April 1, 2026

Military Woman Exposes What She ACTUALLY Wants In A Man

Military Woman Exposes What She ACTUALLY Wants In A Man

Reily joins the show, and the dating stories immediately go off the rails! She spent ten years in the Army, lived in Bangkok as a foreign exchange student, and has seen enough chaos to make modern dating feel almost predictable. From boot camp drama to learning how confidence becomes a survival skill, her life path makes the dating world look like just another obstacle course. Then we get into the real topic: Dating, the stereotypes, the jealous partners, the disappearing acts, and the red f...

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Season 1

Reily joins the show, and the dating stories immediately go off the rails!

She spent ten years in the Army, lived in Bangkok as a foreign exchange student, and has seen enough chaos to make modern dating feel almost predictable. From boot camp drama to learning how confidence becomes a survival skill, her life path makes the dating world look like just another obstacle course.

Then we get into the real topic: Dating, the stereotypes, the jealous partners, the disappearing acts, and the red flags people magically ignore because someone is attractive for about five minutes.

It is messy, funny, and painfully relatable if you have ever tried to date in the real world.

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00:00 - Catfish And Secret Family Shock

00:15 - Meet The Hosts And Riley

00:46 - Thailand Exchange Culture Shock

09:36 - Joining The Army For Adventure

10:48 - Boot Camp Politics And Proving Yourself

13:55 - High Ticket Sales And Big Income

16:15 - Dating Military Men Red Flags

19:26 - Hinge Relationship Turns Into Ghosting

29:12 - When Your Success Intimidates Dates

35:34 - Advice Question About His Family

38:36 - Hottest Red Flags People Ignored

42:13 - Kylie Jenner Goodwill Debate

43:32 - First Date Rules And Rapid Fire

49:38 - Wrap Up And How To Find Riley

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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the meat market.

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The single scene is a slaughterhouse, and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay.

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I'm Jess.

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And today's sizzling single is Riley.

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Welcome.

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Thank you.

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So you are in the army.

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You may be the most beautiful army person I've ever seen.

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Tell us about that.

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Yeah, I get a lot of people that are like, what?

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You're in the army?

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Like, they're shocked.

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They're shocked.

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And I'm like, yep.

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Ten years this may.

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Ten years?

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Wow, congrats.

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And thank you for your service.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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So how did you get into that?

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Was that something you always wanted to do?

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No.

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Um, I was a foreign exchange student back in high school.

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My junior year of yeah, it was junior year.

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And my first country of choice was Greece, but they were having like political issues.

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So my second choice was Thailand.

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And I was like, okay, this is like a big difference, right?

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Huge difference.

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Uh-huh.

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So I got sent to Bangkok.

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And I showed up, and my host family was very poor.

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And um I was there for six months.

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I was supposed to be there for a full year.

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And there's four D's: no drinking, no driving, no dating, no drugs.

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And I was, you know, every three months you have to change to a new host family because they don't want you to think like that's the whole culture with just one family, right?

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So my first host family, like, very poor.

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I washed my clothes by hand.

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I walked to the bus stop.

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I took public transportation to get to the sky rail, BTS, which is in the air, and then you take the sky rail, and then I took a motorcycle on campus.

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It took me an hour and a half to get to school every day.

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Wow.

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Yeah.

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So I went to a public school and you had to wear a uniform.

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Like, that's the law there.

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And I loved it actually.

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It was like, okay, like, wow, this is cool.

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And I'm like 14, 15 years old at the time.

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Yeah, I had bleached blonde hair, and everyone would like be like, Can I take a photo with you?

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Pictures.

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So I felt like a celebrity.

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It was cool.

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It was cool.

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And then I was with my host family for my first host family for three months, loved them.

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And then they told me they were like, You need to go to a new host family.

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I was like, oh, okay.

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So my new host family, they were rich.

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I had a limo.

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What?

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A chauffeur, like to school every day, could not put toothpaste on the toothbrush.

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I'd get yelled at, could not do laundry, could not make my bed, nothing.

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And they were very rich.

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I don't even know what they did.

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And um, there was one day they left a note at home when I got home from school, and they're like, We're gonna go to China for two weeks.

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Here's$20.

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I was like, okay, like I can't really live off$20.

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But like, Thailand's cheap, but like not that cheap for two weeks.

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And so I went out partying and had some fun, and I came home and my maid did not speak any English, and she told on me when my host family got back.

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So I got the call, Riley.

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We booked your flight, you're going home next week.

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Pack your bags.

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I was there for six months.

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How many of the D's did you do in that one night?

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Three to four.

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All of them.

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I was hoping it was gonna be all of them.

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Three to four.

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And it's crazy though, because I got a taxi ride home and I was sitting in the front, buckled in.

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I was, I mean, I was tuned up, but like the army girl, I wasn't an army girl yet, but like the army girl in me, the military girl was like very fierce, feisty.

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And of course, the cab driver tried to pull over on the interstate and tried to touch me.

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And I was like, yeah, no.

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So I had to fight him.

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Wow.

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And I was like, bring me home now.

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And I say it because I didn't know how else to get home.

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So when I got home, I was already like, I already had my own issues that I was dealing with that I didn't tell anybody about.

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And then when my host family got home, they told me, okay, you're getting sent home.

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I'm like, okay, like maybe it was meant to be.

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So I was like, I was okay with it, you guys.

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Like after that, I was like, whatever.

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That was my first like crazy incident, I think that's ever happened to me, like that.

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That's kind of cool that you got to experience extreme poverty and extreme wealth in a country and see the differences, you know?

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I like I like I like the poor people.

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I do.

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Yeah.

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Like they're more humble.

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They like they get it, they understand, they treated me so well.

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I still have them on Facebook.

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My Thai name in Riley is Ray Rai.

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It means a few different names.

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It's called it's means beautiful girl, a Thai dessert in the sound of a cricket.

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Wow.

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So they called me Ray Rai, and I still keep in touch with them till this day.

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Do you did you like Thailand?

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Loved it.

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You did?

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Loved it.

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Um, would I ever want to live there?

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No.

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But like there's a lot of like white guys there, and they have their businesses here, but they put their money over there because of the cost of living so cheap, and they have their residency there.

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So it's always like a white guy, Thai woman, white guy, Thai woman.

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So it I mean, and when you're in Bangkok, everyone speaks English.

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So I mean, you're in a foreign country, but everyone speaks English.

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They call them something over there, and now I can't remember it off the top of my head, but it was on 90 Day Fiance this past season, the bald white guys that go to the Asian countries like the Philippines, Thailand, looking for women or lady boys or whatever it is that they're looking for.

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There's an they have like a name for them over there.

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Lady boys.

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No, the Americans, I mean the white guys that go over the phones.

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But I don't know.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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If white guys can't get women here, they go to the Philippines or Thailand.

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Yeah.

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I worked with a gentleman who was extremely older, I've probably in his 70s, and his wife was like 20.

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She looked like she was like 13, but she was from the Philippines.

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And he claimed that they met naturally when he went to visit Philippines.

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And I'm like, didn't you really meet her naturally, or was it through one of those agencies, you know?

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I don't know.

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I've seen videos like on the streets there, and I think the women are pretty readily available to me.

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That's true.

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They probably want to meet an American.

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Yeah, they know they're set if they get with one.

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Yeah.

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Interesting.

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So do you travel a lot now?

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Do you love to travel?

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Yeah, I do.

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I was a flight attendant for six and a half years.

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Well, what airline?

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It's called Skywest Airlines.

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My husband used to fly for Skywest.

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That's where how he got started.

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Oh, and he was a pilot.

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Okay, okay.

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Yeah, I was based in Detroit, Boise, Salt Lake, and Phoenix.

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So interesting.

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You probably do know my husband then.

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He was based in Phoenix.

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I wonder how well you know my husband.

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Can we bleep out the person's last name, guys?

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Yeah, yeah.

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Um, travel a lot, yes.

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I think I've been to almost all 50 states.

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I know I haven't been to Alaska, but almost 50 states.

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Yeah.

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Wow.

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Yeah.

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And so why just out of curiosity, why did you want to do the foreign exchange program?

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You just wanted to get out.

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Well, I was in high school and I moved around a lot because my parents were always dating guys, girls, breakups.

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So I moved around a lot.

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Dad was an alcoholic, mom got super sick, so I had to go live with friends, grandparents.

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So I was always the new girl at the new school.

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And as you get older, as females know, like women get those clicks, the girls make those clicks, and when you join at a later age, it's a little too late.

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Um, I am very athletic.

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I love sports and kind of replaced um the start one of the starters.

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And they've all gone to school together since kindergartner, like kinder school.

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And um, I took her spot on the starting five, so she didn't like that.

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So she got everyone to basically gang up on me, and I was like, you know what?

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And I was like, I came home and I kept crying to my mom, and my mom was like, you know what, like high school does not matter, trust me.

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And my mom was, you know, homecoming queen, MVP of every sport.

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Like, she was like the star, beautiful girl.

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And she was like, Trust me, when you graduate high school, you only have one or two friends from high school, so don't worry about high school.

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So I dropped out, and um, we tried to resolve it.

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Um, my uncle was the history teacher there, he was always teacher of the year, driver's ed, student teacher, football coach, golf, all the sports.

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So my family was very well known, but I was like like that odd duckling out because I was always moving schools because my parents.

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So I dropped out and obviously I did not want a GED.

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I wanted a high school diploma.

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I was like, I know I'm smart, I know I can do it.

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So I applied for some online school in Minneapolis, Minnesota, even though I was like three and a half hours away.

