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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.
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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.
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So I found out the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.
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His wife just reached out to me.
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Welcome to the meat market.
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The single scene is a slaughterhouse, and we are here to devour it.
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We are your hosts.
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I'm Lindsay.
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I'm Jess.
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And today's sizzling sexy single is Mika.
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Welcome.
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Hello, hello.
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Gorgeous, stunning, love your style.
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Thank you so much.
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So your gender of preference is women, and you dated one man and that was it.
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Yes.
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Was it that bad?
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No, no, no, no.
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It was not that bad.
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It was seven years, high school sweetheart.
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Um, yeah, I feel like I maybe always knew, but you know, you can't really test those waters when you're young.
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And back then I definitely couldn't felt like I couldn't test those waters.
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So yeah, but seven years engaged to be married, and then kind of left at the altar.
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Oh my god.
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You did?
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Was he heartbroken?
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No, well, he was the one that called it off like a month before the wedding.
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So yeah, I was definitely heartbroken, but you know.
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Did you go?
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Was it where you grew up, obviously?
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If it was a high school sweetheart, did you grow up somewhere super conservative?
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I didn't.
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I grew up in Vegas, didn't say.
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And you still and you still felt like it was what you were supposed to do.
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Yeah, you know, because I just felt like, you know, I did I knew a lot of people, and so I didn't know how they would receive me.
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I didn't know if they would be like, oh my gosh, did you guys hear me?
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Because you're lesbian.
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Like, that's crazy, you know.
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So I didn't really know how they would receive it.
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So yeah.
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So when you finally had your first experience with a woman, were you like, hell yeah, this is it?
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I found my calling was it?
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Oh yeah.
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You know what I mean?
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Like, were you like, you were sure and like this is who I am.
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This is who I am.
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Sorry, that's what I meant.
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Absolutely.
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It's that first experience.
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I was like, oh yeah, this is where I was supposed to be.
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And the rest is history.
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The rest is history.
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So, how do you meet girls out here?
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Are there like are you on the dating apps?
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I am not on any dating apps.
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No, none.
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And believe it or not, women don't approach me.
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Some people, you know, I recently someone told me they were like, Mika, you carry yourself like a wife.
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I thought you were someone's wife.
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So maybe that's why people don't approach you.
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I don't know.
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I'm I think I'm very friendly and approachable.
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I don't look like you do come across as very intimidating because you're so beautiful and strong and confident and your style.
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You just I can see how people would be a little intimidated.
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Yeah.
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But you are so nice and fun.
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Thank you.
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Thank you, thank you.
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Yeah.
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I don't know.
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If they don't approach me though.
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Do you like it when women approach you or do you like to take charge?
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I would prefer the woman to approach me, but you know, if I see something, I like it and I want it, I'm not shy to go and say, hey, you know, but usually when I do that, they're straight.
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Oh no! I was just gonna ask that.
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Will you go up to women not knowing and try to how if you see a woman that you're attracted to and you're not sure whether she's straight or gay, but you think, I'm gonna go approach this situation, how do you do that?
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You know?
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Yeah, yeah.
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I usually just go up and like, you know, compliment her, like, you are so gorgeous.
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And then usually she might say, Oh my gosh, you too.
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And then I just kind of read the body language from there.
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Uh-huh.
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If she kind of leans in or kind of give me those flirty eyes, I'm like, Yep, yes.
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But if she's like, Thank you so much, girl, I'm like, okay, she's not with me.
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Depending on if it's like a sultry thank you or like a kiki thank you, it's like it is it's exactly that the the vibe.
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Yep.
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I was hit on by a woman once at a bar.
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Uh-huh.
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And it it was interesting because it she sort of did that same thing.
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Like we just started chatting.
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And then I think I think my personality is just very naturally flirtatious.
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And so I think I confused her.
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I think she couldn't tell what exactly I was looking for.
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Because then at one point she was like, Well, if you ever want to go out, like for and I was like, wait a second.
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I was like, are you like asking me out?
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Asking and she was like, Well, yeah, kind of.
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And I was like, Oh, yeah, no.
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I was like, I'm sorry.
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Confuse the gay dark.
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The gay dar is a is a real thing too.
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Because sometimes I can just pick up on it, like I can just tell by you know body language, it just the things that they say.
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So yeah, gay art is a real thing.
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Yeah, but you confuse her gay.
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That's I did.
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I think I did.
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I remember I was at a strip club one time.
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The one, the big one in Phoenix, which what is that called?
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I forgot.
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Jaguars.
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No.
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I forget the name of it.
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But, anyways, and there was this beautiful girl that I was trying to, and I was with a guy that I was dating, and she wanted to kiss me.
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And I love I love women.
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I I definitely, you know, I would consider myself bisexual, and I was really wanting to kiss her.
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But to be respectful to the guy I was dating, I was like, hey, she's never kissed a girl, she wants to kiss me.
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Do I have the green light?
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And he's like, Absolutely not.
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If you kiss her, I'm leaving you, I'm leaving you stranded here, you're not coming.
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And he just went off.
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I never saw the guy again.
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I was like, come on! I wanted to kiss this woman who's never kissed a girl in her life.
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I wanted to be her first, and he got so upset.
