March 25, 2026

Swingers on the Hunt ... And I Barely Escaped 😳

Swingers on the Hunt ... And I Barely Escaped 😳
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Season 1

Somebody tried to pull Andres into a swinger situation while he was just minding the bar.

Things got awkward, hilarious, and prove why “no” is a full sentence. We chat with Andres, Arizona actor and model, about real-life flirting, wild nightlife moments, and knowing when bold turns into too much.

He spills on trading bars for film gigs, how a fresh look can boost your career, and keeping dating drama far from work. Then the stories get juicy: marriage, caretaking, breakups, and why pity is the worst reason to stay.

Swipe chaos, first-message fails, and a catfish story that will make you laugh and cringe. Hit play, share with a friend, and leave a review. 

Who’s ready to flirt smarter in this wild dating world? 😉

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00:00 - Swinger Shock Story Cold Open

00:40 - Meet Andreas And Set Culture

05:50 - How He Breaks Into Acting

06:35 - Resort Swingers And Aggressive Flirting

14:20 - Sex Dungeon Tour And Boundaries

18:15 - Marriage Caretaking Then Sudden Divorce

22:40 - Opening Night Chaos And Emergencies

28:37 - Why Dating Apps Feel Hopeless

30:16 - The Catfish Date And Aftermath

36:30 - Aliens And Dating Conversation Chemistry

40:00 - Ideal Partner And Deal Breakers

43:26 - Breakup Guilt And Sexless Relationship

45:22 - One Man Dating App Story

46:51 - Celebrity Divorce And Privacy Debate

50:01 - First Date Ideas That Actually Work

51:08 - Rapid Fire Dating And Sex Questions

53:25 - How To Date Andreas And Closing

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She's just like, hey, you know, trying to talk all normal.

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Steps away again for a sec, and then he just flat out says it.

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He's like, hey man, my wife wants to f you.

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He comes up to me and he's like, hey, I need to show you a room that I think that you're gonna like.

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It was a sex dungeon.

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They divorced because the sex was so bad because of his penis size, and it's not what you think.

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It was too big.

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She was like, it's the size of three Coke cans.

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He showed me naked pictures of his wife.

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I told her, I was like, hey, I'm gonna be honest.

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You look like my buddy Thomas.

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She goes, Oh, well, is she attractive?

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I was like, no, and he's a guy.

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And I welcome to the meat market.

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The single scene is a slaughterhouse, and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay.

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I'm Jess.

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And today's sizzling single is Andreas.

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Welcome.

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Thank you for joining.

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Thank you for having me.

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So you're an actor and a model.

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Is that industry as incestuous as we hear?

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Like, do is it like serving where everyone just sleeps with everyone?

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Actually, yeah.

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From what I've seen, yeah.

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It's it's been interesting.

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So I won't say which uh which shoot I've been on, but let's just say there was uh so me, I'm trying to keep it strictly business.

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It's like, hey, like I'm not trying to dip my toes in where I work, you know, it just can cause drama, can cause issues, and then now you're gonna have gossip about you.

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Don't want to do it.

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But uh yeah, one one of uh the sets I've been on.

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Uh let's say that uh people start to flirt, you know, it happens, and usually those moments I just try to back off.

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I'm like, okay, I'm I'm gonna go to bed, you know, because because every night, you know, when you're doing the shoots, you're sitting there and you're you're on set, you know, it's just it's high intensity, you're having to do all these different poses, and at the end of the night, it's like everybody relaxes, parties, drinks, and all that, and that's when it can get a little crazy sometimes.

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And you've already spent all day together, yeah.

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So it's like you've sort of gotten to know each other, you've gotten to know personalities, and so then it just sort of snowballs from there.

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Yep, yeah, sometimes.

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Yeah.

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Have you ever dated a fellow co-star or nope, yeah.

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Never mind.

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Yeah, haven't done it.

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Um uh yeah, before before I got into acting and modeling and everything, I uh I ran multiple jobs of just like corporate jobs or uh running bars, so management, things like that for years, and uh try to stay away from it.

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So it's definitely uh not something I like to dip my toes in.

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I mean, of course, growing up, I I have had a moment, you know, like talking to an employee.

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But uh yeah, since then, now after getting out of it, I'm just trying to stay focused.

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And how did you get into acting and modeling?

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Great question.

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Um, so uh it was kind of a little story.

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Uh basically, after running bars for so long, I uh I ran multiple bars in the area and uh I had a bunch of employees working insane hours and finally ended up leaving.

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And I have a uh good buddy of mine that he's in acting, he goes on tour.

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He's actually on tour right now.

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He comes back in the end of May.

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So uh it's kind of like uh almost like you know the circus in Vegas where they do the tricks and everything.

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Yeah, yeah.

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So so he does things like that.

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Oh wow.

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And I remember I just asked him, I was like, hey man, I've always wanted to act, I finally have free time.

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What do I do?

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And he just told me to join some Facebook groups, and then from there, there was one guy that was like, hey, we need someone to get beat up.

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And I was like, perfect.

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I used to I used to fight in the ring.

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So I was like, hey, I got fight choreograph.

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I was like, let's let's see what happens.

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So then from there I ended up going, and uh right away, like they gave me like a fake weapon, and I started practicing with it.

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And the director was like, Well, can you fight?

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I was like, uh well, you know, I I used to fight in the ring for a couple years.

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He was like, Show me, and I showed him what I could do, and he was like, I want you up front.

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Then I went up front, and then he was like perfect, and then gave me more scenes with the main character, and then from there, kind of just took off.

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Wow, how fun.

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Super cool.

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Have you done anything that we would know?

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Like, have you been in anything really cool?

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So it's funny, not yet.

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I won't even act since August, but that very first film I was in comes out uh April 18th.

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Oh, wow.

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So you're like so new in the industry.

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What's it called?

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It's called the The Rendezvous Vendetta.

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Okay.

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So it's crazy.

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Yeah, I'm so new in the industry, but it's uh it's just I've re-bit in so many films now.

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I've done commercials, uh, now I'm getting into modeling, fashion shows.

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So I'm blowing up fast.

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I think the reason why is because Arizona is still under the radar.

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You go to California, you're going up against so many competitors, Texas, Atlanta.

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I I got flown out to Atlanta for another role that I'm in.

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Uh, not too far in depth, how how much I'm allowed to say, but uh let's just say it's for a Pyrangers movie.

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But uh cool.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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So it was just so it's just crazy just gaining to experience all this.

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So right now I'm after being so structured with trying to run bars and everything, and then now it's just I'm just saying yes to life.

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Like I'm just whatever gets thrown at me, I'm like, sure, let's do it.

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You know, let's try it.

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And you definitely have that look, like the very unique, good-looking, like movie style look.

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Yeah, it's it's honestly the long hair.

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I've never had my hair long before.

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I've always had a nice, clean, short, slick back.

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But I figured I was like, you know what?

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If I want to get into acting, I want to stick out, let's see.

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And then now the long hair is what's giving me all these roles.

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It's you do look because I stalked your Facebook and your Instagram and stuff.

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You do look so different.

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You look like a completely different person when you have short hair.

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I can't imagine with the shit.

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I'll have to show you.

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It throws everyone off because everyone's just like, are you kidding me?

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Like, like I I do miss the short hair, but the long hair is just it's really like making me stick out.

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It does definitely make you stick out.

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Do you find that you get hit on a lot more when you have long hair?

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That is tough.

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Like blondes have more fun.

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Yeah.

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So what's funny is, and I get called Fabio a lot.

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I've been called Fabio Aquaman.

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I just got called Thor the other day.

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Oh, you kind of do look like Aquaman.

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I don't know.

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Just Momoa?

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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Oh, I'm trying to be a stunt man.

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I'm like, dude, let me be like your mini me or something.

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But uh, no, yeah, it's uh honestly, I would say it's still kind of even, not to be big head or anything, but I I did get hit on a lot uh from you know when I had my short hair.

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Now having the long hair, it's just same thing, you know, it's just different type of crowd.

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I either when I had the shorter hair, they're just like, oh, you know, I love like the the more like rugged, clean look.

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And then now I have you know, girls that are just like, oh, I just love the long hair, it just looks great.

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I'm like, cool.

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Do women ask you if they can touch your hair?

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Yes, doesn't it?

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Does it drive you crazy or do you like it?

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I I just I'm kind of used to it.

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Like, I'm just like, sure.

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Um, so uh I worked in a country bar for years, and so when you're around a lot of uh drunk country women, they get very touchy.

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So I'm kind of used to it now.

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Like they they don't even ask, they'll either just grab my hair or they'll just grab like my abs or just grab my arms or something.

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I just I'm just like okay, like nice to meet you.

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You know, like it's just yeah, yeah, it's it's interesting.

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So did you work in Old Town, Scottsdale, at the bars there?

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No, no, so not Old Town, actually downtown Chandler.

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Um Good Year, uh Happy Valley, so a couple areas like that.

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Okay, but you got hit on by customers all the time, huh?

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Yeah, yeah.

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I have uh some crazy stories as a bartender that I could tell you.

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Um man, craziest one they had was uh so I worked at uh the Sheraton Wild Horse Pass Resort, so very nice resort, and uh as funny as it sounds, you get a lot of swingers.

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Really?

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I've heard that about Wild Horse Pass.

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Resorts, resorts is known, just everybody's on vacation.

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So it's just like they just want to have fun.

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And you, you like I got to a point where I worked there for so long that I got so good at catching who the swingers were.

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Like you just know their body language and everything as they come up.

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So, side note, I spent years studying body language.

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I love learning about the human mind, why people react the way they do, why do they, you know, we'll make some tick, things like that.

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So I pay attention to that.

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And uh, you know, I saw this this couple one time, I can't forget it.

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Couple comes up, immediately the guy and the girl separate.

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The guy goes, starts talking to a group of girls, the girl goes, starts talking to a group of guys.

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And right away I'm already seeing this, and I was like, okay.

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I was like, I'm I wonder, you know, but that was my first encounter.

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I was like, okay, I was like, we'll see how it goes.

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They finally meet up at the bar, same point, and then now they're asking me questions, they start getting dirtier with their comments, and you're just like okay, because you know, folks like joke around and everything, but then it's like once the joke keeps getting dragged on, it's like okay, you're pushing for something.

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Then to kind of shorten it up, basically, like the guy, he's like, Hey man, what do you think of my wife?

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And I was like, Oh, I was like, Your wife is awesome.

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He goes, Yeah, yeah, how much you like her?

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I was like, Oh, I like her a lot, she's really cool.

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He's like, Really?

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That that's it.

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I was like, Yeah, like she's really cool, man.

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Like you guys seem like some really cool people.

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He's like, Really?

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Well, you you know, my my wife really likes you.

