April 8, 2026

SITUATIONSHIP OR HUMILIATIONSHIP?

SITUATIONSHIP OR HUMILIATIONSHIP?
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Season 1

Serena joins us to decode the messiest part of modern dating: figuring out if it’s a situationship or a full-blown humiliationship.

Two months of weekend dates, sweet texts, green flags, and then one simple question gets left on read forever. She spills on why independence can look like disinterest, commitment fear, and how social media makes it feel like someone better is always a swipe away.

Things get chaotic fast: rage texts over parking, disappearing acts, a food truck detour, awkward pay-the-bill battles, and vibes that go from “meh” to unsafe in minutes. Serena drops the real talk on spotting red flags, setting boundaries without guilt, and dodging the trap of transactional dating.

We laugh through TikTok story times, comment-section chaos, and itemized Venmo requests after one date. From Scottsdale luxury rentals to keeping safe at home, entitlement is everywhere, but your standards stay fierce.

Press play, share with a friend, and leave a review telling us the wildest red flag you wish you’d caught sooner.

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00:00 - Catfish Open And Meet Serena

01:10 - Why The Last Three Guys Ghosted

07:25 - The Downtown Date Disaster Story

27:52 - Luxury Rental Chaos And Entitled Guests

33:09 - Listener Ghosting Question And Commitment Fear

36:49 - Venmo Requests And Transactional Dating

40:19 - Dinner Timing Plus First Date Rules

46:18 - Stalker Safety Scare And Wrap Up

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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the meat market.

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The single scene is the slaughterhouse, and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay.

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I'm Jess.

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And today, sizzling single is Serena.

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Welcome.

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Hi, thank you guys.

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So the last three guys that you've dated have all ghosted you.

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Yes.

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What's going on?

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I do think part of it is me.

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I think there is a part of me where I'm a free bird at the end of the day, and I'm 25 years old, and I've been single for almost 10 years now.

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And so I have this independence to me.

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So when I do date people for a few weeks or a few months, there might be a part of them that like senses that maybe I'm not all in.

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And so I think it could be me.

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I'm willing to like take responsibility and be like, it could be me.

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It's not just the man.

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Um, but the last three, they were all very different.

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That's why it was shocking to me.

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Like very different personalities, very different types.

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Um, but yeah, I guess that's just um how it's been recently.

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What was the average length of time before being ghosted?

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Was it like dating for a couple months, dating for a couple weeks?

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It was for about two months.

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That's a long time.

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I know.

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So they not they just ghosted you like no explanation?

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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And the the last guy was the most shocking because he was like the good guy.

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Like he was very sweet.

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He had just everything about him was like green flags, and that's why I think it was definitely me who was the issue.

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Um, but I can tell you guys the story of like how we met and everything.

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Okay.

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So we had met at my job actually.

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So I'm a home manager, as we were talking about.

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Um so I managed like luxury vacation rentals in Scottsdale.

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And he was there for a wedding.

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So his, I think it was his best friend was getting married.

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And that week I was managing that home.

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So I had to go up there and kind of just help them navigate the home and help out with the wedding, any decorations, whatever they might need.

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They were very low-key, very chill.

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And I was in our pool house one day and I was setting up decor for the wedding, setting up tables, whatever.

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And I noticed he had walked in and he was pretty cute, definitely my type, tall, dark, and handsome, had like the dark features.

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Um, and we had immediately kind of locked eyes.

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And for I did my usual like intro.

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I was like, hi guys, I'm Serena, I'm the home manager, keeping it professional.

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And I had kind of toured them around the space, showed them like where the theater room was, where the bar was, all that good stuff.

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And so after the tour, everybody had kind of left to do their thing, to grab their rooms, explore the home a little more.

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And he ended up staying behind and just asking me questions about life, what I do, all that good stuff.

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And so as we're talking, I was like, okay, well, you know, I really got to get back to work.

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And he was like, Well, um, I would really love to have your number.

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And I was like, Of course, you know, he seemed really sweet.

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And I was like, I don't usually do this, I'm at work, but I'll give you my number because you seem really sweet.

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And so throughout the whole weekend, we were texting, and he asked me, like, oh, do you like coffee?

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And I was like, Yeah, I love coffee.

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So the next day when I was at the home, he'd end up bringing me like an iced coffee, and he was just such a sweetheart.

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And um, so we talked throughout that whole weekend, but I never did anything, never kissed him or anything because I was at work.

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But then, of course, after the wedding, after their stay, once they had checked out, um, it turns out he'd actually lived in Arizona.

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He lived in Gilbert.

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Jackpot.

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Yeah.

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So, because I assumed, you know, they're visiting for a wedding, like, oh, you're gonna go back to whatever state you're from.

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And he was like, No, I actually live maybe like 30 minutes away from here.

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So we'd end up going on a few dates after that.

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And he was just very sweet, a very sweet guy, had a great sense of humor, definitely put me in my feminine, I would say.

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Um, but just everything you look for in a guy, like makes sure that I'm walking on the inside of the street, you know, picks up the tab on everything, opens doors for me.

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Like he was just such a sweetheart.

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Um, and we had a lot in common too, like the same music tastes, um, same sense of humor.

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We like the same shows.

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Um, and then about two months in, we were hanging out probably every weekend, whether it was like grabbing dinner, having wine at my place, you know, going for walks, whatever it might be.

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And he ended up going to Europe for work.

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And so uh he was gonna be there for maybe like two weeks.

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And so I was texting him while he was there, just asking how his stay was, and he was sending me photos and talking about the food he was eating and the music he was seeing.

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And I had asked him, I was like, what's been your favorite thing that you've eaten there?

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And I've never heard from that man again.

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What?

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That is shocking.

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Yeah, are you sure he's alive?

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I'm just gonna say that.

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Right.

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I that's always my first thought is I'm like, did he die?

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I low-key just thought he met like a Paris baddie, and he was like, All right, I'm I'm gonna.

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No, but he's alive because I saw him um, you know, on TikTok when you can see like if people look at your profile, he looked at my profile a couple weeks ago.

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So I was like, okay, he's alive, he's alive and well.

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Um, but yeah, I it kind of came out of nowhere, but I also did recognize that he was a little older than me and he had talked about wanting something serious, and I could I could be a little flippant sometimes.

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And so part of me is thinking maybe he just recognized that I wasn't in it for something serious.

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Like I really enjoyed his company.

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He was a really sweet guy, but I don't know that I was ready.

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25.

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Are you looking to get married and have kids?

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Are you looking for something serious?

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To be honest, no.

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No, not maybe how old was he?

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He was 28.

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Well, that's not too much of a.

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I feel like he could have still met a Paris baddie because so this has happened to me before, where I've been dating someone here locally, and then I go on vacation and I meet someone, and even though I know that the person that I've met isn't the person for me, it makes me realize that the person I'm dating at home isn't for me.

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That could be it.

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And so he may have met someone and realized that that ain't my girl.

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Exactly.

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Exactly.

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Yeah.

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So you didn't respond to him, you didn't send him a follow-up text.

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How was your trip?

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Are you back in town?

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No.

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Anytime somebody doesn't, that's the thing, is with all three ghostings, anytime they didn't respond, I'm never one to like chase and be like, if they want, if they really want you, they're gonna make it known.

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I shouldn't have to like chase and double text and whatever.

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So I kind of just I let it go.

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I'm like, you know what?

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Another one bites the dust.

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That's not my person, and that's okay.

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Like it's just another experience.

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And he was such a great guy that I now realize, okay, that's kind of like what I'm looking for at this point.

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Um, but kind of what you said, at this point, I really don't think I'm looking for a serious relationship, even in the next like five years.

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I don't know if I want kids.

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I'm very fulfilled with my work, my friendships, my family, just kind of being on my own.

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And that can always change.

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Like I'm I'm still 25.

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Next year I could be like, I want like five kids.

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Um, but I also think I'm just a little jaded from the dating scene here, and I've had too many bad experiences where I'm like, God, I kind of just like being on my own at this point.

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It can be tough.

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Do you have any disaster date stories?

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Oh God, yeah.

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I think the most recent one that I went on.

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I had posted a TikTok about it, but I can go a little more like in depth because it was pretty bad.

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Um, so I had just started posting on TikTok in October and kind of fell in love with it.

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I've been addicted to it.

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I love just everything about that app.

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And this person had followed me and they had DM'd me, but I just thought it was a bot because they said something about like, hey girl, haven't seen you in so long.

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And I was like, oh, it's just a bot.

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So I ignored it.

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And I didn't recognize the username and the profile photo was just like a piece of art.

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So I didn't know who the person was.

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And so the person kept liking my videos and commenting, and I was like, I I just ignored it.

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I thought it was, you know.

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And so then one day I posted a TikTok, and that account posted a photo of me and them.

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And it was a guy that I used to hook up with in college.

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And so I realized I was like, oh my gosh, it's I gotta give him like a fake name.

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I'll say uh Bob.

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What is it?

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Bob.

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Bob.

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So Bob, I was like, oh my god, it's Bob.

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And so I recognized the username, it kind of went with his name.

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And so I DM'd him back and I was like, I had no idea it was you.

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Like, hey, what's up?

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And so we started talking, and I went to college, I think I graduated back in 2022.

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So it had been a while.

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But our relationship was mainly we met at a party, we both thought like each other was hot, and then we'd hang out on the weekends, and it was kind of just that.

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I think we only saw each other for maybe a month or two.

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Um, and most of the time when we saw each other, we were just drunk, we were partying like college kids.

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And so at this point, he was like, Hey, I saw you've been posting on TikTok.

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Like, we should go out, like grab a drink, like we should do something.

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I want to see you again.

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And I was like, you know what for sure?

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And in my head, I could not remember why we stopped talking.

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I was like, why did we stop talking about it?

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The worst, you gotta put it in your notes.

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Yes, girl, you gotta put it in the contact information in the notes.

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Do not text.

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Yes.

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Yeah.

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Yes.

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And well, and that was the weird thing too.

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I couldn't find his contact.

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Like I didn't have his number saved.

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And I couldn't, I was like, you know what?

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I was in college.