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Got an online, got into an online school, and then I worked a full-time job uh as a sophomore in high school, 40 hours a week.

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Doing what?

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I was a banquet manager, so I worked weddings, I was in charge of weddings every weekend during the weeks, and there's this nonprofit organization called Rotary.

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So I will I got to know them, and they're the ones that sent me to Thailand.

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Um they're like, if you raise this amount, we'll match your other half.

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I was like, okay, because I got to know every group I served every week.

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I was like, what do you guys do?

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What do you guys do?

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And that's how I got sent to Thailand.

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Oh yeah.

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Good for you.

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Yeah.

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So was your trouble in Thailand what caused you to go into the army then when you got back?

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Yeah, so kinda.

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I was like, okay, I got back, what am I gonna do now?

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Like, I'm full of adventure.

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I know I'm not meant to be in high school, I don't fit in.

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So I was like, let's join the army.

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And my mom was like, No, you're not doing that.

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And my dad didn't have a say because I lived with my mom.

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And my recruiter, um, he drove an hour and 20 minutes, knocked on my mom's door at five o'clock at night, calmed her nerves, and he said, She's not gonna ever get deployed, she's never gonna go to war, like this, that.

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And he's she's like, okay.

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And then I go, what's in it for me?

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Like, I want something out of this.

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And so I got, you know, if you're in the military, you understand this, but most people get sent to basic training with a like fuzzy, you have no patch, no rank, no nothing.

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So they're like, We'll we'll make you a PB2.

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And I'm like, what's that?

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And they're like, you get rank and pay, and I'm like, okay, fine.

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So I shipped off when I got home.

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I had like, I was like, can I just enjoy my summer?

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Because I was in Minnesota at the time.

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And our summers are like two months long, and then winter is like 10 months long.

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So I enjoyed my summer and then I shipped off September 6th of 2016 and went to basic training in South Carolina and started my journey there.

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So did you go to boot camp?

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Yeah.

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And how was that?

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Is that tough?

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Is it as bad as they say?

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Yes, and no.

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Um, I think the females again, it was round two of high school times two.

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And um, my last name is Wright Meyer, so I had a lot of nicknames.

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I had wrongmeyer.

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Oh god.

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I had left Meyer, I had retirement because I am one of those women, like I'm like, I feel like I'm a s like, I'm like Killbit.

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Like I'm silent, but I'm deadly.

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And you don't but I don't want to show that.

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Like, I don't want to be teacher's pet.

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I don't want you to know like that I'm a threat because I realized kind of like if you show that right away, women hate you.

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Like you're you know, you don't fit in.

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So I acted like I didn't know what I was doing.

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I acted not athletic.

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I tried to be like like, you know, the worst of the worst, so that I didn't get picked on.

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Because when you're one of the best, that's when people come after you, they talk about you.

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Then when it came time to like the test and all the testing, I killed it like a hundred percent.

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Like I did like a hundred push-ups in two minutes, 105 sit-ups in two minutes, and they're like, Wow, we didn't know you had it in you.

00:12:02.240 --> 00:12:05.200
And the drill sergeants were like, Okay, you get your last name back.

00:12:05.279 --> 00:12:06.000
It's right, Meyer.

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And I'm like, Thanks.

00:12:07.840 --> 00:12:10.320
And then after that day, then the females came after me.

00:12:10.480 --> 00:12:11.440
Oh god, yeah.

00:12:11.759 --> 00:12:15.840
So, you know, open showers, open stalls.

00:12:15.919 --> 00:12:20.960
I was in the shower one time, showering, and I had one girl walk in and wanted to fight me in the shower naked.

00:12:21.120 --> 00:12:21.600
Oh, Jesus.

00:12:21.919 --> 00:12:22.399
Wow.

00:12:23.360 --> 00:12:27.440
And thankfully, I had the biggest uh we call them big backs.

00:12:27.519 --> 00:12:28.799
If you're a big girl, you're a big back.

00:12:29.840 --> 00:12:31.840
I had a big back.

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I had the big back on my side, and she's like, You want to fuck with right mind?

00:12:37.360 --> 00:12:38.559
You're gonna fuck with me first.

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Good.

00:12:39.440 --> 00:12:39.759
Yeah.

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I mean, I was ready to go, but it was kind of nice to know I finally had a female in my corner.

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Nothing came about it.

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And then, like, two weeks later, towards the end of your training, you have like this like it's like combat, like where you call somebody out that you have an issue with.

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And the first female let go, there's like two, there's like two, three hundred of us in a circle in the pit, in our like in our uniform.

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And you get to call out somebody who you have beef with, and you basically fight in front of everybody.

00:13:10.320 --> 00:13:11.600
So my gladiator, right?

00:13:12.159 --> 00:13:19.200
Dang! So the first female that gets called up, she calls me out, and I'm like, great.

00:13:19.600 --> 00:13:23.919
And uh let's say it took me three seconds to have her tap up.

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Was it the girl from the bathroom?

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Yes, it was the girl from the bathroom.

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And you kicked her butt?

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Yeah.

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Woohoo! I wish I could have kept going, but you know, you're at basic training and you're still not official yet.

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So yeah, that I think after that I proved my my title and people really were like, okay.

00:13:44.480 --> 00:13:50.720
Don't they say though that people who get bullied actually turn out better people, like more humble, stronger, more confident?

00:13:50.879 --> 00:13:53.120
It actually in the long run, it makes you a better person.

00:13:53.279 --> 00:13:53.919
Don't they say that?

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Probably.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

00:13:55.519 --> 00:13:55.840
Yeah.

00:13:56.000 --> 00:13:57.039
So what do you do now?

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Your high-ticket sales?

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Yeah, I uh got into high-ticket sales.

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Um, I was tired of, you know, I made great money for a single gal, but not here in Scotts still, right?

00:14:09.519 --> 00:14:12.879
So I was like, okay, I need to do something that's gonna make me more money.

00:14:13.039 --> 00:14:16.240
And I I'm one of those girls I will never rely on a man.

00:14:16.480 --> 00:14:18.480
No, because I was raised by a single mom.

00:14:18.639 --> 00:14:21.120
My mom did phenomenal, makes great money.

00:14:21.360 --> 00:14:29.279
So I saw this stranger online saying that she was making 20k months, and she was a mom of two hairstylists.

00:14:29.759 --> 00:14:31.360
No offense, not a dig on her.

00:14:31.440 --> 00:14:32.879
I was like, if she can do it, I can do it.

00:14:32.960 --> 00:14:34.320
Like I've been through a lot.

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So I reached out to her and we had been Facebook friends for five years, never matter.

00:14:39.919 --> 00:14:43.759
I reached out to her, I was like, How are you making$20,000 months?

00:14:43.840 --> 00:14:45.200
There's no way, there's no way.

00:14:45.919 --> 00:14:57.440
And I watched the blueprint video, got my questions answered, and I invested five figures to get into the business because you know, in order to make money, you have to invest money, nothing's free, right?

00:14:58.000 --> 00:15:05.039
Um, I got my investment back in 38 days, and I've been in profit mode ever since.

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And my first year in high-ticket sales, I made over a quarter million dollars.

00:15:09.519 --> 00:15:10.639
Dang, that's impressive.

00:15:11.360 --> 00:15:18.399
Yeah, so paid off all my debt, quit flying as a flight attendant, and I was full-time military at the time.

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Um, and now I'm part-time military, and now I run an agency, a high-ticket sales agency.

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Like I'm the owner, and I have about 200 girls under me that work for me and I coach and mentor them.

00:15:31.360 --> 00:15:33.919
So, what exactly are you selling products?

00:15:34.159 --> 00:15:43.919
Yeah, so it's high grade medical technology, and it's you know, it's not so much the science behind it, it's about more about the time freedom.

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It really, really is.

00:15:45.759 --> 00:15:50.639
So now that like I'm in the business, because I when I signed up, you guys, I had no idea what I was doing.

00:15:50.799 --> 00:15:56.559
Like, never had sales experience, never I had social media, but it was just friends and family, you know.

00:15:56.960 --> 00:16:08.639
My accounts were always on private, and um, yeah, it's it's all those things you're seeing right now on social media, the high-ticket owners and sellers, is I'm doing the same thing.

00:16:08.799 --> 00:16:13.679
You just find a blueprint that works, a good compensation plan, and a good product.

00:16:13.759 --> 00:16:15.200
And I found the right vehicle.

00:16:15.919 --> 00:16:19.440
Sorry, I forgot to ask you, when you were in the army, did you get hit on a lot by the guys?

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I bet all the guys were just all over you.

00:16:22.240 --> 00:16:29.600
Honestly, yes and no, but I give off that like persona like you're my brother, I'm your sister.

00:16:30.320 --> 00:16:38.159
Like don't fucking look at me like that, don't fucking touch me because sometimes you're in the field with them for two weeks, no shower.

00:16:38.960 --> 00:16:39.279
Right?

00:16:39.440 --> 00:16:42.399
Like it's it's like I'm with you.

00:16:42.639 --> 00:16:48.799
We're sleeping in tents together, we're changing in the sleeping bags, like you know, and honestly, a majority of them are married.

00:16:48.960 --> 00:16:50.639
Not that that stops them, right?

00:16:50.960 --> 00:16:53.840
A majority of them have kids, but like you know what I mean?

00:16:53.919 --> 00:16:56.960
And it's just like, but I kind of already like lay down the law.

00:16:57.039 --> 00:17:01.679
But yes, I do get hit on in the military every single day, too, still.