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I was like, well, tell her thank you.

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You know, I like her too, because she stepped away for a sec.

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Then he kept pushing more and more.

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And uh, and then she comes back, you know, and so she's just like, hey, you know, trying to talk all normal.

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Steps away again for a sec, and then he just flat out says it.

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Uh, am I allowed to cuss?

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Yeah, of course.

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Okay, want to make sure he just flat out just says it.

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He's like, Hey man, my wife wants to fuck you.

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And like, and I've heard jokes like this because you're at a resort, so you deal with people all the time.

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So, like, a lot of times I think it's a joke, and I'm like, I'm like, hell yeah, man, appreciate it.

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Tell her thank you.

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Oh, you're you're serious.

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I was like, Oh, sir, my apologies, no, thank you.

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Like, that's your wife, I'm not interested, you know, like no.

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And then he gets offended.

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And this is exactly what they do.

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He was just like, he was like, What the fuck you mean, dude?

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Like, is my wife not hot enough for you?

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I'm like, No, no, no, she's gorgeous, like, you know, she's very attractive.

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Good for you.

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I'm happy for you, but no, thank you.

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You know, like, like, no, yeah, and uh, and he kept pushing.

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He he was just like, he was like, You're fucking serious.

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I was like, Yeah, I was like, no, thank you, sir.

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I appreciate you.

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She comes up, she's like, Hey, you know, how how's it going?

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And he right away, he was like, Can you believe this?

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He doesn't want to fuck you.

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And I'm thinking, I'm like, dude, what the hell happened?

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And she just looks, she's just like, Really?

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Is there something about me?

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I was like, Oh my gosh, like, you know, like I don't know what to say.

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So now I'm just kind of sitting here, you know, like getting all red and everything.

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I was just like, is this a real conversation right now?

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And now she's pushing hard.

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Oh god, she's pushing really hard.

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She's just like, What is it, huh?

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Am I not good enough?

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Do you not want to fuck me?

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And I'm just I was like, miss, no, I was like, You're you're gorgeous, but you have your man right here.

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And she goes, I don't want him, I want you.

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And literally it's getting they swingers are aggressive.

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Like, you I mean, you have the good swingers that are just like cool, man, you know, I understood bet.

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But then you have the ones that are like really pushy and they will keep pushing until they think they can get you.

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Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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I have a lot.

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But basically, so they're still trying, and now at this point, I'm looking over at like my staff.

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I'm just like, uh guys, like save me.

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Yeah, I'm like, this is getting a little weird.

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Then uh she keeps begging.

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Now she has her hands on the bar and she's holding her hands out.

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She's like, Will you please be mine tonight?

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And I was like, Miss, no.

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I was like, no, thank you.

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You have an awesome husband.

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She goes, No, I want him.

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He goes, Yeah, I don't want her.

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Take her.

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I was like, Oh my gosh, like, guys, I was like, I don't care, choose someone else.

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I'm working.

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Like you should have just said, I'm engaged, or I have a girlfriend, or also probably by saying no, you just made her want you even more.

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You always want what they can't have.

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And what's funny, uh uh, so I I believe I was single at that time, but there was some other times I I was married, you know, and I'm like, guys, I'm taking.

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And it just made them want me even more.

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So I'll explain that in a sec.

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But no, so this girl, she has her hands out.

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And as she has her hands out, she's like, Will you please be mine?

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I was like, Miss, no.

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And I was like, How about this?

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While you're here, I'll be your best friend.

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And she was like, Oh, will you?

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I was like, Yeah, I was like, I'll be the best friend you've had while you're here, you know, like kind of just say, Hey, come to the bar, come hang out.

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Like, I'll, you know, serve you drinks, take care of you.

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And uh, so she had her hand, she was like, Oh, like, will you please thank you?

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In my mind, I don't know why.

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I was thinking, I was like, Yeah, I thought she wanted to shake my hand.

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So I put my hand out to shake her hand.

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Worst idea.

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Because as soon as I put my hand out to shake her hand, she grabbed my hand and she pulled.

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And she pulled, and half my body went over the bar.

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I had to grab the rail.

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And as I grabbed the rail, I look over, she's still tugging on my arm.

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I look over at her husband.

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I'll admit her husband wasn't expecting this either.

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He looks pale white, jaw dropped open.

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I remember I looked over at my boss at the time, I looked over at my staff, and everybody's jaw dropped.

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Everyone's frozen, doesn't know what to do.

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That was probably the first time I really cussed out a girl.

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Like, I I full on, like, I lost it.

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I was like, get this fucking bitch off of me.

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I was like, you do not fucking grab me.

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Like, are you kidding me?

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She's still tugging, like, she is still tugging as I'm staring at her.

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I'm holding the rail.

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I'm like, you're you're serious.

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So I get my hand away, I start yelling, I was like, get this fucking woman out of here, security comes, we take her away.

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They leave.

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Then comes to be two months later, and uh now I see the husband come back with a different woman.

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Yeah, so now he's with a different woman.

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And so, of course, I was like, I was like, hey, how you doing, sir?

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It's good to see you again.

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And he right away looks at me, he's like, Oh, you remember me?

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And so I made a joke out of it.

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I was like, How could I forget?

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Your wife tried to pull me over the bar, you know, and he was like, Hey dude, I'm so sorry, I'm not with her anymore.

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I was like, it's all good, I'm just giving you shit.

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You know, but it's just it's just so funny how that happens, you know, it's just it's very common.

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And in fact, uh when I first started working at the resort, I was just a pool boy.

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So I was a guy that cleaned the pool, ran food, and I was barely 18 years old.

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So, of course, when you have an 18-year-old kid dealing with swingers, they don't know what the hell they're doing.

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I didn't.

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And I remember I had this couple, uh, I'm taking care of them, just normal things, same thing.

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Joke started to get dirtier and dirtier and dirtier.

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And then, same thing.

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I was like, Hey man, what do you think of my wife?

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I'm like, dude, she's awesome.

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I'm like, great job, you know, and and he's just like, Well, she wants to take you to the room.

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I was just like, and I I didn't process my mind.

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I'm barely 18, I'm a weekend on the job.

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I was like, what for?

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And then I was like, oh shit, oh no, no, no, no, thank you.

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Then it got bad, and so she started freaking out, and then now this couple is screaming at me at this big pool, big resort, over uh over 400 chairs.

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It's packed, and this girl and this guy are cussing me out.

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They're literally cussing me out, they're yelling, they're like, You fucked up, you could have fucked my wife, but you fucked up.

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And she literally is like, Yeah, you could have fucked me, but you fucked up.

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And she goes across, they go across the pool and they're literally cussing me out.

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Like they're yelling, saying, You've lost your fucking chance to fuck this hot wife and stuff.

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Oh my god.

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Yeah, and then I just remember I looked over, all the guests around was like staring at me.

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I looked over and my boss loved this guy.

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He I mean he he taught me everything, but it was so funny because he's across the pool, but he was watching everything, and so he looks at me and like I look over at him, and from across the pool, you just see this guy look and go just like that.

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And at that moment I looked, I was like, I'm going on break.

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Like, I didn't know what to do.

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I'm like I said, barely 18.

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I'm like, dude, I don't I don't know what I'm talking about here.

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So I just mean he just went on break, and that's when he had came out.

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He was like, What the hell happened?

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I explained it, and so he was like, Yeah, he's that that does happen.

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But it's just swingers are savage.

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That's just a little bit, man.

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I mean the room too, yeah.

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So okay.

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I so I okay, so I have a question.

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So this makes me this reminds me, I was I was with my ex and we were on a business trip for him.

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He was in commercial real estate, and so we were at we were in Philadelphia at this conference, and we went out one night.

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We went out with like the founding principal of his firm.

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And and I remember we were out and this guy, his boss or whatever, we were talking, and he I can't even remember how we got here, but he's like, I need to show you these pictures of my wife so you can see how hot she is.

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He showed me naked pictures of his wife.

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And so then we like get back to the room, and I'm like, oh yeah, no, like she's super hot.

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Like, good for you.

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Like, she's she looks amazing.

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Like, I'm not sure why you're showing me naked pictures of her right now, but she looks great.

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So we get back to the hotel, and I was telling my ex, my partner at the time, I was like, I'm pretty sure that your boss like wants me to have a threesome with him and his wife.

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And he's like, he was like, Why do you think that?

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And I said, Because he literally waited until you were gone, right?

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Like, I'm like, I don't think he wants you, I think he just wants me.

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Right?

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I was gonna say, yeah.

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So I I've dealt with that exact situation.

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So as soon as they show you the naked pictures, like, dude, why are you showing me naked pictures of your wife?

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Right?

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Yeah, right.

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But then, but then the other funny thing is, so then he hosted the company Christmas party at his house, and they live in like a beautiful huge house in Paradise Valley.

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And so we were kind of getting a tour, and while we were on the tour, he comes up to me and he's like, Hey, I need to show you some.

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I think I I need to show you a room that I think that you're gonna like.

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It was a sex dungeon.

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They had a sex dungeon in their house.

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Honestly, that sounds fun though.

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It was a sick room, it was like soundproof, and it was like one of those secret doors that you have to like push in a certain spot.

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Like, no, no, it was.

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It was a sick room, but I was like, okay, so first it's the naked pictures of your wife while we're out of town together, and now you're pulling me like separate from the group to show me the sex dungeon in your house.

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I'm like, Yeah, I'm yeah, I'm trying to plant scenes.

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I think so too.

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I think so too.

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No, see, and with that, that's the part that I just can't stand.

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It's like, look, you want to plant seeds because you know, like you see an attractive girl, cool.

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But it's just if you're in a relationship or you know that person in a relationship, don't do it.

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Like that's in my opinion, that's the most disrespectful, stupid crap.

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Like, I don't care.

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I'm I'm 32, but even ever since I was a little kid, never cheated in my life, never even like hooked up with someone that was in a relationship.

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Cause I'm like, no, that's stupid.

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Like, why do I want to put myself in drama?

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It's just like it's like, no, thank you.

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Clearly, you're a dumbass because you don't care.

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So why am I gonna try to talk to you?

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Because then if some drama happens, it's falling back on me.

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Yeah, no.

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Well, and it also made me wonder what they talked about, like behind my back.

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Because my ex sort of like, he sort of just shrugged it off like it was not really a big deal.

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He never was like, I can't believe that he did that, but he also never was like, Oh yeah, you should totally do that either.

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You know, he was just very neutral, neutral about it, which I also thought was weird.

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So then I'm like, Do you is this something that you guys have talked about?

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Oh, I'm sure.

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I was gonna say, yeah.

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That's weird.

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It was weird.

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And how attractive is it to have sex with someone that you had to pressure to get in the bedroom?

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Yeah, no, it's not.

