Swiped, Graded, Packaged: Dating Like It’s a Costco Meat Aisle 🛒

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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the meat market.

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This single scene is a slaughterhouse and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess and today's sizzling single is Michelle.

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Welcome.

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We have a teacher in the house, a high school teacher to boot.

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I have mad respect for you.

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Thank you for what you do.

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I know students nowadays are out of control, especially high school, especially high school.

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Have you had any students or parents exhibit any inappropriate behaviors?

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I think the thing for me is I've been doing it for so long.

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I just wrapped up my 21st year teaching and so I kind of know what could come.

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So I haven't really had any unhinged behaviors in, you know, with my parents or my students.

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But You've never had anyone hit on you because you're very beautiful oh, thank you.

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Uh, I've had like the students will joke around, or?

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like they probably say, you're like the hot teacher.

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You'll hear like rumors like everybody wants to be you.

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I'm like, okay, like you guys don't know behind the curtain what my life is really like.

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You know you want to live in an apartment with cats.

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Okay, right, you're like, if you knew what the salary was.

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Like you.

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You want to live in an apartment with cats.

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Okay, right, you're like if you knew what the salary was, like you would not want to be.

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You know this was people's goals in life to be just like me.

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But you know, like they love the clothes and I'm really honest with them they think they just love.

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They love Miss Michelle, but that's not what they call me.

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I just don't want to give away the last name, you know, right I just don't want to give away the last name, you know.

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So you had said that you have no problem making the first move and going up to a complete stranger and say, hey, you're really handsome.

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Yeah, has that worked out for you in the past?

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Have you scored a date?

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I actually have scored a date from it.

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So I think it has to be in a situation where you can kind of try to talk, start a conversation about something.

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So I've done it at the gym.

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I've tried to pick up on somebody at a park who was fishing.

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I went over and asked him like what kind of fish are you catching?

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And it's catch and release right.

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But a lot of the guys don't take it as me hitting on them.

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So that's kind of I.

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It's hard to get that next claw in.

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I would say, Um, it did work out for me at the gym one time.

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Um, luckily I had a bench that was stuck and the pin wouldn't pull out.

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So I was kind of thinking this one guy was cute and I go to a gym where there's not a ton of people in the gym at once.

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So, like you can kind of like shoot your shot and not be too embarrassed.

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So I asked this guy like hey, can you, you know, unstick this for me?

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And he was like oh, wow, like this was really stuck in there and I was facing him on like a back machine and he was releasing the the weights really heavily so it was kind of causing my side to bump kind of like a seesaw, and I was like whoa, like you're really causing me to kind of have you know.

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Motion of the ocean over here and he like anyway.

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So it kind of led where we were just kind of talking back and forth a little bit in the gym and he was asking me if I knew a good spot for, like, shrimp cocktail and I was like, oh, my friends always say this one place is really great, and um, so we exchanged numbers and we went.

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We ended up going on a date.

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It wasn't anything spectacular.

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One date wonder but you know at least you like, pat yourself on the back Like I don't care if I get rejected, I'm going to shoot my shot, and if it doesn't work out, then you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

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I love that quote.

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I have a friend who her son is 18 and he's always like asking his mom and his mom is a single mom and she's always talking about girls.

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He's just like at that age where he's obsessed with girls and so we try to tell him to wear something that's a conversation starter, because if you wear something that's a conversation starter, you have something that's a conversation starter.

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It gives girls a reason to say, oh my gosh, hey, I love your, whatever it is.

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I love that hat.

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Or I love those shoes, like those you my favorite glasses that I have that have the chain remember I wore them.

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I wore them to the pool party and I think too, it depends, like because a guy will always, every time I wear these glasses they're like my favorite glasses, but every time I wear them I will get hit on, whether you want to call it hitting on or whatever you want to call it, but it's, they're a conversation starter.

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And so if I'm not interested in the guy, they almost always say oh my god, you want to trade glasses.

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That's almost always their line.

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And so if I'm not interested in the guy, they almost always say oh my God, you want to trade glasses.

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That's almost always their line.

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And so if I'm not interested in the guy, I'm always like no, these are my favorite, I don't want to lose them.

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But if he's kind of cute, like remember the guy from the when we were at that concert I was like oh my God, sure you know what I mean, I'll show you mine.

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if you show me yours, I'm going to need you to send me the link for these puppies.

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Yeah, I need a pair Magic glasses.

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They took me a long time to find, but it's like a hat, or something you know.

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What I find, though, is I don't get approached.

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Guys don't approach me yeah, it's changing.

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The dynamic is changing and I think guys now want the women to make the first move.

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So that's great that you have the confidence to do that, because what do you have to lose, really?

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What do you have to lose?

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You get rejected every day online.

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I mean, who care?

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You throw out the like, the guy doesn't like you, and I think it just over time with online dating or dating in general, you start to become callous, like I know who I am, I know that I'm a cute girl, I know that I've got my life together.

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So if somebody doesn't want, doesn't want to be a part of that, then like okay, you're, like I'm good with that because I really like my single life and I'm okay living that till the end of time, but that's not necessarily what I pictured for myself.

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Like I would really love to be in a relationship, but, um, if it doesn't work out, I I still have a great life yeah, so you had said that you want someone who's very manly, who's the head of the household, and that's hard to find nowadays, isn't it?

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someone that takes charge and makes the decisions and well, you know, it's kind of funny because I mean, I'm 42 and I have, you know, a car that I drive and I have a 21 year career, and I don't expect that everybody has a 21 year career.

