Why the Spark Fizzles Fast in Modern Dating 💔

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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.

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He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.

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So I found out the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.

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His wife just reached out to me.

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Welcome to the meat market.

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The single scene is a slaughterhouse, and we are here to devour it.

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We are your hosts.

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I'm Lindsay.

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I'm Jess.

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And today's sizzling single is Dan.

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Dan the man.

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Welcome.

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Oh my gosh.

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Well, thank you.

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It's great to be on your show.

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I'm very surprised and uh it's a pleasure to be here.

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So you do very well for yourself.

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Have you ever been approached by a sugar baby?

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Have you ever been a sugar daddy?

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I have I been a su okay.

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So you asked me two questions.

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Have I been so a sugar baby has a sugar daddy.

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Have you ever been asked to be a sugar daddy?

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I have.

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Yes.

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Did you accept the proposition?

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Uh no.

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No.

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So how do women ask you?

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Because it's typically someone who's younger, and I am uh attracted to my age or even older.

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Wow, such a unicorn, such an anomaly.

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Most men we have on here, they want to go younger, way younger.

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So that's good to hear.

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I I liked, you know, I mean that you gotta be connected with the you know generation that you were you grew up in and you have commonalities.

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It's physical is great, but I think in the in the end, it's gonna be how you connect and uh your maturity levels and interests and intelligence.

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Not that younger is not intelligent, but I don't know.

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It's just um It's kind of true.

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What do you talk about?

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With if you're dating someone who's 20.

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Like, yeah, I have a friend who is a doctor, and I saw him at Dominic's steakhouse the night before I saw him at um another steakhouse.

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Different woman each time.

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Yeah.

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Um Ocean Ocean Club.

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And uh both nights he had blondes who were 20 years younger.

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And he called me up and said, Hey, could you come on over and say, Hey, I'm at the end of the evening, the dinner, and and meaning it wasn't quite he wasn't quite connecting.

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He needed an out.

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He needed an out, and it's kind of a pattern he's had, and and then uh you know, he'd walk her back to the valet and send her home or whatever to Uber, and and I'd like, how did it go?

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He's like, how like and he would tell me, and then he'd just uh I'm like, You're I think you're fishing in the wrong pond, my friend.

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You know, he's 64, he's dating like 40-ish and uh successful doc, but I don't I think he's in his mind has what is uh is is right for him, but it's not, right?

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Well if it hasn't been working in the past, if it has a pattern of not working, maybe he should try something different, try going a few years older.

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Well, but that's a tough question to ask in the opening question of our show here.

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I mean we want to start in the thick of it.

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Dirty.

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Exactly.

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Well, I mean, you know, so I mean, there is um another podcast.

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Have you heard uh the Tales of a Sugar Daddy from my studio?

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Yeah, and he's he's a sugar daddy guy, and he's uh talks about a lot of you know inter interesting stories on the show.

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It's uh but I I know I just find that it's kind of shallow if you're focused on that and they see you as just uh an out, you gotta make sure you you resonate with the right person at the right time.

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And so you want to be able to share experiences right with the person that you're with and rather than just be the cash cow, right?

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Right.

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Yeah.

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So you have a successful podcast.

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What is your podcast called?

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My podcast is called Capital Fit.

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It's uh it deals with uh your wealth and your health and and innovation and collaboration.

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I've been in the startup world for the last seven years in private equity, mostly medical devices.

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So I've had a lot of experience now helping companies raise capital, raise money, uh find the right uh you know, C-suite folks, and and be an advisor and a consultant to that company.

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And uh in the in the um process of doing that, I've gotten really healthy.

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I've learned so much about myself, health, wealth.

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We're talking about sound baths and meditation, breath work, you know, learning Joe Dispenza and and uh so many of the great uh podcast hosts, and even sort of Instagram reels.

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I think once you're in like the mode of um of healing and and wellness and health, I think Instagram and Facebook send you reels that sort of resonate with you.

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Oh my gosh, they must know what we're talking about or even what we're saying.

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And so there's been this elevation of knowledge and just talking to practitioners, naturopath doctors, you know, cardiologists who used to be in big um like Mayo, and now they have their own practice as a concierge doc.

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And why did you do that?

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So there's a lot, there's a big move and a transformation, I think, and an awakening of knowledge of what's right our food, and of course, what's going on with metabolic health and glucose and their food system and all that.

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I think there's an awakening of all that.

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So I've been to this intersection of helping companies, but at the same time learning about what's right for Dan.

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I feel like I've never felt better and you know, been more grounded and articulate.

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Podcasts helped great too, by the way, to gotta stay sit there and stay focused for an hour.

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And it's really kind of a talent and that you have to, you know, work on.

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And um, so it's been a lot of fun to my to have all these guests, 92 guests, including my daughter, episode number 43.

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Uh she graduated um Magna Cumalaudi from ASU pre-med.

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But last year she was on my show to talk about balance, work life, fun, school.

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She was an intern at a at a at a uh uh physician's assistant's office, and she just is the most rounded 23-year-old you've ever met.

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How many kids do you have?

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Three kids.

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Yeah, my daughter, my youngest Emma, was on my podcast, and then my oldest Lauren is uh and my son's in the middle, and they all live at downtown Phoenix in the high rises, and um my son is building tiny homes in Goodyear, and my oldest is helping people with their life insurance needs.

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Oh nice.

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She's the closer.

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Very nice.

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Listening to me talk to clients for for 28 years as a financial advisor, she picked up on it.

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So you were married before?

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I was married before, mm-hmm.

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Yes.

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And how long have you been divorced for?

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Has it been a while?

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It's been a while, yeah.

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Over uh over what 14 years or so.

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And how's dating been since?

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Are you on the dating apps?

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I I am not.

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I I wasn't I well, you know, I I uh ran into a relationship coach in 2010, 11, who just finished, you know, had my divorce finalized, and she shows up at an event and says, uh, you'd be great, uh a great client of mine because you really need to learn about the law of attraction.