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You have to talk them into it.

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They said no 20 times, finally, they caved.

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They clearly don't want to be there.

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Would you be comfortable?

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Like, no, hell no.

00:18:05.359 --> 00:18:07.599
No, that sounds horrible, it sounds so bad.

00:18:07.920 --> 00:18:09.519
Yeah, it sounds desperate, sounds weird.

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Now it just does not give up the good vibes.

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It's like, uh, yeah, let's not do this.

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No, it's it's weird.

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It is.

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So you were married.

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Yeah.

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So tell us about that.

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How old were you when you got married?

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Uh yeah, so I was uh uh man, I I tried it, it was it was a little rough, so that's why I try to like blank it out.

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So I was about 20, I think I was like 29, 28, 29.

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Yeah.

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So it's kind of recent.

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Yeah, kind of recent.

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So crazy little story.

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Um, uh, won't go too far in depth on it, but basically it's just say I was with her for eight years.

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Uh, this person had medical issues, and so you know, she never worked.

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I always worked.

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Um, you know, we were just trying to get her right, figure out why she was having so many seizures, all this kind of stuff.

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And we basically was able to pinpoint where the seizures came from, got her approved for brain surgery, brain surgery was the success.

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Seizures were gone, thought life was great.

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Then uh then she flat out told me she was like, Hey, I actually never wanted to be with you.

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I was only with you because you were taking care of me.

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Now that I'm seizure-free, I want to move on.

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Are you serious?

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Yep.

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Wow.

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But even with that, like, so because of how much chaos we went through, because I mean it's not easy, you know, like being with a partner to where that can just have a seizure any moment.

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Like us sitting here, you're like a flicker.

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And then now uh I would know like her, her almost like her trigger to where she says like a certain word or goes, oh, I immediately know and pull out a mercy pill, shove it in her mouth, you know, because it's just like okay, she's about to have a seizure.

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So I got so used to dealing with such chaotic situations that I it taught me to stay calm.

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So even in that situation, like as soon as that happened and how she broke the news to me was by hitting on my best friend.

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Oh, you see?

00:19:49.440 --> 00:19:49.759
Yeah, yeah.

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And then when I was like, why?

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She was like, Oh, I don't know.

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I just thought it would make the breakup easier.

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And so I just told her, I was like, you know what, you're all good.

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I was like, it's okay.

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Just please put the ring in my hand and get out of my house.

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You know, so then that happened, divorced in three weeks.

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And then after that, yeah, I was like, okay, I was like, I have all this free time on my hands now.

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What do I do?

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And then now that's when I start.

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Was the divorce at least amicable?

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Like she didn't try to take stuff from you or anything like that.

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That was one thing, yeah.

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That was one thing I did at least respect it, uh respect her for is the fact that she knew she was doing me dirty.

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She was like, hey man, like, look, you literally did everything.

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She was like, you keep everything.

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I was like, thank you.

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I I paid for everything, but thank you.

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You know, like I I hope the best for you.

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She didn't try to kick you while you were down.

00:20:30.799 --> 00:20:31.200
Yeah, yeah.

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Just also take half of your shit.

00:20:33.119 --> 00:20:33.359
Yeah.

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No, and because I mean I even told her, I was like, look, uh, because at that point I was like, I was like, I don't care.

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I was like, just let me at least keep my truck, take whatever the hell you want.

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I was like, I don't care.

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And she was like, no, you you keep everything.

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She was like, this was you.

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I was like, cool, thanks, have a good life.

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Did you like being married?

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I did.

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You did?

00:20:49.119 --> 00:20:49.359
Yeah.

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So I mean, because I mean, so me just uh I'm the big brother in the family.

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Uh, and I've always been the one that's just kind of like watches my family, you know, keeps everyone in line, and you know, just the protector.

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I've always been like that my entire life.

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And so, you know, finally finding someone that I thought was the one, you know, I wanted to be the provider.

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And just knowing that, you know, she could never really, you know, like work or anything because of all these seizures, I was like, hey, I got you.

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Like, like you just take care of yourself.

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I'll handle the bills, I'll handle everything, like as long as you're okay.

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And then once you're good, then we can see what's next in our chapter.

00:21:20.319 --> 00:21:25.759
You know, like anytime, uh, because I mean it does suck, you know, when you're sitting at home and you can't really do much, you know, like you get bored.

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So I always try when I'd come home, and you know, it's like, hey, like, what are you doing?

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And she's like, Oh, you know, I'm I'm bored, I don't know what to do with myself.

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I'm like, okay, let's let's figure this out.

00:21:34.000 --> 00:21:35.200
Um, you like to draw, right?

00:21:35.279 --> 00:21:36.480
She's like, Yeah, like, okay, cool.

00:21:36.640 --> 00:21:37.920
Got some canvases, things like that.

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I was like, start drawing.

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You know, okay, I got bored with that.

00:21:40.960 --> 00:21:44.000
Okay, um I know you like coloring books, got coloring books.

00:21:44.319 --> 00:21:45.359
Okay, you started to get bored.

00:21:45.440 --> 00:21:48.559
Okay, well, hey, let's uh here's a tablets, have you practice graphic design.

00:21:48.720 --> 00:21:52.079
Like I'm always trying to like I was trying to help her, like anybody.

00:21:52.160 --> 00:21:59.839
Like I'm gonna try to encourage because in this life, like you don't want to just sit there and not do nothing with your life because then you're gonna complain and just be like, Oh, you know, poor me.

00:22:00.400 --> 00:22:01.759
Don't be in the victim mindset.

00:22:01.839 --> 00:22:03.039
Like, you want to always improve.

00:22:03.119 --> 00:22:05.519
And if I'm gonna be with someone, I'm going to help them grow.

00:22:05.599 --> 00:22:07.200
Like, I want them to help me grow.

00:22:07.359 --> 00:22:12.240
So I was just always constantly trying to like, hey, try this, try that, try this, try that.

00:22:12.400 --> 00:22:13.519
Nothing really stuck.

00:22:13.680 --> 00:22:18.640
You know, so it was just other than that, it was still the fact that like I was happy, I was content.

00:22:18.720 --> 00:22:21.279
I was like, hey, I was like, I got the you know, the woman I want to be with.

00:22:21.359 --> 00:22:22.880
I'm building a house for us right now.

00:22:22.960 --> 00:22:26.079
I just opened up a new bar in Goodyear, like I'm super excited.

00:22:26.160 --> 00:22:28.640
And in the blink of an eye, you know, everything changed.

00:22:28.960 --> 00:22:32.720
But and that's when I thought I was like, okay, um, either two things happen.

00:22:32.880 --> 00:22:40.079
Either one, I can crash and burn and be a victim and be like, oh, poor me, or I could just be like, okay, shit happens.

00:22:40.240 --> 00:22:41.519
Let's get up and let's move on.

00:22:41.680 --> 00:22:45.359
Because at the time I opened up a new bar with over 144 employees.

00:22:45.519 --> 00:22:50.640
And so my mindset, uh, and and also she did break the news to me the night before I opened up this new bar.

00:22:51.039 --> 00:22:53.359
Yeah, so I went in to work on 30 minutes of sleep.

00:22:53.440 --> 00:23:02.720
And in fact, to tell you how crazy of a uh night this was, so as soon as she broke the news to me, of course I only slept 30 minutes because I was like, what the heck you're dealing with that?

00:23:02.880 --> 00:23:06.000
I went and opened up this new bar with all these employees.

00:23:06.240 --> 00:23:11.279
As I'm running around trying to work every position, you know, helping my staff, my staff runs up to me.

00:23:11.359 --> 00:23:12.400
So my nickname is Dre.

00:23:12.640 --> 00:23:14.640
And they're like, Dre, Dre, emergency, emergency.

00:23:14.799 --> 00:23:15.920
And I was like, what's going on?

00:23:16.079 --> 00:23:17.599
They're like, we need you in the back right now.

00:23:17.839 --> 00:23:18.559
I go to the back.

00:23:18.720 --> 00:23:20.720
Mind you, I'm off 30 minutes to sleep on this.

00:23:20.799 --> 00:23:24.400
And I go to the back, one of my dishwashers, wanted to give him a chance.

00:23:24.640 --> 00:23:27.200
He used to be uh a drug addict and he was recovering.

00:23:27.279 --> 00:23:29.359
And I was like, hey man, I'm gonna give you a chance.

00:23:29.519 --> 00:23:36.880
We hired him, and uh, I guess apparently he got back on the drugs, um, took a hit of a vape, and he fell and cracked his head open.

00:23:37.119 --> 00:23:41.599
So when I turned the corner and I saw he's sitting on the ground with his head down, just blood is rushing down his face.

00:23:41.759 --> 00:23:42.799
Of course, I'm freaking out.

00:23:42.880 --> 00:23:44.079
I'm like, what the heck is going on?

00:23:44.160 --> 00:23:46.720
I see my staff, they look in panic mode, no one knows what to do.

00:23:46.880 --> 00:23:50.640
And so right away I'm trying to push this dude's head up, trying to stop the bleeding, trying to get him to talk to me.

00:23:50.720 --> 00:23:51.759
I'm like, hey, tell me your name.

00:23:51.920 --> 00:23:52.720
Where are we right now?

00:23:52.799 --> 00:23:53.359
Who's the president?

00:23:53.440 --> 00:23:55.200
Like, I'm asking him those standard questions.

00:23:55.359 --> 00:23:58.880
And he was able to answer them and everything, and I was like, perfect, tell me what happened.

00:23:59.119 --> 00:24:00.960
He's trying to talk to me, but he's not all there.

00:24:01.039 --> 00:24:06.880
And I so I looked at my staff, and so if you know about what happens when people are are scared, there's the three F's.

00:24:07.279 --> 00:24:10.160
It's either you uh you fight, you flight, or you freeze.

00:24:10.240 --> 00:24:11.279
It's one of those.

00:24:11.440 --> 00:24:14.720
Um, most people nowadays in this uh in this world they freeze.

00:24:14.880 --> 00:24:18.000
So I believe it's like uh over 60-70% of people freeze.

00:24:18.160 --> 00:24:23.920
Uh maybe 20% um they they run and the last like 10% fight back.

00:24:24.240 --> 00:24:26.880
So most people freeze, and so you have to be quick in those moments.

00:24:26.960 --> 00:24:33.920
Like I said, because I've dealing with my ex and having a seizure in the moment, I have to react quite uh quick, or she can, you know, something bad can happen.

00:24:34.319 --> 00:24:37.279
Uh, you know, I just I looked over at my staff that was sitting there frozen.

00:24:37.440 --> 00:24:40.240
I was like, guys, I need the first aid kit, I need gloves, you know, we gotta stitch him up.

