When “Happily Married” Still Means Wandering Eyes 👀

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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the Meat Market.

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The single scene is a slaughterhouse and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess and today's sizzling single is Emily.

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Welcome your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay, I'm Jess and today's sizzling single is Emily welcome, we have a.

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Scottsdale girl in the house.

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So is dating in Scottsdale as bad as they say it is?

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it's definitely different than like dating, because I was in Chandler.

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But I would say the Scottsdale men are definitely.

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They either want to get married right away or they are never leaving the bachelor life ever and I've met like 60 year olds got still men and they're like I'm still not ready to settle down.

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I'm like, okay, well, you should be right the two long-term relationships that I've had since I moved here in 2012, they were both from here, not necessarily born and raised, but from young childhood into adulthood and I was always convinced like it's a problem with Arizona.

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Men like Arizona men are just awful.

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And then I read a comment recently that it was like men who are born and raised in Arizona.

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That's a red flag in and of itself, do you agree?

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From my dating experience.

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I'm from Arizona, so I only know Arizona men and yeah, I would say they are and it's.

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I am like I'm kind of a problem too and like I'm.

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But I'm aware of it because, like all the nice guys, I'm like no, and then the guy that's like really doesn't want me.

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I'm like that's the one.

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He's the one for me, so you're one of the ones that you always want what you can't have kind of thing a hundred percent, and that's probably like the only child in me, because I'm like I get everything I want.

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Why can't I have you too?

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is there a change?

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Do you notice?

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Because do you did you know great guys when you were younger.

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At what point do they change into these?

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just awful the thing is is, I don't even think that they realize that they're awful.

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I think that because when you see them with their friends or like interacting with their family, they're great, and then the minute a woman's involved, they are like evil and I'm like what is wrong?

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What's happening?

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I?

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think it's because there are so many beautiful women in Scottsdale and they're so easily available, what with social media and you know TikTok and all that.

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Probably so they you know why settle down and why be nice when you can.

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Just I don't know.

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Yeah, I will say Scottsdale is a whole different breed and I didn't realize it.

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I moved to Old Town two years ago and I grew up in Chandler, where I'm like.

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Scottsdale's not that different.

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It's 15 minutes away.

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Oh, it's different really yeah going like if you go out in downtown Chandler, it's chill, it's relaxed, it's going out in Old Town because I have a friend.

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So let's say, we go to like Kala, which is a restaurant, and like at the bottom of a hotel, and then there's this new place, shiv, that's down the street.

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We went to shiv after kala and I told her oh yeah, we just came from college like no one goes to kala anymore.

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What?

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Okay, really, really it's five steps away, you know.

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So it's just like that, like everything is almost like a status thing and I'm like this is exhausting for someone like me that is exhausting, doesn't care.

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Can you tell the difference between, like like you said, men from Scottsdale or someone from the Midwest?

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I hear the Midwest guys are the Midwest guys are so so, so nice.

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I went on a date with I actually went on two dates with one from the Midwest.

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He was from Nebraska and he was the nicest man that I have been on a date with since moving to Scottsdale.

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Is that why there was no third date?

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That's why there was no third date.

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I was just like you might just be too nice for me, but he was like such a gentleman opened the car door, Like he even like, made it a point to stand on the side closer to the road, and like you just don't see that anymore.

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Like the last guy I really liked, I remember I sat in the car waiting for him to open the car door and he, we were just at the gas station and he was already inside of the gas station and I was like just sitting in the car, I was like homie really doesn't get it.

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Yeah, no, so like that kind of stuff is just like out the window.

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But the Midwest guys are so nice and you can tell immediately.

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So nice guys kind of do finish last day they.

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So nice guys kind of do finish last day they do you know what?

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Give Nebraska guy like another year to get acclimated to the Scottsdale scene and then he'll probably be just right for you.

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The hard part is I am so not into Scottsdale guys, because they're so into like how they look and how like they come off.

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And one guy came up to me he's like where do you live?

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And I told him.

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He's like oh, you're in the 85257 zip code south scottsdale.

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I was like, oh god, forbid.

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I live on the border of tempe.

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Are you serious?

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I'm a judge for that.

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Yeah, I'm like everyone's fighting for the 85251.

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I'm like this is crazy.

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So I will tell you this, lindsey, when I was buying my place this was back in 2014 I my friend who was my real estate agent I specifically told her I would not look at homes in 85257 for that reason I was like the fact that I gave him my crossroads and he immediately knew I was like I don't even remember my zip code sometimes, so for you to just know off the bat is wild, my friend.

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It's really.

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It's just everything's just like fighting for like the next best thing.

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It's crazy.

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But then half of them, the men and the women, it's.

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I mean, you can't say just men right.

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Oh, it's totally women too, because it's the women too yeah.

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They don't even have it like that.

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They just pretend like they do.

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You have the $30,000 millionaires, and then you have the women who have 150,000 followers and they have the BBL, and they have the lips and the hair and all of this, but they're sleeping on a mattress on the floor.

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They don't even have a bed frame.

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Like it's, like it's all this, it's just for show for image.

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It's not even real.

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Half of it, probably probably 75 of it, isn't even real would you say there are a lot of gold diggers out there in scottsdale it's hard for me to say a gold digger, but there are so many women that are like, if you're not going to do anything for me, then why would I spend my time speaking to you?

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Kind of thing where it's like, if I can't benefit from this conversation at all in any way, shape or form, there's no point in having it, and that's what's kind of like wild to me because I'll talk to anybody.

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I would tell a homeless person my life story if they wanted to listen to it.

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But when you date, do you expect a guy to drive a certain car or make a certain amount of money?

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no, I like will fall in love with literally anybody, I think.

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Last night I was out at a bar and I fell in love with the bartender.

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I was like oh my gosh, the bartender is so cute.

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But then also I would date an engineer.

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Well, I don't know if we could have conversations, he might be too smart for me, but but you know, like I really don't care about those things, as long as you're nice, funny and you do what you say you're going to do.

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That's really all that I ask for.

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I don't need everything else.

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But there's girls that are like I won't date somebody if they're not making $200,000 a year.

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Okay, that's a good start.

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Have you ever thought about doing Sugar Baby or anything like that, or have you ever been approached to do that?

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I've been approached once in person and it's so funny.

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I was at in and out and I was eating.

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I was eating a double double like in sweatpants.

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And this guy's like, oh, this girl needs some help.

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And so he comes up to me.

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He's like what do you do for work?

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I say I'm a hairstylist.

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He's like, well, do you need any extra income?

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And I was like what?

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Like literally no makeup on eating double double by myself, just enjoying my five minutes.

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And he's like do you mind if I sit down?

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He's like I guess like have a seat.

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He's like six thousand dollars a month.

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I want to see you once a week dinner.

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I live in Tempe, and that's all.

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I was like just for dinner.

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And he's like well, we'd hook up too.

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And I was like was he good looking?

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no, he was not good looking, I wasn't attracted to him.

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How old was he?

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he was probably in his like late 50s and for me, like I just can't date older than 35.

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I don't shame anyone who can have like a big age gap, but I I am just like so, so, so, so, so close to my dad and like my dad's 56, and I'm like I cannot date someone that's similar to age in my dad.

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Like I feel like I'm like dating one of his friends.

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And how would he feel if you bring home your boyfriend and they're the same age?

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My dad would be so pissed he would be like this is not happening unless I was like this is the love of my life.

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My dad would be like okay, but he would not be comfy.

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Just like I wouldn't be cool if he was like this is my 27 year old girlfriend.

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Right, I'd be like she's gotta go actually.

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So, um yeah, I said no.

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He continued to try for probably like a month.

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He's like please, and I was like I really can't do this, wait, so you exchanged contact information with him, then yeah, cause.

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I gave him my, he gave me his number and then my friend, I was like call this number because it was the in and out that really is really close to ASU and I was like what if he's like a sex trafficker?

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Right so.

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I was like call this number and see if this guy answers.

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And he did.

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And I was like okay, so it's legit.

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And I was like so what are like?

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What are you looking for?

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Because I was like what if I'm solving like a sex trafficking thing?

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And then I realized I was like no, he's just a real dude that really wants a sugar baby.

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And I was like okay, I'm out on this one.

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But I wondered, does he actually have $6,000 a month to give?

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I remember you dated a guy that falsely promised women money in exchange for pictures.

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Him, the pictures, he blocked them.

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Yeah never gave them money, but this guy wanted an in-person companion, which is which is a little bit different.

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He really wanted an open relationship yeah, he was willing to pay for yeah, six thousand a month dang I know one night a week.

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I know I was like it's not a bad deal.

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If you think about it.

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I was like, if he was hot, I would have been like okay, maybe but I was so unattractive to him I was like there's no way it's.

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It's true.

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If he was hot, that would change everything.

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Yeah, because I was like I might hook up with you for free.

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And now I'm just getting $1,000 out of it Like, okay yeah, easy peasy yeah.

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I know that's the thing I say.

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I'm like I wish sometimes my eyeballs different and I don't understand the women that are able to just look past all of that for the money.

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I don't understand it.

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I will never understand it.

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No, I was friends with a girl for a really, really short period of time, like a couple months maybe, and she was telling me that she had a sugar daddy at one point paid her $10,000 to have sex with him.