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But I think at this age you should have your feet on the ground and like roots dug in, and I find it so interesting that people are still trying to figure it out in their forties and I.

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That's not something that I'm attracted to, because I don't want to be pulling somebody along in life.

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I'm looking for somebody who has the health routine down.

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They go to the gym, they eat healthy most of the time.

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Now, don't get me wrong, I love a drink or a meal out in a restaurant, but just someone who takes really good care of themselves and doesn't have, like, the stress of trying to find a job or finishing an education like that, that would not be a match for me it's amazing to me how many adults, grown adults, have roommates too, like in their late 30s and 40s to have roommates.

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It is so expensive to buy a property nowadays, right?

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So yeah, I guess, yeah, I feel like unless you bought, you know, 10 years ago.

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I don't know yeah maybe no.

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I still.

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I don't know, I can't, I can't, I know I'm just playing devil's advocate, it's funny.

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I actually went on a date with a guy whose roommate was his brother.

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This was a few weeks ago and we had a great first date.

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I didn't know about the brother on the first date and then the second date he told me that his brother lives with him and outside of that bomb drop which I actually don't care, because I know that he was explaining that the brother was looking for a job and he was eventually going to move out but the check engine light came on as he was driving me to our date and I was like oh my gosh, your check engine light is on, like hello, like did you notice this?

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And I hate to be the one to point it out, but it's like hello, like it's my safety here, like do we need to like switch cars?

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And he was so sweet to like pick me up for the date.

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But I think something happened where it's like the check engine light went on and you felt some kind of shame about your brother living with you because he was saying like I probably need to go to therapy about this, because like he should live with like my mom, not me, and like we didn't speak again after that date and I can't think of anything else that went awry.

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He probably knew you were out of his league, like that.

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He wasn't good enough for you, but he had a good thing going.

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I mean mean he was an attorney and like so I don't really know.

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I think they just they get on something that they feel shame about and then it like sends them down the well.

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It's like we all have stuff like from our past relationships, from our family.

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So it's like if you can't be open and vulnerable about vulnerable about it, like I was still accepting of him, I didn't say anything weird.

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I mean I don't know, did my breast stink?

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Like I don't, I don't know.

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I couldn't pick out a reason why we didn't talk again so, speaking of stinky breath, didn't you go on a date with a guy that smelled really bad?

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I've actually been on a few dates with guys that smell really bad.

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Yeah, what like bio okay, a long time ago.

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I can't even tell you what year I.

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It was the summer, so I guess I'll give him a little bit of a pass on this, but not really.

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Uh, we met up at four peaks in Tempe and I swear it's like swamp cooler, cooled in there Like I don't know that they have air conditioning.

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And I met with this guy on a date and I swear to God I could smell his asshole or his balls, like I mean sitting at the table, like he was across from me and I just you know you hope that it's the person walking by, like you don't want to smell that, but like you hope it's not the person that you're with.

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Um, so we didn't go on a second date for obvious reasons, but I actually went on a second date with someone fairly recently.

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Um, we had a great first date.

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We met at the VIG and had dinner and then U of A was playing in the basketball playoffs and we were supposed to meet up afterward.

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And he's like I'm going to be at my friends all day.

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I'm like, great, I'll be with my friends watching the game.

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No problem, let's just communicate after the U of A game, cause he was a U of A guy, I'm a U of A girl Like it's great, we're both watching, we'll talk afterward.

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So I call him afterward and he's like, oh yeah, I just got home.

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I'm like, okay, and so we were gonna meet at Trevor's up in Paradise Valley.

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He's like, well, I'm gonna walk.

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I'm like, okay, well, I'll meet you there.

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And I'm thinking like he's right around the corner, whatever.

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So I get to Trevor's first somehow and I have like a 15 minute drive to get there and I'm like where the hell is he?

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And so in he walks and he's kind of like a little like um loosey-goosey.

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And I noticed that I'm like is this guy drunk from like the day?

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Because he said he was like taking tequila shots with his friends and in hindsight we probably shouldn't have met that day, but I could smell like sweat on him and I was again hoping, hoping, like is, is it somebody else that I'm not with right now and it so Trevor's didn't have space for us.

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So he was like well, let's try Blanco and the new PV mall area.

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Like you kind of have to walk around a bunch of construction.

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So I'm like okay, like I kind of want to expedite this date because I'm pretty sure it's him that smells.

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I think he's half drunk, like I got to get the hell out of here.

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So I'm like get in my car, cause like certainly we're not going to walk and we're going to go drive to see Blanco.

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So immediately we get in my car and he rolls the window down and I'm like it like it is him and it was again like he knew.

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It too, he knew he stunk you because why would you roll the window?

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down.

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That's mortifying.

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Why would you show up to a date?

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You're drunk and you stunk like I was not into it, so instantly.

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Like I get the.

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I can't go on at that point, like I'm done with you.

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So he, we, I drop him off at Blanco.

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He runs in in to check and see there's, of course, no room because we didn't have a reservation anymore or anywhere.

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So all that's left in the parking lot is Whole Foods and Flower Child and I'm like perfect, like we're going to get expedited here.

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Get in and get out.

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We're going to get a cold-pressed juice from Whole Foods and we are out of here.

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I'm on the road.

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So we ended up going to flower child.

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I could start to see that he was actually pretty inebriated because he went to go get water and the cup was full and he's it's just overflowing sloshing on the way back to the table and I'm like, oh my God, like get me the hell out of here.