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And she kind of sensed I was kind of down, right?

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And of course, 2008-9 wasn't really great for a lot of folks, and there was a transition in my financial planning business, and I just opened my new office, signed a five-year lease, and I hired two people right at the time.

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So I got through it, but uh she she kind of helped me change my mindset to to project attractiveness and and positivity to attract those kinds of people in your life, and she really kind of turned me on to that.

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And then Mark Hyman, Dr.

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Hyman, I was like 20 pounds overweight, depressed, and I found uh I don't know where he found him, but uh I followed his broth diet and for two weeks did that and lost weight and started, you know, um just just getting healthy again, right?

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And then it just kind of evolved from there, and then I met through her network of ladies that she had uh and uh candidates that she thought would be a good fit for me, and found one that was a great fit.

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And uh after dating probably 10, 12, and they were all curated and a great way to go for people, by the way.

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The dating apps I find, you know, you find you know, folks that are just kind of on the surface and they kind of pretend, and it's just you're trying to find them rather than the universe kind of sending them to you.

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I think there's really you gotta be patient, you gotta know what you want, and then kind of articulate.

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Um there's uh Mark Victor Hansen wrote a book.

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He's the guy that chicken soup with the soul here.

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His book uh talked about when he found his wife Crystal, uh very uh uh wise gentleman and articulate and speaker and book writer.

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And he says uh the book that was written by uh Mitzi Purdue wrote a book about him, the Purdue family, and um and wrote about his life.

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And in there was an article or a chapter about how he found Crystal.

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He was very intentional, wrote down 250 characteristics of what he's what his perfect match would be.

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He did.

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Two weeks later, he's speaking, he's out there, he sees a you know, beautiful looking woman out of the audience, and sure enough, uh a week he veteran of a VIP event, and then that's the rest of the story.

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And did she have all 250 things on his checklist?

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Like how what is on that list?

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Is that the same thing?

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It was a long list.

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So Do you have a list?

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Do you have a checklist?

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You know, I I do, and I it kinda it's in my head, but I've written it down.

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But you just kind of know right when you meet with people.

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And so what are you looking for?

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Describe an ideal part.

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Well, I think a someone you connect with, I think that you know instantly when you connect with somebody.

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It's just it's just it has to be it has to be forced, and you there's a a a resonance, there's a a you know, some some chemistry, of course, is attractiveness, and and then it kind of builds from there.

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And then and then you just you know, you try to you know present your authentic self and not pretend, and and uh but so many folks pretend and and so that's the hard part and of trying to find the right person because they have in their mind what they think is the right guy and and sometimes you don't check the boxes and and so deal breakers.

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Deal breakers is um oh I think deal breakers would be um in terms of smoking.

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Yeah, I say smoking for sure.

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Like smoking, um not having you know spiritual side of them or practice some kind of of um you know practice there.

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Like self self-improvement.

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Yes, yes.

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Yes, and that they're just kind of looking for someone to sort of fill their void.

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And you kind of get a sense of that when you first meet.

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But uh you know, yeah.

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So you have you don't want any more kids and you've been snipped, but you've had multiple women try to get you to reverse that, right?

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I've had uh a couple, yes.

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And were you like, hell no?

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Or were you slightly on the fence?

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No, there was one, um, yes.

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I I thought about it, and then my buddy had just gotten reversal and he had a baby boy, and this was twelve years ago.

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And I've always had lots of energy, so I thought, you know, what the heck?

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And um so I but I just didn't I just in the end didn't go there, and that really impacted the relationship because that's what she really wanted, and it just it didn't uh kind of survive that.

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Does she have kids now?

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She has she had one child has one child, yes.

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Uh-huh.

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I always see those funny videos of like it's like what it would be like having a kid at 40 or after 40, and it's like the grandpa walking up to high school graduation or kindergarten drop-off or whatever.

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It's just like, and then pretty soon you're the talk of the school, and all the other moms and dads are talking about you because you're the the old guy or the old lady.

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So a lot of people say, Oh, I'd never want to have kids older because I don't have the energy, but there's another side to that in that when you're young, you get to go out and have fun, and when you become 40, you want to stay in, right?

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So why not have kids when you're staying in, anyways?

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You know?

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Yeah.

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You can stay in with the kids, then you're not missing out on anything.

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That is true.

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I don't know.

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Yeah, uh good and bads to each one.

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Yeah, well, I've I've never wanted to be in anyway.

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I've just that's I guess another, you know, a lot of uh folks I've dated, like they see my social media and you're always out and you have a lot of friends, and you're very what do they say, uh, you're an extrovert.

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So a lot just want to be, you know, nesting and at home and and being together and cuddling.

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I'm like, I like that.

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Don't get me wrong.

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You always go in and blow in.

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You always do something.

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I I and I say that in the sense because it's um it's part of my business, it's part of networking and meeting people.

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And yeah, how do you you're so connected?

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Well, because I put myself out there, I make meaningful connections, and then I develop relationships.

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And then from there I'm able to pull and just you know, and activate people when when when this when the time is right.

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And I'm putting on a uh organizing a music uh a medical innovators mastermind.

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It'll be at the Schufeld Hangar up in Scale Air Park.

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I'm gonna launch it in October, I think second or third, I'll let you know.

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But it's uh medical innovators because I love medicine.

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I'm working with a company right now that'll that is in the process of developing the first non-invasive glucose monitor wearable.

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So, and uh if it's most folks don't know what their standing, you know, resting glucose levels are.

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So again, it all goes back to health, which goes back to mind health, which goes back to sexual health.

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It all derives from what's your glucose level.

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Is it affecting your microcirculation and affecting you know all the things that uh might uh you know either make uh your relationship better or worse?

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So if you get tuned into your health, it just drives so much more success uh when you're when you're there.