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I was like I don't think that it was ten thousand for one time.

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But okay, whatever your story is your story.

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And she was like money changes everything, like someone's gonna give me ten thousand dollars and I was like I couldn't.

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I couldn't, I couldn't do it?

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I couldn't either.

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And then what do you guys think about the women who say because there are also women out there who are like no, they're just paying for companionship, I don't even.

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They're lying right, right.

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I have heard so many sugar daddy stories, and especially in old town, and the girls were like, well, I don't have to sleep with him.

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Yes, you do he's not paying for a pen pal.

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Thank you, I agree.

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They just think now they don't want to be labeled a slut, so that's what they tell themselves.

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But I feel like they all expect sex.

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No, for that kind of money yeah, no, guy is like, I'm gonna pay this girl five thousand dollars to sit at dinner with me.

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Yeah, just for just to have a cute little thing on my arm and to have a good conversation?

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absolutely not so my thing is, because I know a lot of women that are with men just for the money and in relationships.

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But you have to travel with them, you have to spend time with them, you have to wake up next to them like how bought, if you're not connected, you know I couldn't do it.

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You couldn't pay me the amount of money in the world to sleep next to a man that I did not like.

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You could be in bora bora or fiji, but you're with him.

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Yeah, no, it's just and like that's.

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The thing is like the scottsdale men, like with money.

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They just think that their money is going to get them any girl that they want which, sadly, probably it does work.

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It does a lot of times, I think yeah, I think it does I think it does it.

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It does enough times to make them continue to try to make that offer on a regular basis.

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I mean it's crazy to me, Like I know a couple of guys that are loaded millionaires and they are not attractive at all, but they get the most beautiful women and I'm like you are lucky you have money, because you would be screwed.

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Yeah, literally.

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I would say I get approached more often by guys that are probably 38 and above than I do guys my age, or it's like 22 to 24.

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The 22 to 24-year-olds they are out on the prowl and they will talk to anybody.

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They're bold too, aren't they?

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Yeah, and then I'm like I'm 27, and they're like oh, you're old, I'm like why, you didn't think I was until you heard my age, so whatever.

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So are you on the dating apps?

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I'm on raya, so I'm only on raya.

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I was on hinge for a little bit.

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Hinge is just very overwhelming.

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It's like there's so many people on hinge and I went on one date from hinge.

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That was so incredibly atrocious how so?

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It was the worst date I've ever been on oh tell us about it.

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You don't have to say his name or give any identifying information.

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Talk about it and I actually ran into him last weekend at the bar and I didn't even recognize him.

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He like tapped me as I was walking by and he goes, hey, and I was like hi, it's like, do you remember me?

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It's like we went on a date here and I was like, oh yeah, and I then I was like it all clicked.

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I was like I gotta go bye.

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But essentially he picked me up and the minute I walked out of my apartment you know when you're just like no, like right off the bat I walked outside and I was like no, I wish I could just turn around.

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I wish I could just go back in my apartment.

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He opens the car door, trash everywhere, and I was like you couldn't even like stop in a circle, okay, and throw it away.

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Throw it in your back seat, like something.

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No, and he was like, and he didn't even say like sorry about the mess.

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So I was like okay, so you're already a messy person.

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He wanted to go to dinner.

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He didn't have a place planned of where he was going to dinner.

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I immediately knew I was not going to be able to make it through a dinner.

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I said how about we just go to this bar right around the corner?

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I always go there.

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Then I was like it's In-N-Out, easy peasy.

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He's like yeah, that works.

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Orders a double whiskey with water at 6 pm.

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So I was like so you're a heavy drinker.

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Anyone ordering a double whiskey water?

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at a dive bar is wild.

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Yeah.

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At happy hour time yeah, I'm like no no, no, no, no so then.

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So then, um, he goes to open a tab no debit card, what doesn't he?

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She's like do you have a card?

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He's like fumbling through his wallet nothing.

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And I was like, how were you gonna pay for dinner?

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Like, was I gonna pay, which?

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I mean like I have my wallet because I come prepared, but I mean this is crazy.

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So there was that.

00:15:01.645 --> 00:15:06.923
So he like hands this the bartender like a crumpled up like 12 dollars in, like a ball.

00:15:06.923 --> 00:15:08.206
Oh my god.

00:15:08.206 --> 00:15:14.081
I was like I'm mortified right now, truly mortified, and he goes and, by the way, did you know that I have a kid?

00:15:14.081 --> 00:15:19.130
Oh, and I was like, no, sure, didn't.

00:15:19.130 --> 00:15:22.543
So I was like, okay, well, this is already like so done.

00:15:22.543 --> 00:15:27.073
Every question he asked me when I would be like halfway through answering it, pulled out his phone.

00:15:27.956 --> 00:15:28.518
Oh, that's annoying.

00:15:28.518 --> 00:15:29.340
Are you serious?

00:15:29.419 --> 00:15:35.826
Pulled out his phone every time and I was just like, finally, after like the fourth question, I was like do you even care what I'm saying?

00:15:35.826 --> 00:15:36.750
I started making things up.

00:15:36.750 --> 00:15:38.961
I was like I'm just going to start telling lies here.

00:15:38.961 --> 00:15:42.966
And then he was in the middle of telling me a story and I was like I cannot do this anymore.

00:15:42.966 --> 00:15:44.908
I said can we leave?

00:15:44.908 --> 00:15:45.668
Can you take me home?

00:15:45.668 --> 00:15:48.150
And I was like, if you can't take me home, I'm going to Uber.

00:15:48.150 --> 00:15:49.131
I cannot do this anymore.

00:15:49.131 --> 00:15:53.037
And I walked into my apartment and blocked his number immediately.

00:15:54.441 --> 00:15:55.466
I was like we never need to speak to each other.

00:15:55.466 --> 00:15:57.500
How do you have a child but you don't have a credit card or a debit card?

00:15:59.982 --> 00:16:00.464
No was crazy.

00:16:00.464 --> 00:16:03.168
And he was 29 and I was like, what do you do for work?

00:16:03.168 --> 00:16:05.191
He's like, well, I work at a golf club.

00:16:05.191 --> 00:16:06.974
And I was like, oh, okay, like is that like your career?

00:16:06.974 --> 00:16:08.982
He's like no, she's kind of like an in-between thing right now.

00:16:08.982 --> 00:16:14.986
I don't really know what I want to do oh, that's unattractive, I was like 29 with a kid and you like haven't figured out a career yet.

00:16:14.986 --> 00:16:15.889
Yeah, no.

00:16:16.070 --> 00:16:22.130
So now you're done with hinge, you're done with the peasants and you're only on Raya yeah, what I was done with hinge after that.

00:16:22.250 --> 00:16:36.542
And then I applied for Raya a while ago when my hair client was getting her hair done and this is just like the vein part of me is she was swiping Raya while getting her hair done and I saw on her phone a guy that I knew and I was like wait, that guy is so hot.

00:16:36.542 --> 00:16:50.174
I was like he's on Raya and she's like, yeah, I've matched them a couple of times and so from that day I was I'm gonna get on Raya just to get this guy to match with me and that's all I need.

00:16:50.174 --> 00:16:50.780
I don't need to go on a date from Raya.

00:16:50.780 --> 00:16:52.731
So I got accepted to Raya a few months later and, um, I matched with him.

00:16:52.731 --> 00:16:53.397
I was like, okay, my work here is done.

00:16:53.397 --> 00:16:54.340
That's all I needed to know.

00:16:54.379 --> 00:16:56.644
just my little ego so did you, did you go out with him.

00:16:56.783 --> 00:16:57.384
Did you talk to him?

00:16:57.384 --> 00:17:04.674
No, so I know him outside of, like the dating apps okay, I just wanted like the proof that he thought that I was attractive.

00:17:06.482 --> 00:17:06.967
It was my ego.

00:17:06.967 --> 00:17:08.036
You wanted to know that he would match you.

00:17:08.036 --> 00:17:08.440
Yeah, exactly.

00:17:08.720 --> 00:17:11.009
I wanted him to be like oh, Emily, yeah.

00:17:11.560 --> 00:17:14.227
You didn't actually want to go on a date with him, you just wanted.

00:17:14.571 --> 00:17:16.579
That's hilarious, that man is all over Old Town.

00:17:16.579 --> 00:17:17.766
I see him out all the time.

00:17:17.766 --> 00:17:25.824
I do not need to be in the mix of that validation that he thought I was attractive.

00:17:25.844 --> 00:17:26.547
Oh my god, just how my brain works.

00:17:26.547 --> 00:17:27.833
So you had mentioned that you had walked out on a date mid-date.

00:17:27.833 --> 00:17:28.938
Was that the one that you were just telling?

00:17:28.938 --> 00:17:30.784
Yeah, that was where I stopped at mid-date.

00:17:30.903 --> 00:17:33.770
I was like I cannot do this, had he not picked me up.

00:17:33.770 --> 00:17:36.263
And I don't know why I let this man pick me up.

00:17:36.263 --> 00:17:42.186
I'm always like, yeah, I guess you can pick me up, because I'm like do I really want to put in any effort on the first date?