00:17:01.919 --> 00:17:05.440
A lot of women feel that military guys are red flags, like immediately.

00:17:05.599 --> 00:17:07.440
Do you feel the same way?

00:17:07.839 --> 00:17:17.039
I think if you understand the difference between like the branches of militaries and like the different components, like there's active duty, red flag.

00:17:17.279 --> 00:17:23.759
I'm sorry, but that like that's all they know is like report, show up, clock in, do your job, go home.

00:17:23.920 --> 00:17:26.799
Like they live a very boring, complacent life.

00:17:27.039 --> 00:17:29.920
They don't know how to live a normal life like us on the outside world.

00:17:30.079 --> 00:17:31.920
We call it the civilian world, right?

00:17:32.240 --> 00:17:39.680
So those are the red flags, those active duty guys, because they're let's say they live here in Phoenix, they get deployed to Korea.

00:17:39.920 --> 00:17:44.160
Then they meet all those Korean women that are there, they want you, right?

00:17:44.319 --> 00:17:50.960
And you know, when you are away from your wife or your girlfriend for a year, they probably crave sex, right?

00:17:51.039 --> 00:17:56.319
And when you have a Korean woman that will just, you know, anyone's willing to give it to them, they'll do it, right?

00:17:56.480 --> 00:18:08.240
So I think active duty guys are red flags, but National Guard, Reserve, no, because we do come home every single night, a majority of the time, unless we're deployed.

00:18:08.480 --> 00:18:15.119
And so they don't they have that nine to five job 10, 15 minutes down the road, but they come home every single night.

00:18:15.359 --> 00:18:20.640
Is there a difference between army, navy, air force, like in perception?

00:18:20.799 --> 00:18:23.279
Like, does one have a worse reputation than the other?

00:18:23.599 --> 00:18:25.119
I think Marines are the worst.

00:18:25.599 --> 00:18:26.559
That's what I've heard too.

00:18:26.640 --> 00:18:27.680
Yeah, I think it's worse.

00:18:28.000 --> 00:18:29.599
Because they're they're known as grunts.

00:18:29.839 --> 00:18:32.880
Like there's they're no offense, they're dumb.

00:18:33.119 --> 00:18:36.480
Like they eat the the saying is they eat crayons for a living.

00:18:36.640 --> 00:18:40.720
Like, but don't they feel like they are the smartest of the bunch?

00:18:41.359 --> 00:18:44.400
They they they're the most I feel like they're the ones that are most proud.

00:18:44.799 --> 00:18:45.519
I'm a marine, yeah.

00:18:45.599 --> 00:18:46.160
Yeah, I'm a marine.

00:18:46.480 --> 00:18:48.079
Semplify, yeah, exactly.

00:18:48.240 --> 00:18:50.480
So those are the ones I'd stay away from.

00:18:50.799 --> 00:18:55.519
Air Force are like the smart ones, like they're called the chair force because they're not athletic.

00:18:55.599 --> 00:18:57.039
That's why they're the chair force.

00:18:57.200 --> 00:18:57.920
Oh, that's funny.

00:18:58.319 --> 00:19:04.640
Yeah, I think army and navy seals, I think those like I think the Navy SEALs are the most badass.

00:19:04.799 --> 00:19:05.440
Yeah, yeah.

00:19:05.599 --> 00:19:07.279
God, I can't imagine what they have to go through.

00:19:07.519 --> 00:19:10.720
Yeah, don't they get put through some really challenging challenging?

00:19:10.880 --> 00:19:13.519
Like, women is not even in their eyes.

00:19:13.599 --> 00:19:15.359
Like, that's not what they're thinking about.

00:19:15.440 --> 00:19:18.160
Like, they want to like do bad shit and blow shit up.

00:19:18.400 --> 00:19:20.799
And you have to be like really mentally strong, I feel.

00:19:21.279 --> 00:19:21.839
Oh, yeah, yeah.

00:19:22.160 --> 00:19:24.880
And you have to be very spart smart to be a Navy SEAL.

00:19:25.039 --> 00:19:25.839
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:19:26.079 --> 00:19:27.279
So now what is your type of man?

00:19:27.359 --> 00:19:28.559
Do you like a manly man?

00:19:28.799 --> 00:19:40.799
Oh yeah, because like I like getting glammed up being a girl, but I mean, I was raised on the lakes in the country in Minnesota, shoot guns, you know, travel the world, military.

00:19:41.119 --> 00:19:49.119
Um, so I need a manly man, and I am not into the guys that were like the V-necks, tighter jeans than me, you know, the con.

00:19:49.599 --> 00:19:50.960
Like, I'm just not into that.

00:19:51.039 --> 00:19:52.799
Like, I need a man to lead.

00:19:53.519 --> 00:19:53.759
Yeah.

00:19:54.000 --> 00:19:55.920
When was your last relationship?

00:19:56.319 --> 00:19:57.519
Oh boy.

00:19:58.720 --> 00:20:03.839
Let's just say I feel like I'm always on the move.

00:20:04.559 --> 00:20:11.759
With being in the military and a flight attendant, you know, I've lived in Minnesota, North Dakota, Detroit, Michigan, Boise, Idaho.

00:20:11.839 --> 00:20:14.000
I've been deployed to Texas to the border for a year.

00:20:14.079 --> 00:20:19.119
I've lived here, I've lived in Bangkok, so I'm like always on the move.

00:20:19.279 --> 00:20:21.119
And guys like don't understand that.

00:20:21.200 --> 00:20:24.240
So it's very hard for me to hold a relationship.

00:20:24.480 --> 00:20:29.200
Um, but the last one was here about two years ago.

00:20:29.519 --> 00:20:35.920
Um, met him on Hinge, and he asked me for a fro yo yogurt date or whatever it is.

00:20:36.079 --> 00:20:36.880
I was like, okay.

00:20:37.119 --> 00:20:37.599
Zoya.

00:20:37.920 --> 00:20:38.400
Zoya!

00:20:39.759 --> 00:20:40.079
Yeah.

00:20:40.160 --> 00:20:42.799
So do you remember the name of the place you went?

00:20:42.960 --> 00:20:43.759
Was it Zoya?

00:20:44.079 --> 00:20:47.759
It was in Scott style off of 56 in Indian school.

00:20:48.000 --> 00:20:48.480
Indian school.

00:20:49.839 --> 00:20:50.160
Really?

00:20:50.480 --> 00:20:52.000
By Starbucks right there.

00:20:52.240 --> 00:20:52.720
Uh-huh.

00:20:53.039 --> 00:20:55.599
Um, he was 10 minutes early, which I like.

00:20:55.759 --> 00:20:56.960
Like it that's the military me.

00:20:57.119 --> 00:20:58.960
If you're not 10 minutes early, you're late to me.

00:20:59.039 --> 00:20:59.680
And I don't like that.

00:20:59.759 --> 00:21:01.680
Like, do not show up on time, do not show up late.

00:21:01.759 --> 00:21:03.200
Like, that's already like, no.

00:21:03.440 --> 00:21:04.799
So he was early.

00:21:04.960 --> 00:21:08.880
Um, he had served in the military too.

00:21:09.279 --> 00:21:16.079
Um, he uh he's a purple heart, uh, so meaning he's been blown up, shot at, injured.

00:21:16.400 --> 00:21:21.599
And I really liked it because being in the military, it's like a foreign language.

00:21:21.839 --> 00:21:24.240
People don't understand what you're talking about unless they're in.

00:21:24.319 --> 00:21:32.319
So it was really nice to talk to somebody who understands like what you went through and what he went through, because a lot of women he dated never have served.

00:21:32.480 --> 00:21:35.440
So they don't they're like, oh cool, you got blown up, oh my god.

00:21:35.680 --> 00:21:35.920
Right?

00:21:36.079 --> 00:21:37.119
Like that's it.

00:21:37.519 --> 00:21:39.119
And it went really well.

00:21:39.359 --> 00:21:45.359
And then date after date after date, and but then that's when the red flags started coming.

00:21:46.079 --> 00:21:47.519
What were the red flags?

00:21:47.839 --> 00:21:55.519
Um, I finally he finally picked me up because I'm one of those girls like don't pick me up in a place because at the time I was living in like a house.

00:21:56.000 --> 00:22:00.960
If it's an apartment, it's fine, they can pick me up on the first date because they don't know what There's like a common space.

00:22:01.119 --> 00:22:01.279
Yeah.

00:22:02.079 --> 00:22:02.720
It's a common area.

00:22:03.119 --> 00:22:03.440
Exactly.

00:22:03.680 --> 00:22:06.960
But at the time I was living in a house, so he would have known where I lived.

00:22:07.039 --> 00:22:09.119
And I don't want that if a first date goes by.

00:22:09.279 --> 00:22:11.200
So I kept meeting him, meeting him, meeting him.

00:22:11.440 --> 00:22:13.440
But he finally picked me up.

00:22:14.160 --> 00:22:18.799
I don't care what kind of car you drive, but there was like stains all over.

00:22:19.039 --> 00:22:21.920
It reeked, dog hair everywhere.

00:22:22.480 --> 00:22:28.480
50 bottles of like water and energy I drank like on the floor, like where I'm putting my feet.

00:22:28.720 --> 00:22:31.279
And I'm not like a very judgmental person, but I'm like, really?

00:22:31.519 --> 00:22:33.440
You could at least take in the water bottles and throw them in the back.

00:22:33.839 --> 00:22:35.279
You knew he was picking you up.

00:22:35.440 --> 00:22:35.759
Yeah.

