The Prescription for Love? This Physician’s Still Looking!

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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the meat market.

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The single scene is a slaughterhouse and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess and today's sizzling single is Simon.

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Welcome, hello, thank you for having me.

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So you have had a bad string of dates and some scary situations.

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Yes, I have.

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I sure have.

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We want to hear those.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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Well, I've got two that stick out to me.

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One I had a stalker, so basically I was emailing this guy on an app.

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Every email he would send back to me would be two to three pages long, like it got to a point where it was like okay, creepo.

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That's eternal.

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Yeah, big time, and it was about nothing really.

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And so finally I was like this is not working for me.

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So then I sent an email back saying I'm not interested, let's just move on.

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So then I don't hear from him for months.

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Next thing I get, I get an email from him.

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Do you know a good oncologist?

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I'm in the oncology field and I ignored it, didn't say anything.

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And so then I show up to work and I get a text message Not sure how he got my number.

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He's like you're so much prettier and taller in person.

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That is scary oh my gosh, yeah, I was like what the heck?

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And so then I look at the patient list and I see his name on there.

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So he's actually a patient of one of my partners.

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Wow yeah.

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So yeah, but he signed in saying I was his doctor, even though I was not, and the whole time he just was texting me constantly, constantly.

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What.

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Yes, really creepy.

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So then I went to my partner and said you've got to get rid of him.

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I mean, this is bizarre.

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That's like call security Exactly, Exactly.

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And unfortunately, my partner was like no, he's a patient, I've got to take care of him.

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Like what about me?

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Yeah, thank you.

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Well, anyway, he stayed there, got his chemotherapy.

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Finally, I found him in the room alone and I went up to him and said listen, you can't be doing this.

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Stop your texting.

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This is a professional setting.

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Don't do this anymore.

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I was just going to ask that.

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Did he actually need treatment or was he?

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faking.

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He really did.

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I thought he was faking it, but how do you fake it?

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I know that's the thing you can for a while until you get the tests back Exactly.

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Exactly.

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But you know, I was just living on edge, just walking to my car.

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I was afraid I had someone walk with me.

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He would constantly text me, he would bring girls with him, what?

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Sitting in his lap in the chemo room being rowdy, just trying to make me jealous.

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Oh my gosh yeah.

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Oh my gosh.

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So finally he was done with his treatments and I had that talk with him and I never heard from him again.

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But, wow, it took me a few months to just not look over my shoulder about that.

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Seriously, so you're a doctor, do you like people to call you Dr Simon?

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No, no, no, I mean, that's a job.

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Yeah, that's not completely who I am.

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Because I know, like my brother has his doctor and he he does not like people calling him doctor, but there are some people that you have to call me doctor.

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I worked hard to get no, no, no, absolutely not no for me.

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Call me whatever you want, you know my name's preferable.

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No, I'm not like that do guys ever get weird about it, about me?

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being a physician.

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Yeah, yeah, sometimes.

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Oh, you're a doctor, you know that kind of you know that kind of thing I'm like all right, I already know that in there.

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Can you pull?

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out the stethoscope.

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Yeah, right, I'm like no, then you kind of know, then there's going to be some weird vibes going on.

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Yes, Agreed.

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So do doctors date doctors, doctors date nurses.

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Is there a lot of that?

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Yes, yeah, they do.

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Only because you're constantly with each other.

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You know, for me it's like I'm open to meeting all different kinds of people.

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I don't think you should stick with one profession necessarily.

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If I meet a great guy who happens to be a doctor, fantastic.

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If he happens to be something else, great, even better you know, have you ever dated another physician?

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I have yeah, is ego an issue?

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No, it actually wasn't.

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Yeah, yeah, luckily.

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I would not choose to date a guy that was you know.

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Oh, I'm better than you or I'm smarter than you, that kind of stuff, yeah, I don't.

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Yeah, no, my my brother-in-law.

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I always ask my brother-in-law to set me.

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I'm always there's gotta be somebody good that works in your practice.

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They're in Dallas and so I'm always just like he's a physician, he's a surgeon, yes, yes, and so I'm always like there he's a physician.

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He's a surgeon.

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Yes, yes, and so I'm always like there's gotta be somebody, there's gotta be somebody, to where always?

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And he's like listen, he's like all of my colleagues, they're either married or they're weird.

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Isn't that funny.

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And because you know, a lot of times I asked my friends and I was over that whole app thing and I said, hey, do you have guy friends that you can set me up with?

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Like yeah, we have friends, but nobody would set you up with.

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I'm like, what kind of friends do you have?

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then I mean like what's the deal with that?

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Well, it's funny because doctors always comes up as the number one profession that cheats doctors and nurses.

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Interesting.

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Yeah, I'm not surprised.

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Because it's like Grey's Anatomy, right yeah?

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Like it depends on who.

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If your spouse understands yes, you know, because it's a very hectic schedule.

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You're very busy, you're not always home, not always available, so someone has to be really understanding of that, and so sometimes if the spouse or significant other doesn't understand your schedule, that can be pretty tough.

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Well, and especially if they meet later in the career, like with my brother-in-law and my sister.

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They met while she was in her DNP program and he was in his pre-med.

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You know what I mean so they understood each other's the dynamic that comes along with each other's careers, and it's like now they work together and she is his nurse.

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You know what I mean.

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So it works for them, and so sometimes I feel like if you're coming in and you're dating or trying to date someone who's already established in that career, that's when you have the issues of the not trusting because of the late nights and things like that Well, I think a lot of people watch TV and see the glamorous picture of what a doctor is, and that's not always the case.

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It's very unglamorous, trust me.

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So yeah.