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Maybe I talked to him on Snapchat.

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I looked him up on Snapchat, couldn't find that either.

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So I was like, why did I stop talking to him?

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Why don't I have his number?

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Did I delete his numbers?

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Yeah.

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And so finally we figure out a day that we want to meet up, and we were gonna grab drinks in downtown Phoenix.

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And I I love downtown Phoenix, it's like my go-to.

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I feel like it's a good chill spot to kind of start with dates.

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And so I had told him to meet me at Barcoa.

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Have you guys ever been there?

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Yeah.

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So it's like a really kind of like cute bar.

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It's got an upstairs, a downstairs, and we had set the time to meet at eight o'clock.

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Um, some things ended up coming up, and he's like, Hey, can we push till nine?

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Because he lives all the way in like Glendale or Peoria, somewhere like really far north.

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And I was like, Yeah, that's fine.

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So I go to Barcoa, I get there at nine, and parking in downtown can be a little tough sometimes.

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So I ended up finding a free spot and he was texting me, like, hey, I don't really come to downtown a lot.

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Can I just meet at your spot and we'll go from there?

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And immediately I was like, let's just meet there.

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Like something in my gut told me I don't want him to know where I live because I live close to downtown, but I didn't want him to know my address because I it just felt a little weird.

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I was like, you know what?

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No, let's let's meet there.

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So I found a free parking spot and I texted him.

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I was like, hey, there's paid parking, but you can also find a free one just on the street.

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And so he's like, Bet, okay.

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So I get there right at nine, I walk into Barcoa, and he's texting me like, oh my God, this traffic fucking sucks.

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Like this is pissing me off.

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And immediately I'm kind of like a little icked out because I feel like a first date, you should be on your best behavior and you should be excited.

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And the immediate like aggression or just that too in men, like men who are like overly aggressive or get pissed off really easily.

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It's like a red flag immediately.

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I'm like, calm down, it's parking.

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Like, let's calm down.

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Right.

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And so I was like, hey, it's fine, take your time.

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Like, I've got a seat here.

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I'm just sitting, I'm waiting, I'll grab a water, go to the bathroom, whatever.

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So he keeps like kind of rage texting me, being like, I can't find fucking parking.

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This is stupid.

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I might just go home.

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And I'm like, okay, like I don't know what to tell you.

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This is where I parked.

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Like, just do what you gotta do.

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Like, I don't know, do you want to go somewhere else?

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And so then he's like not responding.

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So then I'm sitting there and it time is going on, and it's like 9:30, and I still don't hear anything from him.

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So I was like, did he just like leave?

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I don't know.

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So I'm texting my friends, I'm like, okay, this guy is like raging about parking, and it's 30 minutes into the date, and he's still not here.

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Haven't heard from him now.

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Like, he just kind of went ghost.

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And so they were like, girl, leave.

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Like, what are you still doing there?

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And so I was like, Yeah.

00:12:16.960 --> 00:12:17.759
Did you order a drink?

00:12:18.000 --> 00:12:18.559
I didn't yet.

00:12:18.639 --> 00:12:19.759
No, I had just gotten a water.

00:12:21.679 --> 00:12:22.399
Yes, yeah.

00:12:22.559 --> 00:12:24.399
And so I'm just I'm chilling, whatever.

00:12:24.480 --> 00:12:26.720
People are starting to look at me, like, girl, you got stood up.

00:12:26.799 --> 00:12:29.039
And I'm like, no, I promise it's the parking.

00:12:29.360 --> 00:12:37.200
And so he finally, I'm sitting there, like 9:35 hits, and I get a text, and he was like, All right, like I think I found something.

00:12:37.279 --> 00:12:40.240
And I'm like, okay, cool, text me when you're walking in.

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Silence again.

00:12:41.759 --> 00:12:44.960
I was like, dude, I I've been here now for 40 minutes.

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Like, I'm I'm tired.

00:12:46.159 --> 00:12:47.519
Like, what's going on?

00:12:47.840 --> 00:12:53.840
And so finally I was like, okay, maybe I'll just like walk outside and kind of like see if I can see him.

00:12:54.159 --> 00:12:57.919
I go outside and he's just standing by a food truck ordering food.

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No, completely ignoring that I was inside.

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And so at this point, I was kind of pissed off.

00:13:03.919 --> 00:13:05.919
I was like, okay, I don't want to go up to him.

00:13:06.000 --> 00:13:08.559
Like, I feel like I'm like begging for this date at this point.

00:13:08.799 --> 00:13:13.840
And so I kind of stand in the vicinity of the truck to be like, hello, I'm here.

00:13:14.080 --> 00:13:19.840
And so I stand next to the truck and he finally like looks up and he goes, Oh, hey.

00:13:20.080 --> 00:13:24.559
And like I could tell he had definitely like smoked or something before because he just seemed out of it.

00:13:24.639 --> 00:13:26.080
And he was like, What's up?

00:13:26.240 --> 00:13:27.519
Like, I haven't seen you in a while.

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Have you gotten taller?

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Like, just I was like, um, yeah, hey, like, how long have you been here?

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He's like, Oh, I got here like 10 minutes ago.

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I was just ordering food.

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I'm like, I've been sitting inside waiting for you.

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Like, okay.

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And so I'm trying to keep the energy like good.

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Cause I'm like, okay, like we're here.

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What are we gonna do?

00:13:47.360 --> 00:13:50.000
So he orders his food, eats the whole thing in front of me.

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I was like, okay.

00:13:52.320 --> 00:13:53.679
Are you sure it was a date?

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Right.

00:13:54.240 --> 00:13:56.399
I'm like, what are we doing?

00:13:57.519 --> 00:13:58.960
Like, how did he ask you out?

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Right.

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He said, let's let's meet up, let's go out for drinks.

00:14:02.799 --> 00:14:03.120
Okay.

00:14:03.519 --> 00:14:06.000
So I'm sitting there, I'm like, okay, like finish your food.

00:14:06.080 --> 00:14:07.679
He's like, Yeah, sorry, I'm just really hungry.

00:14:07.759 --> 00:14:10.159
Like, I got off work late, like, whatever.

00:14:10.320 --> 00:14:12.080
I don't know if he had the munchies or whatever.

00:14:12.320 --> 00:14:14.159
So I I'm trying to keep it positive.

00:14:14.240 --> 00:14:15.600
So I was like, okay, finish your food.

00:14:15.759 --> 00:14:16.960
He finishes his food.

00:14:17.120 --> 00:14:20.879
We go inside and we go downstairs and we're kind of like chatting.

00:14:20.960 --> 00:14:22.320
And I was like, How have you been?

00:14:22.480 --> 00:14:24.879
And I just noticed he's kind of like out of it a little bit.

00:14:25.039 --> 00:14:26.879
I didn't, I don't know if he was maybe nervous.

00:14:27.039 --> 00:14:30.480
So maybe he was just like smoked a little bit before to take the edge off.

00:14:30.639 --> 00:14:35.919
And so we sit down and we're talking, and he's like, Oh yeah, I saw your TikToks, and like I decided to reach out.

00:14:36.000 --> 00:14:36.960
And I was like, That's great.

00:14:37.039 --> 00:14:38.159
What have you been up to?

00:14:38.320 --> 00:14:42.720
And truthfully, like this guy didn't have hobbies, he didn't have anything like super interesting.

00:14:42.879 --> 00:14:46.080
He just said he worked and his hobbies were the game.

00:14:46.240 --> 00:14:46.799
Oh my god.

00:14:46.960 --> 00:14:47.679
And I was like, What?

00:14:48.080 --> 00:14:50.000
He's like, Yeah, yeah, I just like game on the weekends.

00:14:50.080 --> 00:14:51.519
I was like, Oh, okay, like nice.

00:14:51.679 --> 00:14:52.639
Do you go to like the gym?

00:14:52.799 --> 00:14:54.480
Do you have any like sports that you do?

00:14:54.559 --> 00:14:55.679
Like, do you do anything with your friends?

00:14:55.759 --> 00:14:56.879
He's like, Not really.

00:14:57.039 --> 00:15:00.080
I was like, okay, well, you're very interesting, so this is good.

00:15:00.240 --> 00:15:02.559
And so the only thing we really talked about was college.

00:15:02.720 --> 00:15:04.240
Like, that's all we really had in common.

00:15:05.279 --> 00:15:05.919
Yes.

00:15:06.159 --> 00:15:11.039
And so the first date, we go there, we get a drink, it's fine.

00:15:11.279 --> 00:15:13.360
And then after that, I was like, So what do you want to do?

00:15:13.440 --> 00:15:14.559
Do you want to grab a bite to eat?

00:15:14.720 --> 00:15:16.960
Obviously not, he had already eaten, it was fine.

00:15:17.360 --> 00:15:19.759
But I was like, we can hop around a little bit.

00:15:19.919 --> 00:15:21.519
And so he's like, Yeah, yeah, for sure.

00:15:21.679 --> 00:15:26.240
So we finish our drinks, and the waiter comes and she's like, Okay, like I'll run you guys' tab.

00:15:26.799 --> 00:15:32.240
And she comes over with the check, and he's kind of just sitting there, like zoned out.

00:15:32.399 --> 00:15:40.879
And I'm like, if you know me, I I don't know, every woman is different, but I think on the first date, at least I think the guy should pay.

00:15:41.039 --> 00:15:48.240
I I think it it's a way to show, like, hey, we put a lot into the actual date, you know, like getting ready.

00:15:48.320 --> 00:15:50.399
And to be honest, I carried that conversation.

00:15:50.480 --> 00:15:53.600
So I was like, the least you could do is pay for my margarita here.

00:15:53.679 --> 00:15:54.320
Like, come on.

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And I don't know.

00:15:55.360 --> 00:15:56.960
I waited for 45 minutes.

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Yeah.

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And so I just think like the chivalrous thing to do is to pay.

00:16:01.440 --> 00:16:02.559
That's just how I grew up.

00:16:02.720 --> 00:16:04.320
I'm not saying you need to pay my bills.

00:16:04.399 --> 00:16:06.879
Like, I have a full-time job, my bills are paid.