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I'm so turned off by him and I I just it's really hard for me to go on if I'm already like not feeling it, because I'm just an I think I'm an authentic person.

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So if I'm not into you, it's gonna kind of shows out of me um.

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Did he apologize?

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After was he mortified?

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I bet he was.

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He actually did apologize that night and he said I'm sorry, I should have planned better.

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But he didn't say I'm sorry, I was fucked up, I'm sorry that I stunk yeah that I, that my butthole stink sorry, I didn't wash my butthole it's hard like you should not be smelling each other's stenches until you're like three months in, so you're naked in each other's crotches.

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Why are you outside all day and don't know to go home and take a shower?

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But, also to not walk a mile to a date I know.

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I wonder if he even remembers the date.

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Sounds like he was like really far gone.

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Well, if not great, Look like we can just pretend it didn't happen.

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I'm fine, erasing it from my memory.

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But yeah he apologized, but just not.

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I don't think he was in tune with why.

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I would never want to talk to him again and I don't think I responded to that text.

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We're done here.

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Didn't you go on another date and some guy was diabetic?

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Tell us about that one.

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This is a very short story, but a guy met me for dinner one night and he took out an alcohol swab and I swear it was like kind of like in the COVID times and I was like alcohol swab, like I've got hand sanitizer, Like would you like to use some?

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Because I thought it was like very strange to just be carrying alcohol swabs around in like a little tiny packet.

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And so he's like, oh no, I'm good.

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And he like lifts up his shirt at the dinner table and starts injecting himself with insulin.

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And I'm like whoa sorry, like whoops, like I didn't know, but it's like couldn't you go to the bathroom to do that?

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Or do it before, or at least give you a heads up In the car.

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Yeah, exactly, at least give you a heads up In the car.

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Yeah exactly, you didn't need to like bring all the supplies into the restaurant with you.

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Maybe he liked the you know the reaction Maybe he liked the attention.

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Well, I'm not into that.

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So like I don't want to take care of somebody, so like I just I mean, and also with type 1 diabetes.

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Like you learn how to manage that as a child.

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It is a you know, it's something that is juvenile, like you have it from the time you are a small child and so if you're not managing it well into adulthood, it's like what else are you not managing in your life?

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I'm not going to take a medication and nasal spray anything in front of a first date Like I would pre-plan and take that at home and then go on the date.

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Oh my God, I had this neighbor once and we were.

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He was a type one diabetic and he would.

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He would like crash hard and then chug orange juice Like he.

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He was not very responsible with his, with his diagnosis.

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And I remember once we were during no, and during COVID we were up, um, and during COVID we were up because we couldn't vacation easily.

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You couldn't vacation easily.

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So we were up in Torreon it's like a golf course in Pinetop Sholo area, and my parents were in town and so there was like four, six, four, six of us that were staying up on the golf course and the guys were golfing and the girls were just like cooking and hanging out or whatever.

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And I remember it was the first time my mom had met my neighbors and he's, you know, checking his numbers, and my mom's a nurse, and so she was like over my she's like do we need to be concerned about him?

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And I was like mom, no, he's fine, he is an adult, he is in his forties.

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Like, if he can't figure out his own blood sugar situation, like like he's fine, just leave him be.

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So it's just like like he's fine, just leave him be.

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So it's just like there's a lot of, there's a lot of guys out there who just it's they just zero fucks given like.

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I think that's kind of like why I zero relationships given to me because I don't put up with.

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If you don't know yourself by now, I'm not down with it.

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So what are you looking for?

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Are you looking to get married and have kids?

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You've never been married, right?

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never been married, never been engaged.

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I talked about down with it.

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So what are you looking for?

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Are you looking to get married and have kids?

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You've never been married, right, never been married, never been engaged.

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I talked about it with my college boyfriend because you're young and stupid and you think you're going to get married to that person.

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Never wanted to bear my own children and now I'm 42.

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So that like has complete, like it's completely gone out the window.

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Even if I met somebody, you.

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It's completely gone out the window, even if I met somebody who wanted children.

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You're way geriatric now.

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Yeah, I'm super geriatric, but I would love if a man had children already.

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Of course, not a messy ex situation, an amicable split and a loving situation with a mom, with the kid's mom.

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I'm all about getting along with a mom.

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That doesn't bother me.

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I'm not going to be jealous or whatever.

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Have you?

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ever dated a guy with kids?

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Yeah, yeah, have you ever had messy baby mama situations?

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I'll tell you the messiest one.

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Uh, this was maybe six or seven months ago.

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I met this guy.

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We really hit it off.

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We had like three dates in a week.

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It was just one of those situations where you just like, wow, it's been a really long time since I've really liked somebody and I've enjoyed them.

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He was like a sweetheart and he told me off the bat that he was living with his ex-wife and they were essentially separated and they were going to be moving out from their house like in the summer this summer.

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Okay Well, so they take times with the kids.

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I'm sure you guys have heard this where one parent spends the nights in an apartment and the they take times with the kids.

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I'm sure you guys have heard this where one parent spends the nights in an apartment and the other is home with the kids.

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So, like it kind of sounded initially like they were not really ever home at the same time with the kids Like.

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the kids don't ever leave the house.

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The kids get to stay in the house full time and the parents swap.

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I like that idea.

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I like that idea.

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Yes.

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Modern.

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I don't know what it's called.

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There's something, yeah.

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Okay, fine.