00:17:42.186 --> 00:17:44.394
No, I don't.

00:17:45.016 --> 00:17:56.230
I want to, but also then you have to give someone that you don't know your address so for me I'm like hopefully they're not crazy and I haven't had an issue, but I people always like he has your address.

00:17:56.230 --> 00:18:08.086
I'm like I live in an apartment that is true, and my apartment building is an indoor apartment building so he doesn't know, like my front door or anything, and I always go out of like the front office okay, and is there a gate?

00:18:08.828 --> 00:18:16.364
I feel like if there's a gate, there's not a gate to get into the parking lot, but there's like fobs to get in the door you can't get in the door, yeah, so yeah, that's true.

00:18:16.364 --> 00:18:19.621
Then you're fairly safe, as long as you don't give the apartment number yeah, yeah.

00:18:19.941 --> 00:18:22.406
So you're a hairstylist and a server.

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Where do do you serve at?

00:18:23.249 --> 00:18:39.039
So I serve in old town oh do you meet a lot of men there that hit on you that one would literally blow your mind Like the amount of like bachelor parties that come in there and it's always the married men that are just hitting on the servers Like it's nobody's business.

00:18:39.039 --> 00:18:40.804
It's always the married ones.

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The single ones don't care, the one getting married doesn't care, the married men on the bachelor trips are-.

00:18:47.262 --> 00:18:48.490
Why is that Interesting?

00:18:48.490 --> 00:18:50.577
Because they're away from their wives and it's like freedom.

00:18:50.809 --> 00:18:53.398
Yeah, they're like I'm away from my wife Like I don't care.

00:18:53.398 --> 00:19:04.954
No, I had a guy one time ask me three separate times for my number at a table with his wedding ring on, and after the third time I had to be like hello, Like are we going to talk about this situation?

00:19:04.954 --> 00:19:08.438
Like the wedding ring on your finger, what's happening?

00:19:08.438 --> 00:19:09.839
They're always the one that are inviting you.

00:19:09.839 --> 00:19:11.520
They're like we have a table at Maya.

00:19:11.721 --> 00:19:12.082
Oh God.

00:19:12.722 --> 00:19:13.723
Oh gross.

00:19:13.763 --> 00:19:15.244
What's the excuse Like?

00:19:15.244 --> 00:19:16.787
What's the excuse for being married?

00:19:16.787 --> 00:19:20.176
Do they ever have any shame in it?

00:19:20.176 --> 00:19:21.630
Or is it just like oh, this whole thing, yeah.

00:19:23.076 --> 00:19:23.921
Why are you like dumbasses?

00:19:23.921 --> 00:19:29.172
He's like this.

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What are you talking about?

00:19:29.715 --> 00:19:33.817
I've once watched a guy take his wedding ring off and put it in his pocket at a bar Cringe I was out with my coworkers after work one night.

00:19:33.950 --> 00:19:38.478
This guy comes up to us and he's like, hey, I'm here with my boss, he's also my friend.

00:19:38.478 --> 00:19:39.875
He's going to make a huge mistake.

00:19:39.875 --> 00:19:41.537
We're in this little tiny dive bar.

00:19:41.537 --> 00:19:53.457
He is hitting on this girl the biggest boobs Like she, the biggest boobs like she is in like a spaghetti strap top, like it's just a gross scene in the corner happening.

00:19:53.457 --> 00:19:54.641
I'm like yikes, he's like he's gonna do something he doesn't want to do.

00:19:54.641 --> 00:19:57.558
I need him to come over here and talk to you guys and I was like I'm not here to save your friend from doing something that he's probably gonna do anyway.

00:19:58.040 --> 00:19:59.205
Like what am I gonna do with this?

00:19:59.205 --> 00:20:03.756
So the guy comes over, he has his wedding ring on or he doesn't have it on yet.

00:20:03.756 --> 00:20:05.419
Because I said, said, I was like oh, I heard you were married.

00:20:05.419 --> 00:20:08.904
He pulls his wedding ring out of his pocket and I was like that's disgusting.

00:20:08.904 --> 00:20:11.675
You're talking to a girl at your wedding rings in your pocket.

00:20:11.675 --> 00:20:13.842
He's like, oh, he was so wasted.

00:20:13.842 --> 00:20:17.570
He didn't even like make a coherent statement, walked back over to the girl.

00:20:17.570 --> 00:20:19.952
I watched him take his wedding ring off and put it back in.

00:20:20.113 --> 00:20:21.834
And.

00:20:22.054 --> 00:20:25.576
I know that girl doesn't even care if you were wearing it on your head.

00:20:26.457 --> 00:20:28.459
These poor wives.

00:20:28.558 --> 00:20:30.759
I know and I was like why would I say that?

00:20:30.759 --> 00:20:32.842
I hope his wife finds out and leaves him.

00:20:32.842 --> 00:20:50.178
Like if this is what he does on business trips, Right, and that's the one thing I think Scottsdale is hard is there's so many people from out of town, Like you get so many bachelor parties, so many bachelorette parties, and everyone thinks what happens on those trips like stays on those trips and it's just like a really gross scene.

00:20:50.178 --> 00:20:50.478
Yeah and.

00:20:50.498 --> 00:20:57.726
I feel like people come to Scottsdale like, oh, it's like a mini Vegas it and I think it's changed a lot when we used to go out years ago.

00:20:58.090 --> 00:21:00.819
You met a lot of local people it was.

00:21:00.819 --> 00:21:01.843
Everybody was local.

00:21:01.843 --> 00:21:21.954
This wasn't a destination for people to come visit, and so it's like you went out in old town, scottsdale, and the guy that you met lived five minutes away, because everyone was local yeah and over the years, over the last, like 10-12 years, it's become this well now Scottsdale's the number two place in the nation for bachelor bachelorette parties, after Nashville.

00:21:22.095 --> 00:21:22.936
They're every.

00:21:23.278 --> 00:21:30.315
Yeah, it's crazy, it's non-stop and they're everywhere and they're causing a ruckus I don't like it, I don't know.

00:21:30.355 --> 00:21:32.281
No, no, no, thank god we're over that scene now.

00:21:32.603 --> 00:21:38.354
Yeah, every time I'm out, these guys will come talk to me and I just know they're from out of town because they have, like, their birkenstocks on.

00:21:38.354 --> 00:21:42.366
I'm like, oh, you're probably from michigan, like sure enough.

00:21:42.386 --> 00:21:46.096
They are like wearing shorts in the middle of winter because they think it's so warm.

00:21:46.116 --> 00:21:49.625
They're like beet red from being out in the sun all day but golfing.

00:21:49.625 --> 00:21:53.714
And they're like, yeah, I'm here on a bachelor trip and I'm like, of course you are surprise, surprise.

00:21:53.775 --> 00:21:55.238
Yeah, I'm like never shocked.

00:21:55.278 --> 00:21:57.772
I never meet a local, so I just make up stories.

00:21:57.772 --> 00:22:00.891
When I'm at the bar I'm like I'm never gonna see these people again, right, what do they care?

00:22:01.172 --> 00:22:01.932
so what are you looking for?

00:22:01.932 --> 00:22:03.476
Are you looking to get married, have kids?

00:22:03.856 --> 00:22:07.482
I think, yes, eventually I would love to get married and have kids.

00:22:07.482 --> 00:22:11.477
I just don't think it's in my cards right now.

00:22:11.477 --> 00:22:21.471
So I'm just I go on a date every couple months to keep my feet wet, but I know that I'm not looking for anything serious, like there's not a spot to be filled right now.

00:22:21.471 --> 00:22:30.476
But if I met the person, then I would be like, okay, like I can do this, but I'm not actively like, oh my God, I, I gotta get married by 29.

00:22:30.496 --> 00:22:32.765
But you're open to it to meet the right person 100%.

00:22:32.825 --> 00:22:35.857
I'm open to whatever because I think you can meet the right person anywhere.

00:22:35.857 --> 00:22:37.345
Like when I say I'm on Raya.

00:22:37.345 --> 00:22:39.392
I check my Raya app maybe once a week.

00:22:40.394 --> 00:22:44.503
Do you feel like you give guys false hope, or are you up front usually?

00:22:50.029 --> 00:22:50.592
I think I'm pretty up front.

00:22:50.592 --> 00:22:51.435
I was just on a date last weekend.

00:22:51.435 --> 00:22:52.038
I was set up by my uncle.

00:22:52.038 --> 00:22:52.661
This guy was 22.

00:22:52.681 --> 00:22:58.460
So already I was like that is a little young for me but just bought a house, like owns a business super successful, all things, super nice guy.

00:22:58.460 --> 00:22:59.241
But I was pretty open.

00:22:59.241 --> 00:23:07.902
I was like, look, I like to go out and I like to have fun with my friends and that's my priority right now, Like my priorities are working, going out with my friends and my dog.

00:23:07.902 --> 00:23:11.326
You know I'm like dating is just not up there.

00:23:11.326 --> 00:23:13.369
But I'm open to dating.

00:23:13.369 --> 00:23:18.500
It's not like my lifelong thing right now and what would you say?

00:23:18.540 --> 00:23:22.517
your deal breakers are my deal breakers.