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So what have you been on many disaster dates?

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Do you have any terrible dating stories?

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Disaster dates, yeah.

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I mean uh catfished.

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Well, I think when they show up and they want to talk about prior relationships or you know, a date from last week, and you're like, oh, do we really have to do that?

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Like your current date won't be about your past date.

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You know what I think it is?

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It's they're operating on a level of unconsciousness, right?

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They're unconscious that they're even talking about it or bringing it in because they're not even aware of the whole law of attraction.

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And it's just I think people like to talk about misery sometimes and they get in that mindset, and you know within five, ten, two minutes if this is gonna go well.

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So he's like, oh my gosh, I gotta, you know, I'm gonna pay for the mail because I'm like typical, right?

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And I gotta get through this, this uh, and then you have to say politely and just not gonna work, right?

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So or they haven't gotten over it yet.

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They haven't gotten over it yet, correct.

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And they want somebody to be on their side and to validate their feelings and what don't do that with a date, do that with a friend, right?

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I know, but you know, but they were probably just talking about it on the phone before they walked up to the restaurant with their with their best friend or their therapist, and uh and I believe in all that and to get it off your chest and talk about it, it's very cathartic to do that, but don't bring it into the date.

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But a lot of times they do because and so when you know, there's so much advice I want to give.

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I mean, it's it's great to talk about what are the fun, you know, bad, funny dates or this date.

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And but for me, it's you know, to get on your show here.

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I I want to talk about what you know the kind of the foundation of a good of a good experience dating.

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And uh, you know, it's just you through you throw out boundaries, it's really important.

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Guys don't get boundaries at all.

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We go in with an intention of, you know, we're you know, they want sex, and and so many women just say, hey, we want to be friends first, I want to trust you.

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You know, and you should go in with some um just boundaries, but guys just don't think like that.

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And so when I approach so women have that preconceived notion when they walk into a date, he's gonna be like the last jerk I just dated from Bumble Match, or I got set up two weeks ago, right?

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And so pretty quickly I kind of kind of diffuse that and say, you know, I was you gotta show up with respect, boundaries, and then um, you know, you gotta know who who you are and what your attachment style is, right?

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And and then the you know, the five steps of a of a of a relationship are pretty important to know too.

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So anxious attachment styles.

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You're very anxious.

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What are the other attachment styles?

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Well, super.

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Anxious attachment styles.

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There's a anxious avoidant.

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There's there's anxious is avoidant.

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That's there's secure.

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Okay.

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What is the anxious attachment style?

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Because I'm a very anxious person.

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I know.

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Yes, avoidant and disorganized.

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Okay.

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I think the anxious is like you're all you're constantly worried about are they gonna text me?

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What's going on?

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Your mind is like, did I say something to messing?

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Did I say something to messing with?

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Yes, and then you're always psychoanalyzing your your what you've done, and they people pick up on that.

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And so, but you're gonna you're gonna attract that kind of person, by the way.

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And you spiral and you spiral.

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I was like that dating, but when I met my husband, it was completely different.

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Like I was not that way at all.

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I called him if I wanted to, I texted him, whatever.

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I didn't give a flying frick, you know?

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So and that's why I think it works.

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Yeah, because I wasn't stressing about it.

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You weren't like stressing it.

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But why was I I questioned why was I different with him?

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Was it because I was just dumb dating?

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I was like, ugh, I'm done.

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I don't know.

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I don't know.

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Or maybe you you evolved.

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Maybe I evolved, I grew up.

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Well, it is, it's about growing up and knowing yourself and and being confident in who you are, loving yourself.

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You can't love someone else unless you really love yourself.

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All those cliche ish things are all absolutely true.

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Because all your insecurities will come out in the relationship and into and then you repeat the same pattern.

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And so I saw a reel the other day about the five steps of a relationship, going from you know, inf infatuation, honeymoon, then adjustment, power struggle, right?

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How many dates you don't get past the power struggle?

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Right?

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And then you go back to the next uh person with the same one too.

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So you never move on.

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Then you have stability acceptance, which is really important to say this is who I really am, these are my issues, or my you know, you finally meet the kids, and one kid's not quite, you know, not quite there, and like, oh my gosh, am I gonna live with this person now with this particular child that has issues?

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And then you go then and you go stability and then commitment.

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So the problem is, is um, you know, I've been engaged twice and uh they were both great ladies and still are, but it was the blending of them and my children that really didn't quite work.

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And it's hard to go through this because I got to the stability commitment part and and and did I ask my kids, say, hey, what do you think of so-and-so?

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Do you think I should uh marry her, right?

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And uh I never gave them that you know that that ability to say yes or no.

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I just said, hey, you know, I just this is happening.

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This is happening, and it's and so I didn't and my you know, my taught two daughters and I are really close.

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We don't see much a lot, but I think there's a little tension still there of not having them get input.

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Yeah.

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How long should the honeymoon stage last?

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Oh gosh.

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So what do you guys think?

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When they say the breaking point is three months.

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If you can make it past the three-month mark, you're good to go.

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But most relationships end at the three-month mark.

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Is that does that mean it's three months in the honeymoon?

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The honeymoon stage is fine.

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Then shit gets real and you're like, peace.

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Yeah, probably.

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I think three months is I I think it all depends on the expectation you bring to the original sort of conversation.

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And because some will say, I want to have, you know, I want to be intimate sooner than later to make sure it works everything works.

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Okay.

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Let's not waste our time.

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What did they say?

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Test the why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free.

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You gotta make sure the milk is where the milk's gonna start before you buy the cow.

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And then, yeah, and then if you jump in too early, you you're like, um, well gosh, are they jumping in early all the time?

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So how many partners you have?

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So you got that in your head.

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And then, but I like to say, you know, let's just you know have friends and and do dates, and I like the ones that say, Yes, I I have a hard like if three months, then maybe, right?