00:24:40.319 --> 00:24:43.119
You're like, I'm yelling this to people and no one's moving.

00:24:43.440 --> 00:24:47.119
So at that moment I realized I was like, okay, everybody's in panic mode, no one can move.

00:24:47.279 --> 00:24:52.400
So I looked at the my employee, I'm trying, I was like, Yeah, I need you to keep your head up, I need you to apply pressure.

00:24:53.119 --> 00:24:58.160
And uh so basically I'm telling the others, I was like, hey, I need you to focus, pay attention to this guy, I'll be right back.

00:24:58.319 --> 00:25:03.599
I ran inside, grab all the equipment, run back out, and now I'm like over here trying to stitch him up, clean him up, everything.

00:25:03.759 --> 00:25:06.240
And uh at the moment I was like, hey, I gotta get you to the hospital.

00:25:06.319 --> 00:25:08.160
He's like, No, no, no, no, I don't gotta go to the hospital.

00:25:08.319 --> 00:25:10.319
And I was wondering, I was like, why don't you want to go to the hospital?

00:25:10.400 --> 00:25:14.000
I was like, dude, you got a hole in your head that's big enough to put two fingers in.

00:25:14.559 --> 00:25:16.880
And uh, so I told him, I was like, I don't care.

00:25:16.960 --> 00:25:18.720
I'm calling 911, I'm getting an ambulance.

00:25:18.799 --> 00:25:20.880
He was like, Nope, I already called my mom, she's almost here.

00:25:21.039 --> 00:25:25.680
And I was like, if your mom could be here in less than a minute, then I will not call the ambulance.

00:25:25.759 --> 00:25:26.960
And he was like, No, no, she's coming.

00:25:27.119 --> 00:25:29.119
So then I spoke to her and I was like, You're about here.

00:25:29.200 --> 00:25:30.240
She's like, Yep, I'm turning the corner.

00:25:30.400 --> 00:25:31.279
I was like, You better hurry up.

00:25:31.359 --> 00:25:34.559
I was like, I'll get you all the workers' comp info, but let's get him to the hospital.

00:25:34.799 --> 00:25:40.079
While this is happening, then at the same time, my employees ran up to me again, Dre, another emergency.

00:25:40.160 --> 00:25:41.839
And I was like, guys, this is really bad.

00:25:42.000 --> 00:25:43.119
Like, I'm I'm dealing with something.

00:25:43.200 --> 00:25:44.640
They're like, No, this is bad too.

00:25:44.799 --> 00:25:47.119
I run inside to see one of my other employees.

00:25:47.279 --> 00:25:51.119
She's on the floor in fetal position in the middle of the liquor room, holding her heart.

00:25:51.279 --> 00:25:52.319
I'm like, what's going on?

00:25:52.480 --> 00:25:54.240
She's like, Oh, I forgot my heart medication at home.

00:25:54.319 --> 00:25:55.119
I'm just not doing good.

00:25:55.279 --> 00:25:55.759
Oh my god.

00:25:56.000 --> 00:25:57.759
And I'm just sitting here, I was like, oh my gosh.

00:25:57.920 --> 00:26:00.640
And I was like, You did not tell me you have heart problems when I hired you.

00:26:00.880 --> 00:26:08.160
Okay, you know, so you know, now I'm having to calm her down because uh, you know, every every family has like panic attacks and stuff, so I'm good at calming my family down.

00:26:08.319 --> 00:26:10.400
So I was teaching her uh, you know, like certain things.

00:26:10.480 --> 00:26:18.240
So I teach people is a lot of people teach you the 777, but I like to do 444, which is you inhale for four seconds, hold for four, exhale for four.

00:26:18.319 --> 00:26:20.799
Because when you're in panic mode, it's hard to hold your breath for longer.

00:26:20.960 --> 00:26:22.880
So I'm doing that to calm her down and everything.

00:26:23.039 --> 00:26:28.480
And as soon as I saw, you know, I finally got her calmed down, I was like, okay, I need you to relax, I gotta go check on the other guy.

00:26:28.559 --> 00:26:36.960
So now I'm sprinting back to the other guy, and then this mom pulls up, and I'm trying to help uh my employee get up to go take him to the car, but the dude can't walk because of how much blood he lost.

00:26:37.200 --> 00:26:42.640
So like adrenaline kicks in, and I literally have to take this guy and like throw him on my shoulders and just run him over to her car.

00:26:42.880 --> 00:26:53.279
And then funny thing of why I'm saying this is because then I throw the guy in her car, and I don't know if this mom maybe just because she saw me carrying her son to the car, but she like fell in love.

00:26:53.440 --> 00:26:58.640
And like now I literally have this guy in the car, and I'm like, dude, like, like you need to go.

00:26:58.720 --> 00:26:59.519
Get him to the hospital.

00:26:59.759 --> 00:27:00.799
She's like, Thank you so much.

00:27:00.960 --> 00:27:01.759
What what is your name?

00:27:01.839 --> 00:27:07.920
And I'm like, Miss, I was like, I I like I was like, Your son is bleeding, get him to the fucking hospital.

00:27:08.079 --> 00:27:09.359
And she's like, just thank you so much.

00:27:09.440 --> 00:27:11.119
I was like, Miss, I'll get you the workers' comp.

00:27:11.279 --> 00:27:12.160
I'll talk to you later.

00:27:12.400 --> 00:27:12.640
Go.

00:27:12.799 --> 00:27:14.960
Like, I literally had to yell or like get your ass bleeding.

00:27:15.119 --> 00:27:16.079
What's your star sign?

00:27:16.240 --> 00:27:16.640
Oh man.

00:27:17.119 --> 00:27:17.759
My hero.

00:27:18.079 --> 00:27:19.519
Yeah, no, it was ridiculous.

00:27:19.680 --> 00:27:21.279
Yeah, it was it was so nuts, man.

00:27:21.359 --> 00:27:23.039
So, like, all this chaos is happening.

00:27:23.200 --> 00:27:31.839
I think I worked uh uh I worked like 16 and a half hours that day with just pure chaos, then the hour and a half drive home to then see my ex on my couch in my house.

00:27:31.920 --> 00:27:33.759
And I was like, Why are you in the house?

00:27:33.920 --> 00:27:36.079
Just like, oh, I got a doctor's appointment in the morning.

00:27:36.240 --> 00:27:37.039
Don't worry about it.

00:27:37.200 --> 00:27:38.240
You know, you won't even notice me.

00:27:38.319 --> 00:27:44.640
I'm like, it's gonna be hard not to notice, like now gonna be my ex-wife in the house, like, get the fuck out.

00:27:44.799 --> 00:27:49.119
You know, so then I did this, of course, only slept 30 minutes, and I had to go back to work the next day.

00:27:49.759 --> 00:27:54.799
And then uh, yeah, and it was like uh I think it was a week later, then that same employee that had the hole in his head.

00:27:54.960 --> 00:27:57.279
Then he starts telling me, he's like, hey man, what do you think of my mom?

00:27:57.440 --> 00:28:01.839
And I was like, dude, don't I was like, don't you dare ask me this stupid question right now.

00:28:01.920 --> 00:28:02.960
I was like, Are you kidding me?

00:28:03.119 --> 00:28:09.759
I was like, Your your mom made me so mad knowing that like literally you're sitting there bleeding in the car and she's trying to talk to me.

00:28:09.920 --> 00:28:11.839
He's like, Well, and he tries to make a joke out of me.

00:28:11.920 --> 00:28:13.759
He was like, Well, I think it would be cool if you were my stepdad.

00:28:13.920 --> 00:28:17.039
I was like, dude, I was like, get the hell out of here, guys.

00:28:17.519 --> 00:28:18.720
But did you go out with her though?

00:28:18.880 --> 00:28:28.720
No, no, because in my in in my mind, if you are clueless to not pay attention to your kid and not pay attention to just some guy you think is hot, right?

00:28:28.880 --> 00:28:29.680
I don't want to talk to you.

00:28:29.759 --> 00:28:33.119
Yeah, like I don't want to talk to someone that's not all there in the head.

00:28:33.440 --> 00:28:34.079
How old was she?

00:28:34.160 --> 00:28:35.599
Was she I have no idea?

00:28:36.640 --> 00:28:37.200
No idea.

00:28:37.440 --> 00:28:38.720
So are you on the apps?

00:28:38.960 --> 00:28:40.079
Uh no, not anymore.

00:28:40.240 --> 00:28:42.400
No, I've been on the apps in a good while.

00:28:42.559 --> 00:28:49.200
Uh, just because I mean that's where you see my old TikTok videos, is when I used to talk about dating stories and the crazy experiences after that.

00:28:49.279 --> 00:28:50.160
I was just like, I'm done.

00:28:50.319 --> 00:28:53.519
So I quit everything because I'm just like focusing on my acting, modeling, and everything.

00:28:53.599 --> 00:28:55.440
And if I meet someone organically, cool.

00:28:55.599 --> 00:28:58.400
Uh, or like even dating shows or something like this, you know.

00:28:58.480 --> 00:29:03.519
But it's just I'm done trying to talk on like apps because it's just a standard uh talk.

00:29:03.680 --> 00:29:08.000
No matter what, no matter what pickup lines you do, it's all the same.

00:29:08.079 --> 00:29:17.359
And especially like I get it, you know, you have the guy and the girl, but it's like the girl, you have to understand, most men are on dating apps, so you're gonna have hundreds of dudes in your inbox, you know.

00:29:17.440 --> 00:29:22.319
And it's just like if I do want to talk to this girl, she's literally gonna be like, Okay, which one do I want to talk to?

00:29:22.400 --> 00:29:24.079
And it's just I don't want to compete on that level.

00:29:24.160 --> 00:29:29.759
Like, I'd rather be face to face to you talking to you rather than trying to be like, hey, hey, hey, hey, like every other guy.

00:29:29.920 --> 00:29:31.200
So it's just it's boring to me.

00:29:31.440 --> 00:29:34.480
Did you have a good first line when you were on the apps?

00:29:34.720 --> 00:29:35.359
I used to.

00:29:35.440 --> 00:29:37.279
Yeah, so it depends on my mood.

00:29:37.519 --> 00:29:40.559
So there were some days where I was like, Oh, I'm gonna hit you with a good line.

00:29:40.640 --> 00:29:43.599
You know, like you think of something good, and other days I'm just what's up?

00:29:43.759 --> 00:29:46.079
You know, it's just yeah, it just kind of depends.

00:29:46.160 --> 00:29:50.799
But there there were times to where I would say such a good line and then like no response.

00:29:50.880 --> 00:29:51.599
I'm like, come on, man.

00:29:52.079 --> 00:29:52.319
Waste it.

00:29:52.799 --> 00:29:53.599
Like a line waste.