00:22:36.000 --> 00:22:38.480
Like, doesn't he want to impress you and clean up for you?

00:22:38.880 --> 00:22:39.440
That's a red flag.

00:22:39.599 --> 00:22:40.000
You would think so.

00:22:40.400 --> 00:22:41.519
That was the first one.

00:22:41.599 --> 00:22:43.440
And I was like, damn it.

00:22:43.599 --> 00:22:44.799
But I really like this guy.

00:22:44.960 --> 00:22:45.839
Things were going good.

00:22:45.920 --> 00:22:50.640
He was manly, tall, like, no previous marriage, no kids, nothing.

00:22:50.799 --> 00:22:52.559
Like, no baggage.

00:22:52.880 --> 00:22:57.200
So, um, and then he invited me to Nashville with his friends.

00:22:57.359 --> 00:22:58.720
I was like, okay, like this is cool.

00:22:58.880 --> 00:23:01.920
Like, usually most guys don't invite you, they go to Nashville without you.

00:23:02.160 --> 00:23:06.000
So like, okay, we're back, like going to the green side again, right?

00:23:06.400 --> 00:23:09.359
And I was like, I couldn't, I think I had something going on already.

00:23:09.440 --> 00:23:10.799
And I was like, no, go have fun.

00:23:11.119 --> 00:23:12.559
And he called me every night.

00:23:12.640 --> 00:23:14.960
He was sending photos, like, okay, like I didn't ask for that.

00:23:15.039 --> 00:23:16.160
That's great.

00:23:16.480 --> 00:23:21.039
But then when he was out, I went out that same night.

00:23:21.200 --> 00:23:24.400
And at the time I had a gay best friend named Adam.

00:23:24.880 --> 00:23:27.039
And um you could tell he's gay.

00:23:27.119 --> 00:23:29.200
Like, you know how girls was like, Oh, he's he's gay.

00:23:29.359 --> 00:23:33.039
No, like this guy, you can tell the way he walks, talks stress, right?

00:23:33.440 --> 00:23:37.039
And he was kind of like my neighbor lived right down the road, and he came.

00:23:37.359 --> 00:23:38.880
Um we went out.

00:23:38.960 --> 00:23:40.400
I went home, he went home.

00:23:40.640 --> 00:23:45.119
But then at like two in the morning, he came not apparently went back out after we got home.

00:23:45.680 --> 00:23:49.680
And he was knocking at my door, and he's like, I'm drunk again, let's party.

00:23:50.000 --> 00:23:51.119
And I was like, No, Adam.

00:23:51.519 --> 00:23:52.480
Like, you're going to bed.

00:23:52.559 --> 00:23:55.920
So I let him spend the night on my couch in the living room.

00:23:56.319 --> 00:24:02.880
And um I let my boyfriend at the time know that, and he freaked out on me.

00:24:03.839 --> 00:24:07.759
And I was like, and he hadn't met him, so I'm like, okay, okay.

00:24:08.720 --> 00:24:11.440
Why don't when you get back from Nashville you can meet him?

00:24:11.839 --> 00:24:14.960
And then you'll be like, you'll understand what I'm saying, like where I'm coming from.

00:24:15.440 --> 00:24:20.799
But then he said to me, he goes, Well, let's say I had a lesbian spend the night.

00:24:21.680 --> 00:24:24.720
I was like, okay, I kind of see where you're coming from, right?

00:24:25.440 --> 00:24:31.200
So I was like, so I got sucked back again, even though he freaked out at me, blew up on me.

00:24:32.160 --> 00:24:34.000
Um, so that was that.

00:24:34.319 --> 00:24:42.079
And then um time passes on again, and we were supposed to I'm a big football watcher, and so is he.

00:24:42.240 --> 00:24:45.359
Sundays are my football days, and that's we knew that.

00:24:45.599 --> 00:24:52.559
We were supposed to go to his friend's house and we were supposed to bring like a dish, and I hadn't heard from him like all morning.

00:24:52.960 --> 00:24:55.680
And I called him, I texted him, I was like, What's going on?

00:24:56.400 --> 00:24:58.640
And didn't hear from him for three days.

00:25:00.240 --> 00:25:00.559
Yeah.

00:25:01.200 --> 00:25:01.519
Wow.

00:25:02.000 --> 00:25:03.839
And I was like, What's going on?

00:25:04.000 --> 00:25:05.519
Like, why are you ignoring me?

00:25:05.599 --> 00:25:06.240
Like, everything's great.

00:25:06.559 --> 00:25:08.160
Because at this point, you've been together for a while.

00:25:08.400 --> 00:25:09.119
Four months, yeah.

00:25:09.680 --> 00:25:10.720
Yeah, hang out every day.

00:25:11.119 --> 00:25:12.079
And he just ghosted you.

00:25:12.400 --> 00:25:12.799
Uh-huh.

00:25:13.759 --> 00:25:20.319
And he said, I haven't told you, but I go into very deep, dark depression holes.

00:25:21.200 --> 00:25:21.759
From big.

00:25:22.240 --> 00:25:25.359
I was like, okay, like he has been blowing up.

00:25:25.440 --> 00:25:28.640
Like, I've seen his purple heart, he has it on his license plate.

00:25:28.720 --> 00:25:36.079
Like, so I tried to give him some grace, but at the same time, I was like, I'm not your therapist.

00:25:36.799 --> 00:25:40.480
And at the time, you know, I was only 27 years old.

00:25:40.640 --> 00:25:42.720
I don't have baggage, you know.

00:25:43.440 --> 00:25:53.599
And I finally was like, and there was like other red flags all in between that stuff, like minor things that just kept adding and adding, but then I'd get sucked back in with his words, right?

00:25:54.079 --> 00:25:57.519
But I finally was like, no, no, I can't do this anymore.

00:25:57.680 --> 00:25:59.680
And he begged and begged and begged.

00:25:59.920 --> 00:26:02.720
And I was like, no, get this.

00:26:03.359 --> 00:26:07.359
He has a new girlfriend a week ago, maybe.

00:26:07.680 --> 00:26:08.319
I have receipts.

00:26:08.559 --> 00:26:10.079
You guys know the app called WhatsApp.

00:26:11.119 --> 00:26:12.559
We use it in the military.

00:26:13.039 --> 00:26:14.960
And I also used it when I was in Thailand.

00:26:15.039 --> 00:26:17.759
Like in Thailand and other foreign countries, they text on WhatsApp.

00:26:18.000 --> 00:26:19.599
Like, iMessage is not a thing.

00:26:20.559 --> 00:26:25.279
He messages me on WhatsApp at like 11 o'clock at night.

00:26:25.920 --> 00:26:27.440
Boondocks question mark.

00:26:28.400 --> 00:26:31.839
And he's like, I think he's engaged to a woman with a kid.

00:26:32.880 --> 00:26:33.119
Yeah.

00:26:34.319 --> 00:26:34.960
Wow.

00:26:35.440 --> 00:26:38.720
Two days later, he messages me again on WhatsApp.

00:26:38.880 --> 00:26:40.559
I think it said well bar question mark.

00:26:40.640 --> 00:26:41.680
These are bars that's crossed.

00:26:41.839 --> 00:26:41.920
Yeah.

00:26:42.160 --> 00:26:43.119
And you didn't respond to the first one?

00:26:43.359 --> 00:26:43.759
Me either.

00:26:43.920 --> 00:26:44.240
None.

00:26:44.559 --> 00:26:44.880
Wow.

00:26:45.119 --> 00:26:49.359
So now I'm debating my tell his fiancé.

00:26:52.480 --> 00:27:07.279
I feel like just sending a location with a question mark, he can easily spin that to her and say, I thought I saw her at these places, and I was just like questioning, like, are you here?

00:27:07.440 --> 00:27:07.839
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:27:07.920 --> 00:27:08.079
Right now.

00:27:08.559 --> 00:27:09.119
He was smart.

00:27:09.279 --> 00:27:10.000
He did it in a smart way.

00:27:10.480 --> 00:27:11.440
He did it in a smart way.

00:27:11.599 --> 00:27:25.920
He said little enough so that if it if you would decide to go to the fiance, if you want, if you want to be petty and go to the fiance, you need to get him to give a little bit more information.

00:27:26.160 --> 00:27:26.319
Yeah.

00:27:26.640 --> 00:27:30.160
But then my question to you is because we're all smart here.

00:27:30.480 --> 00:27:33.839
Why did you message it on WhatsApp and not iMessage?

00:27:34.160 --> 00:27:34.480
Why?

00:27:35.920 --> 00:27:38.079
Had he never messaged you on WhatsApp before?

00:27:38.480 --> 00:27:38.960
Never.

00:27:39.200 --> 00:27:44.240
Then it is a little because I have friends that we only message and we've only ever messaged on WhatsApp.

00:27:44.480 --> 00:27:45.440
And so it's not weird.

00:27:45.599 --> 00:27:46.319
You get that, okay.

00:27:46.480 --> 00:27:46.880
Yeah.

00:27:47.039 --> 00:27:47.200
Yeah.

00:27:47.680 --> 00:27:48.799
I also travel a lot too.

00:27:48.880 --> 00:27:51.359
And so a lot of my friends are only on WhatsApp.

00:27:52.000 --> 00:27:54.799
It's a foreigner thing because that's the only way of communication.

00:27:54.880 --> 00:27:57.839
But like But it's weird that he used WhatsApp to message.

00:27:58.240 --> 00:28:01.519
Because he doesn't want his wife to see on his phone, on his text messages.

00:28:02.079 --> 00:28:02.720
Scandalous.