00:16:06.960 --> 00:16:08.399
I'm I'm not looking for that.

00:16:08.480 --> 00:16:10.960
I just want to feel like I'm taken care of, you know?

00:16:11.200 --> 00:16:17.600
And I think like it definitely puts you in your feminine and makes you feel more like a woman, I guess.

00:16:17.759 --> 00:16:18.960
Um, but every woman's different.

00:16:19.039 --> 00:16:21.279
So if that's not you, that's fine, but that's just me.

00:16:21.519 --> 00:16:26.720
So the wait waiter comes out with the check and he's just kind of zoning out, and I'm starting to get uncomfortable.

00:16:26.799 --> 00:16:29.200
And I'm like, um, are you gonna?

00:16:29.360 --> 00:16:31.279
And he's like, Oh, right, right, right.

00:16:31.440 --> 00:16:32.559
Let me move some things around.

00:16:32.720 --> 00:16:37.600
So he like pulls his phone out and he had to like move money out of his checking or whatever.

00:16:37.759 --> 00:16:38.639
And I was like, What?

00:16:38.879 --> 00:16:40.159
Okay, interesting.

00:16:40.399 --> 00:16:43.279
Um, moves his money around and then he pays.

00:16:43.440 --> 00:16:44.399
And I was like, okay.

00:16:44.559 --> 00:16:49.360
So after that, I was kind of like, we don't have to go like anywhere and get drinks, we can just go sit down somewhere.

00:16:49.440 --> 00:16:53.679
And he's like, no, no, no, like you know Phoenix, like, show me your spots and whatever.

00:16:53.919 --> 00:16:57.360
And so I was like, okay, let's let's walk to Ghost Donkey.

00:16:57.440 --> 00:16:59.120
That's like my second favorite place to go.

00:16:59.279 --> 00:17:07.359
And so we're walking over there, and one little thing I noticed is like he didn't care if I was walking on the outside of the sidewalk, which that's just like a little thing for me.

00:17:07.440 --> 00:17:08.400
It's not a deal breaker.

00:17:08.480 --> 00:17:12.079
I'm not not like, damn, you're not willing to like jump in front of a car for me.

00:17:12.240 --> 00:17:12.880
That's not me.

00:17:12.960 --> 00:17:15.279
I'm just it's just a little thing that I pick up on.

00:17:15.519 --> 00:17:18.480
Um, but if a man's not, it's like, okay, princess.

00:17:18.720 --> 00:17:18.880
Right.

00:17:19.119 --> 00:17:19.759
Like, would you like to?

00:17:19.920 --> 00:17:23.039
I'm like, do you want me to jump in front of the Subaru in case things go down?

00:17:23.839 --> 00:17:25.599
Um, so it's just little things like that.

00:17:25.759 --> 00:17:33.279
And then I did kind of notice throughout the night he would make like little digs at me making TikToks or whatever.

00:17:33.359 --> 00:17:36.000
And I was just like, okay, but like that's how you found me.

00:17:36.160 --> 00:17:37.519
That's how you reached out to me.

00:17:37.599 --> 00:17:41.839
Like, you you obviously found my videos, followed me, and you've been like interested ever since.

00:17:41.920 --> 00:17:47.599
So, like, why you gotta, you know, and God forbid a woman try something, you know?

00:17:47.920 --> 00:17:53.200
So we're walking, that's kind of like the conversation where it's going, and we go to go stonky.

00:17:53.599 --> 00:17:57.200
We go inside, and something weird he said when we were in line.

00:17:57.359 --> 00:18:05.519
We were pulling out our IDs, and then the guy was gonna pat him down, and he's like, Oh, sh, I don't know if I I left my gun in my car in my pocket.

00:18:05.680 --> 00:18:08.559
And I was like, You need to bring a gun to a first date?

00:18:08.720 --> 00:18:09.680
Like, why?

00:18:10.000 --> 00:18:11.680
You think I'm gonna do anything to you?

00:18:11.839 --> 00:18:13.039
Like, chill.

00:18:13.440 --> 00:18:16.319
And so he was like, Oh no, I left my gun in my car.

00:18:16.480 --> 00:18:18.559
And I was like, Did you need to mention that?

00:18:19.119 --> 00:18:26.160
He's like, I won't walk on the right side of the sidewalk for you, but I will kill a man.

00:18:27.359 --> 00:18:29.519
I'm like, okay, good to know.

00:18:29.680 --> 00:18:37.359
And me personally, like, I just get I know Arizona's open carry, but I get really uncomfortable around guns, especially in like casual situations like that.

00:18:37.519 --> 00:18:39.839
I'm like, we're grabbing a margarita, you don't need to bring it in.

00:18:40.160 --> 00:18:42.559
Especially when someone's potentially under the influence of drugs, you know.

00:18:42.799 --> 00:18:43.039
Right?

00:18:43.359 --> 00:18:46.079
Yeah, drugs and and I'm like, okay.

00:18:46.319 --> 00:18:53.759
And so we go to this next spot and we're we get in line, and I was like, okay, do you want me to just order us like a margarita or something?

00:18:53.839 --> 00:18:55.279
And he's like, Yeah, yeah, that's fine.

00:18:55.440 --> 00:19:04.720
So we stand there, I order the margarita, and he's standing behind me, and the waiter brings out the tab, and I'm waiting.

00:19:04.799 --> 00:19:07.440
I'm like, okay, so are you gonna?

00:19:07.599 --> 00:19:11.200
And he's just standing there like completely ignoring.

00:19:11.279 --> 00:19:13.920
And the girl at this point is like, so like, are you gonna?

00:19:14.160 --> 00:19:15.440
And I was like, Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:19:15.680 --> 00:19:21.519
So I throw my card down and he goes, Oh yeah, you just want to go like back and forth throughout the night.

00:19:21.759 --> 00:19:23.680
Like you get this one, me next one.

00:19:23.759 --> 00:19:26.640
And I was like, sure, all right, okay.

00:19:26.880 --> 00:19:27.920
So we get that.

00:19:28.240 --> 00:19:30.160
He slams the drink down.

00:19:30.319 --> 00:19:31.680
I was like, okay.

00:19:32.000 --> 00:19:35.200
So we finish that, and then immediately he's like, Okay, let's go somewhere else.

00:19:35.279 --> 00:19:38.319
I'm like, somewhere, okay, but I'm like picking up the tab for you, Prince.

00:19:38.480 --> 00:19:39.599
Like, what are we doing?

00:19:39.839 --> 00:19:43.200
And so we go to the next spot and Luckies.

00:19:43.440 --> 00:19:44.640
It's like a very casual sit down.

00:19:44.799 --> 00:19:50.880
I'm like, let's just park it here so we can like chat, get to know each other, and not just be like running from place to place.

00:19:51.200 --> 00:19:55.359
So when we get there, I just his whole energy was just off.

00:19:55.519 --> 00:19:59.440
And then the more we start talking, I'm like, oh, me and this man have nothing in common.

00:19:59.759 --> 00:20:05.119
And of course, like, I feel like with dating now, one thing you kind of have to talk about is politics.

00:20:05.359 --> 00:20:09.839
And so we start talking politics and we're on complete ends of the spectrum.

00:20:10.000 --> 00:20:11.519
And so I'm like, you know what?

00:20:11.680 --> 00:20:17.680
I'm at the point where you can have your beliefs and we can talk about it and be adults.

00:20:18.000 --> 00:20:19.680
But he was just making digs at me.

00:20:19.759 --> 00:20:22.480
He's like, Oh, I forgot you were a Democrat, aren't you?

00:20:22.559 --> 00:20:24.079
And I'm like, Yeah, I am.

00:20:24.240 --> 00:20:26.319
Like, what what what's the issue here?

00:20:26.400 --> 00:20:29.440
Like, I'm not sitting here making digs at you and what you believe in.

00:20:29.599 --> 00:20:33.359
And then we start going in about like snap benefits and this and that.

00:20:33.440 --> 00:20:40.319
And I just realized like this man has no sense of like empathy for anybody.

00:20:40.559 --> 00:20:44.880
Cause at that point, I think during that time, like snap benefits were gonna be taken away.

00:20:45.039 --> 00:20:48.160
And so I was like, listen, everybody has a different circumstance.

00:20:48.319 --> 00:20:53.279
Yes, some people can con the system, but you have no idea what somebody has been through.

00:20:53.440 --> 00:20:58.400
And he's like, I'm not trying to pay for some lady who has five baby daddies and all these kids.

00:20:58.559 --> 00:21:00.319
Like, that's not where my money's going towards.

00:21:00.480 --> 00:21:01.920
He's not even trying to buy you a drink.

00:21:02.079 --> 00:21:02.400
I know.

00:21:02.720 --> 00:21:03.519
That was the thing.

00:21:03.599 --> 00:21:07.440
I was like, you're so concerned about your money going there, you can't even pay for a margarita.

00:21:07.599 --> 00:21:07.839
Right.

00:21:08.000 --> 00:21:09.680
And so he starts going off about that.

00:21:09.759 --> 00:21:11.839
And I was like, Well, you have no idea.

00:21:11.920 --> 00:21:14.559
Like, they could be victims of like abuse.

00:21:14.720 --> 00:21:18.079
Like, you have no idea what their childhood was, what they grew up in.

00:21:18.160 --> 00:21:22.079
Like, if they see that from their mom and dad, that's exactly what they're gonna replicate.

00:21:22.319 --> 00:21:25.680
And he was like, Man, I didn't have a dad, and look at me, like, I'm fine.

00:21:25.759 --> 00:21:28.640
If everybody, I was like, I don't know if you're fine.

00:21:28.880 --> 00:21:30.480
But if you say he's fine, yeah.

00:21:30.880 --> 00:21:35.359
And he said something along the lines of like, I think if everybody just thought like me, the world would be better.

00:21:35.519 --> 00:21:35.839
What?

00:21:36.000 --> 00:21:40.720
I was like, You want every single person on this planet to think and act like you.

00:21:40.799 --> 00:21:42.000
He's like, Yeah.

00:21:43.039 --> 00:21:47.759
I so at that point I was like, all right, I'm talking to like just like an immature kid at this point.