00:29:53.920 --> 00:29:57.200
Yeah, at least tell me, hey, no, it didn't do the job or something, you know.

00:29:57.279 --> 00:30:02.160
Like, if you just leave me blank, I'm like, I just wasted time thinking, you know, like, oh, is this one good?

00:30:02.400 --> 00:30:10.880
So that's why it's just like I'm I'm not going through all those steps because you know, when you have so many options to go through, it it's it's hard to pay attention to someone, you know.

00:30:11.279 --> 00:30:14.559
Do you have any crazy fast state stories or disastrous state stories?

00:30:14.799 --> 00:30:16.319
Yeah, yeah.

00:30:16.640 --> 00:30:20.480
Um uh first time I got catfished, that was rough.

00:30:20.720 --> 00:30:22.400
So, so me, I'm a big nerd.

00:30:22.480 --> 00:30:27.359
So I'm a very big actor nerd, like literally going anywhere from uh like like I I love fitness.

00:30:27.440 --> 00:30:36.079
So, you know, like I said, I used to fight in the ring, you know, I I used to uh teach people how to work out, like I'm I'm big on fitness and everything, played football, soccer, but I'm also a gaming nerd.

00:30:36.160 --> 00:30:42.640
Like I love I love playing board games, card games, you know, I love to watch anime, doing anything nerdy, cosplay, all that.

00:30:42.720 --> 00:30:44.960
So anything, I'm I'm about it.

00:30:45.200 --> 00:30:49.759
And I remember I mashed with this girl one time and she was big on cosplay and all her photos and everything.

00:30:49.839 --> 00:30:57.039
I was like, oh, I was like, she's very pretty, she clearly likes the same stuff I do, and you know, she like she's in good shape and looks healthy.

00:30:57.519 --> 00:30:57.839
Awesome.

00:30:57.920 --> 00:31:00.160
We started talking, we set up a date right away.

00:31:00.319 --> 00:31:02.240
I was like, perfect, this is too good to be true.

00:31:03.039 --> 00:31:07.279
I remember so we go to uh uh we go to get sushi.

00:31:07.680 --> 00:31:11.119
Um uh and you know, I was like, hey, I was like, let's go, let's go to Raw.

00:31:11.440 --> 00:31:14.400
We go to Raw, and I just remember I'm sitting there waiting for this girl.

00:31:14.720 --> 00:31:16.079
She texts me, she's like, hey, I'm here.

00:31:16.160 --> 00:31:18.079
I was like, perfect, I'm waiting at the front for you.

00:31:18.319 --> 00:31:20.880
And I'm just sitting there waiting at the front and I'm looking around.

00:31:21.440 --> 00:31:22.960
I'm just looking.

00:31:23.200 --> 00:31:27.519
And then there's someone in front of me, they're just like, oh hey, and I was like, hey miss.

00:31:28.640 --> 00:31:30.480
Like literally, like that's exactly what happened.

00:31:30.559 --> 00:31:32.079
I because I didn't know, so I'm literally just sitting there.

00:31:32.160 --> 00:31:33.839
I was like, oh hey miss.

00:31:35.279 --> 00:31:37.359
You know, just looking, I'm like, where is my date?

00:31:37.599 --> 00:31:46.400
And then she's like, Oh, I'm you know, I I I forgot her name, but says her name, and I just looked at her, and it was my first time being catfish, but like I said, like I don't get angry or anything.

00:31:46.480 --> 00:31:53.920
I just literally looked at her, I was like, Okay, yeah, you still went on the date?

00:31:54.240 --> 00:31:55.680
Because I was yeah, because I was like, you know what?

00:31:55.759 --> 00:31:56.160
Let's try it.

00:31:56.240 --> 00:31:59.440
It was my first date, uh, first time back in the game, you know, being single again.

00:31:59.519 --> 00:32:02.319
I was just like, So she looked completely different, yeah.

00:32:02.640 --> 00:32:04.640
And not dressed up at all.

00:32:04.720 --> 00:32:10.640
Like I'm talking like dirty sweatpants, big old baggy shirt, glasses were bent to the side.

00:32:10.720 --> 00:32:11.599
Like I thought it was a prank.

00:32:11.680 --> 00:32:12.559
I I'm not kidding.

00:32:12.799 --> 00:32:17.440
I and I I tell my buddies this all the time because I thought it was a prank because the glasses were like bent.

00:32:17.680 --> 00:32:18.319
That's it.

00:32:18.400 --> 00:32:20.960
And uh, you know, so I was just like, hey, I was like, you know what?

00:32:21.119 --> 00:32:22.400
Things happen.

00:32:22.720 --> 00:32:24.559
Maybe I'm overthinking this.

00:32:24.720 --> 00:32:27.359
I was like, let's let's see, you know, let's let's test the vibe.

00:32:27.519 --> 00:32:41.039
So we sit down, and uh, as soon as we sit down, I just look at her, I'm like, oh man, I'm like, I I literally pull up her pictures and I look at her and I'm like I was like, yeah, and so now I'm I was a little irritated and I was like, okay.

00:32:41.200 --> 00:32:44.799
So I just remember the server comes over and the server was like, what can I before I could before they could finish?

00:32:44.880 --> 00:32:45.920
I was like, sake.

00:32:47.039 --> 00:32:47.839
I was like, you know what?

00:32:47.920 --> 00:32:48.880
I I need some sake.

00:32:49.119 --> 00:32:49.680
Extra hours.

00:32:50.000 --> 00:32:53.119
Yeah, yeah, literally, I I I went through four bottles of sake.

00:32:53.279 --> 00:32:55.680
Uh did she look better after those four bottles?

00:32:59.119 --> 00:33:03.359
Oh my gosh, no, it's so mean to say, but it's just like I was trying to be polite.

00:33:03.519 --> 00:33:05.039
I was trying to be polite the whole date.

00:33:05.200 --> 00:33:08.240
I was like, okay, I was like, well, you know, well, tell me about yourself.

00:33:08.480 --> 00:33:14.240
Oh, did you did you say anything to her about the fact that she didn't look like her photos?

00:33:14.559 --> 00:33:15.440
What did she say?

00:33:16.079 --> 00:33:18.880
So uh yeah, it was just finally at the end.

00:33:19.119 --> 00:33:21.920
Like I just told her, I was like, hey, I was like, look, miss, I'm gonna be honest with you.

00:33:22.000 --> 00:33:23.599
At this point, yes, I was drunk.

00:33:23.839 --> 00:33:27.359
Um, so I said this in the most respectful way I could.

00:33:27.519 --> 00:33:29.599
But I just told her, I was like, hey, I'm gonna be honest with you.

00:33:29.680 --> 00:33:31.119
I was like, I appreciate your time.

00:33:31.279 --> 00:33:36.480
I appreciate you having a conversation with me, but I'm telling you now, this was our first date and this is our last date.

00:33:36.640 --> 00:33:37.839
You know, and she was like, Oh, why?

00:33:38.000 --> 00:33:41.440
I was like, Because you don't look nothing like your photos, you catfished me.

00:33:41.519 --> 00:33:42.640
And she was like, Oh, what do you mean?

00:33:42.799 --> 00:33:43.759
She was like, No, no, that's me.

00:33:43.839 --> 00:33:54.000
And I literally pulled up a photo, I was like, This is you, and she just looked at me and kind of stuttered, and I was just like, You catfished me really bad, and I'm done with this.

00:33:54.079 --> 00:34:00.480
Because at first we were talking about she was gonna come over to my place after, and I was just and I told her, I was like, You're not coming over, like just flat out.

00:34:00.559 --> 00:34:04.559
I was just, I was like, Yeah, no, and then I did say something that was a little on the rude side.

00:34:04.720 --> 00:34:15.360
Um, and surprisingly when I said it on TikTok, I thought I was gonna get a little a big backlash, but instead of people were supporting me, I told her, I was like, hey, I'm gonna be honest, you look like my buddy Thomas.

00:34:15.920 --> 00:34:16.960
I I literally told her.

00:34:17.119 --> 00:34:18.880
I told her, I was like, you look like my buddy Thomas.

00:34:19.039 --> 00:34:20.400
She goes, Oh, well, is she attractive?

00:34:20.480 --> 00:34:30.639
I was like, No, and he's a guy, and I just and I just remember like saying that, and like she just looked at me shocked, and I was like, I'm sorry, like I'm trying not to be rude, but you really wasted my time.

00:34:30.719 --> 00:34:36.239
I was like, I don't mind paying because I offered the date, so I got this first date, but you clearly wasted my time.

00:34:36.559 --> 00:34:37.679
She was being deceitful.

00:34:37.840 --> 00:34:38.480
Uh-huh.

00:34:38.639 --> 00:34:38.800
Yeah.

00:34:39.039 --> 00:34:42.639
And the part that also really irritated me about it is uh, so I worked at this really fancy restaurant.

00:34:42.719 --> 00:34:48.000
I'm not gonna say which one, she's very high ranking, but they just got off work and the entire staff came to Raw.

00:34:48.239 --> 00:34:51.119
And I just remember the entire staff seeing they're like, hey, what's up?

00:34:51.519 --> 00:34:54.800
And they just like stopped and looked at her and looked at me, and I was like, Oh shit.

00:34:54.960 --> 00:34:58.239
I was like, okay, and I just remember one of my homegirls' name was Asia.

00:34:58.320 --> 00:34:59.119
I went and gave her a hug.

00:34:59.199 --> 00:35:02.400
I was like, Asia, and as soon as I give her a hug, I was like, yo, I need you to save me.

00:35:02.559 --> 00:35:03.840
I was like, I got catfish.

00:35:03.920 --> 00:35:08.159
And this girl, she's diehard OG, and she just right away looks at me, and she was just like, damn, bitch.

00:35:08.239 --> 00:35:10.000
She was like, Okay, we'll see what we could do.

00:35:10.159 --> 00:35:13.119
Like, it was just, it was just one of those, it was just so bad to her.

00:35:13.199 --> 00:35:15.119
I was like, man, like this is my first time being catfish.

00:35:15.280 --> 00:35:15.920
Like, this is a joke.

00:35:16.079 --> 00:35:20.800
Like, when we were talking and her glasses were bent to the side, there were so many times I wanted to grab her glasses and put them straight.

00:35:20.880 --> 00:35:24.320
That's that was well, and just no effort in what you put on your body.

00:35:24.559 --> 00:35:25.599
Like on a first date.

00:35:28.719 --> 00:35:33.440
Yeah, it's like maybe at least if she was dressed up or something, I'd be like, okay, this isn't you, but you still came dressed up.

00:35:33.679 --> 00:35:35.840
At least you put the effort to make yourself look nice.

00:35:36.000 --> 00:35:36.639
Yeah, you know.

00:35:36.880 --> 00:35:37.360
Yeah, yeah.