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If it's there, and then then then the honeymoon then starts really starts, then kind of, right?

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Because that's true.

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If you wait to be a sexually intimate, then your honeymoon doesn't really start pushed back a little bit.

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Yeah, that's true.

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Yeah, that's true.

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So are you ready for it?

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I'm ready for it.

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Oh gosh.

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We're gonna have a listener question for you, Dan.

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And for us too, we'll discuss.

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Um, so this one says, My partner recently started a new diet.

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I'm afraid that because they are getting more healthy, they'll expect me to be on the same diet.

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If your partner starts a new diet, are you automatically on it too?

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Hmm.

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That's a tough one.

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Because I've I've heard of couples that like they're both very social drinkers and one stops, the other doesn't, and that creates major issues in the relationship.

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Yes.

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When one's sober and one's not, that can ruin the relationship.

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But diet, I don't know.

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I think that's part of the diet though.

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Because you usually quit drinking because you want to be clear, more focused, more not tired, not high high, high lows.

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I I mean, I would that that would mean to me that the one partner is uh kind of elevating uh and growing than the other person is.

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I think that's a whole component of just growth and and I think it's hard for two people who are partners and living together to be on different diets.

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It's true.

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Like I look at my parents growing up.

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Like I remember like my mom primarily cooked dinner, right?

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My dad would cook every once in a while when if she was gone or whatever, but she primarily cooks.

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So I remember when she went on Weight Watchers when we were in high school, and it's like we all had to eat healthy, whether we wanted to or not, which we never really ate terribly as a family, but it was just like, you know, she was to the point where we were getting older, she wasn't gonna have more kids, she wanted to have a healthier lifestyle, and so that was sort of the fad thing to do back then.

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And so it was like by osmosis, we were all on the diet, including my dad.

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And I remember she would get frustrated because my dad didn't have to do anything except eat the food that she made and he lost the weight and she had to work so hard.

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You know, she had to do the exercise in addition and all of that kind of stuff.

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So I I do think it is you it's tough.

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Like when we go out, we like to eat family style, get a few things and share.

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So you kind of have to be on the same diet at that point.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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And to be supportive of them.

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You don't want to be eating a Big Mac in front of them if they're not allowed.

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That's kind of cruel.

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Yeah, I I think it's important to be in alignment.

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Yeah, for sure.

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So uh I would suggest the listener to uh to consider, you know, if it's not too if they're like fasting all the time and they're eating just you know uh vegetables and then they cut out their meat because they think that's safe, that would be kind of extreme.

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So that might be yeah, that's the thing, as long as it's not an extreme, some sort of extreme.

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We're eating just fruits and veggies.

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Oh so we're gonna discuss another Reddit thread.

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The question was confusing compliments that you have received, actual compliments people have received that have confused them.

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So like I remember one person once said to me, You have really nice big teeth.

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Is that a compliment?

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Have big teeth?

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That's not a compliment, right?

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I do I have big teeth?

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Maybe they found big teeth attractive.

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I don't know.

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Like, so so they're like backhanded compliments.

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Backhanded compliments, yeah.

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Yeah.

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Someone's like, you look like you read a lot.

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I mean, that does that mean that you look like a nerd?

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Yeah, yeah.

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Because I read a lot.

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I mean, I read every day, but I don't feel like I look like I read a lot.

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I don't know.

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What if someone who reads a lot of things?

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Exactly.

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You have such asymmetrical ears.

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So random.

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You've had those?

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These are yeah, actual compliments that people have had that just responded to the thread.

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Oh my gosh.

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Um, you remind me of my aunt, but in a hot way.

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Oh, okay.

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You act dumb, but you're really smart.

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I know a lot of women that do that.

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Like Para Silton, remember how she used to talk with that, really?

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But she's come out and said, like, she's like, I know when to play.

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Stupid.

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Which I guess is a smart thing to do, right?

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Because Kim Kardashian, I think, does the same thing.

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She does.

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Like because she's intelligent.

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Like if you look at the like, you know, her the business, just the business side of her empire.

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Slam the Kardashians, but they do a fantastic job of marketing themselves.

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I mean, what season are they on of the show?

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Like, they're still going and they do such a good job.

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Look at Kylie Jenner's makeup business, made her a billionaire, Chloe's businesses.

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Like, they know how to be successful.

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Yeah.

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Is that them or their mother?

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Isn't Jenner?

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Yeah, nobody works harder than Chris Jenner.

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Right, yeah.

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Um you this is funny.

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You look like Post Malone.

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Someone said this thread is for compliments only.

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But you know, have you did you see him in that music video with Taylor Swift where they took his tattoos off?

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He's actually really handsome.

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Really?

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It's just like did they cover them with makeup or AI?

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But he's actually a good looking man.

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So I'm I'm curious to uh find out how you felt when they gave you those compliments.

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Did you feel like it was did you feel like it was backhanded?

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How did you feel about it?

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I was confused.

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I was like trying to think like what like what?

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Because I was just confused.

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You you told me something that someone a compliment.

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I don't know if it was a compliment, but about talking with your hands a lot.

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Yes.

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They felt that was kind of flamboyant and uh not heterosexual.

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It's like their friends, I think, comment because they saw me on my I'll do like little reels after the podcast, they kind of promote it and uh and I yeah, we I talk with my hands, and and she she probably just like a European thing, like a lot of Europeans do that.

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Well, I don't know if you I mean I'm from Irish, French, and you know, England, but still, but I have to agree because it's very distracting.

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And I was in Toastmasters for a long, long time.

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And you learn to put your hands on the lectern or just in front of you and talk, and you watch TED talk and they're doing this, it is distracting.

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So I appreciate the feedback, but but at the same time, I think it's when you're standing there like this, that's distracting to me.

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Well, true, yeah.