00:23:23.179 --> 00:23:30.317
Definitely I won't date someone that has kids only because I had a stepdad and me and my stepdad never got along.

00:23:30.317 --> 00:23:32.278
So I was like I will never be a step parent.

00:23:32.278 --> 00:23:50.863
Someone who has no motivation, like if there's a lack of motivation or drive there and if they don't work out and it's not even like for like physical, like looks reasons, it's more just like if you can't even take care care of yourself, how are you going to take care of me?

00:23:50.863 --> 00:23:51.807
You know?

00:23:51.867 --> 00:23:52.009
things.

00:23:52.009 --> 00:23:59.855
So if you can't clean your car out exactly, I'm like, if this is what your car looks like your apartment's probably worse oh god, yeah, can you imagine?

00:23:59.855 --> 00:24:04.313
I bet he doesn't make his bed oh, I bet he does not make his bed.

00:24:04.492 --> 00:24:12.480
I don't judge a non-bed maker because I make my bed maybe three times a week, because I find getting into an unmade bed so much comfier.

00:24:13.402 --> 00:24:16.698
Really no, no, no, no.

00:24:16.698 --> 00:24:18.195
I do not agree at all.

00:24:18.369 --> 00:24:25.873
But if it's just you at home, like often when I'm home alone, and it's just going to be me there all day and I'm just going to get back in it in a few hours, what's the point of making it just to?

00:24:25.992 --> 00:24:26.594
unmake it again.

00:24:26.594 --> 00:24:33.393
I will say I do feel like my life is really together when I walk in my room and it is made, but I'm never like, oh, I gotta make my bed.

00:24:33.393 --> 00:24:37.083
But I was talking to a guy for a little bit and he was a big bed.

00:24:37.083 --> 00:24:40.462
I feel like he was slightly a perfectionist but like didn't want to come off that.

00:24:40.462 --> 00:24:41.105
He was that way.

00:24:41.105 --> 00:24:45.454
And one morning like I got a bed, I was like eating breakfast and I like come into a room.

00:24:45.454 --> 00:24:46.497
He's like making my bed.

00:24:46.497 --> 00:24:47.278
I'm like what are you doing?

00:24:47.278 --> 00:24:48.420
I don't make my bed.

00:24:48.839 --> 00:24:51.023
He's like you have to make your bed well.

00:24:51.023 --> 00:24:57.021
So on the weekends I don't make my bed right away, because I'll go make my coffee and then I'll get back into bed.

00:24:57.021 --> 00:25:01.440
Yeah, so I like to watch my like cooking shows on the weekends in bed while I have my coffee.

00:25:01.780 --> 00:25:05.457
so I'm not always like a freak about getting up right away and making my bed.

00:25:05.457 --> 00:25:17.124
I'll lounge in an unmade bed during the day, but at night, when I'm ready to go to bed for the night, it has to be made at some point in the day.

00:25:17.690 --> 00:25:18.031
That's so funny.

00:25:18.031 --> 00:25:19.657
So describe your ideal partner.

00:25:19.657 --> 00:25:25.294
Oh see, I've got to be a dick I've been working on working on this one in therapy.

00:25:25.314 --> 00:25:26.695
I've been working on this one in therapy.

00:25:26.695 --> 00:25:28.176
I would say he has to be funny.

00:25:28.176 --> 00:25:43.395
He has to be someone that is just like go with the flow, but also is like somebody who like has a plan, if that makes sense, like I want someone to tell me this is where we're going and this is what time, and that's all that I need to know and I can just like follow along.

00:25:43.395 --> 00:25:48.391
Those are probably like my biggest things and the rest kind of just like falls into place for me.

00:25:48.391 --> 00:25:55.900
But I always find myself I'm either like I like someone or I don't like them at all, and I can't give you one single reason why I like them or why I don't.

00:25:55.900 --> 00:25:59.676
It's an awful quality that I have for sure.

00:26:00.116 --> 00:26:01.279
So you said you've been cheated on.

00:26:01.882 --> 00:26:02.122
Yeah.

00:26:02.162 --> 00:26:02.851
How did you find out?

00:26:04.093 --> 00:26:12.075
So this was in my five year relationship relationship I you know like woman's intuition never lies five years and he cheated.

00:26:12.075 --> 00:26:14.020
Oh, but he cheated in the beginning.

00:26:14.020 --> 00:26:25.570
So we had just moved in together when I found out, and I was 21 at the time and I remember, right before I moved out, my dad was like I hope you know this is the worst decision that you've ever made, because I went from living at home to living with a boyfriend.

00:26:25.550 --> 00:26:26.434
I never did like a roommate thing, a college thing, anything.

00:26:26.434 --> 00:26:27.057
Never lived by yourself, never lived by myself.

00:26:27.057 --> 00:26:28.644
My dad's like this is the worst decision that you've ever made, because I went from living at home to living with a boyfriend.

00:26:28.624 --> 00:26:30.029
I never did like a roommate thing, a college thing, anything never lived by yourself, never lived by myself.

00:26:30.029 --> 00:26:31.634
My dad's like this is the worst decision that you're ever gonna make.

00:26:31.634 --> 00:26:34.250
And I 100% looking back and do with my dad.

00:26:34.250 --> 00:26:34.712
Yeah.

00:26:34.712 --> 00:26:41.894
So I had found out probably like a month into moving in and I was like, well, I just made everyone sign this lease, like I can't get out of it, like I'm stuck.

00:26:41.894 --> 00:26:43.196
And then COVID happened.

00:26:43.196 --> 00:26:49.846
So it was just like a spiral, like I kept, just kept staying and all of a sudden, like it is four years later, I'm like what the am I doing here still?

00:26:50.607 --> 00:26:55.298
But I woke up one morning and I was like the first thing on my eyes, he's cheating on you.

00:26:55.298 --> 00:26:57.415
And I was like where did that come from?

00:26:57.415 --> 00:27:02.573
And so I was like maybe not like I'm being like, and I was like it was just like in my head like he's cheating on you.

00:27:02.573 --> 00:27:11.832
And so one night he was a I'm going to wake up.

00:27:11.832 --> 00:27:15.101
And I found these messages from this girl that were.

00:27:15.101 --> 00:27:16.556
I found them in October.

00:27:16.556 --> 00:27:24.479
These messages were from July, so before we moved in together and it was like I need you to get a paternity test for my kid.

00:27:24.479 --> 00:27:30.298
She's like the baby daddy doesn't believe that he's the dad, cause he saw pictures of us together and there was.

00:27:30.298 --> 00:27:45.039
This is from like months and months prior, but we were still dating at that time and in my head, looking back, now being 27, I was like the only reason she wanted you to get a paternity test because she thought you were the dad and wanted you to pay and wanted like the proof that you were the dad.

00:27:45.361 --> 00:27:49.105
So she's like trying to say, oh well, the dad, to kind of get you to like just go, yeah.

00:27:49.105 --> 00:27:57.173
So I was like he's totally the father of this kid, like without a doubt in my mind looking back, but at the time I was like maybe I'm thinking too much into it.

00:27:57.173 --> 00:27:59.082
But yeah, no, I found all these.

00:27:59.082 --> 00:28:03.623
I was just like I remember hanging out with you this, this, this and this time and it was like multiple times they'd hung out.

00:28:04.306 --> 00:28:12.214
And then I remember there was another time I had, like, opened his phone to take a picture of the dogs and there was like a girl in her broad underwear on like and I was like, what is this he's like?

00:28:12.275 --> 00:28:21.419
I accidentally screenshotted that on you have to click two separate buttons at the same time to screenshot my friend.

00:28:21.419 --> 00:28:21.941
So crazy.

00:28:21.941 --> 00:28:22.864
And even if you did?

00:28:22.904 --> 00:28:23.827
why was it not deleted?

00:28:23.827 --> 00:28:27.663
And also, why were you looking at it like my penis accidentally fell?

00:28:27.663 --> 00:28:29.810
Into a vagina literally like.

00:28:29.810 --> 00:28:32.500
Everything's like an accident like, and it's an accident like.

00:28:32.621 --> 00:28:35.256
No, it's not did you break up with him after that?

00:28:35.576 --> 00:28:37.913
so I broke up with him on like a random Saturday.

00:28:37.913 --> 00:28:43.013
I one day just woke up and I was like this is so done, like I'm not gonna look past anything.

00:28:43.013 --> 00:28:46.371
I always just tried to look past it because I was like I loved his family.

00:28:46.371 --> 00:28:51.731
We had a dog together that I knew he was gonna take the dog if we broke up and it was just more like convenient.

00:28:51.892 --> 00:28:59.688
And then one day I woke up and I was like I cannot, this cannot be my life anymore, and I had no plan of where I was going to go, what I was going to do, anything.

00:28:59.708 --> 00:29:00.789
So I just woke up with him.

00:29:00.789 --> 00:29:02.355
How did you get into his phone?

00:29:02.355 --> 00:29:02.915
By the way?

00:29:02.915 --> 00:29:04.098
Did you have his password?

00:29:04.098 --> 00:29:16.700
Or we knew each other's passwords so this is my question if you're a man who's cheating and you're keeping records of your infidelities, you're just idiots why, that is so stupid.