00:21:48.000 --> 00:21:54.640
And so we're going back and forth, and he can tell that I'm getting heated because I I was like, You don't even want to hear me out.

00:21:54.720 --> 00:21:59.680
You just want to like demean everything that I'm saying, and you're right in your head, and nothing that I say is gonna get through to you.

00:22:00.240 --> 00:22:02.160
And so we're like going back and forth.

00:22:02.240 --> 00:22:03.920
Like it's it doesn't even look like a date anymore.

00:22:04.000 --> 00:22:07.680
Cause I'm like, wait, no, like have empathy, like this and that.

00:22:07.839 --> 00:22:10.720
And then he could see that he was kind of losing me a little bit.

00:22:10.880 --> 00:22:15.759
And so he's like, Man, you just got prettier since the last time I saw you.

00:22:15.920 --> 00:22:16.480
Oh my god.

00:22:16.799 --> 00:22:19.599
He was like, Wow, dude, come on.

00:22:20.160 --> 00:22:21.599
And I was like, thanks.

00:22:21.839 --> 00:22:25.119
And so the rest of the night basically was just a bus.

00:22:25.279 --> 00:22:28.640
He like tried to get me to invite him back to my place.

00:22:28.720 --> 00:22:30.960
He was like, You're really gonna make me drive all the way home.

00:22:31.039 --> 00:22:36.960
And I was like, Yeah, you're the one who chose to drive here, to drink, to be on drugs, to whatever.

00:22:37.119 --> 00:22:39.119
Like, sorry, call an Uber if you need to.

00:22:39.359 --> 00:22:47.599
It was just there was more that went on that night, but I like won't get too much into it, but you can kind of see that like it sounds like he wasn't there to be on a date, though.

00:22:47.839 --> 00:22:50.000
Like he was just there to smash and dash.

00:22:50.319 --> 00:22:52.559
He just wanted to see if like it was still on.

00:22:53.279 --> 00:22:54.960
How did you last that long?

00:22:55.039 --> 00:22:56.400
Like I don't know.

00:22:56.559 --> 00:22:57.359
I would have been done.

00:22:57.519 --> 00:23:03.039
I may have waited until he showed up, but when I if I was to see him at the food truck, I would have been done.

00:23:03.200 --> 00:23:04.720
I would have just left without saying anything.

00:23:05.119 --> 00:23:12.960
Well, and the crazy thing was, so that whole situation happened, and then I posted a video on my TikTok where I was saw it.

00:23:13.119 --> 00:23:14.240
Oh, he he did.

00:23:14.480 --> 00:23:14.720
Good.

00:23:14.880 --> 00:23:19.599
I posted a video that I said, like, first date so bad, I'm inside for the rest of the season.

00:23:19.680 --> 00:23:20.799
Like, I'm done.

00:23:21.119 --> 00:23:22.880
And he ended up DMing me.

00:23:22.960 --> 00:23:25.759
He was like, damn, you thought the date was that bad.

00:23:26.400 --> 00:23:29.359
And I just one word, I was like, yes.

00:23:29.599 --> 00:23:31.279
And he was like, What the fuck?

00:23:31.440 --> 00:23:31.920
Why?

00:23:32.160 --> 00:23:33.359
And so I told him everything.

00:23:33.519 --> 00:23:36.640
I was like, you made me wait at this place for 30 minutes.

00:23:36.799 --> 00:23:39.279
You like ate your food while I was sitting inside.

00:23:39.519 --> 00:23:45.200
You like made me feel bad about my political views when I was nothing but like open-minded to you.

00:23:45.359 --> 00:23:51.920
Um, and honestly, and the one thing I said, I was like, listen, this is me, but I feel like on the first date, the guy should pay.

00:23:52.000 --> 00:23:53.279
Like, that's just me.

00:23:53.599 --> 00:23:58.720
And I had to go like back to back with you on paying for like food and drinks and whatever.

00:23:58.960 --> 00:24:00.880
And he went off.

00:24:01.039 --> 00:24:02.640
He was like, Gold digger.

00:24:03.599 --> 00:24:05.920
Basically that he was like, you know what?

00:24:06.079 --> 00:24:06.640
Fuck you.

00:24:06.799 --> 00:24:11.119
Good luck with your fucking TikTok, you and your bitches with all your stupid story times, blah, blah, blah.

00:24:11.279 --> 00:24:11.599
Oh, yeah.

00:24:11.759 --> 00:24:15.920
And he goes, he goes, the reason I didn't pay for you is because you're not my bitch.

00:24:16.079 --> 00:24:18.000
Sounds like you need to get your money up.

00:24:18.480 --> 00:24:19.039
Wow.

00:24:19.279 --> 00:24:20.720
I was like, Dang.

00:24:21.200 --> 00:24:24.480
Woo! I literally was like, no, no way, no way.

00:24:24.559 --> 00:24:26.400
So I like screenshotted it in my mind.

00:24:26.559 --> 00:24:28.559
And then I I blocked him on everything.

00:24:28.640 --> 00:24:30.079
Cause I also was kind of scared of him.

00:24:30.160 --> 00:24:37.519
Just like he's was very like hot-tempered, talked about having a gun, knows where I like the area that I live in.

00:24:37.680 --> 00:24:41.279
So I was like, I I just I don't want anything to do with this guy anymore.

00:24:41.440 --> 00:24:42.960
So I blocked him on everything.

00:24:43.119 --> 00:24:44.720
And then I made another TikTok.

00:24:44.880 --> 00:24:49.519
I was like, I basically explaining, like, hey, I went on a date with this guy.

00:24:49.680 --> 00:24:52.880
This is just me, but I think on a first date, a guy should pay.

00:24:53.039 --> 00:24:59.680
And this guy made me kind of go band for band and then went off of me and said, like, I'm not your bitch, or you're not my bitch.

00:24:59.839 --> 00:25:02.240
You know, sounds like you need to get your money up, whatever.

00:25:02.400 --> 00:25:03.839
Why would I pay for you?

00:25:04.079 --> 00:25:13.519
And you would be shocked by the comments on that video because all the women in unison are like, girl, I would have left it the first time that he said, like, you need to pay.

00:25:13.839 --> 00:25:22.319
And all the guys, it's just flooded with dudes being like, king shit, king shit, you sound insufferable, like, get this guy a podcast, blah, blah, blah.

00:25:22.559 --> 00:25:23.359
Oh my gosh.

00:25:23.839 --> 00:25:26.480
Also, the part you're forgetting is the Mr.

00:25:26.720 --> 00:25:27.920
Move My Money Around.

00:25:28.240 --> 00:25:31.759
Like he had to move money to pay for two margaritas.

00:25:32.079 --> 00:25:33.440
But I didn't even get my money up.

00:25:33.759 --> 00:25:35.519
You're the one that needs to get your money up.

00:25:35.680 --> 00:25:36.400
I mean, come on.

00:25:36.559 --> 00:25:37.440
It was just ridiculous.

00:25:37.599 --> 00:25:44.240
And that, honestly, after that date, and I'm not kidding, that video has thousands of comments of dudes just shitting on me.

00:25:44.559 --> 00:25:49.440
Being like, girl, I I had to like turn not I didn't turn the comments off, but I turned the notifications off.

00:25:49.519 --> 00:25:51.200
So I was like, this is not good for the brain.

00:25:51.839 --> 00:25:58.160
Um and then other guys were like stitching it, being like, This girl sounds like a gold digger, she sounds insufferable.

00:25:58.240 --> 00:25:59.680
Like, I wouldn't pay for her drinks either.

00:25:59.759 --> 00:26:19.039
And I'm like, Wow, this is the thing is like these dudes, at the end of the day, the dudes that are in like TikTok comments and bashing on women, they want any opportunity they can to shit on women because I feel like in a way they like not that they're jealous, but there's something in them that resents women.

00:26:19.200 --> 00:26:22.160
And so again, it's men with the hate.

00:26:22.319 --> 00:26:24.880
Most of our hate comments come from men.

00:26:25.039 --> 00:26:26.240
Well, it's surprising to me.

00:26:26.319 --> 00:26:28.160
You'd think women would be the catty ones, right?

00:26:28.319 --> 00:26:30.799
But it's all the negativity on social media is men.

00:26:31.279 --> 00:26:32.640
But they want to be treated like women.

00:26:32.720 --> 00:26:32.960
Yeah.

00:26:33.119 --> 00:26:36.000
Because they want the woman to walk on the outside of the sidewalk.

00:26:36.079 --> 00:26:41.440
They want the woman to open the car door for them, they want the woman to pay for the drinks, they want the woman to arrange the dates.

00:26:41.519 --> 00:26:41.680
Yeah.

00:26:41.920 --> 00:26:45.519
So it's like, so you want the woman to be the man, right?

00:26:45.680 --> 00:26:52.640
But then you go online and want to bitch about gold diggers and women being after your money.

00:26:52.720 --> 00:26:54.319
So it's like, what how which way do you want to do that?

00:26:54.480 --> 00:26:56.799
It's funny how men get all up in arms and all offended.

00:26:57.119 --> 00:26:58.640
Yeah, keep on warriors like that.

00:26:58.799 --> 00:26:59.200
Yes.

00:26:59.519 --> 00:27:02.720
Where I know, like half of them would not talk to women like that in person, right?

00:27:03.279 --> 00:27:06.480
Most of them are probably incels and are probably scared to even talk to women.

00:27:06.559 --> 00:27:06.720
Yeah.

00:27:06.960 --> 00:27:11.839
So the minute they see an opportunity to bash on them, they're like, Oh, here we go, guys, get in.

00:27:12.079 --> 00:27:17.759
Did any of his bad behavior bring you back to remembering why you ended up blocking him in the first place?

00:27:18.000 --> 00:27:18.400
Yes.

00:27:18.559 --> 00:27:27.599
And it honestly, I think it was, I remember he came to a party one time and we were like hanging out, whatever, and he had brought a gun and it really scared me.

00:27:27.680 --> 00:27:29.680
And I was like, Oh, this is not my vibe.

00:27:29.839 --> 00:27:36.799
And that was it literally like So when he yeah, I I've had that happen to me before too, and that's why now I start putting notes.