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So you date, all rangers you date.

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You're willing to date from 30 to 60.

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Is there a difference in?

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You know, you just never know.

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I mean, there's some mature 30-year-olds and immature 60-year-olds.

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That's very true so you know, to me age is just a number, I just a number.

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I mean, I honestly just have to be open.

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Otherwise, if you're limiting yourself to just a small group of people, then it can be pretty tough.

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Is the stamina better in the younger guys?

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I would assume so.

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But then again older men have the have meds, that's true, there are ways around that.

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Yeah, exactly.

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How do you feel about being a sugar mama?

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Oh, I don't know, wouldn't want to do that.

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No, I don't think so.

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If he's younger, he has to be still established.

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Because for me it's a respect thing.

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That's key.

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You know, I tend to lose respect for people if they don't respect themselves, so to me that would be a turn off Big time.

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That's fair I agree.

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Easy.

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To me that would be a turnoff big time, that's fair.

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So I agree.

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Easy answer Did you grow up in Arizona?

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No, I actually.

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So long story short.

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I was born in Romania, grew up in New Jersey and then lived in Oklahoma.

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That's where I went to med school.

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Really, and then been in Arizona now almost 20 years.

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So wow, yeah, so been all over, yeah.

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Have you dated in multiple States or?

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Uh, I was pretty young you know, obviously in New Jersey.

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I was, you know, just 10 years old or 12 years old and then came to Oklahoma.

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I you know again, as I mentioned, I came from a sort of conservative culture, so dating was not allowed.

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It was more you got to study, you've got to.

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You know, do well in school, that's your focus, that kind of thing.

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So I dated on the sly With your family and your culture.

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Do they do arranged marriages?

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No, no, no, my parents, there were a lot of marriage, If anything now my parents regret it.

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They're like Simo, we shouldn't let you date yeah yeah, it was more just like strict about dating, I think it was more, just not losing track.

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Okay, you know my parents are physicians as well, and so I think they're like just do well, and then you know work hard now, have your fun later.

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Yeah, and now you are ready to have your fun.

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Woohoo, heck yeah, absolutely.

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When was your last long-term relationship I would say it's actually been a few years.

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I mean, I dated here and there, but a long-term relationship it's been a few years have you been married before?

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No, are you looking to get married?

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Open to it.

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Open to it okay.

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You don't have to get married.

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But it's not necessary.

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Yeah, I'm not looking to have kids at this point.

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No.

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Like my own kids.

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You know whether someone has kids, that's biologically.

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Would you date a guy with young kids?

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I'm open to it, okay, if they are flexible.

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Meaning you know I understand kids are, you know, going to be the priority.

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I understand that and that might actually be to the advantage.

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Because I'm busy, I want my own life as well, so if they're busy with the kids, I'll do my thing.

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Yeah, it could work out.

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Yeah, so I'm not closed-minded about that so you made the comment that you get bored easily?

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I do.

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Do you think maybe you have a fear of?

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commitment or you know.

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I wondered that.

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No, I don't think so, I I, yeah, I think.

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For me it's just, you know, I with what I do for a living life is short, so the same old, same old.

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You know, I get, I get it.

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Every relationship will have that static kind of feeling, but to me it's like let's keep it interesting.

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You know, I want to be dating someone for the rest of my life, you know.

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So I think that's what it is and I'm the kind of person who mentally always has to be stimulated, so I think a relationship has to be that way for me.

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Yeah, are you on the dating apps?

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I was not anymore, because you had mentioned you went on a date and he was 40 minutes late.

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Oh yeah, that was my other disaster date.

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Yeah, so this guy basically showed up 40 minutes late.

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He smelled.

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Oh.

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Yeah, I mean it was, oh my gosh, he looked nothing like his picture.

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And the waitress and I got to know each other.

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We chatted and know each other.

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We chatted and she, like, was behind him and was like uh-uh, she was like go leave.

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So I basically took my phone out and pretended.

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I had a call for work and I just left.

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Didn't we have a guest on recently who also was on a date with a smelly?

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Guy yes what is up with hygiene?

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people take a shower at least put some deodorant on who goes on a date when you?

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sleep.

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I was just thinking, I was like am.

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I having deja vu, or am I remembering?

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what we talked about previously.

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No, I'm pretty sure we had someone else on.

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That was with a stinky guy.

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I mean, I get it.

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If you're coming from work, wipe something.

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Yeah, you know 40 minutes.

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Did he let you know he was gonna be late?

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No, no text.

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What was?

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his excuse that I actually stayed that long, but I started chatting with the waitress.

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Yeah, I mean, i'm'm one of those people like I like to talk to everybody, you know.

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Well, and if you're somewhere, you might as well enjoy an appetizer or a drink or something.

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I mean, I ended up just, you know, having a nice meal chatting with this lovely waitress, you know and became friends with her actually.

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Did he have an excuse, did he?

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Apologize, he was like no, yeah, heck, yeah, you're very late.

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And I I confronted him.

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I'm like, hey, you're very late.

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This is extremely obnoxious of you to do that.

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Oh well, I'm sorry, you know, yeah.

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And then he said were there any redeeming qualities?

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he was following me he's like can I call you again?

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And I'm like no wait, you want to go get another.

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Obviously he didn't get the hint, not the brightest what do you do in your free time?

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Tell us about you I'm very athletic, so I love to work out.

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I've been an athlete all my life.

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So since I was young I played sports lacrosse, field hockey, basketball, you name it.

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And then when I got to college I did the jane fonda workouts, you know the step aerobics and stuff like that.

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And then, you know, at 45, orange Theory became the thing, and then now I'm into weightlifting.