00:29:16.700 --> 00:29:19.313
Like you know, that's in your phone is like we.

00:29:19.634 --> 00:29:24.721
He had told me he's like we can always go through each other's phones, like I always want to be able to go through yours and everyone.

00:29:24.721 --> 00:29:25.324
He never did.

00:29:25.324 --> 00:29:26.811
I will say that he never really did.

00:29:26.811 --> 00:29:29.080
I also had nothing to hide, so why would I care?

00:29:29.080 --> 00:29:32.512
Um, but he's like, you can always go through mine whenever you want.

00:29:32.512 --> 00:29:36.692
I went through it that one time and I was like, well, this was enough for me.

00:29:36.732 --> 00:29:42.397
I don't need to do this again and I, when I told him in the morning, I was like hey, so I went through your phone and I found these messages.

00:29:42.397 --> 00:29:44.671
He's like you went through my phone.

00:29:44.691 --> 00:29:47.794
I was like yeah actually I did.

00:29:47.854 --> 00:29:51.176
We lived together, we, I did, and I found you cheating on me with a girl.

00:29:51.176 --> 00:29:57.262
That all of this could have been avoided, because had I found that out before we moved in together, I probably would have broken up with him.

00:29:57.343 --> 00:30:02.166
Yeah, the moving in situation made it so much worse.

00:30:02.549 --> 00:30:04.515
I love it how they always spin it what.

00:30:04.575 --> 00:30:07.301
You went through my phone Invasion of privacy.

00:30:07.541 --> 00:30:09.893
Yeah, I'm like you look like the crazy one.

00:30:09.972 --> 00:30:11.276
I'm like, actually we share a badge.

00:30:11.276 --> 00:30:16.345
I'm sorry, If we share a bedroom and a bathroom and a bed and a dog, I can go through your phone.

00:30:16.991 --> 00:30:17.836
Yeah, 100%.

00:30:18.832 --> 00:30:20.696
And if you're not hiding anything, then you won't care.

00:30:20.696 --> 00:30:21.839
You know what I mean?

00:30:21.839 --> 00:30:26.340
Yeah, but I would never go through a guy that I'm not living with or dating, or a situation.

00:30:26.340 --> 00:30:28.578
I know girls that will go through their situations.

00:30:28.578 --> 00:30:30.375
I'm like what the hell is wrong with you?

00:30:30.375 --> 00:30:31.740
Yeah, why are you doing that?

00:30:31.740 --> 00:30:36.691
Yeah, doing that.

00:30:36.711 --> 00:30:39.519
Yeah, there's no, there's no reason for that and you're also just hurting your own, exactly like because you're gonna find something.

00:30:39.519 --> 00:30:45.641
Yeah, if you're in a situation ship and you haven't determined any sort of exclusivity, you're going to find things in there that you don't like.

00:30:45.801 --> 00:30:58.224
I was in one situation ship and I told myself I was like I will never do that to myself again that was the worst time of my life oh, you're just a lover girl secretly deep down, deep down I am, and it's always like they get it.

00:30:58.224 --> 00:31:00.654
And then they're like, oh, no, no, no, no.

00:31:00.654 --> 00:31:07.576
And I'm like, oh, you guys all just want this like bitch, they do, they all do they want you to be so mean to you

00:31:07.676 --> 00:31:08.859
yeah, it goes both ways right.

00:31:09.280 --> 00:31:14.344
Yeah, and women want their dicks, yeah and, if I like say that, on tiktok, all the men always come for me.

00:31:14.344 --> 00:31:17.397
On tiktok, really, oh, the men on TikTok hate me.

00:31:18.170 --> 00:31:22.416
Because you say they like toxic women, because I just say everything about men that they don't like to hear.

00:31:23.298 --> 00:31:23.901
What's the truth?

00:31:23.901 --> 00:31:24.000
The?

00:31:24.020 --> 00:31:24.663
truth hurts.

00:31:24.663 --> 00:31:26.978
They don't like to hear the truth about themselves.

00:31:26.978 --> 00:31:30.180
I made a TikTok last night about how I make up lies at the bar right.

00:31:39.769 --> 00:31:41.452
And my lie is like I was wearing a shirt and I told someone that I made it myself, or I tell them, so they're harmless.

00:31:41.375 --> 00:31:42.021
It's a harmless lie.

00:31:42.021 --> 00:31:43.806
I'm not like making up this elaborate lie that I was like in an accident and I survived.

00:31:43.806 --> 00:31:44.888
No, I'm like, oh, I knit my shirt myself.

00:31:44.888 --> 00:31:51.211
The amount of guys who comment it's not like this is toxic behavior, Like you're such a narcissist, all of these things, and I was like are you kidding me right now?

00:31:51.231 --> 00:31:54.414
And you're like it's meant to be cheeky, it's not meant to be like.

00:31:54.575 --> 00:31:57.656
I'm not telling like the world's craziest lie here.

00:31:57.656 --> 00:32:00.740
I told someone I was a professional bull rider at Buffalo Chip.

00:32:00.740 --> 00:32:04.383
I'm like, I'm sorry if you believe that that's your problem, not mine.

00:32:04.403 --> 00:32:09.646
Also, just ask me to get on the bull, and you will see that I, in fact, am not a professional bull rider.

00:32:11.549 --> 00:32:12.192
Her head proved that was a lie.

00:32:12.212 --> 00:32:16.048
Yeah, my friend told her, told him she was like, yeah, she stays on for five minutes.

00:32:16.048 --> 00:32:16.871
They're like no way.

00:32:16.871 --> 00:32:21.541
I'm like who is staying on a bowl for five minutes, realistically like who?

00:32:21.682 --> 00:32:22.222
is doing that.

00:32:23.171 --> 00:32:35.894
Oh they just oh, they love to be so mean to me in my comments I made one one time about how women, or people in general, need to stop telling women who haven't had kids yet at a certain age that they need to hurry up.

00:32:35.933 --> 00:32:42.980
Yeah, I was like ticking yeah, and I was like I think that's just such a comment that doesn't need to be said, because there's a lot of reasons why maybe a woman hasn't had kids yet.

00:32:42.980 --> 00:32:47.259
Women were all like, yes, like this is great, like we need to stop saying that.

00:32:47.259 --> 00:32:57.655
Men were like well, it is ticking, you need to hurry up, like, if you like, literally it was 300 comments of men just ripping me, like you have no idea what you're talking about.

00:32:57.655 --> 00:32:59.935
You're so dumb, you should never have kids.

00:32:59.935 --> 00:33:02.519
And I was like, oh my God, this is insane.

00:33:02.589 --> 00:33:08.395
Haven't you noticed that like 99.9% of people in TikTok are stupid and ignorant and they're morons?

00:33:08.395 --> 00:33:10.119
Yeah, that are commenting right.

00:33:10.200 --> 00:33:10.961
A hundred percent.

00:33:10.961 --> 00:33:16.403
I'm like I don't need like Billy Joe with 10 baby mamas to tell me that I need to get on it right.

00:33:16.589 --> 00:33:21.411
Then you go and you look at their profile or you look at their picture and you're like who even are you?

00:33:21.431 --> 00:33:22.113
there's no picture.

00:33:22.133 --> 00:33:29.701
They have two followers, yeah and someone caught one of the guys commented and he said the prime age for having kids is late teens to early 20s.

00:33:29.701 --> 00:33:33.815
And I was like, do you like see what you're reading writing before you post it?

00:33:33.815 --> 00:33:36.101
Like, do you actually think about it?

00:33:36.361 --> 00:33:43.267
Actually, statistically, they say it's better to have kids now, when you're later, cause you're a better parent and you can provide for that kid, exactly, exactly.00:33:43.287 --> 00:33:53.096


I'm like they're like have fun with your kid, with like all these special needs, and I was like, oh my God, I was talking to a scientist.00:33:53.115 --> 00:33:55.798


User 27135.00:33:55.798 --> 00:34:00.505


User 27135, where did you get your MD?00:34:02.431 --> 00:34:03.392


Okay, john.00:34:03.432 --> 00:34:04.012


Hopkins.00:34:04.032 --> 00:34:05.295


That's so funny.00:34:05.335 --> 00:34:06.596


They're so ridiculous.00:34:06.656 --> 00:34:11.724


And one guy was like yeah, he's like all your kids are going to have all these issues because after 40.00:34:11.724 --> 00:34:13.045


And I was like I'm 27.00:34:19.329 --> 00:34:20.978


Like I didn't say I was waiting 15 years to have a kid.00:34:20.978 --> 00:34:21.420


Wow, and you're three.00:34:21.420 --> 00:34:22.505


You're three years away from a geriatric pregnancy.00:34:22.505 --> 00:34:22.907


You know that right.00:34:22.927 --> 00:34:30.737


You know that right everyone was commenting about the geriatric pregnancy and I was like, okay that's 35, so you still have plenty of time.00:34:30.757 --> 00:34:31.802


Yeah, oh, is it 35?00:34:31.802 --> 00:34:32.625


I thought it was 30.00:34:32.644 --> 00:34:35.331


I had a geriatric pregnancy, no, but it was like all the men just like love.00:34:35.331 --> 00:34:42.498