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But it was just probably too much, and it was I don't know if it was a joke or but it was like, okay, I should probably take the advice because if that's their feedback, and their friends were saying, Hey, is he, you know, he's like too clean cut and he's got his hands always going.

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Is he really like like girls or women?

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I'm like, I yeah.

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Some other compliments people have received.

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You have nice ankles, you have a huge head, but it's not ugly.

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It looks nice.

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I guess you can have a huge head, but a good looking head.

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You have the face that I can make on Sims.

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Uh you look so German.

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That to me is not a compliment.

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Because aren't don't Germans look very severe and very angry all the time?

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You're intense.

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Don't they always seem so like intense?

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Oh no.

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You're the way that you the way that you do the German impression.

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Yeah.

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You're the perfect amount of muscles covered in fat.

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Oh.

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You know what's funny?

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One of my friends actually one time said to me, You're skinny, but you're skinny fat.

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Skinny fat.

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So what is that?

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Like you're skinny, but you still have flab, like you don't work out.

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Yeah, like you're you're skinny, but you can tell that you're not fit.

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Like that you're not physically fit.

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And I was I actually was offended with that.

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Mom is a rude that is something.

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She was my best friend at the time.

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Whatever.

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Um, so this is weird.

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My gynecologist told me I had a very pretty cervex.

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That's kind of weird, isn't it?

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I I think I'd be looking for a different gynecologist.

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That's a boundary issue.

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Because one, you're in a very vulnerable position, and then you've got someone down there commenting on your cervix.

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She's hitting on you via your cervix.

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There's a couple of doctor ones.

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I had a colonoscopy and had to do an enema before the procedure, and the doctor mid-procedure asked me if I did the enema myself because she said it was one of the best she's ever seen.

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Well, and people do coffee enemas.

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I I dated a gal that did that, so she wanted it cleans out because I guess it pulls out your toxins too, right?

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I've heard that's really good for you.

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But I didn't know about that.

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It was like five years ago.

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I'm like, you're doing what?

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Well, now I know.

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That's that's a thing, right?

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Yeah, because stuff can never hear of that.

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Stuff can stick up there and stay there for for years.

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Yes.

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So it pulls it all out.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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My dentist keeps commenting on how strong my tongue is.

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Again, like that's kind of weird.

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Isn't it a male dentist commenting on a female's tongue?

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I feel like that's boredom.

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Pretty much.

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That's almost like an imitation.

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Hey, let's go see.

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I think he's kind of baiting how you see how strong it really is.

00:27:48.400 --> 00:27:51.599
Yeah, you want me to show you?

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You're the only person I know who looks better with your glasses on.

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Someone said that to me before, and I took that as an insult.

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Like, okay, so like my face is ugly and the glasses cover him up, you know?

00:28:02.960 --> 00:28:04.160
That's kind of a mean compliment.

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Um, you look like you this is hilarious.

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You look like you're going to smell bad, but you don't.

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You smell amazing.

00:28:10.640 --> 00:28:11.599
That is crazy.

00:28:12.160 --> 00:28:13.920
That's a real I can't believe that.

00:28:14.400 --> 00:28:18.319
Um, I was peeing at the airport and the guy next to me said, nice flow.

00:28:18.480 --> 00:28:19.279
Oh god.

00:28:19.519 --> 00:28:20.319
Oh my god.

00:28:20.480 --> 00:28:21.200
That's hilarious.

00:28:21.359 --> 00:28:22.960
I actually had no way.

00:28:23.599 --> 00:28:26.319
That reminds me I had someone compliment.

00:28:26.480 --> 00:28:29.839
Well, I don't know if it was a compliment, but it was it was similar.

00:28:30.000 --> 00:28:32.799
It I shouldn't even say this one here because it's so inappropriate.

00:28:33.039 --> 00:28:33.359
Say it.

00:28:33.680 --> 00:28:36.079
Um you have to because not fun enough.

00:28:36.559 --> 00:28:41.359
So I was I was peeing, I was going to the bathroom, and it was, I was at a friend's house, right?

00:28:41.440 --> 00:28:46.079
And so like the door was not closed totally all the way.

00:28:46.319 --> 00:28:55.119
And he was, it was a a gay friend of mine, and he was like, oh, he's like, I heard, I heard that when your pea flow is really strong, it means you have a tight vagina.

00:28:55.279 --> 00:28:57.359
And I was like, wait, what?

00:28:57.599 --> 00:28:58.880
Where did you hear that?

00:28:59.119 --> 00:29:02.240
I don't think the two things correlate with each other.

00:29:02.400 --> 00:29:04.000
But I was like, but thank God.

00:29:04.400 --> 00:29:08.799
So he's messaging on the strength and just has a really tight vagina.

00:29:09.680 --> 00:29:10.640
That's funny.

00:29:10.880 --> 00:29:13.279
Um, you have the chin of a politician.

00:29:14.400 --> 00:29:16.799
Um, you look like a sensual Mr.

00:29:16.880 --> 00:29:17.680
Rogers.

00:29:17.920 --> 00:29:20.000
You're cute, but not in an attractive way.

00:29:20.079 --> 00:29:21.759
That is not a compliment at all, right?

00:29:22.000 --> 00:29:23.440
You're cute but not in an attractive way.

00:29:23.519 --> 00:29:24.559
Maybe like a little kid way.

00:29:24.640 --> 00:29:25.039
I don't know.

00:29:25.200 --> 00:29:26.079
Oh, that's creepy though.

00:29:26.160 --> 00:29:26.559
That is creepy.

00:29:28.559 --> 00:29:29.119
You just accept.

00:29:29.599 --> 00:29:32.319
Well, it was these, no, so these are on a Reddit thread.

00:29:32.400 --> 00:29:33.279
It's like instantly.

00:29:34.079 --> 00:29:37.200
So people wrote what they've received, the compliments they've received.

00:29:37.519 --> 00:29:39.119
So yeah, these aren't things I've heard.