00:27:37.039 --> 00:27:38.480
Smart woman, their contact.

00:27:38.559 --> 00:27:46.720
You never delete their contact, yeah, but put the notes in there, like what it was, because then you can be like, Oh yeah, that was right.

00:27:46.799 --> 00:27:48.000
That was that okay.

00:27:48.079 --> 00:27:48.559
I'm gonna do that.

00:27:48.640 --> 00:27:50.000
You could have saved yourself a whole night.

00:27:50.160 --> 00:27:51.119
I really could, right?

00:27:51.839 --> 00:27:52.000
Yeah.

00:27:52.319 --> 00:27:56.000
So you're a house manager and you manage a lot of properties in Scottsdale.

00:27:56.240 --> 00:27:56.480
Yes.

00:27:56.640 --> 00:28:00.079
So, and you manage some that were rented out for the Waste Management Open.

00:28:00.160 --> 00:28:01.599
Were some of them just destroyed?

00:28:01.839 --> 00:28:02.799
Oh my yes.

00:28:03.039 --> 00:28:15.279
But honestly, those homes are like so interesting to go into and see the aftermath because for the most part, they're respectful of the things like the beds, the bathrooms, whatever, but they just leave trash everywhere.

00:28:15.440 --> 00:28:20.480
So it's like alcohol, weed, food, anything you can think of, it's everywhere.

00:28:20.640 --> 00:28:25.519
Um, so but honestly, like most of them, they're coming to waste management.

00:28:25.599 --> 00:28:30.240
They have a lot of money to spend, and so they typically like are pretty respectful of the homes.

00:28:30.480 --> 00:28:33.039
What do you do with all the unopened bottles of tequila?

00:28:33.440 --> 00:28:33.920
vodka.

00:28:34.400 --> 00:28:36.559
I mean, I'm a giver, so I give it to my friends.

00:28:36.640 --> 00:28:39.599
I leave a lot for the housekeepers too, because I know they enjoy it.

00:28:39.759 --> 00:28:45.359
I'll take a little bit here and there, but like my fridge, low-key, I look like an alcoholic because I've just got everything stored.

00:28:45.440 --> 00:28:46.960
I'm like, guys, I'm not drinking this.

00:28:47.039 --> 00:28:48.559
I'm saving this for like whoever comes over.

00:28:48.640 --> 00:28:52.160
If they want a bottle, I'm like, here's some tequila, here's some gin, like you take it.

00:28:52.400 --> 00:28:54.799
So have you ever found anything really good?

00:28:55.039 --> 00:28:56.799
Like really, really good that someone's left.

00:28:57.119 --> 00:28:59.920
Oh gosh, I need to think.

00:29:00.720 --> 00:29:04.480
Have you found jewelry or like a fur code or like something like a value?

00:29:04.880 --> 00:29:05.200
Okay.

00:29:05.680 --> 00:29:14.880
I did and I kept it because this it was a whole situation, but we had a we have a lot of like famous like NFL players or like whoever stayed our homes.

00:29:15.039 --> 00:29:22.880
And this one guy, he comes annually and he books the home and he books it out, and then all the other rooms that he books out are for women.

00:29:23.039 --> 00:29:24.319
He flies all these women out.

00:29:24.559 --> 00:29:26.880
It's just him and his girls doing their thing.

00:29:27.200 --> 00:29:31.759
Multiple pillars, probably dozens because these homes can hold like 22 people.

00:29:32.000 --> 00:29:32.400
Oh damn.

00:29:32.720 --> 00:29:33.920
So he's just having his time.

00:29:34.079 --> 00:29:45.599
Like when I did that walkthrough after, because after he checked out, every bed had eyelashes, foundation, blood, condoms, all that good stuff.

00:29:45.839 --> 00:29:49.119
But at that house, somebody had left this really cute bracelet.

00:29:49.200 --> 00:29:53.599
And the only reason I took it, allegedly, I don't know if I need to say that.

00:29:54.400 --> 00:30:02.319
I don't know if I need to say that, but the only reason I took it was because when I showed up, there were two girls by the pool and they had paid for a late checkout at 1 p.m.

00:30:02.720 --> 00:30:06.880
And so when they pay for a late checkout, you still need to be out by 1 p.m.

00:30:07.039 --> 00:30:10.880
Like you can't be there any later because I gotta get the home locked up and go to the rest of our homes.

00:30:11.039 --> 00:30:16.400
And so I show up and these two girls are like chilling by the pool, they're in their bikinis, they're tanning.

00:30:16.480 --> 00:30:20.160
And I was like, hey guy, like I'm usually really friendly when I go in because we have that sometimes.

00:30:20.319 --> 00:30:24.000
I was like, hey guys, you have your Uber's call, like checkout is 1 p.m.

00:30:24.160 --> 00:30:26.079
I've got to get the bed stripped and whatever.

00:30:26.240 --> 00:30:28.960
And they're like, our food isn't getting here for another hour.

00:30:29.200 --> 00:30:32.079
I was like, well, you paid for a 1 p.m.

00:30:32.160 --> 00:30:32.480
checkout.

00:30:32.640 --> 00:30:33.680
It doesn't go later than that.

00:30:33.759 --> 00:30:35.759
If you want to go any later, you gotta pay for another day.

00:30:36.000 --> 00:30:38.480
And she goes, Well, he didn't buy our flights until 5 p.m.

00:30:38.640 --> 00:30:40.880
Like, we're not leaving here until our food gets here.

00:30:41.200 --> 00:30:46.799
And so I was like, All right, well, I'm gonna go strip the beds, kind of check and make sure there's no damage.

00:30:46.880 --> 00:30:51.680
But when I'm done, like, you guys need to have called your Uber and like leave because I can't sit here and babysit you.

00:30:51.759 --> 00:30:53.200
I have other homes to get to.

00:30:53.440 --> 00:30:56.000
So that's when I was stripping the beds, going through the rooms.

00:30:56.079 --> 00:30:58.400
I found the bracelet and I was like, these girls are giving me attitude.

00:30:58.480 --> 00:31:00.319
I'm gonna take this little bracelet here.

00:31:00.640 --> 00:31:04.319
Um, and then after that, they still stayed there for another hour and a half.

00:31:04.480 --> 00:31:08.799
They were like, Listen, I don't know what you want me to tell you, but our food isn't getting here until this time.

00:31:08.960 --> 00:31:10.319
Our flights are until five.

00:31:10.480 --> 00:31:12.640
So, and so it was just attitude.

00:31:12.720 --> 00:31:13.519
I called my boss.

00:31:13.599 --> 00:31:15.920
He was like, I don't care if you have to call the cops, like, you need to get them out.

00:31:16.240 --> 00:31:17.119
I was just gonna ask that.

00:31:17.200 --> 00:31:19.759
You legally can call the cops, can't you?

00:31:20.160 --> 00:31:21.119
How entitled.

00:31:21.279 --> 00:31:21.599
I know.

00:31:21.759 --> 00:31:30.480
And I was like, wait, you didn't pay for the home and you didn't pay for your flights, and then you're gonna tell me who's like the home manager of this property that like you're gonna be here for a little bit.

00:31:30.720 --> 00:31:33.359
So finally I was like, I don't know what to tell you guys.

00:31:33.440 --> 00:31:34.720
My boss just got off the phone.

00:31:34.880 --> 00:31:38.160
He said that they're gonna have to charge you guys for another night unless you leave right now.

00:31:38.240 --> 00:31:41.039
And they were like, fine, our food is almost here.

00:31:41.119 --> 00:31:45.200
And I was like, Okay, I need you to pull up your Uber and like show me that you called it.

00:31:45.359 --> 00:31:47.599
So she pulls up the Uber, she goes, What's the address?

00:31:47.920 --> 00:31:50.319
Like, what's the address, girl?

00:31:50.480 --> 00:31:53.599
So she finally pulled it up and she was like, We're getting our stuff.

00:31:53.680 --> 00:31:54.960
Just attitude, attitude.

00:31:55.119 --> 00:32:00.960
I was like, I'm the night, like if any of my other coworkers were here, especially like my one coworker, love her.

00:32:01.039 --> 00:32:02.720
She's kind of like a badass.

00:32:02.880 --> 00:32:06.160
She would have been like, get the fuck out, like pulled their luggages out for them.

00:32:06.319 --> 00:32:09.519
So I was like, You got the nice girl, like you should be thankful.

00:32:09.680 --> 00:32:18.400
But that was the only time that I took something that was like nice, but it wasn't like a real diamond bracelet or anything because it rusted a few weeks later.

00:32:18.559 --> 00:32:22.799
I was like, all right, this was definitely like a sheen find, but it was still cute.

00:32:23.119 --> 00:32:23.759
It was still cute.

00:32:24.240 --> 00:32:26.000
It was a moment for a minute.

00:32:26.319 --> 00:32:26.400
Yeah.

00:32:26.799 --> 00:32:30.160
So have you ever had someone puke, like puke had found puke anywhere?

00:32:30.400 --> 00:32:30.720
Oh, yeah.

00:32:30.799 --> 00:32:30.880
Yeah.

00:32:30.960 --> 00:32:36.079
I showed up to a home one time and there was vomit all over the carpet in the living room, and they didn't even attempt to clean it up.

00:32:36.240 --> 00:32:37.039
They didn't clean it up.

00:32:37.839 --> 00:32:42.240
I literally thought that they had ordered like food and spilled like roast beef or something on the room.

00:32:42.400 --> 00:32:43.839
Oh my god, wow, that's so gross.

00:32:44.079 --> 00:32:51.839
Because I I was like, these are adults that literally it looked like they were laying on the couch and just leaned over and vomited everywhere and then left.

00:32:52.079 --> 00:32:58.720
And didn't you have someone that like knocked over the mailbox or like oh yeah, somebody crashed into the mailbox.

00:32:58.799 --> 00:33:02.079
We don't know if it was a guest or if it was somebody because it was on a busy road.

00:33:02.400 --> 00:33:05.599
Um but I'm assuming it might have been like a drunk driver or something.