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So then I am in the dentist chair and I get this text from him that says, oh, I just met, or one of my good friends just confessed she has feelings for me.

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So I'm going to like go down that road and see how this goes and I was like, oh well, I thought we had kind of a connection here going on first, and he was like, yeah, but wow so like you know what, though I realized like who wants to be part of that messy shit anyway, yeah with the ex living with you.

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I feel you dodged a bullet dodged a big time.

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I think I dodge a lot of bullets, smelly ones, smelly little bullets yeah, so why did your last relationship not work out?

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um, I think so.

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This was back in 2022.

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We were together for about 10 months.

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Uh, he had some unresolved issues where his ex, who he was married to for a year or a year 10 years told him she was a lesbian, and so I think this was probably maybe a year or two after they had gotten divorced that he and I started seeing each other, and I just think he never healed from that and never um did the work to get over that, because I'm sure, as a man, that could really mess with your ego that like this girl would rather be with another woman than you.

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And the weird part is he was great in the bedroom, best of my life and you know, I think it just like kind of kind of got him.

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That's so crazy.

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Have you ever had that a guy that you've been with, and then he, you break up and then he comes out as gay?

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oh yeah, well, and you know what?

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he could actually be gay, like that would be crazy.

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That would be a mind fuck, wouldn't it?

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I don't know.

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I have dated a guy you and love.

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He did seem a little feminine and we weren't serious, but he seemed like a really nice guy.

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So I gave it a shot and then, you know, we ended things.

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But then, like a few months later, I found out that he was gay.

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Yeah, I'm like okay, that makes sense.

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The first guy I ever kissed was gay and I was like, did I turn him?

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like as a sophomore in high school, was it?

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Because of me one of my gay best friends is his partner was married to a woman and has children with a woman.

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Like it's just so crazy because his partner is very obviously gay and so then it's like, how many years did he spend suppressing his feelings, like his true feelings to be with a woman?

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I would hate that.

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I would hate to be with someone for years and then have them be like oh yeah, no, by the way, it's over and I'm gay.

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I think there's also marriages where there's an understanding.

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Oh for sure that they want to have kids and then each?

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is that the lavender marriage that they each step out with their same sex partner?

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Yeah, or like in the hometown where I grew up in, with their same sex partner yeah, or like in the hometown where I grew up in.

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There's this I won't say their names because this town is like super, super small but there's these friends who have lived together as friends, these two women that have lived together as friends for since I was a little girl.

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Like they've lived together as friends for 40 years and they're just friends, but it's like Do they drive a Subaru?

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My mom drives a.

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Subaru.

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What are your hobbies?

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What are you doing your free time?

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uh, I mean, I have a ton of friends so I like my, I work with my best friends.

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My best friends are my co-workers.

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Um, I love to go get happy hour or I love to go to the gym or go on walks Um, pretty much anything that's a healthy hobby, is something that I'm, that I'm into.

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Um, I used to be a part of a?

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U of A alumni chapter but it kind of dissolved so I'm not really a part of that anymore.

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Um, but that was kind of the heyday, you know.

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Are you ready for it?

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I'm ready, really a part of that anymore, but that was kind of the heyday, you know.

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Are you ready for it?

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I'm ready for it.

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So this week's question comes to us from Aaron.

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He says we've been dating long distance for over a year and lately the calls feel more like a routine than a connection.

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How do we bring the spark back when we're miles apart?

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That's funny.

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So my husband was in a long term relationship with an attorney in California and that was his issue was it was very routine, I knew when she was going to call, I knew when we were going to talk.

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You know it was too routine and expected.

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So he broke up with her because he was like it was just boring, it wasn't exciting.

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I feel like you need to.

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I don't know sexting.

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Maybe you know naked FaceTimes spice it up.

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Little Aiden and Carrie on Just Like that.

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Yeah, maybe spontaneous trips like surprise each other.

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Yeah, maybe spontaneous trips like surprise each other, yeah, I like long distance relationships.

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I don't like surprises, though I wouldn't like to be surprised, I don't think, do you think you could trust somebody long distance?

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Oh yeah, I've some of my.

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Like one of my the relationship I was in while I was in PT school.

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It was probably the best, the most healthy relationship I've ever been in, and it was long distance for most of it.

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You most healthy relationship I've ever been in, and it was long distance for most of it.

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You have to trust.

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It won't work if you don't have the trust.

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Have you ever had long distance?

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I did.

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I dated somebody in San Diego one time and no, he ended up with his best friend in the middle of all that wow.

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So yeah, I think you have to have similar communication styles also to be, like it's, successful in a long distance relationship.

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I feel like you can tell if you're smart.

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Like I dated long distance and he was always like oh you know, I'm out tonight and my phone's about today, so I'm not going to be able to contact you until tomorrow or things like that.

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Yeah, they're always unavailable always unavailable?

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yeah, I think I would feel like I always have to have something really interesting to say about my day, because otherwise it would just be like how's your day?

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Oh, it's good, uneventful, how was yours?

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Oh good and then it's like what else?

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right, good morning.

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You know what I dated this?

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guy for a while and we would do.

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We would watch movies together like we would.

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We would either facetime or be on a call and we would start the same movie at the same time as each other, and so it was like we were watching the movie together but we weren't together, and that was kind of cute.

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I think you can do cute things with FaceTime.

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I feel like you could FaceTime and cook dinner together and listen to music together with FaceTime, you can do a lot.

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You can right and on the iPhone.

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Now you can share music like from Apple Music in the background.