00:29:39.279 --> 00:29:40.880
Um you have some of them are.

00:29:41.039 --> 00:29:41.759
Some of them are, yeah.

00:29:41.920 --> 00:29:43.200
Actually, a few of them.

00:29:43.599 --> 00:29:46.400
Uh you have news anchor eyebrows.

00:29:47.759 --> 00:29:51.279
You're someone I'd you're someone I'd want to see right before I die.00:29:51.599 --> 00:29:54.319


You look like you're gonna be a hot older woman.00:29:54.799 --> 00:29:55.759


Just a few more.00:29:55.920 --> 00:29:56.720


I like your shirts.00:29:56.799 --> 00:29:58.319


They look comfy and easy to wear.00:29:58.559 --> 00:30:00.880


You're actually quite handsome, but I Don't know why.00:30:01.119 --> 00:30:03.279


You look like a mercat, but in a good way.00:30:03.519 --> 00:30:04.079


A mercat.00:30:05.200 --> 00:30:06.000


You have pretty eyes.00:30:06.079 --> 00:30:07.759


I dig the crow's feet.00:30:09.440 --> 00:30:10.000


That's bad.00:30:10.079 --> 00:30:10.880


That's backhanded.00:30:11.119 --> 00:30:12.079


That is backhanded.00:30:12.319 --> 00:30:14.559


I can tell you were really beautiful when you were young.00:30:14.799 --> 00:30:15.119


Ow.00:30:15.680 --> 00:30:16.640


Why would you say that?00:30:16.880 --> 00:30:18.480


That's so because that means you look old.00:30:18.640 --> 00:30:20.880


Like I hate it when people say, You look really good for your age.00:30:21.119 --> 00:30:22.079


Like that means you're old.00:30:22.240 --> 00:30:22.480


I know.00:30:22.640 --> 00:30:25.839


Like we were at Maya one time, because I I think I told you this story.00:30:25.920 --> 00:30:29.039


We had one of our favorite DJs was playing there, and it's all 20-year-olds.00:30:29.119 --> 00:30:33.200


And here we are in our 40s, and we did a shot to being the oldest ones at the bar.00:30:33.359 --> 00:30:34.400


Cheers at being 40.00:30:34.480 --> 00:30:38.000


And some guy came up to us and was like, Did I just hear you say you were 40?00:30:38.079 --> 00:30:40.400


You're really hot for being so old.00:30:41.279 --> 00:30:42.640


But we were so old in that club.00:30:42.720 --> 00:30:43.759


Like, thanks a lot.00:30:44.000 --> 00:30:47.759


Um, a co-worker once said, You probably don't get this often, but you look good today.00:30:47.920 --> 00:30:49.440


Why don't you have to put that first part?00:30:49.519 --> 00:30:50.480


You probably don't get this often.00:30:50.880 --> 00:30:53.200


Or I've had compliments this past year.00:30:53.519 --> 00:30:55.119


Dan, you've really de-aged.00:30:55.200 --> 00:31:00.079


If if someone hasn't seen me or you saw me on a podcast, or you've really de-aged, right?00:31:00.319 --> 00:31:01.839


I think it's just gotten younger.00:31:02.160 --> 00:31:02.559


Gotten younger.00:31:02.640 --> 00:31:02.960


Right, definitely.00:31:03.200 --> 00:31:03.839


Like you looked old before.00:31:04.160 --> 00:31:04.720


I looked old, right?00:31:05.039 --> 00:31:06.079


Yeah, you looked old before.00:31:06.400 --> 00:31:07.119


That is a good one.00:31:08.640 --> 00:31:09.200


So I look old one.00:31:09.599 --> 00:31:12.880


It's kind of like the one where when they say, You look really tired today.00:31:12.960 --> 00:31:13.359


Are you okay?00:31:13.440 --> 00:31:15.680


It's like, oh, so basically you're telling me I look like shit.00:31:16.400 --> 00:31:18.480


Or I hate it when people say, Are you sick?00:31:18.640 --> 00:31:22.240


And even if I'm not sick, I'm like, oh, I'm so sick, I'm very sick.00:31:22.400 --> 00:31:24.640


But that's another way of saying you look like shit.00:31:26.079 --> 00:31:29.039


Um, you look like you give good advice in a forest.00:31:29.200 --> 00:31:29.599


That's weird.00:31:29.680 --> 00:31:29.920


What?00:31:30.000 --> 00:31:31.200


Like, so you look like a forest man?00:31:31.279 --> 00:31:31.839


I don't know.00:31:32.079 --> 00:31:34.160


Your head is the size of an A4 sheet.00:31:34.240 --> 00:31:36.480


Your face is so flat, I like it.00:31:36.720 --> 00:31:39.839


Uh, your face is so pretty, I want to walk around wearing it.00:31:40.000 --> 00:31:40.079


No.00:31:40.319 --> 00:31:41.519


Okay, buffalo bill, yeah.00:31:41.680 --> 00:31:42.240


Leather face.00:31:42.400 --> 00:31:42.880


That's creepy.00:31:43.119 --> 00:31:45.759


No, that's you have good face, you have good veins.00:31:46.319 --> 00:31:48.880


They are phlebotomists, is that what you call them when they bottom?00:31:49.519 --> 00:31:50.400


Yeah, my daughter is.00:31:50.640 --> 00:31:51.200


Oh, she is?00:31:51.440 --> 00:31:52.160


I could never do that.00:31:52.240 --> 00:31:52.960


Oh, that's creepy.00:31:53.200 --> 00:31:54.000


And does she like it?00:31:54.240 --> 00:31:55.200


She likes it a lot.00:31:55.440 --> 00:32:01.839


Been three years, and it's at a uh a lab where they test for drugs and effectiveness of drugs.00:32:01.920 --> 00:32:06.480


So you gotta take the drug, do the blood draw, and see how it is affecting your body.00:32:06.799 --> 00:32:08.319