00:33:05.759 --> 00:33:06.799
So that's crazy.

00:33:07.119 --> 00:33:07.279
Yeah.

00:33:08.160 --> 00:33:08.880
Bad, bad.

00:33:09.599 --> 00:33:10.240
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00:33:10.559 --> 00:33:11.039
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00:33:18.000 --> 00:33:19.200
I just about messed that up.

00:33:20.000 --> 00:33:20.880
Um, okay.

00:33:21.279 --> 00:33:23.279
So we have a listener question.

00:33:23.519 --> 00:33:23.759
Okay.

00:33:24.160 --> 00:33:26.559
I recently tried to date this guy.

00:33:26.799 --> 00:33:27.680
Everything was great.

00:33:27.839 --> 00:33:30.960
He told me multiple times how he wanted me and liked me.

00:33:31.279 --> 00:33:36.799
Then one morning we were having a conversation, a little bit of a deeper conversation about romance.

00:33:37.039 --> 00:33:45.119
I expressed to him I won't teach someone how I deserve to be treated, and he did a complete 180 saying how maybe he wasn't ready for a relationship.

00:33:45.359 --> 00:33:51.279
Of course, I got upset and asked him to pick up his belongings from my house after work, and he never did.

00:33:51.519 --> 00:33:53.920
I just haven't heard from him again.

00:33:55.039 --> 00:33:56.720
Any advice would be helpful.

00:33:57.119 --> 00:33:58.319
Girl, that's so funny.

00:33:59.440 --> 00:34:00.960
Next, like why even think about it?

00:34:01.200 --> 00:34:03.599
Yeah, I feel like he probably is just not ready for a relationship.

00:34:03.839 --> 00:34:09.199
Another one might put us in the stuff that's at her house probably isn't even that big of a deal of stuff.

00:34:09.280 --> 00:34:10.239
Like just throw it away.

00:34:10.480 --> 00:34:10.719
Yeah.

00:34:10.880 --> 00:34:12.480
I feel like I need to know their like age.

00:34:12.960 --> 00:34:13.119
Right?

00:34:13.519 --> 00:34:13.760
Exactly.

00:34:14.000 --> 00:34:16.960
It just sounds like he got scared because I'm like low-key me.

00:34:17.119 --> 00:34:20.880
Every time I get into a situation ship, I'm like, oh wait, things are getting serious, gotta go.

00:34:21.119 --> 00:34:22.320
Do you think you have a fear of commitment?

00:34:22.880 --> 00:34:23.280
For sure.

00:34:23.519 --> 00:34:23.679
Yeah.

00:34:23.920 --> 00:34:24.320
Why?

00:34:25.280 --> 00:34:26.400
What's your longest relationship?

00:34:26.960 --> 00:34:27.440
In high school.

00:34:28.239 --> 00:34:28.800
How long was that?

00:34:28.960 --> 00:34:29.920
It was 11 months.

00:34:30.800 --> 00:34:31.119
Yeah.

00:34:31.440 --> 00:34:36.960
I think I honestly I've tried to dissect it a little bit here and there.

00:34:37.199 --> 00:34:40.559
Um but I I think it's a multitude of things.

00:34:40.800 --> 00:34:44.000
I think it's kind of just where we're at right now in 2026.

00:34:44.159 --> 00:34:47.599
I think women really don't need a provider anymore.

00:34:47.679 --> 00:34:50.000
Like we can make our own money.

00:34:50.320 --> 00:34:56.639
Um, and I've been independent for so long that I having somebody else in my space feels weird.

00:34:57.119 --> 00:35:01.199
And also growing up, my mom, she was a single mom for a few years.

00:35:01.280 --> 00:35:02.880
Like my dad was kind of in and out.

00:35:03.039 --> 00:35:11.760
So I think she always instilled that in me is you have you gotta be independent, you have to make your own money, uh, be happy on your own, and then you'll find that person.

00:35:12.000 --> 00:35:15.119
Whereas now she kind of walks it back, she's like, I think I made you too independent.

00:35:15.440 --> 00:35:17.519
Like you you don't want kids, you don't want this.

00:35:17.599 --> 00:35:20.320
I'm like, girl, give it a few years, maybe I'll change my mind.

00:35:21.360 --> 00:35:21.679
Yeah.

00:35:22.239 --> 00:35:34.320
And I think here just the dating scene in Arizona, I I think it's similar in a lot of different states or at least big cities, because I talked to my friends who are in like Nashville and Boston and they have similar dating situations.

00:35:34.480 --> 00:35:45.840
But I think uh we're all just uh we have everything at our fingertips with like social media and going out and all of the restaurants and clubs and everything, you see like the best of the best.

00:35:46.000 --> 00:35:48.719
So it always feels like the grass is greener on the other side.

00:35:48.880 --> 00:35:53.840
So you might meet somebody, but then you're like, but is this the best that I can have, you know?

00:35:54.320 --> 00:35:58.559
So I there's a lot of circling back here too, like what that guy did to you.

00:35:58.719 --> 00:36:08.320
And I don't know if it's like this in other parts of the country, but I feel like there's a lot of oh, this didn't work out with this person five years ago, I'm gonna circle back.

00:36:08.639 --> 00:36:13.760
And then it's like you try again and it doesn't happen, and then three years later it's like, oh, let me circle back.

00:36:13.920 --> 00:36:18.480
I feel like it happens that I see that more here than I see anywhere else.

00:36:18.800 --> 00:36:22.960
I don't understand why people do that because if it it didn't work out the first time for a reason, right?

00:36:23.199 --> 00:36:23.360
Right?

00:36:23.440 --> 00:36:24.480
What a waste of time.

00:36:24.639 --> 00:36:24.960
I know.

00:36:25.119 --> 00:36:28.960
Like that like couples that break up, get back together, break up, get back together, they never end up together.

00:36:29.039 --> 00:36:31.199
Yeah, so cut your losses short, don't waste time.

00:36:31.440 --> 00:36:32.400
It's my pet peeve.

00:36:32.639 --> 00:36:34.480
Yeah, hindsight is 2020 though.

00:36:34.719 --> 00:36:36.639
It's harder to do that in the moment.

00:36:36.880 --> 00:36:40.400
I think because you think maybe like, oh, we've matured, we're in different places in our life.

00:36:40.880 --> 00:36:44.639
And I think people like familiarity, they don't like to start from the very beginning again.

00:36:44.960 --> 00:36:47.519
They kind of like something that they're used to, that's something that they know.

00:36:47.760 --> 00:36:49.119
Yeah, yeah, for sure.

00:36:49.360 --> 00:36:55.360
So we're gonna discuss this post that I saw on social media, and it's a trend that we've seen before.

00:36:55.519 --> 00:37:07.039
But true story, this girl posts on social media and says, I woke up this morning to an itemized Venmo request from the guy I went on a date with last night after I told him I wasn't interested in going on a second date with him.

00:37:07.280 --> 00:37:17.119
Then it says Venmo, Devon requests$68.72, two glasses of wine, one Caesar salad, add chicken, three quarters of an artichoke dip.

00:37:17.199 --> 00:37:22.719
So I guess she had more of the artichoke dip than he did because he's making a paper three quarters of it.

00:37:22.880 --> 00:37:24.400
But it's an emerging trend.

00:37:24.559 --> 00:37:30.639
It happens all the time, where men are requesting the women to pay for half of the date via Venmo.

00:37:30.880 --> 00:37:32.400
He gotta go find his boyfriend.

00:37:32.559 --> 00:37:33.519
He's out there somewhere.

00:37:33.760 --> 00:37:35.920
Also, you can just deny a Venmo request, right?

00:37:36.079 --> 00:37:36.800
You can just hit the X.

00:37:37.280 --> 00:37:38.159
I think that's what I would do.

00:37:38.480 --> 00:37:38.639
Right.

00:37:39.199 --> 00:37:46.960
And it says this is an emerging, widely criticized trend for men to send Venmo requests for reimbursement after a date, particularly if there's no second date.

00:37:47.119 --> 00:37:50.239
Often viewed as a red flag or pathetic by recipitants.

00:37:50.400 --> 00:37:59.440
This behavior is sometimes driven by high costs of living, a desire for a return on investment, or an expectation that costs should be split even after the man initially paid.

00:38:00.079 --> 00:38:00.639
It's crazy to me.

00:38:00.800 --> 00:38:04.400
It's crazy to me that a man would actually have the gonads to send this request.

00:38:04.960 --> 00:38:05.199
Right?

00:38:05.840 --> 00:38:15.920
I think I've seen something similar too, where this guy was talking about how men kind of view dates now as a transaction where, oh, I'm gonna take you out, I'm gonna pay for dinner, I'm gonna pay for drinks.

00:38:16.000 --> 00:38:17.440
Well, you better sleep with me after.

00:38:17.840 --> 00:38:19.679
That's not what dating is.

00:38:19.840 --> 00:38:27.840
It's like building connections, it's getting to know somebody, but they view it as like this transactional thing where it's like, I gave this, so I deserve this.

00:38:28.000 --> 00:38:31.760
It's like we all give and take, and I I don't know.

00:38:31.840 --> 00:38:34.480
I just think it's such a weird like perspective that they have now.

00:38:34.639 --> 00:38:36.320
I'm like, it's about the experience.

00:38:36.400 --> 00:38:39.199
And if you're looking at it as a transaction, you're not gonna find anything.

00:38:39.599 --> 00:39:00.000
A lot of women though view it as transactional too, because I've seen posts from women that are like, I spend twelve hundred dollars on my hair, I spend 150 on my lashes, I spend, you know, uh 1200 on my Botox, I spend this on my nails, and you think I'm worried about, you know, a dinner that costs X amount of money.

00:39:00.159 --> 00:39:00.320
Right.

00:39:00.480 --> 00:39:14.639
So it's like women are also making it transactional by saying those things because it's like But that's your choice to if you're if you're doing those things for men, like that is your choice, but you're also making it transactional.

00:39:14.880 --> 00:39:15.039
Sure.

00:39:15.280 --> 00:39:16.400
So it's like it's both.

00:39:16.639 --> 00:39:19.679
But here's the thing I have women, I have heard of women complaining about that.