I had a jerk, she's like I actually know no, but it was like all the men just like love to comment on things that I was like how, actually, how does this concern you?00:34:42.498 --> 00:34:44.320


Right In what way does it concern you?00:34:44.460 --> 00:34:45.822


But you know what Engagement?00:34:45.822 --> 00:34:47.983


Okay, so just run the numbers.00:34:47.983 --> 00:34:49.625


Sounds like your tip took a killing.00:34:49.644 --> 00:34:51.929


I was like everyone keep engaging, yes, yes.00:34:51.929 --> 00:34:55.938


And then I made one the other day and I was like can men just start telling girls where they're going on a date?00:34:55.938 --> 00:34:57.501


Because guys was like, oh, it's a surprise.00:34:57.501 --> 00:34:58.943


Like just dress like this, do this.00:34:58.943 --> 00:35:01.295


And I'm like, no, I would like to know if we're eating dinner or not.00:35:01.295 --> 00:35:04.474


But then you feel rude being like, so are we eating dinner?00:35:04.474 --> 00:35:07.121


Because it's like implying that you're expecting them to buy you dinner.00:35:07.121 --> 00:35:08.150


So I never asked.00:35:08.150 --> 00:35:10.554


But I was also like well, I'm fucking hungry.00:35:10.894 --> 00:35:12.518


And I just didn't know if I need to eat.00:35:12.518 --> 00:35:13.880


Yeah, should I go to the board or should I not?00:35:13.900 --> 00:35:15.802


Yes, and then you never want to be like.00:35:15.802 --> 00:35:17.871


Well, the menu at this place you're taking me sucks Like.00:35:17.971 --> 00:35:19.036


I don't want to eat there.00:35:19.570 --> 00:35:22.579


And everyone in the comments again was like just ask, be an adult, do this.00:35:22.579 --> 00:35:24.516


And I was like, oh my God, you cannot win.00:35:24.556 --> 00:35:25.420


So much negativity.00:35:29.576 --> 00:35:32.880


You can't win, you can't are you ready for it?00:35:33.221 --> 00:35:33.942


I'm ready for it.00:35:33.942 --> 00:35:36.773


The keep more minute brought to you by tactical tax strategies.00:35:36.773 --> 00:35:38.521


They help you keep more in your wallet.00:35:38.521 --> 00:35:40.510


We help you keep more in your relationship.00:35:40.510 --> 00:35:45.159


All right, so we have a listen.00:35:45.159 --> 00:35:48.123


Speaking of restaurants, this one is a very simple one.00:35:48.123 --> 00:35:52.516


Who gets to pick the restaurant when both say I don't care?00:35:54.259 --> 00:35:57.163


I feel like the woman.00:35:57.663 --> 00:36:00.728


I think so yeah, or should the man take charge?00:36:01.228 --> 00:36:03.452


and if I really don't want to make a decision?00:36:03.452 --> 00:36:07.190


I really don't want to make a decision, I just want it to be made for me.00:36:07.371 --> 00:36:13.936


I do like when a man makes a decision, but then I'm like, if they choose a place I don't want to eat at, I'm like yeah, but then that's an ick for me.00:36:14.036 --> 00:36:33.918


If I'm with a man that chooses a place that I don't like, that's an ick because he doesn't know me well enough that's true, it's a little difficult, but you're like this is complicated as possible or you could maybe collectively come up with options and decide together yeah, I'm normally the decision maker yeah.00:36:33.978 --> 00:36:35.481


I'm normally like let's just go here.00:36:36.342 --> 00:36:40.958


I'm not a picky eater, so I can find something on almost any menu.00:36:40.958 --> 00:36:41.840


You're picky?00:36:41.840 --> 00:36:46.193


Yeah, see, I'm not, so I typically don't care where we go.00:36:46.193 --> 00:36:51.871


Yeah, because I can find something on any menu that I like I can find something anywhere.00:36:51.871 --> 00:37:06.458


Yeah, yeah but I can see if being picky yeah, that would be hard, I would always and normally I'm in the mood for something so normally I kind of have an idea of, like what I'm in the mood for and I just pick it yeah yeah.00:37:06.981 --> 00:37:10.291


So now we're gonna talk about real life pickup lines that people have used.00:37:10.291 --> 00:37:15.173


I went to reddit and I asked a couple people like what are the best and worst pickup lines that you've ever?00:37:15.253 --> 00:37:16.077


heard or used.00:37:16.077 --> 00:37:18.686


I just screenshotted a really good one the other day.00:37:18.907 --> 00:37:23.501


Yeah, yes, have you had someone use a line on you that worked or didn't work.00:37:24.391 --> 00:37:26.739


No, they normally start naturally talking.00:37:26.739 --> 00:37:27.974


One guy did come up to me.00:37:27.974 --> 00:37:29.014


He's like do I know you?00:37:29.014 --> 00:37:33.815


And I was like try again, that's so unoriginal I was like turn around.00:37:33.815 --> 00:37:36.309


I.00:37:36.309 --> 00:37:36.788


That's so unoriginal.00:37:36.788 --> 00:37:39.768


I was like turn around, I'll give you a second chance, try again, come back in 10 seconds I was like and come back with something better.00:37:40.409 --> 00:37:45.358


And he did come back and I was like, honestly, because he came back, I gave him the chance to talk to me and my friend.00:37:45.358 --> 00:37:49.931


Because I was like, if someone said turn around, I would be like check yourself.00:37:49.952 --> 00:37:55.916


Yeah, I was like that one wasn't good enough for me, sorry, that's funny, that's so funny.00:37:55.916 --> 00:38:03.420


So we have a former guest, henry uses excuse me, can you tell me what kind of material you think this is?00:38:03.420 --> 00:38:07.123


And he has them feel his shirt and then he says do you think it's boyfriend material?00:38:07.123 --> 00:38:08.063


That's funny.00:38:08.264 --> 00:38:11.585


Joe the guest, that his episode came out this week.00:38:11.585 --> 00:38:13.827


He said that one on his episode too.00:38:13.827 --> 00:38:17.356


Oh really, oh, how funny yeah this is hilarious.00:38:17.458 --> 00:38:18.391


Are you my appendix?00:38:18.391 --> 00:38:21.902


I don't know what you do or how you work, but I feel like I should take you out.00:38:21.902 --> 00:38:26.157


Um, are you an antiquer?00:38:26.157 --> 00:38:28.784


Because I have some junk that hasn't been touched in years.00:38:28.784 --> 00:38:31.353


Ah, cracks me up.00:38:31.353 --> 00:38:32.956


Are you an orphanage?00:38:32.956 --> 00:38:42.722


Because I want to give you kids that's crazy I don't think I like pickup lines like this00:38:48.380 --> 00:38:49.503


some of these are too much.00:38:49.503 --> 00:38:56.909


If you were a fruit, you'd be a fine apple I've heard that before or if you were a flowered flower, you'd be a damn d lion.00:38:56.909 --> 00:38:59.956


Do people actually say these on?00:38:59.976 --> 00:39:01.721


reddit lines that people have actually heard.00:39:01.721 --> 00:39:05.588


When you're out, like when you used to go out at a bar or whatever have people said these things I've heard.00:39:05.688 --> 00:39:13.275


I've had a couple guys use lines, but funny lines like if your left leg was thanksgiving and your right leg was christmas, can I come visit you in between the holidays?00:39:13.777 --> 00:39:21.541


like jokey lines like that that I thought were funny, like that would be funny, but I've like, haven't heard a pickup line in ever.00:39:21.541 --> 00:39:23.110


Guys just start talking.00:39:23.251 --> 00:39:26.478


I know people still use that line do you come here often?00:39:26.478 --> 00:39:29.704


Oh my god, yes they do that.00:39:29.724 --> 00:39:33.954


One is used a lot, so I will tell you this story so last summer I was at my pool.00:39:33.994 --> 00:39:42.264


So I live in a condo, so the pool is a community pool, but it's a lot of old people and so not a lot of people use the pool.00:39:42.264 --> 00:39:48.400


I use the pool frequently because I will do aquatic therapy with my patients in my pool.00:39:48.400 --> 00:40:10.824


I like to swim, so I'm at the pool a lot and one of my neighbors who I'd actually spoken to a couple of weeks prior at the pool we had a full-on conversation for like 10 minutes but I was in my like swimming swimsuit, right, which is like a one-piece Speedo, like not super, it's covered, right.00:40:10.824 --> 00:40:11.527


I was covered.00:40:11.527 --> 00:40:16.581


And then a couple weeks later I was out at the pool lounging, so I was in a bikini.00:40:16.581 --> 00:40:20.217


Very different look, but obviously still the same person.00:40:20.217 --> 00:40:25.454


He comes sauntering up like a crocodile, like his eyes out of the water.00:40:25.755 --> 00:40:26.938


It comes over, over over.00:40:26.938 --> 00:40:28.061


It comes to the edge of the pool.00:40:28.061 --> 00:40:32.592


I'm laying out on the sun on the chair and he comes up and he was like.00:40:32.592 --> 00:40:37.556


He was like hey, uh, haven't, haven't seen you around here.00:40:37.556 --> 00:40:38.677