So she'll have 90 patients.00:32:09.039 --> 00:32:12.160


And uh there was one time where a patient fainted.00:32:12.640 --> 00:32:14.640


The manager didn't know what to do.00:32:14.799 --> 00:32:24.799


She my daughter shows up, and uh, I guess it's all the uh crazy, you know, Nessa at home back in the day, or she just loves she likes exciting things, but she's calm.00:32:25.359 --> 00:32:31.039


We ski a lot, and she loves she's a speed demon, so she's used to kind of being calm in front of chaos.00:32:31.200 --> 00:32:33.119


So I was so proud of her for that reaction.00:32:33.359 --> 00:32:36.559


Now she's being promoted and for manager after three years.00:32:37.039 --> 00:32:44.319


And um another time, well, oh, when if uh one of the uh technicians can't draw blood, they they they grab Emma.00:32:44.480 --> 00:32:44.640


Uh-huh.00:32:44.880 --> 00:32:54.720


So she's channeling my mother who is a lab technician, and very much uh in that same kind of realm of a difficult patient, give it to Patty, right?00:32:55.039 --> 00:32:58.079


Do a blood draw, it can't be done by the nurse, call call Patty.00:32:58.160 --> 00:32:58.400


My mother.00:32:58.960 --> 00:33:01.759


I had a friend who was a traveling phlebotomist and she loved it.00:33:01.920 --> 00:33:03.279


She did really well.00:33:03.440 --> 00:33:06.079


So if she ever wants to travel, that would be something.00:33:06.559 --> 00:33:10.079


She's looking to get her uh apply for a PA school in in Southern California.00:33:10.400 --> 00:33:11.119


She's there today.00:33:11.279 --> 00:33:12.799


So we're talking about manifest.00:33:12.880 --> 00:33:14.480


She says, Yeah, dad, here on the beach.00:33:14.559 --> 00:33:16.720


I said, Hey, are you checking out any uh PA schools?00:33:16.880 --> 00:33:17.759


Well, yeah, I know.00:33:18.319 --> 00:33:21.839


And um she's been talking about the process for about four or five months.00:33:22.000 --> 00:33:29.359


I said, You want me to help you kind of like get on track and look because she's you know, she's out of school, she's working, she kind of wants to have a little freedom, not jump back in.00:33:29.839 --> 00:33:30.640


And I said, keep them.00:33:30.960 --> 00:33:33.440


I said the idea was to be off for like six, eight months.00:33:33.759 --> 00:33:35.839


I said, You want my help to kind of get you back on track?00:33:36.000 --> 00:33:37.200


And she says, Yeah, would you?00:33:37.359 --> 00:33:39.119


I said, let's talk about them right now.00:33:39.279 --> 00:33:48.000


Intention manifest, you want to be in Southern California, you're gonna be, you know, two streets from the beach, you want a full right scholarship, kind of ask, right?00:33:48.240 --> 00:33:49.680


All these infinite possibilities.00:33:49.920 --> 00:33:53.680


And then I just just kind of blurted it out, and then she says, That's really great, Dad.00:33:53.759 --> 00:33:54.640


Let's let's do that.00:33:55.200 --> 00:34:14.480


So trying to teach the kids, and that's the same thing with any in dating, getting back to dating, knowing not a list of 250, but to know what what the person that you want to show up uh should be like and um how it's gonna go, and and that if you have that mindset and you go into a your first initial sort of date, and a lot of times it'll go great.00:34:14.639 --> 00:34:15.360


So anyway.00:34:15.519 --> 00:34:15.679


Yeah.00:34:15.840 --> 00:34:17.119


Now it's time for the celebrity cut.00:34:17.199 --> 00:34:19.199


Well, we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.00:34:19.360 --> 00:34:24.880


Did you hear the whole Sydney Sweeney American Eagle controversy and how people got so up in arms?00:34:25.039 --> 00:34:28.320


But it's funny how that's exactly what American Eagle wanted to achieve.00:34:28.400 --> 00:34:32.159


Because did you see they made four over$400 million in 48 hours?00:34:33.039 --> 00:34:40.320


So I guess prior to the ad, their stocks were tanking, the board, they were freaking out because no one were buying their products, they were very irrelevant.00:34:40.400 --> 00:34:42.159


Like, who talks about American Eagle anymore?00:34:42.400 --> 00:34:43.280


So they were super smart.00:34:43.360 --> 00:34:46.239


They used Sydney Sweeney, who's a controversial actress herself.00:34:46.559 --> 00:34:47.440


Did you see the tagline?00:34:47.920 --> 00:34:50.800


Sydney Sweeney has good jeans and she's wearing jeans.00:34:51.039 --> 00:34:51.360


Wow.00:34:51.599 --> 00:34:57.360


But people thought it was, you know, white supremacist and Nazi propaganda because she has blonde hair, she has blue eyes.00:34:57.760 --> 00:34:59.199


Oh, so they use that.00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:00.239


Yeah.00:35:00.639 --> 00:35:03.119


The controversy that that um the play on words.00:35:03.599 --> 00:35:04.559


Which I thought it was brilliant.00:35:04.719 --> 00:35:05.920


It was pure genius.00:35:06.079 --> 00:35:06.239


Yeah.00:35:06.719 --> 00:35:07.840


But um, it worked.00:35:08.000 --> 00:35:13.760


Like they just people they played people and you know, people fell for it, eating out of the palm of their hands.00:35:14.320 --> 00:35:15.360


People are triggered by everything.00:35:15.599 --> 00:35:16.719


People are so triggered by everything.00:35:18.239 --> 00:35:24.239


But yeah, all these people that like got up in arms or were posting up a storm about it, you did exactly what they wanted you to do, you know.00:35:24.880 --> 00:35:30.480