00:39:19.760 --> 00:39:22.159
Well, I spent so much money, so he better buy my dinner.

00:39:22.320 --> 00:39:28.639
But that's not an argument because you choose to do your hair, you choose to do your makeup, you choose to paint your nails, you know.

00:39:28.719 --> 00:39:29.840
No one, you know what I'm saying?

00:39:30.079 --> 00:39:30.239
Yeah.

00:39:30.400 --> 00:39:32.320
So why should he have to compensate for that?

00:39:32.400 --> 00:39:34.960
Maybe he likes a woman with no makeup, with no nails, right?

00:39:35.440 --> 00:39:36.320
Yeah, I don't know.

00:39:36.880 --> 00:39:37.199
Yeah.

00:39:38.159 --> 00:39:44.960
Anyways, it this article that I read was saying how it's risen in popularity, and um, this happens all the time now.

00:39:45.599 --> 00:39:47.840
Which is just shocking to me that so many people do it.

00:39:48.159 --> 00:39:51.519
I was gonna say, if that happened to me, I'd I don't I would just block it.

00:39:51.599 --> 00:39:55.360
Yeah, I think I just denize it and you go on and just never text them again.

00:39:55.599 --> 00:39:57.199
Yeah, but it is sad though.

00:39:57.360 --> 00:40:02.719
It's sad, like you said, it's sad because dating has become tr transactional on both sides.

00:40:02.800 --> 00:40:05.519
It's not about dating to find your person anymore.

00:40:05.679 --> 00:40:09.679
It's about who can like who's contributed more to this date.

00:40:09.840 --> 00:40:10.000
Yep.

00:40:10.239 --> 00:40:13.199
And it's like if I contributed more to the date, I win.

00:40:13.440 --> 00:40:16.480
Like, and it's just like that's not really what it's just icky.

00:40:16.719 --> 00:40:17.039
It is icky.

00:40:17.280 --> 00:40:18.239
It's icky, yeah.

00:40:18.559 --> 00:40:18.800
Yeah.

00:40:19.039 --> 00:40:22.960
So now we're gonna discuss the celebrity cut where we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.

00:40:23.199 --> 00:40:27.119
So I saw Gwyneth Paltrow on a podcast with Amy Polar.

00:40:27.199 --> 00:40:28.880
Is that how you pronounce her name from Saturday Night Live?

00:40:28.960 --> 00:40:29.599
Is that what she's from?

00:40:29.920 --> 00:40:36.000
And they would Gwyneth Paltrow was very embarrassed to admit that she likes to eat dinner and go out to dinner at six o'clock.

00:40:36.239 --> 00:40:38.559
She doesn't like to go out to restaurants later than that.

00:40:38.800 --> 00:40:39.840
But I'm the same.

00:40:40.000 --> 00:40:42.960
Like, I like to go out to dinner at like four o'clock.

00:40:43.119 --> 00:40:45.280
Like, I don't like to be where there's so many people.

00:40:45.440 --> 00:40:47.679
Like, if you go at six, it's even too crowded for me.

00:40:47.760 --> 00:40:49.440
Like, I just don't like to be around a lot of people.

00:40:49.599 --> 00:40:50.239
I have to wait.

00:40:50.400 --> 00:40:53.599
But she was like so embarrassed to admit that she likes to go out at six.

00:40:53.679 --> 00:40:55.440
And Amy Polo was like, Oh, I agree.

00:40:55.519 --> 00:40:56.079
I completely agree.

00:40:56.239 --> 00:40:58.559
Six is like the latest I'll go out to dinner.

00:40:58.719 --> 00:40:59.599
How do you guys like?

00:40:59.679 --> 00:41:00.480
Do you guys eat late?

00:41:00.559 --> 00:41:02.320
Like when you go out to restaurants?

00:41:02.559 --> 00:41:04.960
Uh, I honestly for dates, usually.

00:41:05.199 --> 00:41:05.360
Yeah.

00:41:05.920 --> 00:41:07.840
Yeah, I would say maybe like around seven.

00:41:08.239 --> 00:41:11.360
That's just because I get off work and I'm like, I need my me time for a little bit.

00:41:11.519 --> 00:41:13.760
I need to like, you know, I like a 7 p.m.

00:41:13.920 --> 00:41:14.400
dinner also.

00:41:14.480 --> 00:41:16.559
If I eat dinner at four, I need a second dinner.

00:41:17.039 --> 00:41:18.000
Like, I need also a dinner.

00:41:18.559 --> 00:41:19.920
I need also a dinner at seven or eight.

00:41:20.639 --> 00:41:26.079
Because I'm older now and I have kids, and like I like to enjoy the happy hour special, right?

00:41:26.320 --> 00:41:28.320
You know, I love happy hour for dinner.

00:41:28.400 --> 00:41:33.039
Like, we go to Buck and Rider, my mom and dad and I, and we just order one of everything.

00:41:33.440 --> 00:41:40.079
So we order oysters and shrimp off the raw bar, and then one of each of their appetizers, and that is our dinner.

00:41:40.239 --> 00:41:40.480
Yeah.

00:41:40.639 --> 00:41:43.119
But then we still have to go home and like make popcorn.

00:41:43.199 --> 00:41:44.000
Yeah, it's true.

00:41:44.320 --> 00:41:47.440
A couple hours later, because it's like if you eat dinner at four or five.

00:41:47.760 --> 00:41:48.639
You get hungry later.

00:41:48.880 --> 00:41:49.039
Yeah.

00:41:49.199 --> 00:41:49.360
Right.

00:41:49.519 --> 00:41:50.159
At least for me, anyway.

00:41:50.320 --> 00:41:55.039
I was gonna say, then you're you're probably winning because you get the happy hour where we get there too late and we're like, damn it.

00:41:55.199 --> 00:41:55.360
Yeah.

00:41:55.519 --> 00:42:00.800
And I feel like the later you go, the more people there are, and the older I get, the less I want to be around people.

00:42:00.960 --> 00:42:02.719
And you know, wait for a table.

00:42:02.800 --> 00:42:09.440
And I kind of like to be in bed at like 8:30, you know, watching my shows with my popcorn because I'm so hungry.

00:42:09.519 --> 00:42:11.519
Yeah, maybe I'll I'll try this 6 p.m.

00:42:11.679 --> 00:42:13.360
and see, or maybe even like a five.

00:42:13.440 --> 00:42:14.320
Yeah, it could work.

00:42:14.639 --> 00:42:15.760
I think it depends on the vibe.

00:42:15.920 --> 00:42:18.800
Because if I want like a cozy dinner vibe, I like it.

00:42:18.960 --> 00:42:20.480
I like it to be dark and dim.

00:42:20.639 --> 00:42:22.559
And I think that's why I like it too.

00:42:22.800 --> 00:42:22.960
Yeah.

00:42:23.199 --> 00:42:26.320
But if you go to like what is it, ocean club at like four, it's dark and dim.

00:42:26.559 --> 00:42:27.199
It's still dark and dim.

00:42:28.320 --> 00:42:29.199
Hardly anyone in there.

00:42:29.360 --> 00:42:29.679
That is true.

00:42:29.920 --> 00:42:30.639
It's amazing.

00:42:30.800 --> 00:42:31.519
That is true.

00:42:32.079 --> 00:42:34.800
I just feel it's more like relaxing, not as chaotic, you know?

00:42:34.880 --> 00:42:35.119
Yeah.

00:42:35.360 --> 00:42:36.159
Yeah, that's true.

00:42:36.480 --> 00:42:37.920
What is your ideal first date?

00:42:38.159 --> 00:42:39.039
Like, where do you like going?

00:42:39.119 --> 00:42:40.400
Do you like an activity, dinner?

00:42:40.719 --> 00:42:43.280
Uh gosh, let me think.

00:42:43.519 --> 00:42:46.960
Honestly, I I really like dinner because I feel like it's very intimate.

00:42:47.119 --> 00:42:51.840
I would never go on like a movie date as the first because you're not talking to them the whole time.

00:42:52.079 --> 00:42:54.239
Maybe an activity, it just depends.

00:42:54.480 --> 00:42:58.000
I I'm not like a big activity girl, I'll be honest.

00:42:58.159 --> 00:43:02.880
Like, if somebody wanted to go on a hike, I'd be like, I don't want you to see me all like sweaty and struggling.

00:43:02.960 --> 00:43:04.639
Like, maybe second thing, you know?

00:43:04.800 --> 00:43:06.320
Yeah, like panting next to them.

00:43:06.400 --> 00:43:07.760
I'm like, can't do that.

00:43:07.920 --> 00:43:12.559
I honestly I really love dinner because I like having just like that one-on-one conversation.

00:43:12.719 --> 00:43:21.119
I think if you're doing an activity sometimes, there can be other distractions outside of it where it's like, no, I really I want to get into like the meat and potatoes, like let me get to know you.

00:43:21.280 --> 00:43:24.639
So I think when I was single, I must admit, it was kind of a deal breaker.

00:43:24.719 --> 00:43:26.559
If a guy was like, You want to go rock climbing?

00:43:26.639 --> 00:43:30.800
I'd be like, uh, you're a little too adventurous for me.

00:43:31.039 --> 00:43:31.280
Right?

00:43:31.360 --> 00:43:31.519
Yeah.

00:43:32.000 --> 00:43:35.760
Because then that's gonna be an indication that if we're in a relationship, he's gonna want to go rock climbing.

00:43:35.920 --> 00:43:36.320
Right, yeah.

00:43:36.719 --> 00:43:38.719
The only thing I want to do on the rocks is drink on the rocks.

00:43:38.960 --> 00:43:39.440
Yes.

00:43:39.679 --> 00:43:40.400
But I'm open.

00:43:40.480 --> 00:43:40.960
I'm open.

00:43:41.039 --> 00:43:47.920
If somebody was like, hey, let's go do this and it's totally like out of my realm, whatever, I'd be like, sure, let's try it.

00:43:48.079 --> 00:43:51.280
Like, I'm not the type of person who has to have dinner on the first date.

00:43:51.519 --> 00:43:55.119
Even if they want to like sit on their porch and drink a glass of wine, totally fine.