Do you come here often?00:40:38.697 --> 00:40:38.737


Oh.00:40:38.777 --> 00:40:39.097


God.00:40:39.097 --> 00:40:51.125


And in my head I thought he was joking, because I had literally just met him a couple weekends before and I was like actually, yeah, I'm here every weekend, how are you, how are you doing this weekend?00:40:51.125 --> 00:40:55.688


And we started talking, but he literally used that line and I think he was serious.00:40:56.909 --> 00:41:05.396


Oh God, oh, oh god men just give me like the ick, like I think that's why I'm so hard to approach is because that kind of stuff I'm like oh, no, and that's what it was.00:41:05.496 --> 00:41:09.313


It was, it was an instant ick yeah, and it was just like ha ha ha.00:41:09.612 --> 00:41:13.603


Okay, so awkward so what if a guy just comes up to you and says can I buy you a drink?00:41:13.603 --> 00:41:14.452


Does that work?00:41:14.452 --> 00:41:15.715


Yeah, yeah, that works.00:41:15.815 --> 00:41:18.655


The even though I don't drink, so I've always have like a soda water.00:41:18.655 --> 00:41:26.282


I'm like, yeah, you can get me a soda water, but like something that's like more direct and not so like theatrical works a lot better on me, more genuine.00:41:26.483 --> 00:41:28.108


Yeah, yeah, not so forced.00:41:28.108 --> 00:41:32.036


Yeah, hey, baby, can I get in yours?00:41:32.036 --> 00:41:33.338


Ew, it's not good.00:41:33.338 --> 00:41:34.740


Is your dad a baker?00:41:34.740 --> 00:41:36.905


Because you got the best pair of buns I've ever seen.00:41:36.905 --> 00:41:38.032


That would work on me.00:41:38.452 --> 00:41:39.536


You're like I've been working out.00:41:39.556 --> 00:41:44.213


Baker is open for business you like to draw, because I put the D in raw.00:41:44.514 --> 00:41:48.775


Just know that is wild Right, that's unhinged a little bit.00:41:48.775 --> 00:41:49.478


That is crazy.00:42:00.730 --> 00:42:02.556


Girl, if I was a fly all over you, because you're the shit I'd like to drink your bath water.00:42:02.577 --> 00:42:03.219


That's kind of creepy nice legs.00:42:03.219 --> 00:42:03.701


What time do they open?00:42:03.701 --> 00:42:04.222


That wouldn't work on me.00:42:04.222 --> 00:42:04.644


I think that's funny.00:42:04.664 --> 00:42:05.306


She's like that one would get me.00:42:05.306 --> 00:42:05.949


I'm pretty easy, as you can tell.00:42:05.949 --> 00:42:11.320


I'll tell you a joke that will make you laugh your tits off.00:42:11.320 --> 00:42:12.623


Oh wait, you've heard it already.00:42:13.632 --> 00:42:19.403


Oh burn, that is so bad I fear that one would work on me in my flat chest.00:42:19.871 --> 00:42:23.378


I was gonna say the same thing as a member of the Itty Bitty, titty Committee.00:42:23.378 --> 00:42:25.248


I think that one would probably work on me.00:42:25.248 --> 00:42:26.655


I will say if a guy makes fun of me.00:42:27.913 --> 00:42:31.751


I do think that I like it, cause I'm like, okay, you kind of have a little bit of balls.00:42:31.751 --> 00:42:36.278


Like I don't like when a guy like kisses the ground that you walk on, it's kind of fun when they poke fun at you.00:42:36.300 --> 00:42:40.471


Yeah, I like it, but not too much no, not when you're like okay this is ridiculous?00:42:40.471 --> 00:42:44.840


Yeah, not too, much, yeah, yeah, there's a line, there's a fine line there 100%.00:42:44.840 --> 00:42:46.711


I heard you were looking for a stud.00:42:46.711 --> 00:42:48.014


Well, I've got an STD.00:42:48.014 --> 00:42:48.978


All I need is you.00:42:49.237 --> 00:42:59.255


Oh no that's terrible, that is horrendous terrible he's like, by the way you're still interested hey, at least he's getting it out there before he's even started the conversation.00:43:00.318 --> 00:43:01.101


Get in the van.00:43:01.101 --> 00:43:03.768


Hey, babe, are you jamaican?00:43:03.768 --> 00:43:05.193


Because jamaican me crazy.00:43:05.193 --> 00:43:06.358


It's kind of funny.00:43:06.358 --> 00:43:07.902


Hey, did you drop something?00:43:07.902 --> 00:43:08.806


I don't think.00:43:08.806 --> 00:43:09.869


So your standards.00:43:09.869 --> 00:43:10.811


Hi, I'm nick.00:43:10.811 --> 00:43:12.512


Have you heard that?00:43:12.512 --> 00:43:13.914


No, what was that?00:43:13.914 --> 00:43:16.338


One that we heard we were doing the interviews and the shoulder one.00:43:16.378 --> 00:43:19.362


That was a good one yes, how do you count shoulders?00:43:19.362 --> 00:43:30.795


And then he said like this one, two, and then he touched my shoulders three, and then put his arm around me and said four to my other shoulder that was something like that.00:43:30.835 --> 00:43:31.657


That one's not bad.00:43:31.657 --> 00:43:32.438


Yeah, that one was.00:43:32.438 --> 00:43:33.570


Oh my god, this is terrible.00:43:33.570 --> 00:43:35.652


Do you have pet insurance?00:43:35.652 --> 00:43:45.733


Because I'm gonna destroy your kitty, but the p word are those space pants you're wearing because your ass is out of this world.00:43:45.733 --> 00:43:47.215


Do you work at subway?00:43:47.215 --> 00:43:52.132


Because you just gave me a foot long oh my god, as if.00:43:52.373 --> 00:44:01.980


As if, like that generous, a foot long friend of Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?00:44:01.980 --> 00:44:05.559


Can I sit on your lap and talk about the first thing that pops up?00:44:05.559 --> 00:44:07.175


I guess that's from a woman to a man.00:44:07.175 --> 00:44:09.436


The word of the day is legs.00:44:09.436 --> 00:44:11.416


Let's go home and spread the word.00:44:11.416 --> 00:44:12.679


That's kind of funny.00:44:12.679 --> 00:44:16.739


And then, what was that one that the other guest, jen, told us?00:44:16.739 --> 00:44:17.731


The haunted house one.00:44:17.731 --> 00:44:19.094


That was pretty gruesome.00:44:19.094 --> 00:44:25.117


I don't remember something about a haunted house and you're gonna scream when I come inside of you, or something like that.00:44:25.117 --> 00:44:26.753


It was like something like that.00:44:26.793 --> 00:44:32.855


No, I'm gonna read you this one that I saw the other day because I knew you would appreciate it, because you went to school in japan.00:44:32.855 --> 00:44:45.842


It's are you as Asia, because I'm trying to get in Japan tease that is hilarious, that's actually funny that one is pretty funny, so where's?00:44:45.862 --> 00:44:47.351


your favorite place to go on a first date.00:44:48.293 --> 00:44:50.338


I don't have a first date spot.00:44:50.338 --> 00:44:50.637


Really.00:44:50.637 --> 00:45:02.838


The Remy hotel actually just opened in Old Town and they have a really pretty rooftop and so I would say something like that where it's like a sunset, I don't drink, but I do like where it's just casual and it's just drinks and like maybe an appetizer.00:45:02.838 --> 00:45:05.934


I don't like to sit through a full meal I don't want anything like that.00:45:05.934 --> 00:45:07.239


I don't like coffee dates.00:45:07.239 --> 00:45:10.632


There's nothing worse than being in a busy coffee shop trying to talk to somebody.00:45:10.652 --> 00:45:11.413


Rooftops are cute.00:45:11.413 --> 00:45:12.253


I like rooftops.00:45:12.335 --> 00:45:17.682


I do too I'm a big and definitely don't take you to kala because that's so yesterday right, no one goes to kala anymore.00:45:17.702 --> 00:45:19.570


Yesterday you're gonna take me or take me to shiv.00:45:19.570 --> 00:45:20.815


Shiv is actually really cool.00:45:20.835 --> 00:45:22.099


I will say that what kind of food is there?00:45:22.139 --> 00:45:28.670


I've heard of it shiv is like steak and like all the places, like steak, caviar, seafood, all the things but it's a supper club.00:45:28.670 --> 00:45:31.793


So there's like this band in the front and I don't know it feels like you're in like I don't know.00:45:31.793 --> 00:45:36.378


It feels like you're in, like I don't know how to explain it, but it's just really cool, that sounds, cool, it sounds unique.00:45:36.378 --> 00:45:37.460


Yeah, it is super unique.00:45:37.460 --> 00:45:38.900


It's definitely a fun vibe.00:45:39.161 --> 00:45:42.764


Now it's time for the Celebrity Cup, where we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.00:45:42.764 --> 00:45:55.043


So you know, blake Lively, the whole drama, did you hear she's coming out with a wait.00:45:55.043 --> 00:45:58.199


I bet she's gonna direct it, she's gonna produce it, she's gonna do the costume design.00:45:58.199 --> 00:46:00.208