00:35:37.599 --> 00:35:39.039
So you're a hip hop dancer?

00:35:39.199 --> 00:35:39.920
Yep, used to be.

00:35:40.159 --> 00:35:41.039
So you got the moves?

00:35:41.199 --> 00:35:41.440
Wow.

00:35:41.599 --> 00:35:45.679
Yeah, I uh I I used to be in uh two different dance crews and then uh one for salsa as well.

00:35:45.920 --> 00:35:47.599
So I used to enter tournaments, things like that.

00:35:47.679 --> 00:35:49.599
So yeah, it was definitely very competitive.

00:35:49.760 --> 00:35:54.800
Uh any chance I had to do anything new, you know, I was just always such a competitive person.

00:35:54.880 --> 00:35:56.000
Like I love to be active.

00:35:56.079 --> 00:35:57.679
So yeah, did that for a couple of years.

00:35:57.920 --> 00:36:00.480
Now, are you looking to get married again and have kids?

00:36:00.880 --> 00:36:01.360
Yes.

00:36:01.599 --> 00:36:03.440
Um, yeah, um, I definitely do.

00:36:03.519 --> 00:36:09.599
You know, I I feel like I I want to find the right person, but at the same time, it's not something to where I'm rushing or eager.

00:36:09.760 --> 00:36:11.679
Like I need to make sure there's a spark.

00:36:11.920 --> 00:36:16.159
Like I need to know that like, you know, I can actually be able to have conversations with you.

00:36:16.559 --> 00:36:22.159
So the main thing is I want to be able to have conversations that normally people will get offended by or something.

00:36:22.239 --> 00:36:28.400
Like I want to really know you and know that you're smart enough to have an intelligent conversation and not gonna get offended by things, you know.

00:36:28.480 --> 00:36:33.519
Like we can really work on things to help build each other a relationship rather than like attack each other or something, you know.

00:36:33.599 --> 00:36:36.960
Like uh, let's say I have like a goofy night.

00:36:37.119 --> 00:36:46.159
I'm just like, man, I want I really want to talk about like aliens or something, you know, and then I don't want to then, if I'm like, man, like like tell me what you think with aliens, they're like, and then they just say, like, are you stupid?

00:36:46.239 --> 00:36:46.960
There's no such thing.

00:36:47.039 --> 00:36:50.079
It's like, well, first off, don't call your partner stupid.

00:36:50.320 --> 00:36:52.480
Okay, but no, like, there has to be aliens, right?

00:36:52.719 --> 00:36:53.760
Yes, 100%.

00:36:54.000 --> 00:36:54.880
Not even gonna be started.

00:36:55.280 --> 00:36:59.119
We can't be the only living being in the universe.

00:36:59.440 --> 00:37:00.480
You have to be ignorant to think that.

00:37:00.559 --> 00:37:04.000
But didn't they just ask Obama, like, so tell us, are aliens real?

00:37:04.079 --> 00:37:05.039
And he's admitted it.

00:37:05.119 --> 00:37:05.920
He's like, Yes.

00:37:06.159 --> 00:37:07.920
Like he was admitting stuff that he knew about the government.

00:37:08.079 --> 00:37:08.960
He's like, Yes, there are.

00:37:09.119 --> 00:37:09.360
Oh, yeah.

00:37:09.679 --> 00:37:10.480
But he admitted that that's a good thing.

00:37:10.719 --> 00:37:14.800
I think they asked about the bunker in 51, and he was like, Okay, that I don't think is true.

00:37:14.960 --> 00:37:18.639
If it is, it's so top secret that even the president doesn't know about that.

00:37:18.800 --> 00:37:18.960
Yeah.

00:37:19.360 --> 00:37:22.320
But he did admit that they are aware of yeah, oh, trust me.

00:37:22.559 --> 00:37:23.920
There, there's a lot, but that's the thing.

00:37:24.000 --> 00:37:25.280
Like, I like having those conversations.

00:37:25.440 --> 00:37:26.480
Like uh uh my dad.

00:37:26.639 --> 00:37:30.400
My dad is one of those hard stern people that does not believe in anything.

00:37:30.559 --> 00:37:31.920
He's just like, no, he doesn't believe it.

00:37:32.000 --> 00:37:35.360
I had a conversation with him the other day, and there's a difference between my dad and my mom.

00:37:35.440 --> 00:37:39.280
My mom is a very feisty Latina, she is someone that she's like on you.

00:37:39.360 --> 00:37:41.440
You don't agree with her, she's like, oh yeah, ¿qué pasó?

00:37:41.599 --> 00:37:42.719
Like, she's just she's angry.

00:37:42.800 --> 00:37:44.400
But my daddy's real calm and mellow.

00:37:44.719 --> 00:37:49.679
And I was talking to my dad the other day, and yeah, we we brought up aliens, and he was just like, ah, he's like, I don't believe in aliens.

00:37:49.920 --> 00:37:54.559
But you know, me and him were actually able to have a good conversation about it rather than just being like, oh, you're stupid and dumb.

00:37:54.639 --> 00:38:01.519
It's like, like I would tell him, like, I'm like, I I don't understand why you don't believe in it, but I love the fact that we could talk about this.

00:38:01.599 --> 00:38:03.039
Like, I'd love to know why you don't.

00:38:03.119 --> 00:38:07.760
Because at the same time, yeah, we all believe in aliens, but at the same time, we haven't personally seen them ourselves.

00:38:07.840 --> 00:38:09.360
We only know from what other people tell us.

00:38:09.840 --> 00:38:11.280
So we're believing off of that.

00:38:11.360 --> 00:38:14.960
But to me, I'm like, hey man, like honestly, there's no way we're the only ones here.

00:38:15.440 --> 00:38:26.719
There's no way, but also people, some there are crazy people about it because I had a friend that was a crazy conspiracy theorist, and I don't know how how far down the alien rabbit hole you've gone.

00:38:26.960 --> 00:38:28.000
But he, okay.

00:38:28.400 --> 00:38:29.840
Have you ever heard of the Anunnaki?

00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:31.199
Yes, have you heard of that conspiracy?

00:38:31.920 --> 00:38:40.159
So he believed that we're all Anunnaki, and like the once the Anunnaki leader like turns us all on and activate us, like we all become aliens.

00:38:40.400 --> 00:38:40.880
I don't know.

00:38:41.039 --> 00:38:48.480
So we're so like so, like crazy, there's that end of the spectrum, and then there's like, okay, aliens are real.

00:38:48.719 --> 00:38:49.280
You know what I mean?

00:38:49.440 --> 00:38:55.280
So it's like you just have to make sure you're you get your same brand of kind of crazy.

00:38:55.440 --> 00:38:58.000
Yeah, but what do you say about people that are flat earthers?

00:38:58.400 --> 00:39:00.000
Like I actually open to it.

00:39:00.159 --> 00:39:04.000
Yeah, I actually know people that are flat earthers that are flat earthers, and honestly, I don't believe it.

00:39:04.079 --> 00:39:09.039
Um, but I'm like, hey man, like honestly, I believe in some crazy things, so I respect it.

00:39:09.199 --> 00:39:14.800
Um, because like I I got a good buddy of mine, he's a big flat earther, and and I remember when we first spoke, I'm like, really?

00:39:15.039 --> 00:39:16.159
You you think the world is flat?

00:39:16.239 --> 00:39:17.920
He's like, Yeah, and I was like, talk to me about it.

00:39:18.159 --> 00:39:18.719
Like, tell me.

00:39:18.880 --> 00:39:22.719
And he would say some like facts to where I'm like, okay, those make sense.

00:39:22.960 --> 00:39:29.360
I don't believe everything you're saying, but I respect that you're, you know, like you have this mindset because everyone's different, you know.

00:39:29.440 --> 00:39:31.920
So it's just to me, I'm just like, okay, like it intrigues me.

00:39:32.239 --> 00:39:34.320
You should tell him, did you hear this?

00:39:34.559 --> 00:39:51.840
The CEO of North Face, I think, North Face, or one of the outfitter, one of the like outdoorsy companies came out with a statement and said that if any of the flat earthers can come to him with proof that the earth is flat, he will give all of his shares to that person.

00:39:51.920 --> 00:39:52.079
Wow.

00:39:52.320 --> 00:39:54.079
So he will like give his company to that person.

00:39:54.719 --> 00:39:56.159
All right, yeah.

00:39:56.400 --> 00:39:57.679
But no one has given the proof.

00:39:58.159 --> 00:39:59.280
Nope, nope, not yet.

00:39:59.920 --> 00:40:00.320
That's funny.

00:40:00.480 --> 00:40:01.679
So, what is your ideal woman?

00:40:01.760 --> 00:40:03.119
Describe your perfect partner.

00:40:03.440 --> 00:40:04.320
It's a good question.

00:40:04.559 --> 00:40:08.800
Um, of course, uh, there's always a standard uh thing that everyone says is you know, peace.

00:40:08.880 --> 00:40:20.159
Uh so my ideal woman is just someone to where uh as interesting as it sounds that you know, like I can grow with, I don't have to baby them, um, that I just know that I can, like I said, you know, have good conversations with them.

00:40:20.239 --> 00:40:22.639
We can actually joke around because I'm a very goofy person.

00:40:22.800 --> 00:40:26.320
Like I'm any chance I get to do some stupid or goofy, I'm about it.

00:40:26.400 --> 00:40:29.199
Like I'll dress up like a Viking, I'll do some crazy stuff.

00:40:29.360 --> 00:40:42.159
Um, but uh if we're talking physical, um, I definitely, you know, like someone that's more, you know, like a more more curvy, you know, nice lips, nice eyes, just something something bringing to the table, you know, if that makes sense.

00:40:42.400 --> 00:40:45.360
And you like like a Latin, like Asian, yeah.

00:40:45.760 --> 00:40:46.800
Spanish is my favorite.

00:40:46.960 --> 00:40:47.760
Love Asians.

00:40:47.920 --> 00:40:49.920
Um, yeah, so definitely I I got a weakness for those.

00:40:50.159 --> 00:40:51.360
Like the exotic look.

00:40:51.519 --> 00:40:51.760
Yep.

00:40:51.840 --> 00:40:52.239
Oh, yeah.

00:40:52.400 --> 00:40:54.639
Yeah, even if it's something almost even like Persian or something.

00:40:54.719 --> 00:40:56.800
I just really like exotic look, you know, it's something a little different.

00:40:57.039 --> 00:40:58.480
Now, what are your deal breakers?

00:41:00.880 --> 00:41:06.960
I uh honestly, I would only say the only deal breaker, uh, I can't really think of anything physical because it's just if I dislike someone.

00:41:07.039 --> 00:41:10.400
Uh well, physical as horrible as it sounds, I don't like someone that's not in shape.