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Oh that's great, you are both listening to the same music, so you can put on the song.

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Or if you're like, oh my gosh, I really like this new song, you can put it on and then listen to it together or whatever.

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You're so much tech Good for you.

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So let's discuss ways to meet people in the summer, because you're a teacher and you have the whole summer's off the whole summer.

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So how do you meet people in the summer?

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I mean, do you?

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do summer flings.

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I.

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You know what's funny.

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I kind of had the opportunity that presented itself yesterday.

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There was a really cute guy on hinge that I saw.

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I liked him.

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There was a note that popped up which is like this new thing on hinge that like saw.

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I liked him.

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There was a note that popped up which is like this new thing on hinge that like tells you something before you start the conversation and then you get to decide whether you want to keep going or not.

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So I was he.

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It said I'm moving to X place in July, and I was kind of like, well, he's so cute, like I'm just going to say yes, let's, let's start chatting it up, cause I also want to see, like is there, if this was so great, could you consider staying?

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And so we started a conversation yesterday and you know, I think the innuendo would probably be that it would just be a hookup, because he said he would not be staying here.

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So I think we were actually supposed to meet after this and I texted him this morning and I said you know what, like there's probably no point in us meeting up because I'm not really a summer fling kind of girl and you know you're moving.

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So it's funny because we'd we hadn't exchanged that many messages back and forth.

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But when I sent that to him he said wow, thanks for wasting my time, did you?

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read that in the text message, or was it?

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Did it have like?

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it was like send Wow, thanks for wasting my time, and I'm like but I actually didn't waste your time, buddy, right, like I didn't meet up with you Because we didn't even meet.

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Yeah, and we barely like you're acting like we have spent hours on the like.

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So dramatic.

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Like you guys, watched movies together long distance.

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I thought this was kind of a red flag too.

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So we just started texting yesterday and we we were on hinge yesterday.

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Then he gave me, gave me his number, which I would have preferred that I would have given him my number.

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So there's another like manly thing that I would like for a guy to kind of initiate.

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Yeah.

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And then he we go back and forth like very little on text, and he sends me seven photos, some of them containing his daughter with him, some in the bathroom with a towel wrapped around his waist no dick pic, thank God.

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And he said oh, here's some photos.

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So you know I am not a catfish.

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He said oh, here's some photos, so you know I am not a catfish.

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I said well, I didn't think you were a catfish because like I could probably tell the difference, you know.

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And like I didn't want those photos.

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I didn't ask you for those photos and I'm not saving you as a contact.

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Like no one gets in this phone unless you're.

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We're in an established thing, like I'm not going to sit and type your name in.

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And he's like send me some pictures of you for a contact photo.

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And I'm like I didn't, I just ignored him.

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I'm like whatever, but we're talking like he didn't say it.

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I really wanted a summer fling at the beginning of this summer and then today I was looking at my schedule and I'm here like four days this summer, so I was like fuck me.

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I was like I want one, so bad, but I can't even have one, I don't know even have one, I don't know, it's, I guess I, I guess in a way I a fling would be nice, because then you don't have to like.

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You have no responsibility to that person, but then at the same time and it's fun like summer flings are fun to them.

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You can't.

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You just have to tell yourself you're not gonna get attached and that just works like live in the secret for me it does.

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I need to like you and I need to talk, so I only had one summer thing.

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It was when I was in high you and I need to talk.

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So I only had one summer fling.

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It was when I was in high school and I went to Denmark to stay with my friend and I was living in Japan at the time and we stayed at her summer house and I met this guy from Brazil His name was Sebastian, and we had a great time and I left and it's just when email came out and I was like what's your email?

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And I got him and was so excited to email him, thinking it was going to go somewhere.

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He did not respond.

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Oh no, never.

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Are you sure it didn't go to your spam?

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Never Did you check your spam.

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I think I checked, like every day I used to be a 90-day fiancé reuniting with him?

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Oh no, but I did meet a guy a few weeks ago and I was like, ooh, this guy's going to be my summer fling because he's so cute and he was young.

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And I was like, oh, I've never, you know, dated a younger guy before.

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But then I, as we became friends on social media, I was like, oh no, I was like I think I think I would start to actually like him, and so I was like I can't have a summer fling with somebody that I think I could actually like, like, like, that doesn't work for me, but wouldn't you still pursue it Because it could be something right I'm?

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only here, like four days this summer.

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It could be what it could be.

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Four days, yeah, but you could a full fling, I could turn into something I think, though, like I was not wanting to do that tonight, like I don't know if you're going to give me the ick in person or not, so like today would have just been like a drink, and then if I was feeling it, then maybe next time but like yeah, have you done a singles cruise?

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I've heard those are great ways to meet people.

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I figure like all those things like singles cruises or um what speed dating like.

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I just feel like it's like people are are not cute.

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And I went on a cruise once and it was fine.

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But I don't have really a desire to go on a cruise.

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I'm not a cruise person, but if you think about it, if you're, single and you go on a singles cruise, there's thousands, because so many people go on these cruise ships.

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There's thousands of singles there, it's like.

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But do you think?

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they're weirdos.

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Yes, oh, you can eat buffet or like those single adventure groups or whatever, but also if you're on a cruise, like they're probably not gonna live in phoenix, arizona, that is true and it's true.

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I wonder what the singles look like is the is the intention just to like sleep with a bunch of people.

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Yeah, like on a business ticket, like it is true, like, anyway yeah, all the professions like teacher is apparently the number one profession that cheats on each other.