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Also, as a man, you take the woman you're dating to a strip club, but then you get upset when she's open to being like exploring with the data.
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Like, that makes zero sense.
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Absolutely no sense whatsoever.
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But you know, a lot of people think that guys are with it, you know, like, oh, they think it's hot that two girls can, you know, come together.
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A lot of them don't think that's hot at all.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Because the ex, the one guy, he was like, absolutely not.
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Really?
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Yeah, he was not, yeah, no.
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But if that's not what you're into, why would you bring a woman?
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Why would you bring the woman you're dating to a strip club?
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With all these hot, like half-naked chicks.
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Yes.
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I mean, it's so true.
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So, what would you say is the biggest difference between dating men and women?
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Is there a big difference?
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I would say like women are softer, not just like skin-wise, but skin-wise, ooh, yes.
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But just, I don't know, it's just a different kind of connection when you're dating a woman.
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Like everything is like so emotional, and you know, you can well, I won't say that because I have encountered women that do not open up, but for the most part, you know, women are soft and they like to, you know, guys are all rough and you know, I don't really know how else to explain it, but yes, there is definitely a difference.
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I feel like women probably are more comfortable being open and vulnerable with another woman than they are with a man.
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You know what I mean?
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Because I feel like men's complaint with women nowadays is women are too masculine and women, you know, they want to be in control and they want to be the uh the leader of the relationship.
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And so I wonder if it's just women are probably more comfortable opening up and being more soft when they're dating other women versus when they're dating men.
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Possibly.
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Yeah, that's interesting.
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So do you like to be the one that's in control in a relationship, like the Dom, or do you like to be the sub, like the the little princess?
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I know you were saying that.
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So naturally, I'm a Leo, so I'm I'm a leader, I'm the oldest of four children.
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So I'm used to leading.
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So typically, I do like to lead.
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However, the women that typically like me are the more masked women.
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And so, you know, I kind of try to let them leave for the most part.
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Um, but right now where I'm at in life, I'm 41 years old.
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I'm ready to be led.
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I am ready to be led.
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But typically it's me.
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Yeah.
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Is that your type though?
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Like a more masked lesbian?
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I like all women.
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So like it doesn't even matter.
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I just love women.
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Okay.
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Okay.
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So physical looks, you don't necessarily have a type.
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No.
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But if you know, if I come across a woman and she wants to get dolled up with me, let's do it, babe.
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But if not, that's okay too.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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Oh, no, what do they call lipstick lesbian?
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A little lipstick.
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I'm like, do they still say that?
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They do.
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They definitely consider me a lipstick lesbian.
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Okay.
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So what are you looking to get married?
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Are you looking to have kids?
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Like, what are you looking for?
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I am.
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I would love to be married.
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Like, I see myself being someone's wife.
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Like I said, I'm 41.
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Uh the having children isn't off the table.
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If I encounter a woman that wants to do it, let's do it.
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I have no babies, but I'm also open to no children as well.
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So if you don't mind me asking, why did your last relationship end?
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Excuse me.
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Are we talking about the actual relationship or a situation ship?
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Is that both good stories?
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Tell us first.
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So my last official relationship ended just because we both had our things.
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You know, I was going through grief.
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I lost my mom in 2018, ran from it because again, I have to be the leader.
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I have younger brothers that lost a mom, my grandparents lost a child, all the things.
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And so for me, I just I ran from it.
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And then one day it tapped me on the shoulder and was like, hey girl, hey.
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And at that point, you know, I spoke to my partner at the time about it.
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And because she hadn't dealt with her childhood traumas, it caused a lot of problems in our relationship.
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I lasted about a month, and finally I was like, you know what?
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I gotta choose me.
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We were engaged to be married, had been together for four, I want to say four years, but yeah, I had to choose me in that moment.
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So two engagements.
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Have you been engaged any other time?
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This needs to be sound like I'm the problem.
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Oh, did you realize you were coming here for an intervention?
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Therapy session.
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Thank you.
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That is hilarious.
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I've actually been engaged three times in my life.
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Um, no, I'm not the problem.
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Have I caused problems?
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I have, but ultimately, we've both been the problem.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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I feel like though, that says that you're wife material.
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If you have had three partners that have been will like willing, that have been open, that have wanted to get married to you.
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I think it does say something also about your character, not just that you're the problem, but it says that you are wife material.
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And at least you're smart enough to not go down the aisle and go through with it.
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You know, I we know people at your age that have been married and divorced three or four times.
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So at least you've never had to deal with that drama, you know?
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Exactly, thankfully, right?
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Yeah.
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Once I see the type of person I am, once I see that this isn't working, I'll walk, even if it means breaking my own heart.
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Because at the end of the day, I gotta choose me.
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Good for you.
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Now, are women just as scandalous as men?
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Women complain all the time about men and how douchey they're and how they cheat and how they're you know sneaky, but I bet women are just as bad, no?
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Oh, absolutely.
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Women, they might be worse.
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Let's just be honest.
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I mean, if you look at statistics, women do cheat more than men statistically.
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And there was that thing that was out recently, and we've talked about it before, that the number one divorce rate is women and women, number two is women and men, and then the third is gay men.
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So men and men.
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Women are the problem.
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Women are the men are saying, well, obviously, what's the common denominator?
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The women.
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I mean, just so am I.