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So that's just my passion.

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I love doing it.

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And you recently were featured in a local magazine.

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Is that right?

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Which one?

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I'm not sure, it all depends.

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It all depends.

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Yeah, which one For fitness?

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Yeah, which one for fitness?

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Was there something about fitness?

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Yes, okay, yeah, there was 40 women over 40.

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Okay, I don't think I mentioned that did you find it?

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our mutual friend told me oh our mutual friend told me and I forgot to ask you about it when we I have not okay.

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No, no, no, no, no, no I you know, again, I'm very camera shy and know I don't love to get my picture taken, but I thought you know at this point in my life to do what's scary.

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You know, do something for yourself.

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And you know I am into the fitness obviously, and I was in a phase where I was kind of leaning out, looked I thought very, very good and I wanted to capture that.

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Yeah, I was going to ask has it come out yet.

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It is out.

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Yeah, I have the pictures.

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Oh, do you have?

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you gotten any feedback?

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I was wondering if you have, everyone loves them.

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I mean, it's so sweet.

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Or if you've had any guys reach out to you that are like oh, look at you.

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I haven't posted it on social media yet, so I haven't done that you should.

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I think I should Put yourself one more way to put yourself out there.

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Absolutely, but I have shown a lot of people and everyone's given me fabulous feedback.

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I mean, there were a few where I had a health scare and we wanted to feature the cancer aspect of it, and so I have one where I'm not wearing anything and I'm covered, and it just turned out to be the most classy, beautiful picture.

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I was shy about doing it, didn't want to do it, but it turned out amazing, so, yeah, and now describe your ideal partner.

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Ooh, I, for me, I would want someone who's emotionally intelligent, like meaning who's done the work, both inside and out, um, someone who's either done the therapy, read the books, you know, just figured himself out, knows what he wants, is passionate about something, um, and is happy.

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Happy, and what I mean by happy is meaning do they love what they do, are they happy with how much money they're making I don't care what that is, but are they happy with that and are they living a happy life?

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And to me that would be lovely to have to see that in someone, and then someone who's done the work on the outside too, like someone who also likes to be in a workout and take self-care, someone who gets massages or saunas anything that they enjoy that makes them feel and look better.

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To me that's so important.

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I'm someone who's very much into nutrition and working out, so that's important to me.

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I log my food.

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I monitor what I eat.

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I still like to have fun.

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Do you cook?

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I?

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do, yeah, yes, yeah.

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What's your favorite thing to cook?

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it depends I mean depends on my mood you know, so I love sushi, you know, but that's not easy to make yeah, so I go out for that more often but I think at home it's just, really just healthy food.

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You know um anything that's nutritious and you know, and I try to make it fun and make it taste good so it's not boring like chicken and broccoli kind of right.

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You know what are your deal breakers in a man, oh yeah, um, I don't like people who are into smoking, like smoking drugs, that kind of stuff I mean.

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To me that's a numbing thing and escape.

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Sure, people can have fun.

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I'm not like a prude here, but at the same time that also makes me feel like they're not valuing their health.

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So that's a deal breaker for me.

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For sure, I think, someone who's jealous, angry, unhappy.

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Such a turnoff.

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You know, yeah, to me joy and happiness is huge, and if you have the complete opposite nagging judgment you know I don't like judgmental people, people who are constantly.

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You can have opinions and be passionate about your beliefs.

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I respect that, but then don't judge other people about it.

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You know, respect them I think people who are just generally pessimistic or negative negative who always see the negative yes, and things or they hear something and they automatically assume the worst or automatically go to a negative thought.

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I find, I find, I don't get along well with people that are always negative.

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I just at this point again life is short.

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I want to surround myself with happy, good energy you know, so yeah, I'm with you.

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And now, what about physical what's?

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Your physical type.

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I think fit you know someone who's who takes care of herself.

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How?

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tall are you?

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I'm five, seven, okay, yeah, I do like tall, just, but again, not a deal breaker.

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Uh, you know, cause that's the superficial, that's I.

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I don't think I want to hold on to that, but I do like a man, someone who just feels big.

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I like someone who's a little edgier, who's a little rough.

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My dream celebrity is Tom Hardy.

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Is that his name?

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Oh, yeah, yeah, Tom Hardy yeah.

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I hope I didn't get that wrong.

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I don't know.

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He seems nice, nice guy, he loves animals.

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He just seems kind.

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He's fit, edgy looking, you know, not like the typical beautiful man, but you know to me.

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I love that.

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A little rough around the edges.

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Yeah, exactly, exactly.

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Now, why didn we talk about that?

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the the last long, yeah, your last long-term relationship.

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What happened there?

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If you don't mind us asking no I don't mind um.

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He became like a brother oh, that's the worst, yeah, when you really care about them and you love them.

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I love him, I still love him I still think about him all the time.

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I I mean, he was such a lovely person um, but he was just like my pale you know, which is great.

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You want to be best friends with who you're with, but there's still.

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I was just going to say, yeah, there still has to be the spark.

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There still has to be the chemistry.

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You have to want to be intimate with them.

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Exactly, exactly.

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Was he devastated?

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Um no, I think he.

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We both knew.

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I dated him for 10 years.

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So, yeah, I'm very loyal, knew kind of almost halfway through that this wasn't going to work, but I thought maybe this is how it's supposed to be and maybe it was just like a lull.

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Yeah, exactly, maybe this will get better, you know but, it didn't yeah and then we both mutually broke up yeah, yeah.

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Do you have any crazy unique talents that not many people know?

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Oh, wow, or unique facts about yourself that you don't tell too many?

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oh, I always have a lot of secrets, but let's see I'm trying to think of something quirky that I do.