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I just saw this on a tiktok really doctors nurses yeah teachers was number one, but I can see it they cheat?

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Do they cheat with other teachers or parents, the students?

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well, it could be I, oh god, let's hope not.

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I don't think so.

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I think that would be.

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That would be like that would be grounds for firing right.

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Teachers can't sleep with parents of students can they?

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how would they know?

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I've known some teachers who have dated parents.

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Yes, while the student is still in school.

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Yes, and I think even the girl was dating the guy during the kid being in her class that'd be kind of awkward if it didn't work out.

00:32:38.903 --> 00:32:41.573
Oh so awkward, yeah, I would never do that.

00:32:41.593 --> 00:32:44.103
Yeah, that's interesting, just for the record.

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I guess teachers don't have to take ethics courses like we do in the medical.

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Medical field we have conflict of interest, you know adults only hotels, I feel because I went to Texan Caicos with my sister a few years ago to an adult only um resort and she had a summer fling there yeah, I think.

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I think that would be a good place.

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I'm not really an all in.

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Most of those are all inclusive.

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Right, I'm not a big all inclusive, I'm not either fan, so I don't think it would be the place for me.

00:33:12.722 --> 00:33:23.641
But I just I just, when I'm on my summer travels, I just like to meet people who are also out wandering and exploring.

00:33:23.641 --> 00:33:32.609
I don't want to go somewhere with the intention of we're all single, so choose the best person.

00:33:32.609 --> 00:33:33.451
It's a fuck vest.

00:33:34.615 --> 00:33:38.509
Yeah, I don't like that that's weird to me all the time.

00:33:38.529 --> 00:33:38.811
Me too.

00:33:38.811 --> 00:33:39.253
I love it.

00:33:39.253 --> 00:33:47.040
And I actually met a really cute guy on a plane when I was going to Denver for a concert and unfortunately he was dating somebody.

00:33:47.040 --> 00:33:53.576
But I thought that we like kind of connected and I kind of shot my shot, like, hey, if this doesn't work out with this girl, like I'd love us for us to meet up.

00:33:53.576 --> 00:33:55.201
And he's like, hey, I really want to see where things go.

00:33:55.201 --> 00:33:56.324
No harm, no foul.

00:33:56.324 --> 00:34:04.395
But, like you know, shoot your shot.

00:34:04.415 --> 00:34:07.020
It was a great way to meet somebody leaving from Phoenix in the airplane and knowing that they actually lived in Phoenix.

00:34:07.020 --> 00:34:26.088
I always find, though, it's the awkward conversation, because a lot of times I'm not interested romantically, but the people that I meet are interested romantically, and so then it like, yeah, I'm, like, I'm vacation, I don't want to have to have this conversation with you.

00:34:26.088 --> 00:34:27.333
So there is a balance.

00:34:27.333 --> 00:34:36.130
I have to be in the right mindset to really be in the zone for like a vacation fling or a summer fling.

00:34:36.434 --> 00:34:38.903
So when I was in Turks and Caicos I almost had a summer fling.

00:34:38.903 --> 00:34:42.284
There was a guy there that I guess he was on the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.

00:34:42.284 --> 00:34:50.186
He dated one of the wives and he lived in the Turks and Caicos and I felt so honored and special that he was pursuing me.

00:34:50.186 --> 00:34:59.157
And then one of the hotel employees comes up to me and is like he's here every single night, like he's with a different guest every night, churning and burning and I'm like oh, that happened.

00:34:59.277 --> 00:35:00.418
Good for her to say it, though.

00:35:00.418 --> 00:35:01.380
Right, she was wanting me.

00:35:01.400 --> 00:35:11.161
I appreciated that, yes last summer I was in belize and as I was walking always when I get somewhere I'll like walk, like just to see what there is right.

00:35:11.161 --> 00:35:20.414
And so I was out for my first little walk in this local sort of flagged my attention and he was like I think there's a squirrel in that tree.

00:35:20.414 --> 00:35:23.358
Come here, come here, you know how they do, they have their little like tricks or whatever.

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And so, yeah, and so I was like, okay, cool, whatever.

00:35:29.143 --> 00:35:33.748
And so then we get to talking and he's you know, are you here alone?

00:35:33.748 --> 00:35:34.690
What are you doing?

00:35:34.690 --> 00:35:35.771
What are your plans?

00:35:35.771 --> 00:35:37.315
Let's hang out.

00:35:37.315 --> 00:35:41.528
And I said, oh well, you know, I have a friend that lives on the island and I'm going to meet up.

00:35:41.528 --> 00:35:48.398
I had a guy friend and a female friend that both lived on the island and I was like I have a couple of friends that live on the island.

00:35:48.398 --> 00:35:53.155
I said, you know, I'm going to meet up with with one of the guys a little later and he was like oh, oh.

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And then he literally like turned around and ran away.

00:35:56.199 --> 00:35:59.302
And so I was thinking, well, this is a that.

00:35:59.302 --> 00:36:02.425
That was a little strange, but didn't really think anything of it.

00:36:03.126 --> 00:36:19.925
And then so later that night I went out for dinner and, as I was walking, there was this bar restaurant that had karaoke and so I popped in there and I sat down at the bar and ordered my dinner and I was sitting next to this person who was from Kansas City and I'm from Iowa.

00:36:19.925 --> 00:36:23.702
So we started talking and just were chatting or whatever.