00:28:02.799 --> 00:28:04.160
You made the right choice by breaking up.

00:28:04.640 --> 00:28:04.960
I know.

00:28:05.039 --> 00:28:05.920
I'm so thankful.

00:28:06.000 --> 00:28:06.720
I'm like, huh.

00:28:07.119 --> 00:28:13.039
And it's sad though, because like I was really excited about him, and I never tell my mom about like my dating.

00:28:13.359 --> 00:28:17.119
And he was like the one of like the guys, I got FaceTime my mom.

00:28:17.200 --> 00:28:19.279
I was like, I finally am seeing somebody.

00:28:19.680 --> 00:28:21.440
And I never tell her anything.

00:28:21.519 --> 00:28:26.559
And I told her about and we're close, we talk every day, but I don't tell her about my dating life.

00:28:27.279 --> 00:28:31.839
I feel like the gay, the having an issue with a gay friend is a huge red flag.

00:28:32.079 --> 00:28:36.480
Have you noticed that whenever one of us tells a story about a gay friend?

00:28:36.559 --> 00:28:44.880
Like I have a gay friend that I'm very close with, and he's like G-A-Y-Gay, like gay, gay, like you're saying, like very gay.

00:28:45.119 --> 00:28:47.680
But I'll tell a story, and people will comment.

00:28:47.759 --> 00:28:49.519
They'll be like, he's not really gay.

00:28:49.759 --> 00:28:50.799
He's not really gay.

00:28:50.960 --> 00:28:52.160
I bet he's not really gay.

00:28:52.240 --> 00:28:54.160
And it's like, why do guys think that?

00:28:54.480 --> 00:28:59.839
Why do guy why do guys think that gay men are pretending to be gay?

00:29:00.160 --> 00:29:02.000
No, like get with girls.

00:29:02.079 --> 00:29:02.960
Is that a thing?

00:29:03.119 --> 00:29:04.640
Does that actually happen?

00:29:04.960 --> 00:29:05.599
I don't think so.

00:29:05.759 --> 00:29:06.240
I don't think so.

00:29:06.400 --> 00:29:07.279
I think it does.

00:29:07.519 --> 00:29:08.960
You're either gay or you're not gay.

00:29:09.759 --> 00:29:09.920
Right?

00:29:10.079 --> 00:29:13.119
I don't think a guy, a guy that's not gay would never fake that he's gay.

00:29:14.160 --> 00:29:15.279
I don't think so either.

00:29:15.519 --> 00:29:25.200
I don't I don't understand why straight men think that the gays are gaying just to get with straight girls.

00:29:25.599 --> 00:29:27.359
Like it weird, it's weird to me.

00:29:27.759 --> 00:29:30.559
I mean, that's kind of more like eyeliner, like, come on.

00:29:32.240 --> 00:29:33.920
There are signs, right?

00:29:34.400 --> 00:29:37.599
So um are you currently on the apps?

00:29:37.759 --> 00:29:38.000
Yes.

00:29:38.240 --> 00:29:39.839
You are are you looking to get married and have kids?

00:29:39.920 --> 00:29:40.400
What are you looking for?

00:29:40.480 --> 00:29:41.359
Are you looking for a relationship?

00:29:41.519 --> 00:29:42.240
Yeah, I am.

00:29:42.480 --> 00:29:53.279
I I think I've always dated with intention, but now that I'm like physically, mentally, financially, like have like I'm good.

00:29:53.440 --> 00:29:54.720
Like I know for a fact.

00:29:54.880 --> 00:29:57.759
Like two, three years ago I was just dating to date.

00:29:58.079 --> 00:30:04.720
But I always knew I wanted to get married, I always knew I wanted to have kids, but now I'm like, holy shit, I'm ready.

00:30:05.359 --> 00:30:07.680
But now I'm running into a new issue.

00:30:08.640 --> 00:30:20.640
I think I've kind of done like a 180 in the past year to now when guys find my social media, because I don't have my my tags on my I'm only on hinge.

00:30:20.880 --> 00:30:23.119
I'm banned from Tinder and Bumble.

00:30:23.680 --> 00:30:25.200
So I'm only on hinge.

00:30:25.759 --> 00:30:28.720
Um, I don't have any of my tags on there or nothing.

00:30:28.880 --> 00:30:31.119
So they can't find my social media.

00:30:31.680 --> 00:30:37.200
But once we start talking, going on dates, and they see it, they get weird.

00:30:37.440 --> 00:30:37.759
Why?

00:30:37.920 --> 00:30:39.039
Because you have a lot of followers?

00:30:39.200 --> 00:30:39.440
No.

00:30:40.240 --> 00:30:40.720
You're successful.

00:30:41.039 --> 00:30:41.440
I'm successful.

00:30:43.200 --> 00:30:44.720
I'm more successful than they are.

00:30:45.039 --> 00:30:45.599
What?

00:30:46.000 --> 00:31:00.319
And uh it's but you don't want to know those guys then because they're insecure and exactly, but it's weird to go from the girl that only made this much, and you want a successful man, and they could they control you with their money.

00:31:00.400 --> 00:31:04.880
Uh not at first, but they're like, okay, she only makes probably this much.

00:31:05.200 --> 00:31:10.160
I can afford to take her on these dates and give her kind of like lower the bit the bare minimum.

00:31:10.240 --> 00:31:11.119
Like, you know what I mean?

00:31:11.279 --> 00:31:13.119
This simpleness, right?

00:31:13.759 --> 00:31:19.119
And I was okay with that because my you know, when I'm a firm believer, like, okay, I make this much.

00:31:19.200 --> 00:31:22.640
I can't like ask for all this if I only make this much.

00:31:22.799 --> 00:31:24.720
It's like I'm a firm believer too.

00:31:24.799 --> 00:31:27.920
If you want a man with a six-pack, you need to be fit too.

00:31:28.079 --> 00:31:30.960
You can't just want that and then not be fit.

00:31:31.200 --> 00:31:34.640
It's the same concept in in my mind, my the way I think.

00:31:35.119 --> 00:31:46.400
So now I'm kind of like learning how to navigate, you know, now that I have made all this money, and when people, guys see my Instagram, they get weird, they get intimidated.

00:31:46.559 --> 00:31:57.039
Um, I mean, there was a few months ago I met a guy on Hinge and we had a normal date, everything was great, and then another date, everything was great, and then the third date, he came over and we played card games.

00:31:57.440 --> 00:32:07.920
And then we laid on the couch watching football, and he brought this out of nowhere, and he goes, So, because we we weren't he didn't know my Instagram, I didn't know his, we weren't following each other.

00:32:08.400 --> 00:32:13.039
And the third date he came over, we played card games, laid down on the couch.

00:32:13.119 --> 00:32:15.920
He goes, So I saw your Instagram.

00:32:17.039 --> 00:32:21.359
I was like, okay, and at that point I had maybe like 900 followers.

00:32:21.440 --> 00:32:23.279
That's not a lot of followers, you guys, right?

00:32:23.839 --> 00:32:26.240
So I was like, okay, what do you mean by that?

00:32:26.480 --> 00:32:30.319
And he goes, Oh, I don't know, like your lifestyle.

00:32:31.359 --> 00:32:33.279
I was like, what do you mean by that?

00:32:33.440 --> 00:32:43.599
Like I clocked and at the time I was clocking into my nine to five military job, working the high-ticket job, and going to college, and taking care of my dog.

00:32:43.680 --> 00:32:45.359
So I didn't have a social life, you guys.

00:32:45.440 --> 00:32:47.519
And I was sober, I was five months sober.

00:32:48.000 --> 00:32:53.359
So I wasn't going out, nothing, very clean, you know, career-oriented.

00:32:54.160 --> 00:32:55.599
And he was like, Oh, nothing.

00:32:56.559 --> 00:32:57.359
I'm like, okay.

00:32:57.680 --> 00:33:00.160
You're like, what lifestyle are you talking about exactly?

00:33:01.119 --> 00:33:07.839
And then he yawns, and it's I mean, it's late, it was Thursday night football, so those games go to 9 30, 10 o'clock at night, right?

00:33:08.160 --> 00:33:09.279
So I was like, okay.

00:33:09.680 --> 00:33:19.920
And he was in the he moved here from Florida to the ROTC Academy to be an airline pilot, but he's in the Air Force, so it's like fast track.

00:33:20.640 --> 00:33:22.480
So he had a house in Gilbert.

00:33:22.640 --> 00:33:28.559
So like he's been here established, everything, older than me in his 30s, because at the time I was 28.

00:33:29.039 --> 00:33:36.799
Um, but yeah, we were supposed to have a date that Sunday and watch football again.

00:33:37.440 --> 00:33:39.440
He ghosted me after that con.

00:33:39.920 --> 00:33:42.559
I also hate that passive aggressive, like, just tell me.

00:33:42.799 --> 00:33:44.160
Like, okay, you saw my Instagram.

00:33:44.319 --> 00:33:45.119
Tell me what's the problem.

00:33:45.200 --> 00:33:45.359
Yeah.

00:33:45.519 --> 00:33:47.680
Like for him to be like, just saying, just saying.

00:33:47.839 --> 00:33:48.640
Like to make you guess.

00:33:48.960 --> 00:33:51.759
Like so annoying, so juvenile and immature.

00:33:52.240 --> 00:33:56.079
It's gotta be because the second date, I showed up with no makeup on.

00:33:56.319 --> 00:33:58.720
And he asked me out on a third date, you know what I mean?

00:33:58.799 --> 00:34:05.759
So it's like, because you know how guys they see you at nighttime Friday, seven o'clock, all dulled up, which he did.