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Oh my gosh, can you sing or dance?

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No, oh, I can dance, but I can't sing worth anything, so no, that's not a.

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I wouldn't say that's a talent.

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Oh my God, I can do handstands.

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Can you really, I can walk.

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Really yeah.

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So I don't know.

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That's kind of hard, that is hard.

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Strong, a lot of work.

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A lot of practice.

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I can do wall handstands.

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Yeah, and I can do a regular handstand for like three seconds Maybe.

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So for me it's just like anything athletic.

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I you know, I will challenge myself.

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You know pull-ups, I love those.

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You know those kind of things you must.

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That takes discipline, I feel yeah, yeah, I think anyone who looks fit it just shows that they have discipline right, it's true and that's the reason why I like fit people is because they have that discipline yeah, yeah, that is very true.

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It's not like the kids in kindergarten cop, you lack discipline yeah, exactly for me.

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It's like on my schedule, like I already.

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I know that's what I'm gonna do.

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It's a non-negotiable yeah.

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So yeah, I just don't make excuses.

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I think anybody who truly is in to the fitness lifestyle or lives a fit lifestyle is that way.

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Yeah, um, because I've dated guys too who are like oh yeah, I go to the gym, I go to the gym every day, and then we start to hang out a little bit more and then it's like oh, so how was your workout this morning?

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Oh, I didn't go and it was like wait right what do you?

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mean because at the beginning of this you told me that you work out every day.

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So you don't work out every day and it's fine to skip a day here or there but, I find that a lot of times, people you know they project what they want to be not what they think you want or what they think you want them to be.

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Yes, yes.

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Not necessarily what they truly are.

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Yeah, I'm a big believer in action.

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Yes, yeah, yeah, absolutely yeah, but there's a fine line.

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I mean you don't need to be obsessive about it either.

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Like.

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I do, you know, have the ice cream.

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You know the ice cream, you know, have fun you know and skip that occasional workout?

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Yes, don't be so rigid yeah, there are some fitness people I've met who are oh, for sure, for sure, yeah, yeah.

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So we have listener question.

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Okay, that we will talk about this.

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One comes from amy.

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She says um, I've been seeing a guy who's basically allergic to commitment, but the sexual chemistry is insane the best I've ever had.

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I'm addicted.

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Am I wasting my time or riding it out literally until someone better comes along?

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that could turn into something more.

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I've known people that they're dating guys that don't want anything serious.

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They they're scared of commitment, but they end up falling in love and they end up staying together right well, it also depends what she wants.

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I mean, if she's just in it for the sexual part and enjoying and having fun, why not?

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but if she's looking for to get married in the next year, exactly how long did you say they were together?

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I don't think it's yeah I mean, if she's been with this guy for a while, like a years, and he still hasn't committed, and that's what she wants, then that's a problem that's true, because you don't want to waste your time, you don't want to be waiting for like 10 years and then he still doesn't want to commit.

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I mean, she's obviously asking, which means she's unhappy.

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Yes, yeah, yeah it just says I've been seeing, so who knows?

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how long it is Right.

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But I think she needs to figure out, like, truly, what is it she wants out of the relationship?

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Because if she wants commitment, she might not get that Exactly.

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So it's like she needs to have a chat with him and then if he still says, no, I'm not ready, she needs to leave, and maybe then he'll be like, oh shoot sometimes guys do wake up and they're like oh crap, yeah, better, I better give her what she wants, because I want her.

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But I think she also has to figure out what she wants too, because if she truly sometimes that happens, I feel like we think we want the commitment and then when the commitment happens right, that's when it it doesn't work anymore, and so I think she first needs to figure out what exactly she wants, have a conversation with him and then 100 go from there agreed.

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So we're going to chat sorry chat about an article.

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Okay, dating advice from the 1930s that might not be appreciated today.

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Some of them, I think, still ring true.

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So the first one is don't get drunk.

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A 1938 article warned women that getting boozed up on a date was a big no-no.

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Not only will they appear silly rather than clever, but they'll also embarrass their date.

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The last straw is to pass out from too much liquor.

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Chances are your date will never want to call you again.

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Oh gosh isn't it funny that it's that in the 30s it was like the woman don't get drunk Right exactly Because, for me, it's unattractive when the man I'm with gets too drunk on the first date and it's like you're going to embarrass him.

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Yeah, I don't think it's even about that.

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I mean, it's for you.

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You want to have the wherewithal to be there and be present In the world we live in, yeah, now for sure, for sure I could care less what he I mean, you know, it's not about him, it's about myself, exactly.

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But I think that one still rings I agree, though I mean don't get drunk on a date.

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Yes, yes, either way, man the way it's written in the 30s is interesting versus how it would be written today, absolutely, but I agree, if you're a man or a woman, don't get drunk on a first date, have your mom send you flowers.

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Another article from the 30s talks about the importance of cultivating an image of popularity.

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To get dates, it advises, during your first term, get home talent to ply you with letters, telegrams and invitations.

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College men will think, oh, she must be attractive if she can rate all that attention.

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The article further suggests to have your mom send you flowers to impress men and to shut the lights in your dorm room at night so no one will think you're home if you don't have a date.

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Oh wow, isn't that hilarious.

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That's hilarious, all right, no, I'm not down with that.

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How exhausting.

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No, that's expensive.

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Plus, I'm not a fan of fake.

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It's so inauthentic.

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You've got to be authentic, be yourself but do you remember the movie Clueless I watched that recently and she sends herself flowers oh yeah, she does, it's a class.

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It's a class.

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Yes, I don't know.