00:36:23.702 --> 00:36:37.688
And I look up across the bar and there's that guy that flagged me down on the street and he had this American woman that was just giggling on his arm and she had to be probably 30 or 40 years older than him.

00:36:37.688 --> 00:36:46.717
He was young, young and she was like giggling, gigglingiggling, and they were having drinks and he found his little local.

00:36:46.717 --> 00:36:51.114
So they do, they run those scams where they're at the same place every night.

00:36:51.114 --> 00:36:53.099
They're trying to pick up American women.

00:36:53.099 --> 00:36:54.722
It's just like it's crazy.

00:36:54.722 --> 00:36:56.306
Wow, yeah crazy.

00:36:56.507 --> 00:37:01.322
That would not be my thing yeah, no, not mine and I feel like being on vacation, you can get out of stuff easily.

00:37:01.322 --> 00:37:03.889
Oh, I got a tour at two o'clock Very easy.

00:37:05.179 --> 00:37:05.702
And it's funny.

00:37:05.702 --> 00:37:36.601
So me and this guy that I was talking to, we were laughing about it because I told him the whole story and we were sitting I mean, there was a bar in between us but we were sitting where you and I were sitting, where I kept looking at this guy, and he must have seen me walk in because he would not look up, he would not make eye contact with me and we were just sitting there laughing because we were talking and we were talking about him and he obviously probably could feel us looking at him, but he would not look up and look at me.

00:37:36.601 --> 00:37:37.764
It was funny.

00:37:38.516 --> 00:37:43.684
So now it's time for the juiciest segment of the show, where we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.

00:37:43.684 --> 00:37:46.003
So do you watch the Bachelor or the Bachelorette?

00:37:46.003 --> 00:37:47.641
I used to a long time ago.

00:37:47.835 --> 00:37:52.304
Do you know Caitlin Bristow and Jason Tartick and how they were dating and they had a messy breakup?

00:37:52.304 --> 00:37:54.981
So I feel bad for her.

00:37:54.981 --> 00:37:59.402
So they were together and she would always go on and on about how she had this dream baby name.

00:37:59.402 --> 00:38:00.184
I think it was Cody.

00:38:00.184 --> 00:38:05.237
She always wanted to name her kid Cody.

00:38:05.237 --> 00:38:08.347
They broke up, jason got a dog and called it guess what Cody her dream baby name.

00:38:08.347 --> 00:38:11.255
And so she is pissed she is not amused.

00:38:11.775 --> 00:38:13.139
You can't take the name, but that's a bad.

00:38:13.139 --> 00:38:15.005
I don't like that name, no offense what if?

00:38:15.166 --> 00:38:17.701
what if she never has a child, right?

00:38:17.701 --> 00:38:17.840
What?

00:38:17.900 --> 00:38:25.646
and maybe he really liked that name and she can still name the kid that right, like who cares if he has a dog with the same name yeah, I would.

00:38:25.746 --> 00:38:26.648
It would drive you crazy.

00:38:26.648 --> 00:38:27.650
I couldn't have a kid.

00:38:27.650 --> 00:38:28.853
No, why?

00:38:28.914 --> 00:38:29.414
would like.

00:38:29.414 --> 00:38:31.679
Why would he want to name the dog cody like?

00:38:32.021 --> 00:38:34.045
that is pretty a dick move of him.

00:38:34.045 --> 00:38:37.643
Like there are so many names that you can call your dog, like why do you have to pick that one?

00:38:37.643 --> 00:38:44.427
It's not even a dog name, yeah, you would have he must have done it out of spite right for sure but didn't they break up?

00:38:44.474 --> 00:38:55.838
because so she's an influencer, she has a podcast and he was a banker originally and she had said you can do anything, I just don't want you to be an influencer, I don't want you to have a podcast, I don't want you to be in the limelight.

00:38:55.838 --> 00:38:59.836
But that's what he wanted and he did that and that's one of the reasons they broke up.

00:38:59.836 --> 00:39:03.204
Do you think she didn't like the competition, like who cares if he's an influencer?

00:39:03.204 --> 00:39:04.927
Who cares if he does the same thing she's doing?

00:39:05.288 --> 00:39:13.735
they probably butted heads you think so yeah, probably king of the castle she also seems a little like she's crazy.

00:39:13.735 --> 00:39:27.583
She's crazy right like in the head, I think most people who are on reality shows probably are because they are so great, they have to kind of they have this like exacerbated behavior in order to get picked for the reality show.

00:39:27.722 --> 00:39:29.146
So she's got to be the only.

00:39:29.226 --> 00:39:33.630
So I think she's beautiful, but she's had way too much work done, which I don't think she needs.

00:39:33.630 --> 00:39:35.297
Like she was naturally gorgeous.

00:39:35.297 --> 00:39:56.264
She was like I thought she was one of the prettiest and then she's just pumped her face so much of filler and the lips, do you, and like I don't know if she's had that done, but she just I feel like she looks like she's 50, trying to look 30 they're saying, though, like people who are in their 30s and 40s now are looking younger than people who are in their 20s because they're all starting to do the Botox and filler.

00:39:56.304 --> 00:39:59.597
So young early yeah, it's so unfortunate because you don't need it.

00:39:59.657 --> 00:40:03.045
Like they're fucking up their faces at such a young age for no reason.

00:40:03.045 --> 00:40:05.291
It's like what is that millie bobby brown?

00:40:05.291 --> 00:40:05.891
You know how?

00:40:05.891 --> 00:40:09.581
She's getting a lot of flack saying she looks like a 40 year old cougar, when she's really what?