00:34:05.839 --> 00:34:13.440
And then the next second date was at Kava, eating Greek food, no makeup on in my sweats, and then asked me to hang out and play card games.

00:34:13.519 --> 00:34:15.119
So, like, he's the one who initiated everything.

00:34:15.280 --> 00:34:21.119
And you know what frustrates me about this is he's choosing to believe the Instagram version of you rather than you.

00:34:21.280 --> 00:34:24.320
He's met you in person and seen how laid back and cool you are.

00:34:24.400 --> 00:34:25.920
Yet he's judging you from Instagram.

00:34:26.079 --> 00:34:27.440
Yeah, like that doesn't make sense.

00:34:27.760 --> 00:34:28.400
But judging what?

00:34:28.719 --> 00:34:35.920
Because it sounds like your Instagram at that point didn't really have much on it except for like daily life stuff.

00:34:36.159 --> 00:34:42.480
Yeah, like because it wasn't showing you partying and you weren't doing your high-ticket job yet, really, or were you?

00:34:42.880 --> 00:34:43.679
I was okay.

00:34:43.840 --> 00:34:51.679
So the thing is, it's like you do scroll on social media, you see all these people making all this money, but they never show proof of receipts.

00:34:52.000 --> 00:34:53.920
I did, like, I really did.

00:34:54.719 --> 00:35:03.599
And I think he saw that he was like, Okay, I can't control her anymore with my money, and I make way less than her.

00:35:03.840 --> 00:35:13.519
Cause as a as a college student cadet in the Air Force, I mean he's probably making 60, 70k a year, which I mean, I don't care if you make less or more.

00:35:13.679 --> 00:35:17.920
Like, cool, I was making the same in the army, but now I make more.

00:35:18.079 --> 00:35:19.119
It doesn't change things.

00:35:19.280 --> 00:35:26.320
Like, if you're respectful to me and you know, you open up the door, and you know, I don't care how much you make.

00:35:26.400 --> 00:35:30.880
I mean, you gotta make something, but I I don't care if you make 60k a year.

00:35:31.760 --> 00:35:32.320
Like, I don't.

00:35:32.400 --> 00:35:32.639
Yeah.

00:35:32.800 --> 00:35:33.519
Are you ready for it?

00:35:33.760 --> 00:35:34.400
I'm ready for it.

00:35:34.559 --> 00:35:37.599
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00:35:42.320 --> 00:35:44.719
All right, so it's an advice needed question.

00:35:45.840 --> 00:35:56.719
I spent hundreds of dollars this year on my boyfriend's family, and come to find out that they have made hurtful comments about me when I've done so much for their family, including their son.

00:35:57.119 --> 00:36:02.320
I got each person in his family an individual Christmas gift.

00:36:02.480 --> 00:36:05.519
And when they started talking about me, he had my back.

00:36:05.760 --> 00:36:12.960
So he says, but now I'm not really sure how to go about it because it's it feels like a huge slap in the face.

00:36:13.280 --> 00:36:18.159
And they and they are aware I now know what they have said about me.

00:36:18.480 --> 00:36:19.119
Awkward.

00:36:19.280 --> 00:36:19.599
Yes.

00:36:19.840 --> 00:36:25.119
So I'm not really the type to hide my feelings, but I feel disrespected and hurt.

00:36:25.440 --> 00:36:30.239
I would just like a little insight on how you would go about this if you were in my position.

00:36:31.199 --> 00:36:32.400
Communication is key.

00:36:32.480 --> 00:36:33.760
Maybe just talk to them.

00:36:34.239 --> 00:36:35.199
What do you think?

00:36:35.519 --> 00:36:38.159
Yeah, uh, that's a tough one.

00:36:38.320 --> 00:36:47.679
Um, I hear a lot of other people having that issue where the boyfriend backs her up, but then won't stand up to his family.

00:36:47.920 --> 00:36:50.880
I see that all too often.

00:36:51.280 --> 00:36:58.960
And I think I'm a firm believer that if he can stand up for you to his family, keep him.

00:36:59.199 --> 00:37:02.960
If he can't do that, dish him, get rid of him.

00:37:03.199 --> 00:37:03.599
Yeah.

00:37:03.840 --> 00:37:05.920
And take any of the gifts back that you've already bought.

00:37:06.159 --> 00:37:08.719
Although maybe she's the problem.

00:37:08.800 --> 00:37:10.079
Maybe her family's right.

00:37:10.159 --> 00:37:11.679
Maybe she's a bloody nightmare.

00:37:11.920 --> 00:37:17.039
Maybe, maybe she just gets gifts to like get people to like her.

00:37:17.199 --> 00:37:17.360
Yeah.

00:37:17.599 --> 00:37:18.000
Exactly.

00:37:18.320 --> 00:37:18.960
You never know.

00:37:19.039 --> 00:37:20.400
There are two sides to every story.

00:37:20.800 --> 00:37:20.960
Yeah.

00:37:21.280 --> 00:37:23.119
I mean, and it's the same with parents, though.

00:37:23.199 --> 00:37:24.239
It's like 50-50.

00:37:24.320 --> 00:37:30.960
You either they're like my parents were always chill, just shake their hand, say hello Jenna, hi Ryan.

00:37:31.360 --> 00:37:32.079
They love you.

00:37:32.719 --> 00:37:34.719
Like, and just just be respectful.

00:37:34.880 --> 00:37:35.519
They love you.

00:37:35.679 --> 00:37:38.159
As long as like I'm happy, they're happy.

00:37:38.320 --> 00:37:42.639
So, but then I do know there's those parents, like, you could just walk in the door and they hate you.

00:37:42.719 --> 00:37:43.360
You know what I mean?

00:37:43.440 --> 00:37:47.920
So yeah, it sounds like there's like the telephone game isn't working well.

00:37:48.079 --> 00:37:48.239
Yeah.

00:37:48.400 --> 00:37:52.559
Like having him go in between his family and her.

00:37:52.719 --> 00:37:56.159
Uh, because he's telling her one thing, like you said, he's telling her one thing, but then obviously.

00:37:56.400 --> 00:37:59.199
Why wouldn't he be telling the family something different?

00:37:59.360 --> 00:38:04.000
So I think if she wants the relationship to work, she probably needs to just have a conversation.

00:38:04.159 --> 00:38:04.320
Yeah.

00:38:04.960 --> 00:38:08.719
If he was telling her all the nasty stuff the family was saying about her, why would you do that?

00:38:08.960 --> 00:38:14.480
Like, I would feel I wouldn't want to hurt my partner and tell my partner all the bad things that have been said about him.

00:38:14.719 --> 00:38:22.480
Yeah, but would you want to bring your partner to like a family event and everyone knows what's being said about him except for him?

00:38:23.760 --> 00:38:29.599
Like, you want him to sit there and when everyone has said things and they have no idea.

00:38:29.920 --> 00:38:31.199
Prove them wrong.

00:38:31.440 --> 00:38:32.000
Yeah.

00:38:32.239 --> 00:38:35.360
Take that relationship and prove them wrong, and they'll come, they'll come around.

00:38:36.000 --> 00:38:36.639
Yeah.

00:38:36.960 --> 00:38:41.199
So we posted on Reddit for all of our followers and listeners.

00:38:41.760 --> 00:38:43.360
Um, we asked a question.

00:38:43.599 --> 00:38:47.119
The biggest red flag you chose to ignore because they were hot.

00:38:47.280 --> 00:38:50.239
Have you ever chose to ignore a red flag just because they were so good looking?

00:38:50.480 --> 00:38:52.079
Well, the car, the water bottles in the car.

00:38:53.760 --> 00:38:54.880
He was good looking.

00:38:54.960 --> 00:38:59.760
I mean, he was 6'2, but so here are some of the answers we got.

00:38:59.920 --> 00:39:00.400
Yeah.

00:39:00.639 --> 00:39:03.119
She set her pet hamster on fire.

00:39:03.360 --> 00:39:04.719
Okay, big red flag.

00:39:04.880 --> 00:39:12.719
Um, being almost certain he had another woman on the side, then finding out after mutual friends met me with him and had also met him with her.

00:39:12.960 --> 00:39:13.280
Ooh.

00:39:13.440 --> 00:39:19.760
I would I I've overlooked that red flag before, you know, like you've heard they've cheated in the past, and then you like, I'm different, I'm different.

00:39:19.920 --> 00:39:20.960
Yep, you're not.

00:39:21.280 --> 00:39:25.199
Um, the way he always had an excuse for us to never spend time at his house.

00:39:25.360 --> 00:39:30.239
When I finally caught him on it and asked if he was hiding a secret family, it turned out he was a hoarder.

00:39:30.400 --> 00:39:31.119
Oh, jeez.

00:39:32.079 --> 00:39:34.079
Anger issues exploded later.

00:39:34.239 --> 00:39:34.880
Love bombing.

00:39:34.960 --> 00:39:36.480
I feel like love bombing is such a red flag.

00:39:38.239 --> 00:39:40.320
Uh he insisted his ex was crazy.

00:39:40.400 --> 00:39:42.400
I was young and really believed it was all on her.

00:39:42.559 --> 00:39:47.199
I feel like if a guy completely trashes his ex and says she's crazy, maybe he's the crazy one, right?

00:39:47.360 --> 00:39:49.440
But I feel like women believe it though.

00:39:49.679 --> 00:39:54.400
More women believe that the other woman was crazy than they do the man.

00:39:54.480 --> 00:40:00.559
So I feel like that's sort of like the default that men say because women always believe that.