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There's some sadness and I guess Glenda in Wicked, the show Wicked, I guess she does that yeah, I mean, you can send flowers to yourself for fun, I mean if you enjoy it, if you want that, but not to impress the guy or think that you're so popular, and that's the thing.

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I buy flowers at the grocery store every week, but nobody sees them, except for me.

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You shouldn't do anything for anyone else to just to have this image.

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You know, I just I disagree.

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Stay, mom, on the dance floor.

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Another word of advice from the 30s was to avoid boring your date with talk about clothes and to flatter your date by talking about the things that he wants to talk about.

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It also recommends acting interested in anything that he says in a book how to, how to Win and Hold a Husband, dorothy Dix.

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Dorothy Dix puts it more bluntly Don't talk too much.

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Above all, don't talk about yourself ever.

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Men have a horror of girls who babble on.

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Men like to talk about themselves, and what they want is an intelligent listener.

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According to this article, you should keep those lips sealed, even on the dance floor, because when a man dances, he wants to dance, so no chatter whilst doing the cha-cha oh wow, isn't that crazy that's awful, that's funny.

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It's sad that women had to right, you know, listen to this advice in those days if they wanted to win themselves a husband oh, no, no, I mean no then there's no crying in baseball or dating.

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This same article recommends you don't turn on the tears in a man's company, because men should not have their emotions worked on and men don't like tears, especially in public places.

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Dorothy states.

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Men do not like sentimental women.

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Oh, that's funny I mean I, maybe on the first day you don't want to be bawling, no, yeah, yeah.

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Yeah, I mean I get that that's a little weird, but you know, but date you don't want to be bawling.

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No, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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I mean, I get that, that's a little weird, but you know.

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But if you can't cry in front of the guy that you're dating, then it's a problem, exactly.

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Right.

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But I think you should wait before you get super emotional, maybe until the third date.

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Yeah, exactly.

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Let's not be dramatic in the beginning.

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The third day rule.

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Chewing gum is a turn off.

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Stick to mints and not gum if you want to keep your man happy.

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According to the 30s, chewing gum was not advised.

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However, if you must, it was advisable to do so with your mouth shut.

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So don't chew it, just have it in your mouth.

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So many rules I know, but I agree.

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I mean it is a little rude to be smacking on gum, it is kind of true.

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Yeah, never, ever, touch up your makeup in his rearview mirror.

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The article suggests to dress in your boudoir to keep your allure and that includes makeup too and don't even think about touching up your lipstick in front of him or blotting your lips with his hanky.

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Okay, that's kind of weird.

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Oh, and never use the car's rearview mirror to check your makeup, because men need it to drive and it annoys them very much when they have to run around to see what's behind.

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Turn it around to see what's behind.

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I don't know.

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I've had guys tell me it's sexy when they see a girl putting on lipstick or something like that.

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Yeah Well anything that draws attention to the lips, exactly.

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Waiting isn't a virtue when it comes to dating.

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Don't keep him waiting, greet him with a smile, but according to the article, you don't want to be so hasty that you forget to wear a brassiere okay, I might actually agree with that I didn't like it if you forgot to wear a brassiere, oh my gosh.

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Well, and it's funny because, like we were just talking about how late the guy was to your date.

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Don't keep him waiting.

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So don't keep him waiting.

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I agree with that one.

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But men also the ones that still ring true now go both ways.

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Because, it's like you know we shouldn't be keeping men waiting, but men also shouldn't be keeping us waiting either.

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But I bet back in those days it's acceptable for him to keep you waiting because he's got to work.

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He's working hard.

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You know they would justify it.

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It's true.

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Don't overdress.

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To impress, Don't overdo it.

00:28:08.934 --> 00:28:10.592
Another book from the 30 states.

00:28:10.592 --> 00:28:15.034
She scares him off when she decks herself out in what looks like a million dollars worth of finery.

00:28:15.034 --> 00:28:22.750
In other words, he'll think he can't afford to date you if you're too dressed up he can't afford to date you if you're too dressed up.

00:28:22.729 --> 00:28:23.182
Yeah, well, weed them out, right?

00:28:23.182 --> 00:28:24.164
Yeah, there you go, if you feel like it go for it.

00:28:24.144 --> 00:28:34.280
But yeah, I mean you don't want to be in a ballroom gown put down the phone in dorothy's book.

00:28:34.340 --> 00:28:36.505
She's adamant that gal's trying to snag a guy.

00:28:36.505 --> 00:28:37.747
Stay away from the telephone.

00:28:37.747 --> 00:28:41.352
Don't call a boy up over the telephone during business hours hours.

00:28:41.352 --> 00:28:44.317
He will hate you for it because you are jeopardizing his job.

00:28:44.317 --> 00:28:49.613
There is a no surer way for a girl to make herself unpopular with men than to be a telephone hound.

00:28:49.613 --> 00:28:52.888
Oh geez, is that kind of similar to now constant texting?

00:28:52.909 --> 00:28:56.006
I was gonna say yeah if you're constantly calling him, that is kind of annoying.

00:28:56.006 --> 00:28:56.547
I agree with that.

00:28:56.547 --> 00:28:57.971
You don't want to be constantly doing it.

00:28:57.971 --> 00:29:01.077
I would reach out to a guy, why not?

00:29:02.165 --> 00:29:03.068
This one cracks me up.

00:29:03.068 --> 00:29:04.967
Take a trip abroad, it was advised.

00:29:04.967 --> 00:29:09.971
If you're the old maid left on the shelf, take a trip overseas Before succumbing to the inevitable.

00:29:09.971 --> 00:29:13.511
She might give herself one more chance by making a change in her environment.