00:40:09.641 --> 00:40:10.483
has, she had work done.

00:40:10.844 --> 00:40:16.556
I haven't people say I know people say that she's had fillers done to the point where she looks like she's 40, but I don't even think she's 20, is she?

00:40:16.617 --> 00:40:18.418
I'm gonna have's so nice and she's like.

00:40:18.438 --> 00:40:28.860
You know, I'm a human being, and this really hurts my feelings.00:40:28.860 --> 00:40:30.202


It I feel bad for her.00:40:30.202 --> 00:40:33.416


Oh, where's your favorite place to go on a first date?00:40:34.237 --> 00:40:38.817


uh, I want to do drinks on a first date because I feel like dinner just like kind of makes it.00:40:38.817 --> 00:40:53.072


The stakes are too high that if I don't like the person, I don't want, if they pay that I don't want them spending, you know, more than 10, 20 bucks on the date for my side of of the date.00:40:53.072 --> 00:40:55.177


So drinks is a good first start.00:40:55.177 --> 00:40:57.125


So what area of town do you live in?00:40:57.125 --> 00:40:59.655


I'm in Chandler, okay, do you have a specific place that you go to?00:40:59.655 --> 00:41:08.215


I don't like being in Chandler because I live fairly close to work so I'm susceptible to seeing students out in public, or their parents.00:41:09.079 --> 00:41:15.043


I would die if anybody saw me on a first date, because that would just be around the school in like a second.00:41:15.204 --> 00:41:16.286


Yeah, I can imagine.00:41:16.554 --> 00:41:22.688


So I think a halfway point is good for a first date, for whatever.00:41:22.956 --> 00:41:25.737


Are there a lot of single people in Chandler?00:41:25.737 --> 00:41:30.492


Because when I think of like Chandler and Gilbert, I think of suburbs and families.00:41:30.994 --> 00:41:32.358


Yeah, yeah, it's not.00:41:32.358 --> 00:41:34.222


It's not the spot for meetings.00:41:34.222 --> 00:41:39.842


I mean, there's some like I'll see some on the apps yeah say Chandler or Gilbert, like usually divorcees.00:41:39.842 --> 00:41:46.860


But oh yeah, I can see that but I also feel like Scottsdale might be a little too young for me, you know, like I'm not 20.00:41:46.860 --> 00:41:48.240


I'm not going to be in Old Town.00:41:48.240 --> 00:41:51.023


I do miss walkability, though.00:41:51.083 --> 00:42:01.286


I will say because I did used to live in the Old Town area and I just loved bopping down to get like lunch or coffee or walk to the mall or be on the canal and you kind of see some.00:42:02.048 --> 00:42:03.893


I miss that too I used to be young people.00:42:03.893 --> 00:42:07.367


Yeah, it's so nice to get a coffee walk to get a glass of wine.00:42:07.387 --> 00:42:20.822


It is, and it sucks that it's like the only walkable place in the valley, like the for the valley being so big, there's not a lot of walkable right on the avenue yeah, well, and then, then you're college yeah, hell, no.00:42:21.123 --> 00:42:26.880


So yeah, it does I mean our downtown just is it's on its way, but it's still.00:42:27.021 --> 00:42:40.922


They've been saying that I've, I've lived here 13 years and they've been saying that since I moved here now it's time for the most delicious segment of this show zoyo and zoyo and tal, sponsored by your neighborhood yogurt.00:42:40.922 --> 00:42:42.425


This is where you pick a card.00:42:42.425 --> 00:42:46.699


I love Zoyo, you do love Zoyo, we love Zoyo too, I love a fro-yo.00:42:47.099 --> 00:42:48.021


Mm-hmm Do.00:42:49.304 --> 00:42:50.608


I read this she picked the top one.00:42:50.608 --> 00:42:52.842


Have you ever lied to get laid?00:42:52.842 --> 00:42:54.541


If so, tell us about it.00:42:56.097 --> 00:42:56.739


I don't think so.00:42:56.739 --> 00:43:00.342


I feel like this is a bad question, because females don't usually have to lie.00:43:00.342 --> 00:43:01.164


I don't lie.00:43:01.164 --> 00:43:02.306


Men are going to admit that.00:43:02.306 --> 00:43:05.960


Oh yeah, I told the girl that I was a baseball player, when I'm really jobless.00:43:06.295 --> 00:43:08.780


You know that's if a guy's going to admit that, let's see.00:43:08.780 --> 00:43:10.105


Okay, what about this one?00:43:10.125 --> 00:43:14.884


Okay, let's see Choose a movie title that best describes your sex life.00:43:14.884 --> 00:43:19.684


What is like Baron in the desert, Like there is no sex life?00:43:19.684 --> 00:43:22.922


That is the movie Dry dry desert.00:43:23.644 --> 00:43:25.822


The Sahara, across the Sahara.00:43:25.844 --> 00:43:26.554


The sad movie about the Sahara.00:43:26.554 --> 00:43:30.103


No one's walking the Sahara path.00:43:30.103 --> 00:43:33.101


That's my movie.00:43:33.143 --> 00:43:33.885


That's funny.00:43:33.885 --> 00:43:36.503


Well, thank you so much for joining us here at the Meat Market.00:43:36.503 --> 00:43:40.222


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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.00:44:02.822 --> 00:44:04.864


He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.00:44:05.326 --> 00:44:09.951


So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:44:09.951 --> 00:44:14.757


His wife just reached out to me.