00:42:11.545 --> 00:42:12.307


So why did it be?00:42:12.347 --> 00:42:12.730


that.00:42:12.730 --> 00:42:13.873


Why didn't it work out with?00:42:13.934 --> 00:42:14.355


Aladdin.00:42:15.606 --> 00:42:17.288


Oh, we love our little Aladdin.00:42:17.288 --> 00:42:27.398


Oh, my God, um, it just was, um, you know, just a little too controlling, you know, I mean it was crazy, I mean and just disrespectful.00:42:27.398 --> 00:42:36.943


Like I would be out in Old Town, you know he would tell me oh, I'm going to sit this one out, you know, and he lived at San Marin, which is like right next to all the bars.00:42:37.385 --> 00:42:42.271


That's a red flag living in that apartment complex, I feel like the fuckboy beehive.00:42:42.311 --> 00:42:45.527


Right, right, right apartment complex.00:42:45.527 --> 00:42:46.210


I feel like the fuckboy beehive.00:42:46.210 --> 00:42:47.132


Right, right, right, exactly, the fuckboy beehive.00:42:47.132 --> 00:42:47.815


The fuckboy beehive, yeah, yeah.00:42:47.815 --> 00:42:55.315


So if they say you know they live first of all, if they say an apartment name, just run, just put your Nikes on, take off the heels and just be like you know.00:42:55.637 --> 00:42:57.246


And again, nothing wrong with it.00:42:57.246 --> 00:43:01.994


I mean at least he didn't have roommates and was 54, so I mean you got to pick your poison.00:43:01.994 --> 00:43:04.719


But yeah, he sent me this long ass message.00:43:04.719 --> 00:43:06.867


I just got back from working Coachella.00:43:06.867 --> 00:43:08.773


I had just met, like I was in.00:43:08.773 --> 00:43:13.271


I was in charge of Emma Stone's trailer, so I like had to make sure everything's all good and whatever.00:43:13.271 --> 00:43:19.400


And so you know it's funny, because I go to Mastro's and people are like um, reservation for Allie from the Valley.00:43:19.400 --> 00:43:21.347


I'm like you realize my last name is or last.00:43:21.387 --> 00:43:29.231


Like hilarious yeah and so I had girls that would come up to me in old town, be like are you, allie from the valley?00:43:29.231 --> 00:43:35.630


And I was like guys, I literally am not known for anything, I'm a high school teacher, I'm just trying to make it high, like I literally don't care.00:43:35.630 --> 00:43:45.438


But like he got more pissed off that, like I didn't really care about it, it just was like you know, I'm from Arizona, I'm nice, I'm a high school teacher, you know, at the time I ride my motorcycle, that's it.00:43:45.438 --> 00:43:48.905


So anyway, yeah, he was like I'm gonna sue and blah, blah, blah.00:43:48.905 --> 00:44:00.289


But no, it didn't work out just because I'd go out to old town and be like oh, my boyfriend doesn't feel well, he's in bed right now, and then he would walk right past me and not even say hi wow, oh my god, are you kidding?00:44:00.329 --> 00:44:04.960


me, yeah, he would, and like his friends would be like, isn't that like two plus two?00:44:04.960 --> 00:44:06.023


I thought you said he was at home.00:44:06.525 --> 00:44:06.726


Wait.00:44:06.726 --> 00:44:09.295


So how does the conversation go after that, when you guys see each other?00:44:09.865 --> 00:44:20.512


Oh well, back then I was just a little bit like you know, that relationship ended because I loved to party and my mom had just died, unfortunately, and my sister and I are really different.00:44:20.512 --> 00:44:32.898


She, like it, becomes a recluse and I'm like I have to be surrounded by I didn't even drink, drink too much, you know like so anyway, it would just be like, okay, well, you're gonna have.00:44:32.898 --> 00:44:33.059


I'm not.00:44:33.059 --> 00:44:42.076


I'm never going to publicly embarrass my man, but I'm the type that's like when we get home I'm gonna fucking bop you you know, like the teeth aren't even moving you know, like I'm, like, I'm gonna be in private.00:44:42.115 --> 00:44:43.018


I'm gonna beat your ass.00:44:43.018 --> 00:44:44.766


So yeah, um, I went back.00:44:44.766 --> 00:44:51.849


I actually left the club and I walked, do, do, do, do, do, like dinosaur in my heels and I climbed over the San Marin.00:44:52.010 --> 00:44:59.873


I couldn't get in oh my gosh, I climbed over hilarious and I went into his house and I took the sharpie marker and I drew a big dick on his wall.00:44:59.873 --> 00:45:05.407


And the maintenance guy the next week was like, were you the one that that drew the big penis on his?00:45:05.407 --> 00:45:06.650


What, were you the one who did that?00:45:06.650 --> 00:45:09.317


And I was like, yeah, I'm so sorry.00:45:09.317 --> 00:45:13.112


And he's like I thought it was the funniest thing I'd ever seen, but it took two coats of paint.00:45:13.112 --> 00:45:16.612


And I'm like, well, that fucker deserved it, you know.00:45:16.612 --> 00:45:21.789


And then I took a hundred dollars out of his drawer and I went out back to old town and I bought drinks for all me and my girls.00:45:21.909 --> 00:45:22.630


Good for you.00:45:22.650 --> 00:45:25.175


Yeah so you know it's just.00:45:25.436 --> 00:45:26.077


Payback's a bitch.00:45:26.077 --> 00:45:27.079


I don't go quietly.00:45:27.079 --> 00:45:28.811


Don't fuck with Allie from the Valley.00:45:28.985 --> 00:45:37.188


Don't fuck with me you know, because everyone tries to act hard these days and it's like so funny because my mom was like 5'10" cowboy boots.00:45:37.188 --> 00:45:40.090


If you even looked at her wrong, she was like, oh, let's fucking go.00:45:40.090 --> 00:45:41.552


You know, that's funny.00:45:41.552 --> 00:45:43.755


So I remember we were in the foothills in Tucson.00:45:43.755 --> 00:45:50.280


My mom put the car in park and she got out of the Mercedes and she just dragged this girl out by her hair and I was like five.00:45:50.280 --> 00:46:12.547


I was like well, it's just another Tuesday, like on my Etch-a-Sketch, like you know no-transcript, and she's like this girl's crazy.00:46:12.547 --> 00:46:14.068


I'm like I'm not fucking crazy.00:46:14.068 --> 00:46:16.331


Just don't talk about people behind their backs.00:46:16.331 --> 00:46:17.492


Like don't do that.00:46:17.492 --> 00:46:19.235


You know, like I don't that.00:46:19.235 --> 00:46:22.619


I'll tell you right, right, right away how I fell well.00:46:22.639 --> 00:46:25.047


Thank you so much for joining us here at the meat market this week.00:46:25.047 --> 00:46:27.172


And thank you so much, ali from the valley.00:46:27.172 --> 00:46:34.309


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Oh my God, I just totally got catfished.00:46:49.052 --> 00:46:51.077


He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.00:46:51.565 --> 00:46:56.195


So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:46:56.195 --> 00:46:58.360


His wife just reached out to me.