00:29:13.511 --> 00:29:17.567
Many a girl who's a social failure at home is a success abroad.

00:29:17.567 --> 00:29:28.797
Many a girl whom the boys on main street couldn't see becomes one whom strange men behold with admiration I mean, I don't disagree with traveling why not?

00:29:28.836 --> 00:29:32.452
but I don't agree with the reasoning behind it.

00:29:32.493 --> 00:29:34.980
It's strange in the olden days.

00:29:34.980 --> 00:29:36.423
What was it like 30?

00:29:36.423 --> 00:29:38.728
Then you're the old maid left on the shelf because they got married.

00:29:38.788 --> 00:29:41.192
So my grandma was like 16 when she got married.

00:29:41.212 --> 00:29:46.086
Yeah, I know, that's so funny a couple more over 30, take matters into your own hands.

00:29:46.086 --> 00:29:52.510
Basically, they say hey, if you're too old, go out and get them, be the aggressor and then play a good game of bridge.

00:29:52.510 --> 00:29:55.017
According to dorothy's dating tips, you shouldn't go out.

00:29:55.017 --> 00:29:58.310
Sorry, you shouldn't count on getting by with just a pretty face.

00:29:58.310 --> 00:30:01.577
You better have a bag of tricks to entertain your guy and keep him interested.

00:30:01.577 --> 00:30:07.955
She has to know how to be entertaining and amusing, how to dance and play a good game of bridge, how to fit in any company.

00:30:07.955 --> 00:30:18.509
Only senile grandpas fall for beautiful but not dumb, and venus herself would be a wallflower if she had to be towed around a ballroom floor or trumped her partner's ace right star thing that's funny.

00:30:18.529 --> 00:30:19.530
Do you guys know how to play bridge?

00:30:19.751 --> 00:30:20.673
no, I actually don't.

00:30:20.673 --> 00:30:23.616
You don't know bridge is fun yeah

00:30:23.896 --> 00:30:26.440
but I always thought it was a woman's game traditionally.

00:30:26.440 --> 00:30:29.394
I didn't know, maybe back in the day, back in the day, maybe?

00:30:29.413 --> 00:30:31.480
yeah too, but that's funny.

00:30:31.480 --> 00:30:36.881
Here I feel like it's all about the men and pleasing the man, exactly how the men feel, what the men want, right?

00:30:36.881 --> 00:30:37.703
No, miserable.00:30:37.763 --> 00:30:46.353


But I think, like you said before, that was also the day where the man was the one that was working the man was the one that was financially the provider.00:30:46.594 --> 00:31:01.116


The women didn't work, they stayed home, right, and so it's that very different roles, for sure, yeah, the times were different if you look at like all the romantic songs in the olden days, it's like I want to marry you if love was made for me and you.00:31:01.116 --> 00:31:11.596


And now you listen to the songs and it's like I want to spit, I want to gulp, I want to gag, I want to choke and you know drop it, drop it on a b-i-t-c-h right, you know it was so open.00:31:12.065 --> 00:31:13.707


Yeah, well, there should be something in the middle there I know we.00:31:13.707 --> 00:31:14.707


It was so Busted open, I got right.00:31:14.707 --> 00:31:18.990


Yeah Well, there should be something in the middle there, I know.00:31:19.211 --> 00:31:23.555


We've come so far, to the extreme, I think since the 30s.00:31:23.615 --> 00:31:33.748


Isn't it kind of creepy how a lot of the songs are males singing back in those old days and they're singing about like 16-year-olds I know Isn't that kind of, but I mean women did get married at 16.00:31:33.748 --> 00:31:39.038


They were giving birth at 16, but it's kind of now, it's kind of creepy right, yeah, exactly, yeah, oh, I know Now, times have changed.00:31:39.057 --> 00:31:39.980


Times definitely have changed.00:31:39.980 --> 00:31:42.612


I'm curious to see 20 years from now what it'll be like.00:31:42.612 --> 00:31:43.875


Why that's a good point.00:31:43.915 --> 00:31:44.257


Yeah.00:31:44.257 --> 00:31:49.810


So now it's time for the celebrity cut where we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.00:31:49.810 --> 00:31:54.977


Beckham drama with his wife Nicola Peltz sort of.00:31:55.817 --> 00:31:56.558


I don't know the details.00:31:56.578 --> 00:32:01.271


They're estranged yes, he, I guess David Beckham, it's Sir David Beckham now.00:32:01.271 --> 00:32:06.330


He was recently knighted and Brooklyn Beckham didn't, you know, do a post or congratulate him.00:32:06.330 --> 00:32:08.496


He didn't go to his 50th birthday party.00:32:08.496 --> 00:32:10.289


So they're like very estranged.00:32:10.590 --> 00:32:15.431


And initially it came out that there was some drama between her not wearing Victoria Beckham's wedding dress that she designed.00:32:15.431 --> 00:32:16.233


Did you hear about that?00:32:16.233 --> 00:32:25.920


Oh, no, so Victoria's camp they claimed that it was Nicola because she, at the last minute, decided not to wear Victoria Beckham's dress and changed to a different designer.00:32:25.920 --> 00:32:27.951


But it's come out now have you heard this?00:32:27.951 --> 00:32:35.659


That the real reason is because on their wedding day, you know how the bride and groom have their first dance.00:32:35.659 --> 00:32:40.534


So Mark Anthony gifted them a performance on their wedding day for free.00:32:40.534 --> 00:32:44.148


He was gonna sing and perform at their wedding with them.00:32:44.148 --> 00:32:51.374


Before the first dance, he gets up there and he says, okay, now we're gonna welcome the most beautiful woman in the room, victoria beckham.00:32:51.374 --> 00:32:54.346