00:41:11.119 --> 00:41:24.239
You know, if you're just overweight, because to me that's very unattractive, because it's like, hey, like look, like if I'm looking to date you for the long run, because you think about it, if you're gonna get married to someone, you gotta think, can I spend my next 30,000 meals with you, 30,000 hours with you?

00:41:24.400 --> 00:41:28.719
Like it if it sounds like a big number, but it's like, yo, you're you're trying to be married for your life.

00:41:28.800 --> 00:41:30.559
You know, this is not something like a game.

00:41:30.719 --> 00:41:36.960
So if I see that you're out of shape, that tells me that you don't care about your life, you don't care about you know, like the way you look or your partner or anything.

00:41:37.039 --> 00:41:39.679
Then I get it, some folks do have their disabilities and everything like that.

00:41:39.840 --> 00:41:41.920
But if I still see you're at least trying.

00:41:42.159 --> 00:41:43.360
But so that's a big one for me.

00:41:43.519 --> 00:41:45.360
What about kids if someone has kids?

00:41:45.599 --> 00:41:47.599
Um, I would say it's tough.

00:41:47.840 --> 00:41:52.239
If you have one kid, sure, you know, like you know, like I'm I'm interested, you know, we can still talk and everything.

00:41:52.320 --> 00:41:56.079
But if you have two, you have to be gorgeous if I'm gonna want to continue talking to you.

00:41:56.159 --> 00:41:59.840
Cause it's like you have your hands, like even just having one kid, you have your hands full.

00:42:00.000 --> 00:42:07.119
You have two kids, then that's that's gonna be tough because me, you know, if I want kids, I want kids in even numbers.

00:42:07.199 --> 00:42:14.800
Like if I have kids, it has to either be two or four, not an odd number, because I just feel like, you know, like as siblings, you know, you want to have a sibling.

00:42:14.960 --> 00:42:17.039
Like me and my siblings, there's four of us, you know.

00:42:17.119 --> 00:42:18.719
We we all buddy system, you know.

00:42:18.800 --> 00:42:20.079
It's like you have someone to lean on.

00:42:20.159 --> 00:42:24.960
And I just feel like if you're like that third of the odd one, it's just in my opinion, it's just not right.

00:42:25.039 --> 00:42:26.400
I feel like you always gotta have it even.

00:42:26.639 --> 00:42:30.960
I feel like people always want the same way that they grew up.

00:42:31.119 --> 00:42:31.440
Yeah.

00:42:31.599 --> 00:42:31.920
Right?

00:42:32.400 --> 00:42:34.480
Because I grew up with two.

00:42:34.639 --> 00:42:35.840
I grew up with a brother and a sister.

00:42:36.000 --> 00:42:39.440
There's three of us, and my brother and my sister each have three kids.

00:42:39.599 --> 00:42:40.079
Oh, interesting.

00:42:40.320 --> 00:42:41.440
So it's like it's very interesting.

00:42:41.519 --> 00:42:42.400
I feel like you get used to one.

00:42:43.280 --> 00:42:45.039
I grew up with a brother and a sister, and I have three.

00:42:45.199 --> 00:42:45.519
Okay, yeah.

00:42:45.840 --> 00:42:46.559
Yeah, it's interesting.

00:42:46.719 --> 00:42:47.119
Yeah, yeah.

00:42:47.199 --> 00:42:47.440
Uh-huh.

00:42:47.679 --> 00:42:48.079
But it's cool.

00:42:48.239 --> 00:42:49.119
I love to hear that though.

00:42:49.280 --> 00:42:52.480
Yeah, it's it's just crazy, just how everyone has their experiences that they go through, you know.

00:42:52.719 --> 00:42:53.360
Are you ready for it?

00:42:53.519 --> 00:42:54.239
I'm ready for it.

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00:43:02.639 --> 00:43:07.760
Um, so this question is super interesting.

00:43:07.920 --> 00:43:14.480
We knew nothing about your marriage or your divorce before cut like this.

00:43:15.119 --> 00:43:17.199
That was like the first time that we asked you those questions.

00:43:17.519 --> 00:43:20.960
So I swear, like, this is like weird.

00:43:21.840 --> 00:43:23.920
I don't even put it on my social media so no one knows about it.

00:43:24.239 --> 00:43:26.320
Okay, so here's the situation.

00:43:26.559 --> 00:43:37.039
So, me, 23 male and girlfriend, 23 female, have been dating for nearly three years, and it was great for a while, but it's getting to the point where I don't see myself marrying her.

00:43:37.199 --> 00:43:40.639
I've been wanting to break up with her, but she's done so much for me.

00:43:40.800 --> 00:43:49.519
Like a year into dating, I got very sick, and she was incredible throughout it, and I want the world for her, but I just don't see myself spending my life with her.

00:43:49.760 --> 00:43:55.440
It doesn't help that we rarely have sex, and I feel like that's a big part of the relationship for me, and I'm losing attraction to her.

00:43:55.599 --> 00:43:59.599
I feel terrible thinking about hurting her, but I find myself somewhat wanting to be single.

00:44:00.079 --> 00:44:02.320
And being attracted to other girls.

00:44:02.800 --> 00:44:04.559
I think honesty is my best policy.

00:44:04.719 --> 00:44:05.280
Communication.

00:44:05.519 --> 00:44:06.880
It's fair for everyone involved.

00:44:06.960 --> 00:44:09.920
It's not fair for her to stay in it because she he feels bad.

00:44:10.000 --> 00:44:11.760
Would you want someone to stay with you out of pity?

00:44:11.920 --> 00:44:12.159
No.

00:44:12.480 --> 00:44:13.039
Hell no.

00:44:13.519 --> 00:44:15.119
No, no, no.

00:44:15.280 --> 00:44:18.320
And staying with her because she took care of him while he was sick.

00:44:18.400 --> 00:44:28.159
Like you can obviously speak to that, like how shitty that feels like to have someone that was just with you because you are the caretaker, you know?

00:44:28.480 --> 00:44:29.519
Yeah, but but that's the thing.

00:44:29.599 --> 00:44:30.800
I'd rather you be honest with me.

00:44:31.119 --> 00:44:36.559
Like when when you know my ex told me, you know, was was honest with me there and told me that I couldn't be angry at it.

00:44:36.639 --> 00:44:37.440
I was just like, cool.

00:44:37.519 --> 00:44:38.239
Thank you for being honest.

00:44:39.199 --> 00:44:39.599
Hell no.

00:44:39.760 --> 00:44:40.320
No, I can't.

00:44:40.480 --> 00:44:42.000
No, like even her family didn't.

00:44:42.159 --> 00:44:47.039
Um, yeah, her uh her family still talks to me every once in a while, and they still just like dude, I can't believe it.

00:44:47.119 --> 00:44:48.639
I I still talk to her little brother all the time.

00:44:48.719 --> 00:44:49.440
We spoke the other day.

00:44:49.679 --> 00:44:51.440
Is she remarried or no idea?

00:44:51.599 --> 00:44:53.039
No, no, you don't keep in contact.

00:44:53.280 --> 00:44:55.599
I'm not the type of person that wants to like eavesdrop or no.

00:44:56.079 --> 00:45:01.440
What's funny, I love my sister, uh, but my sister is one of those that loves like like gossip, gossip and no.

00:45:01.599 --> 00:45:03.360
And like she always tried to tell me, she's like, oh my gosh.

00:45:03.519 --> 00:45:04.320
I'm like, don't tell me.

00:45:04.400 --> 00:45:05.519
She's like, but you don't want to know.

00:45:05.599 --> 00:45:06.880
I'm like, I don't want to know about her.

00:45:06.960 --> 00:45:08.000
I'm like, I don't care.

00:45:08.159 --> 00:45:11.440
Don't tell me because that's only just gonna put negative thoughts in your head.

00:45:11.599 --> 00:45:13.280
Right now, I'm in such a positive mindset.

00:45:13.360 --> 00:45:14.480
I'm like, I just want to enjoy life.

00:45:14.800 --> 00:45:17.360
Why do I gotta think about someone else that clearly didn't want to be with me?

00:45:17.519 --> 00:45:18.400
Let them enjoy their life.

00:45:18.559 --> 00:45:18.800
True.

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Now we're gonna discuss, we've discussed this off camera, but we have to discuss it on camera.

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That dating app that that guy created, the guy in North Carolina, Aaron Smith, was so tired of so many competing with so many men on the apps, he created an app where it's only him, but all the profiles of are of him in a different light or a different personality or character.

00:45:39.440 --> 00:45:40.239
You've seen that, right?

00:45:40.719 --> 00:45:41.280
That's pretty cool.

00:45:41.519 --> 00:45:46.079
So everyone that matches with him matches everyone that matches with the guy, it's all him.

00:45:46.400 --> 00:45:48.960
I wonder did anything come out?

00:45:49.039 --> 00:45:50.480
Like, did he have success?

00:45:50.960 --> 00:45:52.480
Did he meet someone?

00:45:53.039 --> 00:45:54.000
I don't think he did.

00:45:54.079 --> 00:45:59.679
No, it just says um he wanted to eliminate all competition by making himself the sole male option.

00:45:59.840 --> 00:46:05.280
It works by showing women different versions of his profile, ensuring that every swipe leads back to him.

00:46:05.440 --> 00:46:12.320
Many were amused by the concept of a dating app centered entirely around one person, while others saw it as a critique of modern dating culture.

00:46:12.559 --> 00:46:18.559
He himself admitted the project was partly a joke, but was also a creative way to stand out in the crowded world of online dating.

00:46:18.719 --> 00:46:21.519
Because we read that only 10% of men actually get the dates.

00:46:21.840 --> 00:46:24.159
Like 90% of these men aren't getting any dates.

00:46:24.400 --> 00:46:25.440
It's like the top.

00:46:25.760 --> 00:46:26.880
Yeah, it's only a few percent.

00:46:27.039 --> 00:46:33.679
It's like uh uh with the dating apps, like uh there was a point to where during COVID, I was one of those people that blew up during COVID.

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Like I had an insane amount of likes, you know, like just so many people that wanted to talk to me, and I was like, this has never happened.

00:46:39.920 --> 00:46:43.920
Like I'm talking like three, four hundred plus people, and I was like, this is weird.

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And then after that, then it's like now it's back to nothing.

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And I'm like, okay, these are dumb.

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Gotta be frustrating.

00:46:49.360 --> 00:46:49.519
Yeah.

00:46:49.920 --> 00:46:51.440
So now it's time for the celebrity cup.

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Will we marinate in the juices of the celebrities?

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Did you hear about that?

00:46:54.079 --> 00:47:00.800
Matt Khalil, the former Vikings player, the football player, and he was married to uh Haley Khalil.