00:40:00.880 --> 00:40:02.000
Yeah, I agree.

00:40:02.239 --> 00:40:06.159
One time they said their sister deserved the domestic abuse she was receiving.

00:40:06.320 --> 00:40:09.440
I didn't ignore it per se, but I didn't end the relationship.

00:40:09.599 --> 00:40:11.119
You can guess what ended up happening.

00:40:11.280 --> 00:40:12.400
That's freaking crazy to me.

00:40:12.559 --> 00:40:13.840
I would end it right there, don't you think?

00:40:14.079 --> 00:40:14.480
Wouldn't you?

00:40:14.800 --> 00:40:15.039
Yes.

00:40:15.280 --> 00:40:16.079
Hell yeah.

00:40:16.320 --> 00:40:17.679
Not willing to communicate.

00:40:17.920 --> 00:40:19.599
If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you.

00:40:19.760 --> 00:40:21.519
Lack of ambition, thought that would change.

00:40:21.599 --> 00:40:26.239
I've been in a relationship like that where they had no ambition, and you try to motivate them and it doesn't work.

00:40:26.480 --> 00:40:33.119
Throwing things at my head or across the room, putting holes in the wall, breaking my stuff, driving crazy, reckless, speeding and swerving.

00:40:33.199 --> 00:40:35.440
If they physically intimidate you once, they'll do it again.

00:40:35.679 --> 00:40:37.119
Yeah, no shit, Sherlock.

00:40:37.360 --> 00:40:41.280
Letting go of little lies, assuming they were just part of making an oppression.

00:40:41.440 --> 00:40:45.119
The lies remained mostly little, but it really eroded trust over time.

00:40:45.360 --> 00:40:46.239
Lying about age.

00:40:46.320 --> 00:40:46.960
We get that a lot.

00:40:47.119 --> 00:40:49.679
As you get older, men lie about their age.

00:40:49.920 --> 00:40:50.159
Why?

00:40:50.320 --> 00:40:51.599
Because you're eventually gonna find out.

00:40:51.840 --> 00:40:52.239
That's the thing.

00:40:52.320 --> 00:40:57.039
If you get serious, how embarrassing to be like, hey, I'm meeting your parents, gotta let you know I'm actually 10 years older.

00:40:57.360 --> 00:41:06.400
It's weird because I always thought women lied more about their age, but it seems the more people that we interview, it's very common for men to lie about it.

00:41:06.559 --> 00:41:12.960
And it's so they show up in searches when people cap their age on the apps, they want to be included in that.

00:41:13.280 --> 00:41:16.079
Maybe that's why it's becoming more a male thing.

00:41:16.480 --> 00:41:20.239
Oops, when I set it up, it was an accident and it stayed like that.

00:41:20.480 --> 00:41:21.199
I hear that a lot.

00:41:21.280 --> 00:41:23.039
I'm like, uh accident.

00:41:23.519 --> 00:41:25.760
So you can't go and just edit your profile.

00:41:26.000 --> 00:41:37.119
Yeah, like then the last one never taking responsibility for their own faults and gaslighting me by saying it never happened, flirting, talking in a cute voice with someone else, and then telling me they don't remember or that I'm the crazy one.

00:41:37.199 --> 00:41:37.760
I hate that.

00:41:37.840 --> 00:41:41.760
That is my pet peeve when they turn it around and make you look like you're the crazy one.

00:41:41.920 --> 00:41:42.239
Oof.

00:41:42.639 --> 00:41:43.840
Makes my blood boil.

00:41:44.159 --> 00:41:45.519
So what's your thought then?

00:41:45.599 --> 00:41:52.000
If if they don't feel like they're actually sorry or apologetic, but like what would you want out of them then?

00:41:52.079 --> 00:41:57.760
If if, you know, if they don't, if they're not putting it blame on you, but they still don't feel like they're sorry or apologetic.

00:41:57.840 --> 00:42:00.880
Like well, if it there's always a way to, but listen, I'm sorry if you misunderstood me.

00:42:00.960 --> 00:42:01.920
That wasn't my intention.

00:42:02.000 --> 00:42:04.719
There's always a way to, you know, kind of take some responsibility.

00:42:04.880 --> 00:42:05.039
Yeah.

00:42:05.199 --> 00:42:08.239
Maybe I said it in a wrong way, maybe you misunderstood me.

00:42:08.639 --> 00:42:10.719
Yeah, I like win-win situations.

00:42:10.960 --> 00:42:12.239
Yeah, yeah, right.

00:42:13.039 --> 00:42:15.840
So now we are going to chat the celebrity cut.

00:42:15.920 --> 00:42:17.760
Well, we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.

00:42:17.840 --> 00:42:18.480
Did you hear?

00:42:18.559 --> 00:42:25.199
I heard on the radio that someone, internet sleuths are crazy, like people that like analyze everything that celebs do.

00:42:25.440 --> 00:42:27.280
They've they went to Goodwill in California.

00:42:27.360 --> 00:42:28.000
Did you hear about this?

00:42:28.079 --> 00:42:33.039
And they found Kylie Jenner's, a bunch of Kylie Jenner's stuff and Stormy, her daughter, Storm Me stuff.

00:42:33.280 --> 00:42:34.239
Did you hear about this?

00:42:34.480 --> 00:42:35.679
And it was like super cheap.

00:42:35.760 --> 00:42:38.320
And I guess the internet just exploded.

00:42:38.480 --> 00:42:40.559
And a lot of people were supporting her.

00:42:40.639 --> 00:42:43.679
Like, oh, good for her that she's not, you know, profiting it from it.

00:42:43.760 --> 00:42:44.880
She's giving it to Goodwill.

00:42:45.119 --> 00:42:48.159
But then other people are like, well, she should have sold it for more.

00:42:48.320 --> 00:42:52.000
She could have auctioned it off, made more money, and given that to charity.

00:42:52.320 --> 00:42:59.519
I'm surprised because they have that like Kardashian closet thing where they do sell their old clothes and stuff.

00:42:59.679 --> 00:43:00.000
Yeah.

00:43:00.159 --> 00:43:01.280
It's like so.

00:43:01.360 --> 00:43:06.320
I'm are how did they how did they um confirm that it was actually her?

00:43:06.880 --> 00:43:12.559
Because it was like custom stuff that like people like a jacket with her face on it, stuff like that.

00:43:12.639 --> 00:43:15.920
It was like super custom stuff that they'd probably seen at events or whatever.

00:43:16.000 --> 00:43:16.239
Uh-huh.

00:43:16.400 --> 00:43:19.840
And they were just shocked that they saw it at Goodwill selling for$9.99.

00:43:19.920 --> 00:43:20.079
Yeah.

00:43:20.320 --> 00:43:21.039
That's crazy to me.

00:43:21.519 --> 00:43:28.239
But I did read that Kylie Jenner makes every time she buys Stormy a new toy, she makes Stormy donate one of her older toys.

00:43:29.119 --> 00:43:30.559
So yeah.

00:43:31.119 --> 00:43:32.800
Where do you like to go on a first date?

00:43:32.960 --> 00:43:34.639
What's your ideal first date?

00:43:34.960 --> 00:43:37.519
You know, I'm sick of those fancy dinners.

00:43:37.679 --> 00:43:42.559
I feel like it's just, it doesn't feel I don't know the word, but it doesn't feel comfortable.

00:43:42.800 --> 00:43:43.840
Like it doesn't feel comfortable.

00:43:44.000 --> 00:43:45.760
Like it doesn't, like it feels forced.

00:43:46.079 --> 00:43:47.599
So I want something different.

00:43:47.760 --> 00:43:52.800
Like I'm okay with the yogurt, the ice cream dates, like something simple, mini golf.

00:43:53.199 --> 00:43:58.639
But then I also I always try to look at the other, you know, there's always like two sides, right?

00:43:58.880 --> 00:44:08.159
If this guy's Going on a date once a week with a new girl from Hinge and just you know seeing what he likes, he's usually he should be paying for every first date, right?

00:44:08.400 --> 00:44:12.079
So I I kind of have a like you know soft spot in my heart.

00:44:12.239 --> 00:44:17.440
Like, okay, if he's going on a date every week, he needs to kind of like make it budgetable too.

00:44:17.519 --> 00:44:18.639
You know what I mean?

00:44:18.880 --> 00:44:27.199
But then you hear all these other females, or I hear friends or people that are like, well, the first date needs to be very meaningful and it needs to be this and that.

00:44:27.280 --> 00:44:28.960
And I'm like, I don't know, I know.

00:44:29.039 --> 00:44:34.159
I I just want to be picked up and you know, we can go watch the star.

00:44:34.480 --> 00:44:40.000
Like, I think that's kind of neat because it just feels more cool, calm, you know, relaxed.

00:44:40.239 --> 00:44:41.840
Do you offer to pay on a first date?

00:44:41.920 --> 00:44:42.159
No.

00:44:42.320 --> 00:44:43.679
You never do, never have.

00:44:43.840 --> 00:44:45.360
Never, nope, nope, nope, nope.

00:44:45.440 --> 00:44:50.960
And I've never like every guy has always paid for the first date, so thank God I've never been in that position.

00:44:51.599 --> 00:44:55.119
I don't know what I would do if I was in that position because I'm not doing it.

00:44:55.679 --> 00:44:56.960
I think I'm so direct.

00:44:57.039 --> 00:45:00.559
I'd be like, to the waitress, waiter, I'd be like, oh, this is our first date.

00:45:00.639 --> 00:45:01.599
He's paying.