And then she gets up and does the first dance.00:32:54.346 --> 00:32:57.556


The mother, mother, son dance before the first dance.00:32:57.556 --> 00:33:03.978


So that, apparently, is why they and I can understand that it's the bride's day it's the bride's day.00:33:04.085 --> 00:33:05.208


It's all about her.00:33:05.208 --> 00:33:06.872


Yes, like that's bad.00:33:06.872 --> 00:33:12.170


So now I'm like I love the beckhams, but I'm like sure if that's true, I'm team nicola yeah, I agree.00:33:12.170 --> 00:33:15.115


Oh, that's too bad, and especially not to talk about it.00:33:15.115 --> 00:33:18.430


If you're gonna to do that, make sure it's okay with the bride and the groom.00:33:18.570 --> 00:33:24.135


And I'm sure she would have been like that's fine you know do you feel like she did it because of the wedding dress thing.00:33:24.135 --> 00:33:27.053


Was it a petty tit for tat?00:33:27.053 --> 00:33:37.096


Oh, I wonder if it was a last minute thing where she, because she was a singer right, she was in Spice Girls and so I bet she has, would we say she's a singer.00:33:37.116 --> 00:33:38.219


She was in a group, yeah.00:33:41.724 --> 00:33:52.272


But I'm sure she has some sort of a connection to Marc Anthony where she could have gotten in touch with him or whatever, and so was it a last minute plan change of plans when she felt burned by the dress.00:33:52.724 --> 00:34:02.545


But then her Nicola's camp is saying that she wanted to wear the dress but they couldn't make the alterations in time or it was something about the deadline that it just it wasn't working for that dress to be worn by her.00:34:02.565 --> 00:34:04.492


That was the statement that they put out to the public.00:34:05.729 --> 00:34:08.190


Who knows, this is just so petty.00:34:08.585 --> 00:34:09.085


I mean to me.00:34:09.085 --> 00:34:10.507


I just think this is your family.00:34:10.847 --> 00:34:11.288


That's how I am.00:34:11.288 --> 00:34:11.527


Who cares?00:34:11.547 --> 00:34:12.369


what dress you wear.00:34:12.369 --> 00:34:13.990


I mean you wear a bag for all I care.00:34:14.010 --> 00:34:14.550


Right, you know what I mean.00:34:14.570 --> 00:34:15.172


Seriously.00:34:15.172 --> 00:34:18.496


It should be about the bride and the groom and your kids.00:34:18.695 --> 00:34:20.097


And then to steal that moment.00:34:20.097 --> 00:34:20.878


I know.00:34:20.878 --> 00:34:24.222


Exactly that is bad, yeah, but I'm with you, family's so strong.00:34:31.711 --> 00:34:36.797


And it is petty tit for tat kind of thing At the end of the and it's huge because they're typically a very close family.00:34:36.836 --> 00:34:38.978


So that's why I think people are pegging it on Nicola.00:34:38.978 --> 00:34:42.702


Oh, she's the bad influence, she's the reason for this, but we don't know yeah.00:34:43.266 --> 00:35:00.003


Well, in Victoria there's this video that's really funny because she's talking about her childhood and it in her home, I think, and she's talking about how she had humble beginnings and how her family was this.00:35:00.003 --> 00:35:03.994


You know they were, they did okay, but they weren't this like well-to-do family.00:35:03.994 --> 00:35:10.983


And then David sticks his head out of the corner and he's like stop lying, tell them what your father drove when you were a child.00:35:10.983 --> 00:35:16.425


And she was like, well, I mean, he drove a Rolls Royce, but like that doesn't matter, or it.00:35:16.465 --> 00:35:22.367


And she was like well, I mean, he drove a Rolls Royce, but like that doesn't matter, or it was something crazy like that where she was trying to be relatable yeah, see that on the camera, but then you're not authentic.00:35:22.367 --> 00:35:24.318


But then you're exactly you're not authentic.00:35:24.358 --> 00:35:39.353


So I can sort of believe that Victoria did the wedding thing to be petty and to be spiteful because I've seen a couple of other videos and things of her where it's like she's not necessarily a genuine person.00:35:39.815 --> 00:35:50.208


That's too bad it seems did you see that Ali G interview back in the day where he was interviewing Posh and Becks, and he said oh yeah, does your son want to be a famous footballer like your dad?00:35:50.208 --> 00:35:53.474


Ah, does your daughter want to be a famous singer like Madonna, like.00:35:53.514 --> 00:35:55.539


Mariah Carey yeah, yeah, yeah, mariah.00:35:55.559 --> 00:35:55.958


Carey.00:35:57.067 --> 00:35:57.891


That made me laugh.00:35:59.286 --> 00:36:00.853


So what's your favorite place to go on a first date?00:36:01.625 --> 00:36:05.576


Ooh, for me, you know, the whole restaurant thing is just, it's old.00:36:05.576 --> 00:36:14.371


You know, for me, let's do something different, something fun, you know, like, whether it's outdoors, maybe go do a workout, or yeah, that would be fun.00:36:14.371 --> 00:36:19.577


I actually did that with a girlfriend, a girl date, so we went and worked out and then we grabbed something to eat afterwards.00:36:19.936 --> 00:36:20.938