00:43:55.440 --> 00:43:57.199
How do you feel about a coffee date on the first date?

00:43:57.360 --> 00:43:58.480
I love a coffee date.

00:43:58.639 --> 00:43:58.800
Yeah.

00:43:58.960 --> 00:43:59.760
Because I do think some.

00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:05.280
I've been on a few dates where a guy gets a little too loose or has too many to drink, and I'm like, oh, this is getting kind of icky, you know.

00:44:05.519 --> 00:44:06.719
Are you a picky eater?

00:44:06.960 --> 00:44:07.280
No.

00:44:07.599 --> 00:44:10.639
Does it give you the ick if a guy is a picky eater?

00:44:10.960 --> 00:44:13.679
Ooh, uh that would be a deal breaker for me.

00:44:13.840 --> 00:44:14.320
Hell yeah.

00:44:14.559 --> 00:44:17.360
It's a new, it's a new ick I've just recently discovered.

00:44:17.519 --> 00:44:18.320
I've never thought about it.

00:44:18.880 --> 00:44:20.400
Because I am not a picky eater at all.

00:44:20.480 --> 00:44:22.559
I'm a super adventurous eater and I love food.

00:44:22.800 --> 00:44:23.519
And don't you like share?

00:44:23.679 --> 00:44:24.960
I like to eat family style when you get a few.

00:44:25.119 --> 00:44:26.400
I like to eat family style.

00:44:26.480 --> 00:44:26.559
Yeah.

00:44:27.199 --> 00:44:28.559
What was the food they didn't want to eat?

00:44:28.800 --> 00:44:30.400
It's just everything.

00:44:30.480 --> 00:44:34.800
Very, it was like they had like a they had the the toddler diet.

00:44:34.960 --> 00:44:35.039
No.

00:44:35.519 --> 00:44:38.159
Like chicken strips and like bland, like no spice.

00:44:38.400 --> 00:44:38.880
Like no heat.

00:44:39.119 --> 00:44:39.519
No salt.

00:44:39.760 --> 00:44:40.400
No, yeah.

00:44:40.559 --> 00:44:40.880
Yeah.

00:44:41.199 --> 00:44:42.320
Ordering from the kids menu.

00:44:42.480 --> 00:44:42.639
Yeah.

00:44:43.440 --> 00:44:43.599
Yeah.

00:44:43.760 --> 00:44:49.599
Wings just like bare with the sauce on the side, like maybe a barbecue sauce, but no, no, no spice.

00:44:50.400 --> 00:44:50.639
I can't.

00:44:50.719 --> 00:44:50.880
Yeah.

00:44:51.519 --> 00:44:51.679
No.

00:44:51.840 --> 00:44:52.800
Yeah, because I I don't know.

00:44:52.880 --> 00:44:54.079
It's fun to try new foods too.

00:44:54.400 --> 00:44:57.360
It feels just like immature to not want to, you know.

00:44:57.760 --> 00:44:58.559
I mean, I get it.

00:44:58.639 --> 00:45:00.480
If they have like weird taste buds, you do you.

00:45:00.559 --> 00:45:03.039
But if you're not even willing to try new things, like fun.

00:45:03.519 --> 00:45:07.119
Now it's time to get to know you, sponsored by Zoya, your neighborhood yogurt.

00:45:07.360 --> 00:45:08.400
Rapid fire questions.

00:45:08.639 --> 00:45:10.880
What is your favorite body part on a guy?

00:45:11.280 --> 00:45:13.039
Uh arms.

00:45:13.920 --> 00:45:16.400
Craziest thing you've done to impress a date.

00:45:18.320 --> 00:45:20.159
I'm not rapidly firing these.

00:45:20.400 --> 00:45:25.199
Um that's kind of a tough one though, I feel.

00:45:27.679 --> 00:45:29.119
I'm never really trying to impress a man.

00:45:29.280 --> 00:45:31.039
I'm like, this is me, this is what you got.

00:45:31.599 --> 00:45:34.079
Where should someone not take you on a first date?

00:45:36.639 --> 00:45:38.559
Is watching porn considered cheating?

00:45:39.199 --> 00:45:39.360
No.

00:45:39.920 --> 00:45:43.519
Before you're intimate, is it appropriate to ask your date how many people they've been with?

00:45:44.320 --> 00:45:44.719
Sure.

00:45:45.119 --> 00:45:47.360
Is it acceptable to have sex on the first date?

00:45:47.760 --> 00:45:48.239
Yeah.

00:45:48.559 --> 00:45:52.000
Should you disclose mental health issues early on in a relationship?

00:45:53.280 --> 00:45:53.920
Yes.

00:45:54.159 --> 00:45:57.679
And last but not least, what is your favorite sexual position and why?

00:45:58.079 --> 00:45:58.800
Missionary.

00:45:59.440 --> 00:46:01.039
I love, I I don't know.

00:46:01.119 --> 00:46:04.639
I just love like looking into their eyes and being like, yep, I know you're falling in love with me.

00:46:05.599 --> 00:46:06.239
I'm kidding.

00:46:06.880 --> 00:46:07.840
I'm never gonna commit to you.

00:46:08.239 --> 00:46:10.320
I'm never gonna commit to you, but I got you.

00:46:10.559 --> 00:46:13.119
Um no, it's just like it feels the most intimate to me.

00:46:13.280 --> 00:46:17.760
And I love because I'm like a tall girl, so I love feeling like overpowered.

00:46:18.079 --> 00:46:21.199
So I wanted to ask you, I forgot to mention, you had a homeless stalker?

00:46:21.440 --> 00:46:22.000
Oh yeah.

00:46:22.239 --> 00:46:23.280
Was that still there?

00:46:23.440 --> 00:46:24.719
He's technically still there.

00:46:24.960 --> 00:46:26.239
Um yeah.

00:46:26.480 --> 00:46:29.679
But I move, I move in two weeks, so I'll be out of there.

00:46:29.920 --> 00:46:35.920
But I had um I moved into this apartment in downtown Phoenix, and it's in like a really cute neighborhood.

00:46:36.079 --> 00:46:37.519
Um, it's like a townhouse.

00:46:37.679 --> 00:46:41.360
And so my landlord lives below me on the first floor, and I live on the second floor.

00:46:41.519 --> 00:46:46.239
And then the owner lives in the house right in front of us, but it's like such a cute neighborhood.

00:46:46.320 --> 00:46:48.079
It's all families, it's beautiful.

00:46:48.239 --> 00:46:50.480
So I was like, this is perfect for me.

00:46:50.639 --> 00:46:55.679
Um, and when I first moved in there, all of the windows didn't have curtains.

00:46:55.840 --> 00:46:57.440
And so I was like, oh, this is fine.

00:46:57.519 --> 00:46:58.400
Like it's natural light.

00:46:58.480 --> 00:47:01.119
I'm on the second floor, like nobody's gonna see anything.

00:47:01.360 --> 00:47:10.719
And so we get a little bit of foot traffic because where my apartment is, my back window to my bathroom and my bedroom overlook an alley.

00:47:10.880 --> 00:47:14.960
So you get a little foot traffic here and there of like homeless people just because we're we're by downtown.

00:47:15.039 --> 00:47:15.840
I kind of expected that.

00:47:16.000 --> 00:47:18.400
I've always lived in downtown, so I'm kind of used to it.

00:47:18.639 --> 00:47:26.079
Um, but there was one day where I had noticed this guy had been roaming around my window a little bit.

00:47:26.400 --> 00:47:28.480
And so I was like, okay, this is a little weird.

00:47:28.559 --> 00:47:34.719
So I started putting up like those um blurred lenses on the window or like the panels or whatever.

00:47:34.960 --> 00:47:39.119
So they couldn't really see inside, but they could still see if like my light was on.

00:47:39.280 --> 00:47:42.960
And so I put those up in my bathroom because I was like, I don't want him seeing.

00:47:43.039 --> 00:47:44.880
He just hangs out here a little too much.

00:47:45.199 --> 00:47:55.679
And long story short, he would come around my apartment and sit across from my window, whether it was like early in the morning, late at night, and jerk off.

00:47:56.639 --> 00:47:57.519
Yeah, yeah.

00:47:57.920 --> 00:47:58.960
Did you call the cops?

00:47:59.119 --> 00:48:01.519
Yes, and they didn't come the first three times.

00:48:01.760 --> 00:48:04.719
They just, I don't know if they were busy, whatever.

00:48:05.119 --> 00:48:10.960
Um yeah, and so I had told my landlord about it because I was like, Have you ever noticed this guy?

00:48:11.119 --> 00:48:20.400
Like, I he sits in the back alley and like I think he waits to see if like my lights are on, because he'll sit directly across from my window and like look up into my window.

00:48:20.880 --> 00:48:29.199
And at night it's the scariest because he'll literally bring like a sleeping bag and like lay it down across there and like try to look in my window and see if he can see me.

00:48:29.440 --> 00:48:34.239
So I got like curtains installed and everything, and even then he still just like sits there.

00:48:34.320 --> 00:48:40.800
And if he can see that my light is on or there's like light coming through the curtains, he'll sit there, he'll yank it.

00:48:40.960 --> 00:48:43.599
He'll thank God you're moving.

00:48:44.320 --> 00:48:44.480
Yeah.

00:48:44.559 --> 00:48:46.960
So I finally, I was like, I can't do it anymore.

00:48:47.039 --> 00:48:52.239
Cause if he's in the mental state to be doing that, and especially knowing that I'm there, like who knows?

00:48:52.320 --> 00:48:55.119
He might throw a rock at the window or try to break it.

00:48:56.320 --> 00:48:58.639
I'm just not, I'm not trying to wait for his next move.

00:48:58.880 --> 00:49:00.639
So I'm gonna get out of there soon.

00:49:00.800 --> 00:49:01.440
Do you have any other questions?

00:49:01.679 --> 00:49:02.239
Yankee, no.

00:49:02.559 --> 00:49:05.760
Thank you so much for joining us this week at the meat market, and thank you so much, Serena.

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We'll see you next week at the Meat Market.

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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.