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She's an influencer model, and he's suing her.

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They got divorced.

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He left football and wanted a quiet life, wanted to be private, got remarried, had a kid out of the limelight, quit football.

00:47:12.639 --> 00:47:14.639
She's still a model influencer, went on a podcast.

00:47:14.719 --> 00:47:15.920
I'm sure you heard about this.

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On the podcast, she talks about how they divorced because the sex was so bad because of his penis size, and it's not what you think.

00:47:23.280 --> 00:47:24.000
It was too big.

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She was like, it's the size of three Coke cans.

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So she's saying that's the reason they got divorced, three Coke cans, the clip went viral.

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So he is suing now for invasion of privacy and unjust enrichment because she's making all this money off of this clip.

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And he's like, There's a reason I escaped the public eye, and now she's bringing me back into it and making money from it.

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How do you guys feel about that?

00:47:47.280 --> 00:47:49.519
I think she has the right, he has a right to sue.

00:47:49.840 --> 00:47:55.199
So that is tough because I want to say, yes, the reason why is just because, so let's reverse it.

00:47:55.280 --> 00:47:57.920
Let's say that you know she was saying that he had a micro penis.

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Of course, then it's like, dude, like you're putting my info out there.

00:48:01.039 --> 00:48:05.440
Of course, her saying the opposite, saying that's too big, of course, like you would think that's more prideful.

00:48:05.760 --> 00:48:13.199
But uh, for for some people, it's like, yo, like that, it it's it's bad if it's too big because then you're hurting, you know, your partner.

00:48:13.440 --> 00:48:14.239
That's what I'm saying.

00:48:14.400 --> 00:48:18.320
I don't think he should be able to sue her because that's her experience.

00:48:18.480 --> 00:48:19.280
She lived it.

00:48:19.440 --> 00:48:22.000
All she's doing is telling her story.

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Yeah.

00:48:22.639 --> 00:48:27.599
And she's not bashing him, she's not like insulting him.

00:48:27.679 --> 00:48:30.960
She's just literally telling her story.

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And that's what she's come back with is I wasn't trashing him.

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I speak very highly of him.

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And we are public figures.

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We people want to hear from us.

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We're of public concern.

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So I have a right on my platform to talk about my previous experiences.

00:48:45.840 --> 00:48:48.000
That's what she's the one that had to take that dick.

00:48:48.159 --> 00:48:51.360
Like, like she should be able to talk about it.

00:48:51.519 --> 00:48:52.480
You know what I mean?

00:48:52.639 --> 00:48:56.159
Like, he wasn't just like out there doing it alone.

00:48:56.559 --> 00:48:57.119
Yeah, I know, right?

00:48:57.679 --> 00:48:58.320
Who's gonna win though?

00:48:58.400 --> 00:49:00.320
That's and freedom of speech.

00:49:00.480 --> 00:49:02.719
Um, I mean, is it an invasion of privacy?

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She's just talking about how how many of us get on here and talk about our experiences, you know?

00:49:07.360 --> 00:49:08.480
Yeah, yeah.

00:49:08.880 --> 00:49:12.880
It's a little bit of an invasion of privacy, just because it's so personal.

00:49:13.199 --> 00:49:17.280
Because because like obviously his first and last name are out there.

00:49:17.519 --> 00:49:26.159
Like, there's no way, at least here when we're talking about experiences, and like I just for me, anyways, like I never say a name.

00:49:26.800 --> 00:49:28.000
Whereas it's mostly the name.

00:49:28.400 --> 00:49:30.239
No one knows us, no one's gonna show our name.

00:49:30.559 --> 00:49:30.880
Exactly.

00:49:31.039 --> 00:49:37.519
Whereas like with her, his first and last name are known, and so it is a little bit of an invasion of practice.

00:49:37.760 --> 00:49:41.519
And he has kids, and I can imagine at school the kids are just making fun.

00:49:42.719 --> 00:49:43.760
Yeah, yeah.

00:49:44.159 --> 00:49:45.440
Oh man, that's it's so tough.

00:49:45.760 --> 00:49:46.159
I don't know.

00:49:46.239 --> 00:49:54.079
That's it's so tough because like as a guy, if if people are hearing like, you know, how big you are, you know, people like all the other dudes want to high five you, like, hell yeah.

00:49:54.639 --> 00:50:01.440
But I like I understand, you know, when you're when you're a certain size, you know, it's just like it can be a little difficult sometimes, you know.

00:50:01.760 --> 00:50:03.360
So where do you take someone on a first date?

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Where's your go-to first date spot?

00:50:06.480 --> 00:50:07.840
I always like to switch it up.

00:50:07.920 --> 00:50:11.519
Um, just because uh me, so I'm I'm very spontaneous, I always like do something different.

00:50:11.760 --> 00:50:13.679
I don't like the standard dates, so it depends.

00:50:13.840 --> 00:50:18.239
Sometimes, depending on the vibe, I might if like trying to think.

00:50:19.360 --> 00:50:20.639
Yeah, it really depends on the vibe.

00:50:20.719 --> 00:50:26.800
Because there'll be times where I'm just like, yeah, because there'll be times where it's like, huh, like I feel like I didn't get to like know you too well yet.

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So I want to actually know you.

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So I'm gonna take you somewhere to where I can sit you down and actually talk with you.

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Because a lot of people, you know, that just go on dates, like, okay, do they actually want to go on dating me or do they just want a free time, you know?

00:50:37.679 --> 00:50:42.079
So it's like, hey, like, I need to see how you react, like when I actually talk with you.

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But it depends, because me, I'm a very, like I said, spontaneous person.

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Sometimes I'll either want to take someone, I'll be like, hey, let's go do bowling, let's go do laser tag, go karting, you know, something different.

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Because like I said, I like to be active.

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So there are times where I'm like, I don't want to just sit at a damn coffee shop and talk to you.

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Like, let me see your fun side.

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And then from there, like, depending on whether you want to like take it further, cool.

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But if not, at least I just had some fun.

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I had someone with me.

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So it just kind of depends on the mood, I would say.

00:51:08.000 --> 00:51:11.440
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Rapid fire questions.

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What's your favorite body part on a girl?

00:51:14.960 --> 00:51:15.599
Body part?

00:51:15.679 --> 00:51:15.920
Mm-hmm.

00:51:16.079 --> 00:51:16.960
Oh man, that's tough.

00:51:17.039 --> 00:51:18.159
Of course, the butt, I would say.

00:51:18.880 --> 00:51:21.199
Craziest thing you've done to impress a girl.

00:51:21.920 --> 00:51:24.639
Craziest thing I've done to impress a girl.

00:51:25.119 --> 00:51:27.599
Man, I I wouldn't really say too much.

00:51:27.679 --> 00:51:30.719
I never really was trying to like stick myself out in the crowd like that.

00:51:30.880 --> 00:51:32.639
Uh screw his hair out.

00:51:32.800 --> 00:51:33.199
Yeah.

00:51:33.840 --> 00:51:36.559
I would I would probably say, yeah, I guess grow the hair out.

00:51:36.639 --> 00:51:36.800
Yeah.

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What should someone not do on a first date?

00:51:41.519 --> 00:51:42.960
Don't be a dick.

00:51:43.920 --> 00:51:46.400
When should someone not take a girl on a first date?

00:51:47.199 --> 00:51:50.559
Strip club, is watching porn considered cheating?

00:51:50.880 --> 00:51:54.159
Uh no, as long as you uh have that mutual understanding with your partner.

00:51:54.480 --> 00:51:58.079
Before you're intimate, is it appropriate to ask your date how many people they've been with?

00:51:58.480 --> 00:52:01.199
Uh I mean, you can ask that question if you want to.

00:52:01.360 --> 00:52:03.280
I don't care because I'm just like, I don't want to know about your past.

00:52:03.360 --> 00:52:04.639
I'm like, I just want to know about your present.

00:52:04.960 --> 00:52:07.039
Is it acceptable to have sex on the first date?

00:52:08.800 --> 00:52:09.840
Yes and no to that.

00:52:09.920 --> 00:52:10.480
So it depends.

00:52:10.559 --> 00:52:15.199
If it's someone to where like I've really, like, I'm like, oh man, I'm really liking you, it better not be that easy.

00:52:15.440 --> 00:52:21.119
Like, if it's something to where I'm like, man, I'm really liking you, don't let me sleep with you right away.

00:52:21.199 --> 00:52:22.559
Like, at least give it a few dates.

00:52:22.639 --> 00:52:26.159
Because if it's the first night, it's like, okay, you you just you got rid of like the spark.

00:52:26.239 --> 00:52:34.320
Like, I like I want to like not say work for it, but it's just like I want to really get to know you and know that you have like some some structure to yourself.

00:52:34.400 --> 00:52:37.519
Like, hey, I'm not just gonna give it up to you because then you can just give it up to anyone else.

00:52:37.760 --> 00:52:37.920
Yeah.

00:52:38.400 --> 00:52:41.280
Should you disclose mental health issues early on in a relationship?

00:52:41.760 --> 00:52:43.119
Early on in a relationship, yeah.

00:52:43.280 --> 00:52:58.480
Yeah, I would definitely say, you know, because it kind of like uh I mean, of course, not just like I would say like first date right away, but you know, within like at least the first few months of us actually dating, like, hey, talk to me, tell me what you're going through and stuff, because then that'll decide of whether we're gonna actually continue this, you know.

00:52:58.880 --> 00:53:02.000
And last but not least, what is your favorite sexual position and why?

00:53:02.159 --> 00:53:02.719
Hmm.

00:53:03.920 --> 00:53:04.719
Mm-hmm.

00:53:05.039 --> 00:53:06.320
Man, that's tough.

00:53:07.280 --> 00:53:08.000
So many to choose from.

00:53:08.239 --> 00:53:11.519
I was gonna say, yeah, I so I'm I'm a I'm a very open person.

00:53:11.599 --> 00:53:12.239
I love everything.

00:53:12.320 --> 00:53:13.599
Like, I just I love to have fun.

00:53:13.679 --> 00:53:16.960
Like when you said the dungeon and stuff, I'm like, hell yeah, let's do it.

00:53:17.199 --> 00:53:21.760
So uh man, I'm just gonna have to say, like, uh, I I like being on top.

00:53:21.840 --> 00:53:25.599
You know, I like uh there's my moments where I like to be the dominant one.

00:53:25.920 --> 00:53:29.360
Thank you so much for joining us this week at the meat market, and thank you so much, Andreas.

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00:53:46.320 --> 00:53:49.280
Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

00:53:49.360 --> 00:53:51.440
He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

00:53:51.679 --> 00:53:56.400
So I found out the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

00:53:56.639 --> 00:53:59.119
His wife just reached out to me.