So we are now going to get to know you with Zoyo, sponsored by Zoeo, your neighborhood yogurt.00:35:30.639 --> 00:35:31.519


Have you been to Zoyo before?00:35:31.679 --> 00:35:32.000


I've not.00:35:32.239 --> 00:35:32.800


Frozen yogurt?00:35:33.039 --> 00:35:33.440


Oh my gosh.00:35:33.840 --> 00:35:34.480


That's really good.00:35:34.639 --> 00:35:37.599


So we're gonna do rapid fire fire questions to get to know you.00:35:38.000 --> 00:35:39.199


To get to know Dan the man.00:35:39.440 --> 00:35:39.920


Oh my gosh.00:35:40.079 --> 00:35:43.280


So the best or worst pickup line you've used or you've heard?00:35:43.760 --> 00:35:45.199


Have you ever used the pickup line?00:35:45.440 --> 00:35:50.639


No, I really I haven't, other than uh probably I was in a in a in a silly mood.00:35:50.800 --> 00:35:55.599


Um, you know, so what's a nice gal like you doing in a bar like this?00:35:55.760 --> 00:35:57.440


I don't know, just something stupid like that.00:35:57.679 --> 00:35:57.840


Yeah.00:35:58.079 --> 00:36:02.800


Or I think there's more natural, not a pickup line, but um uh you're here by yourself.00:36:02.880 --> 00:36:05.119


You're here, you know, are you here on on business, right?00:36:05.440 --> 00:36:09.199


Usually in a in the business setting bar, and that usually is like, yeah, I'm here for business.00:36:09.360 --> 00:36:09.760


You kind of tell.00:36:10.000 --> 00:36:11.760


That's a good though, because it strikes up a conversation.00:36:11.840 --> 00:36:12.400


Yeah, naturally.00:36:12.800 --> 00:36:20.000


I don't I don't have to have a my point is I don't necessarily have to have a pickup line because I kind of know if I see something for reading a book, oh you like that author.00:36:20.239 --> 00:36:24.559


Oh, you are watching, you know, Formula One on your laptop, or you're a big Formula One fan.00:36:24.880 --> 00:36:27.760


So it's just I just know cues smart.00:36:28.079 --> 00:36:30.079


There's emotional intelligence versus just having a pickup line.00:36:30.239 --> 00:36:30.960


Yeah, more natural.00:36:31.039 --> 00:36:31.280


I like that.00:36:31.360 --> 00:36:31.519


Yeah.00:36:31.679 --> 00:36:33.599


What is your favorite body part on a partner?00:36:35.039 --> 00:36:36.159


Oh gosh.00:36:36.320 --> 00:36:37.679


Uh, body part.00:36:38.480 --> 00:36:39.280


Oh, their heart.00:36:39.920 --> 00:36:41.039


Oh, that's a good answer.00:36:41.280 --> 00:36:42.880


What gives you the ick?00:36:43.679 --> 00:36:44.880


Gives me the ick.00:36:46.320 --> 00:36:52.639


Um, I would say uh what gives me the ick?00:36:53.199 --> 00:36:54.960


Probably not well kept teeth.00:36:55.519 --> 00:36:59.199


Oh, that is such a turn on the teeth that I am with you on that one.00:36:59.440 --> 00:36:59.519


Yeah.00:37:00.159 --> 00:37:00.639


Deal breaker.00:37:01.039 --> 00:37:03.920


Yeah, I've I was I was uh I took care of three kids' teeth.00:37:04.079 --> 00:37:08.480


I mean, all the every dentist is just about an orthodontist, so it's like important to me.00:37:09.360 --> 00:37:11.519


Is watching porn considered cheating?00:37:12.480 --> 00:37:12.800


Yes.00:37:13.599 --> 00:37:17.760


Before you're intimate, is it appropriate to ask your date how many people you've been with?00:37:18.320 --> 00:37:22.159


Yes, and is it appropriate to actually have a test done, by the way.00:37:22.480 --> 00:37:22.960


Is it appropriate?00:37:23.760 --> 00:37:28.159


Yeah, I've uh is it acceptable to have sex on a first date?00:37:29.360 --> 00:37:31.119


Not if you want a long-term relationship.00:37:31.679 --> 00:37:32.400


That's what they say.00:37:32.559 --> 00:37:35.360


They say if you want a long-term relationship, you never should.00:37:36.320 --> 00:37:36.480


Yeah.00:37:37.199 --> 00:37:40.880


Should you disclose mental health issues early in a relationship?00:37:41.599 --> 00:37:42.719


Uh not necessarily.00:37:42.880 --> 00:37:47.840


I think it's um because you're trying to be friends and explore and just find commonality.00:37:48.159 --> 00:37:58.159


You don't want to torpedo sort of that, because they may find that yeah, you have it, but maybe they have um a a sibling or a parent that had it so they can understand.00:37:58.320 --> 00:38:02.400


But to do it up front like that in the beginning, I think doesn't help kind of build trust.00:38:02.880 --> 00:38:03.199


I don't know.00:38:03.280 --> 00:38:04.239


It's just me.00:38:04.719 --> 00:38:05.840


I mean, why yes?00:38:05.920 --> 00:38:13.840


I'm sorry, I'm schizophrenic and uh And so am I, and so am I so am I Yes, yes, yeah.00:38:14.159 --> 00:38:17.679


Well, thank you so much for joining us this week on the Meat Market, and thank you so much.00:38:17.840 --> 00:38:25.679


If you want to go on a date with Dan the man, go to any of our social media platforms at Meat Market Podcast, and thank you to our sponsor, Tactical Tax Strategies.00:38:25.840 --> 00:38:30.800


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Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.00:38:37.920 --> 00:38:40.000


He looks absolutely nothing like his picture.00:38:40.239 --> 00:38:44.960


So I found out the guy that I've been dating is married with kids.00:38:45.199 --> 00:38:47.679


His wife just reached out to me.