Didn't she try to take over that other movie?00:46:00.208 --> 00:46:05.833


Yeah, or maybe she's co-producing it because she's funding it, because I can't imagine anyone would fund a movie with her in it, right?00:46:06.355 --> 00:46:08.541


not after everything that happened, after it ends with us.00:46:08.541 --> 00:46:09.391


Yeah, that was crazy.00:46:09.431 --> 00:46:19.599


I only like followed like a little bit, but I was like this is actually wild yeah, she totally hijacked that movie, tried to make it her own and destroyed a man's life in the process.00:46:19.599 --> 00:46:21.275


Who would want to work with that?00:46:21.275 --> 00:46:23.338


That's my question is how can she be making a movie?00:46:23.338 --> 00:46:29.931


And what's funny is she's suing Justin Baldoni for defamation and the smear campaign, claiming it destroyed her career.00:46:29.931 --> 00:46:31.358


But how is that?00:46:31.358 --> 00:46:32.795


So she's coming out with a new movie.00:46:32.795 --> 00:46:34.731


So that goes against her lawsuit, right?00:46:34.731 --> 00:46:37.697


It's not destroyed her career, she hasn't made maybe.00:46:38.117 --> 00:46:45.175


Maybe somebody has like the thought of no publicity is bad publicity or how, however they say that phrase.00:46:45.195 --> 00:47:00.972


So it's like might as well do a movie with her, because at least people will talk about it yeah, I can't imagine it's gonna do good in the box office, because I did a tiktok video of it and I got so many comments and everyone was like hell, no, boycotting it, not gonna go see it, like I don't think I had one comment of someone like, oh, I can't wait to see it.00:47:00.972 --> 00:47:03.699


Yeah, I love Blake Lively she's the best.00:47:04.119 --> 00:47:04.420


I love.00:47:04.420 --> 00:47:05.952


Blake Lively said nobody ever.00:47:05.952 --> 00:47:12.510


So now we are going to get to know you with Zoyo, sponsored by Zoyo, your neighborhood yogurt.00:47:12.771 --> 00:47:21.233


So if you want to pick the top card, if I could have sex with anyone right now, who would it be?00:47:21.233 --> 00:47:33.847


Oh god, no one in my personal life is gonna like this answer, and that's fine, but it would definitely be my ex-situationship for sure oh, you went with a real life person.00:47:34.050 --> 00:47:34.992


Was I not supposed to?00:47:34.992 --> 00:47:35.675


No?00:47:36.056 --> 00:47:36.980


I don't do celebrities.00:47:36.980 --> 00:47:39.719


I don't find celebrities like attractive Interesting.00:47:40.231 --> 00:47:41.976


So your ex-situationship?00:47:41.976 --> 00:47:44.061


Why did it not turn into something more?00:47:44.061 --> 00:47:45.574


Did he not want it to be something more?00:47:45.574 --> 00:47:47.958


Probably, but you didn't.00:47:48.701 --> 00:47:49.222


I did.00:47:49.222 --> 00:47:53.157


I saw myself with him Like I was like, oh my gosh, I really like this person.00:47:53.157 --> 00:48:05.440


But then there was another part of me that was like I'm not sure that I'm ready for a relationship right now, cause I met him very shortly after I ended my five-year relationship and I knew I needed time alone.00:48:05.440 --> 00:48:06.530


But I really liked this person.00:48:06.530 --> 00:48:08.757


It's like you know, when you meet someone, you just really like them.00:48:08.757 --> 00:48:12.913


But it always was just like, very like, confusing and just all the things.00:48:13.092 --> 00:48:15.434


Did you meet him in the wild or did you meet him on an app?00:48:16.036 --> 00:48:16.655


In the wild.00:48:16.655 --> 00:48:20.679


Well, I actually don't know how exactly we met.00:48:20.679 --> 00:48:23.021


We had followed each other on Instagram for a really long time.00:48:23.021 --> 00:48:27.585


We had gone to like different high schools but in the same district, like kind of knew similar people.00:48:27.704 --> 00:48:29.527


Okay, so he's a local too.00:48:29.527 --> 00:48:30.467


Yeah, exactly.00:48:32.650 --> 00:48:41.938


I knew of him for a while and I think I probably wanted more than he did, and it just did not end well, well, people underestimate the power of timing.00:48:42.139 --> 00:48:49.371


I feel like, yeah, timing's not there or not right, it's never gonna work out but maybe you'll come back together when the timing is right for both yeah, who knows?00:48:49.492 --> 00:48:51.336


I mean I'm open to like whatever happens.00:48:51.336 --> 00:48:54.554


You know, like I don't if he's with somebody's with somebody, if he's not, he's not.00:48:54.594 --> 00:48:57.601


You know we don't speak so do you follow each other on the socials?00:48:57.822 --> 00:48:59.407


no, he blocked me a while ago.00:48:59.407 --> 00:49:03.898


He just recently unblocked me, but we don't follow each other.00:49:03.898 --> 00:49:09.664


I used to be able to see, like my tiktok, like profile views, and he was in those like every day, and I can't see them anymore.00:49:09.744 --> 00:49:11.451


So why can't you see them anymore?00:49:11.451 --> 00:49:12.192


Did they stop that?00:49:12.472 --> 00:49:17.639


once you hit like x amount of followers, they take it away why, I don't exactly, I don't know.00:49:17.639 --> 00:49:40.025


Once you hit 5 000 followers, they're like we're done that sucks, because I'm like I just passed 5 000 days, you're out, you can't see it anymore I think it had something it probably has something to do with, because once you hit a certain amount of followers, you can start making money from tiktok and if you're seeing how many profile views are coming in, you're seeing like kind of where you're at, like traffic wise and then you're like you post, then you'll get more views, get more money.00:49:40.411 --> 00:49:42.878


So just like, stay away from like those do you try to monetize your?00:49:42.878 --> 00:49:48.057


Tiktok no no I just post and whatever happens happens yeah well, that's funny.00:49:48.097 --> 00:49:49.891


He unblocked you, so he's probably stalking you, right?00:49:49.891 --> 00:49:51.914


Because why would you unblock someone unless you want to see them?00:49:52.114 --> 00:49:54.679


I did make a tikt about how men block me.00:49:54.679 --> 00:49:59.661


Every man I've ever talked to blocks me afterwards, but only on Instagram.00:50:00.143 --> 00:50:00.786


Why is that Cause?00:50:00.786 --> 00:50:03.360


They're just cause they don't want to see you out and about with other people.00:50:03.360 --> 00:50:03.742


I don't know.00:50:03.782 --> 00:50:05.391


And, like the thing is, everyone who's ever blocked me.00:50:05.391 --> 00:50:06.434


We don't follow each other.00:50:07.215 --> 00:50:08.358


So it's like what are like?00:50:08.599 --> 00:50:21.413


yeah, and I'm like all of them are private.00:50:21.413 --> 00:50:21.552


So I'm like I can't look at your stuff.00:50:21.552 --> 00:50:22.193


So you're only blocking me to not see me.00:50:22.193 --> 00:50:23.320


You only block someone for one reason because you're hurt or it hurts you to see them.00:50:23.320 --> 00:50:24.302


I've never really blocked.00:50:24.302 --> 00:50:25.000


I don't understand blocking I.00:50:25.000 --> 00:50:26.465


So I have a girlfriend that blocks everybody.00:50:26.465 --> 00:50:27.454


Once she's done with them she blocks them.00:50:27.454 --> 00:50:32.963


But her thing is, because she doesn't trust herself, she will reach out to them.00:50:32.963 --> 00:50:38.516


She knows that, like in a moment of weakness, she'll reach out to them, and so knows that, like in a moment of weakness, she'll reach out to them, and so she blocks them.00:50:38.516 --> 00:50:40.878


That's, that is her reasoning.00:50:40.878 --> 00:50:45.646


That's the only sort of like decent reasoning I've ever heard.00:50:45.666 --> 00:50:47.615


For blocking, but can't you just unblock them yes?00:50:47.615 --> 00:50:48.530


You could Right.00:50:48.530 --> 00:50:51.239


So if you don't trust yourself, you can just unblock them Exactly.00:50:51.530 --> 00:51:08.565


So I have never like fully blocked somebody, like when me and the ex situation stopped talking, I removed him as a follower because I was like he was just always in my story views and it was like the top name and I was like I just don't need to see every day, like his picture or his name, things like that.00:51:08.565 --> 00:51:09.786


Um, but blocking.00:51:09.786 --> 00:51:19.454


I've only ever blocked one guy because he was literally insane and I was like I cannot have you reaching out to me like this this is insane.00:51:19.476 --> 00:51:19.735


Yeah, but yeah.00:51:19.735 --> 00:51:24.496


No, like I don't block someone, like when we break up or things like that, but they like to block me.00:51:26.139 --> 00:51:29.619


Well, thank you so much for joining us this week at the meat market and thank you so much, emily.00:51:29.619 --> 00:51:34.838


If you want to go on a date with Emily, go to any of our social media platforms at meat market podcast.00:51:34.838 --> 00:51:37.211


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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.00:51:48.512 --> 00:51:55.599


He looks absolutely nothing like his picture so I found out, the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:51:55.599 --> 00:51:57.746


His wife just reached out to me.