00:45:02.000 --> 00:45:02.880
I would do it.

00:45:03.199 --> 00:45:06.639
Now it's time to get to know you with Zeya, sponsored by Zeo, your neighborhood yogurt.

00:45:06.880 --> 00:45:07.840
Rapid fire questions.

00:45:07.920 --> 00:45:10.000
What's your favorite body part on a man?

00:45:10.719 --> 00:45:12.000
Oh boy.

00:45:13.119 --> 00:45:14.800
Does height count?

00:45:15.360 --> 00:45:15.599
Yeah.

00:45:15.920 --> 00:45:16.800
She's like a whole thing.

00:45:17.039 --> 00:45:17.920
So you like a tall guy?

00:45:18.159 --> 00:45:18.639
Uh yeah.

00:45:19.119 --> 00:45:20.480
So what's the minimum you'll date?

00:45:20.719 --> 00:45:21.519
5'10.

00:45:21.599 --> 00:45:22.719
Because I'm not that tall.

00:45:22.800 --> 00:45:25.920
I'm 5'5, so I feel like I can be somewhat picky.

00:45:26.239 --> 00:45:28.239
But I want six feet and higher.

00:45:28.480 --> 00:45:29.119
Six feet and higher?

00:45:29.280 --> 00:45:29.840
Yeah, yeah.

00:45:30.079 --> 00:45:32.400
What should someone not do on a first date?

00:45:32.719 --> 00:45:35.360
Don't do anything more than trying to kiss me.

00:45:35.440 --> 00:45:36.320
Like, do not.

00:45:36.559 --> 00:45:37.760
Do not even try.

00:45:38.000 --> 00:45:38.639
Like.

00:45:39.199 --> 00:45:39.920
Goodbye.

00:45:40.239 --> 00:45:42.880
Where should someone not take you on a first date?

00:45:43.360 --> 00:45:45.920
Uh, where they take all their other first dates.

00:45:46.239 --> 00:45:47.360
Do you have a pickup line?

00:45:47.440 --> 00:45:51.760
Like, if you see a good-looking guy at a bar that you're interested in, do you go up to him or do you wait for him to come to you?

00:45:52.000 --> 00:45:53.039
I will never go up to him.

00:45:53.360 --> 00:45:53.920
You will never really?

00:45:54.480 --> 00:45:54.719
No.

00:45:55.199 --> 00:45:57.440
I I want them to come up to me.

00:45:57.599 --> 00:46:01.039
I think, you know, a woman a man should always pursue a woman.

00:46:01.280 --> 00:46:07.519
And if there's I know this is cheesy, but if there's a billion guys in this world, one's gonna come up to you.

00:46:07.760 --> 00:46:08.159
Yeah.

00:46:08.480 --> 00:46:11.039
Is watching porn considered cheating?

00:46:12.559 --> 00:46:16.159
Well, I mean, according to the Bible, yes, it's lust.

00:46:16.400 --> 00:46:23.760
Um, but I do I hear in a lot of stories if if a guy watches porn, they're usually addicted, and that's something they'll never come back from.

00:46:23.840 --> 00:46:26.719
So if if I'm dating a guy, like I don't want him watching porn.

00:46:27.039 --> 00:46:27.599
Are you religious?

00:46:27.840 --> 00:46:28.719
We didn't touch on this.

00:46:28.880 --> 00:46:29.039
Yeah.

00:46:29.280 --> 00:46:31.360
Is it important for you to date someone who's religious?

00:46:31.679 --> 00:46:33.679
Yeah, I am a firm believer.

00:46:33.760 --> 00:46:37.440
Like, I want to go to heaven and I know I'm gonna, you know, see God on the other side.

00:46:37.519 --> 00:46:42.480
And if I'm gonna get married to somebody and see him on the other side, he needs to believe in God as well.

00:46:42.639 --> 00:46:46.320
So that's like and you either do or you don't.

00:46:46.480 --> 00:46:47.519
If you don't, that's fine.

00:46:47.920 --> 00:46:49.039
But we're not gonna date.

00:46:49.280 --> 00:46:49.599
Okay.

00:46:50.079 --> 00:46:54.079
Before you're intimate, is it appropriate to ask your date how many people they've been with?

00:46:54.880 --> 00:46:56.159
I think that's fine.

00:46:56.239 --> 00:47:00.239
Uh, but like, are those people ever gonna give the honorous answer?

00:47:01.360 --> 00:47:03.360
Is it acceptable to have sex on the first date?

00:47:03.519 --> 00:47:04.639
No, no, you never wouldn't.

00:47:05.119 --> 00:47:08.400
Should you disclose mental health issues early on in a relationship?

00:47:08.719 --> 00:47:12.320
Yeah, because I my last one had mental health issues.

00:47:12.639 --> 00:47:14.239
Have you ever walked out mid-date?

00:47:14.800 --> 00:47:15.119
Never.

00:47:15.519 --> 00:47:16.480
Almost, almost.

00:47:16.639 --> 00:47:16.960
Yeah.

00:47:17.199 --> 00:47:18.079
What stopped you?

00:47:19.199 --> 00:47:27.039
Uh it was very packed, and it was kind of like this is when I was sober.

00:47:27.280 --> 00:47:34.800
And he was like, if I think I had if I had like two or three drinks in me, I think I would have been like done it, but I just like could not do it.

00:47:34.960 --> 00:47:35.760
I could not do it.

00:47:35.920 --> 00:47:37.119
We never asked you what's so crazy.

00:47:37.440 --> 00:47:41.440
Do you have any bad date experiences like catfish stories or terrible disaster dates?

00:47:41.679 --> 00:47:42.000
Him.

00:47:42.079 --> 00:47:43.840
Yeah, the one I was just referring to.

00:47:44.079 --> 00:47:45.119
Why was it so bad?

00:47:45.679 --> 00:47:46.079
What?

00:47:46.239 --> 00:47:47.199
Why was it so bad?

00:47:47.440 --> 00:47:53.199
Um, so he knew I wasn't drinking, and he was like, Oh my god, I love that.

00:47:53.360 --> 00:47:54.800
I'm not gonna drink either.

00:47:54.880 --> 00:47:55.599
I respect that.

00:47:55.679 --> 00:47:56.639
I was like, cool.

00:47:56.880 --> 00:48:03.199
And then like the night before the date, he was like, Maybe I'll just have one beer, and I was like, Okay, like that's fine.

00:48:03.519 --> 00:48:06.239
And um, he had reservations.

00:48:06.400 --> 00:48:10.480
We went there and he orders a double Tito soda.

00:48:11.039 --> 00:48:13.760
I'm like, I'm thinking in my head, that's not a beer.

00:48:14.079 --> 00:48:16.400
Like, I drink Tito sodas doubles.

00:48:16.639 --> 00:48:20.239
I know that's like at least 8% alcohol right there.

00:48:20.480 --> 00:48:22.079
A beer is three, four percent.

00:48:22.239 --> 00:48:24.559
So I was like, okay, whatever, don't say anything, Riley.

00:48:24.639 --> 00:48:25.440
Shut your mouth.

00:48:25.679 --> 00:48:27.519
Then he ordered another one.

00:48:28.079 --> 00:48:36.000
And we were sitting like on the corner where like where the waitresses come out, and like he starts, I can tell when people start to get drunk.

00:48:36.079 --> 00:48:38.880
Like I grew up around alcoholism, like you know what I mean.

00:48:39.119 --> 00:48:48.159
He started like kind of like flailing his arms a little bit, and I was like, oh god, second drink, and and it was another double, so he's had four drinks technically, right?

00:48:48.960 --> 00:48:53.039
Then he ordered another one, so I finally said something because I'm a very direct person.

00:48:53.119 --> 00:48:55.440
I go, Oh, what happened to one beer?

00:48:56.480 --> 00:48:58.239
Freaked out on me.

00:48:58.559 --> 00:49:08.000
Freaked out, and I was like, Oh gosh, no, like and he goes, I can't have I can't have a few drinks.

00:49:08.239 --> 00:49:13.119
I was like, you can, but you knew I was sober and you were gonna stay sober with me.

00:49:13.199 --> 00:49:15.199
And then you said you were gonna have one beer.

00:49:15.440 --> 00:49:18.320
One beer is not equ equivalent to six shots.

00:49:18.480 --> 00:49:18.960
Let's be real.

00:49:19.199 --> 00:49:21.119
Lia liar, panties on fire.

00:49:21.599 --> 00:49:25.199
Yeah, and last but not least, what is your favorite sexual position and why?

00:49:26.079 --> 00:49:26.800
Oh god.

00:49:27.440 --> 00:49:30.400
Probably mom, I'm sorry.

00:49:30.800 --> 00:49:34.239
Probably doggy because it gets nice and deep.

00:49:35.360 --> 00:49:36.400
That is hilarious.

00:49:36.719 --> 00:49:37.440
Do you have another question?

00:49:38.159 --> 00:49:41.360
Thank you for so much for joining us this week at the Meat Market, and thank you so much, Riley.

00:49:41.440 --> 00:49:45.679
If you want to snag a date with Riley, go to any of our social media platforms at Meat Market Podcast.

00:49:45.760 --> 00:49:48.159
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00:49:54.960 --> 00:49:57.039
We'll see you next week at the Meat Market.

00:49:58.559 --> 00:50:01.440
Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

00:50:01.519 --> 00:50:03.599
He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

00:50:03.840 --> 00:50:08.639
So I found out the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

00:50:08.800 --> 00:50:11.280
His wife just reached out to me.