I think that is a good workout.00:36:20.938 --> 00:36:21.559


Do you do yoga?00:36:21.559 --> 00:36:22.018


I do.00:36:22.260 --> 00:36:48.735


I feel like yoga is a good day, absolutely no-transcript, because how do you spend time together while working out me?00:36:48.896 --> 00:36:50.141


yeah, well, we could do.00:36:50.141 --> 00:36:52.246


It depends, I mean, what he's into, you know.00:36:52.246 --> 00:36:53.289


Um, maybe the first.00:36:53.289 --> 00:36:54.550


Like the class itself.00:36:54.550 --> 00:37:09.715


You're just kind of doing things on your own, like in a class, or if you're at the gym, you could talk and work out with weights and then meet up afterwards and hang out because then you've shared that together, that event well, and there are workouts like if you're talking like orange theory, or berries or00:37:09.755 --> 00:37:15.815


something like that, where you're able to choose where you are in the room or talk to each other while you you're working out.00:37:15.876 --> 00:37:28.856


Yes, so like my sister and I will go to Barry's and then we'll make sure that we choose treadmills that are right next to each other, so that while we're working out, you know, we can still talk and hang out and be present with each other.00:37:28.856 --> 00:37:29.398


Right right.00:37:29.398 --> 00:37:32.391


So I think there are ways, and it doesn't have to be a workout.00:37:32.391 --> 00:37:39.992


Maybe like and it doesn't have to be a workout, maybe like a fun art class or something like we're.00:37:39.992 --> 00:37:40.860


You know, oh, I love there's a few like wine and art class.00:37:40.786 --> 00:37:43.423


You know that kind of thing yeah, I love just something fun like that or what an activity like a fun sort of activity.00:37:43.351 --> 00:37:45.099


You know something top golf or you know, just bowling.00:37:45.099 --> 00:37:51.909


I love bowling, yeah exactly I'm down yeah, anything, and even if it's something I haven't tried and he loves it, I'm open to it.00:37:51.909 --> 00:37:53.751


Yeah, yeah, I'm adventurous.00:37:53.971 --> 00:38:01.641


I like to try different things now it's time to get to know you with zoyo, sponsored by zoyo, your neighborhood yogurt rapid fire questions.00:38:01.641 --> 00:38:02.264


Are you ready?00:38:02.264 --> 00:38:10.112


Yes, the best or worst pickup line that you've ever heard, or a line I probably I would say oh, what's your?00:38:10.112 --> 00:38:24.039


Sign really people say that, oh, that is so not creative.00:38:24.039 --> 00:38:31.949


Yeah I was like really, and that doesn't really open it up to a good conversation, because you say oh, taurus yeah, like well, I didn't even answer.00:38:31.969 --> 00:38:35.373


I'm like like really, I'm like why Also?00:38:35.414 --> 00:38:36.615


guys using that line.00:38:36.615 --> 00:38:38.518


Do they actually know anything?00:38:38.619 --> 00:38:39.601


about astrology.00:38:40.166 --> 00:38:41.030


That's a girl thing.00:38:41.306 --> 00:38:42.731


It is a girl thing, isn't it?00:38:42.731 --> 00:38:43.507


That is the worst line.00:38:43.507 --> 00:38:44.992


Too many guys are into astrology.00:38:44.992 --> 00:38:47.170


They're looking up their horoscope daily, you know.00:38:47.452 --> 00:38:47.913


Lame.00:38:47.913 --> 00:38:49.237


Yeah, that was pretty bad.00:38:49.237 --> 00:38:51.393


Favorite body parts on a partner Eyes.00:38:51.393 --> 00:38:52.146


I love the eyes.00:38:52.146 --> 00:38:52.987


What gives?00:38:53.007 --> 00:38:53.510


you the ick?00:38:53.510 --> 00:38:56.836


Oh yeah, I would say.00:38:56.836 --> 00:39:00.813


Smells like if you're smelly.00:39:00.813 --> 00:39:03.418


Oh yeah, I still can't believe someone would show up for a date.00:39:03.625 --> 00:39:06.210


Yeah, how easy is that buy some spray exactly.00:39:06.251 --> 00:39:10.788


It's not rocket science exactly exactly is porn considered cheating?00:39:10.788 --> 00:39:13.634


Maybe for doing it together.00:39:13.634 --> 00:39:14.315


I don't think it is.00:39:15.336 --> 00:39:21.536


Yeah, not necessarily okay, before being intimate, is it appropriate to ask your date how many people they've been with?00:39:21.536 --> 00:39:27.635


I think it's appropriate it's appropriate yeah, I think so is it acceptable to have sex on a first date?00:39:27.635 --> 00:39:33.474


Depends on the situation should you disclose mental health issues early on in a relationship?00:39:37.306 --> 00:39:38.367


Depends.00:39:38.588 --> 00:39:39.028


Yes and no.00:39:39.590 --> 00:39:40.391


Yeah, that's hard to answer.00:39:41.052 --> 00:39:44.239


Last but not least, what is your favorite sexual position and why?00:39:46.364 --> 00:39:48.210


Ooh, okay, this was that last question.00:39:48.210 --> 00:39:49.213


You know it was coming.00:39:49.213 --> 00:39:50.275


Oh, I don't have sex at all.00:39:50.456 --> 00:39:51.820


What are you talking about?00:39:51.820 --> 00:39:51.980


Sex?00:39:51.980 --> 00:39:52.541


What is that?00:39:53.885 --> 00:39:55.775


I'm waiting for marriage.00:39:55.775 --> 00:39:59.409


Well, you'll have to go on a date to find out.00:39:59.429 --> 00:40:03.568


Thank you so much for meetings, for joining us this week at the meat market, and thank you so much to simon.00:40:03.568 --> 00:40:08.068


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Oh my God, I just totally got catfished.00:40:21.239 --> 00:40:28.307


He looks absolutely nothing like his picture, so I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:40:28.307 --> 00:40:30.452


His wife just reached out to me.