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SPEAKER_01 0:00

So, Astrid, you are an OnlyFans creator, correct?

SPEAKER_02 0:03

Yes, I am.

SPEAKER_01 0:04

What is the craziest thing someone's requested from you?

SPEAKER_02 0:07

Uh a guy asked me to cover my body in peanut butter. What? And uh I went to um forum to see how much I should charge him because it seemed like a lot of cleanup, right? Like, do I need to get a tarp? How much is the peanut butter gonna cost? Um, it's gonna be a lot of labor involved. So um Yeah, that's a lot of peanut butter.

SPEAKER_01 0:32

It is a lot of peanut butter.

SPEAKER_02 0:33

And I gave him a price and that was out of his uh out of his um budget. What? So what's crazy about that is that months and months later, he must have seen that forum that I posted on asking for advice on how much to charge. And he said, By the way, I don't have a poop fetish because that's what someone had suggested in the forum. They were like, Oh, he has a poop fetish, and he's just trying to get around the terms of service. And that was pretty horrifying.

SPEAKER_03 1:04

Wow. So they were saying like he would take peanut butter as a substitution. Absolutely. Ew.

SPEAKER_02 1:10

Yeah, that's gross. And so he came back later to clarify. He's like, no, that's not what I was doing. He's like, just so you know.

SPEAKER_01 1:18

So you said you quoted him a price that was out of his price range. What was that price?

SPEAKER_02 1:22

I think I was like 300 bucks.

SPEAKER_01 1:26

Yeah, because it's gonna be messy.

SPEAKER_02 1:27

Oh like I gotta go to the store and buy these things, clean it up.

SPEAKER_01 1:31

No, like my my time is So he wanted you to just cover your whole body in peanut butter. Uh-huh. And then do what?

SPEAKER_02 1:37

I think that was it. He didn't mention any other details.

SPEAKER_03 1:41

The instructions were gonna come then after you had the peanut butter on your body. Maybe so. That is like crazy. So, what do you did? He then explain what his fetish was? Was it like a food fetish?

SPEAKER_02 1:53

I assume it was a food fetish. After uh I gave him the price, it pretty much just fizzled out. Yeah, yeah, that's funny.

SPEAKER_01 2:01

So, have you had any of your subscribers hit on you or want to take you on a

OnlyFans Rules And Meetups

SPEAKER_01 2:06

date?

SPEAKER_02 2:06

It's against terms of service to talk about meeting up in person, which is nice. Um I bet people break that all the time, though, right? Probably, yeah. I think they go around like alternate channels like Telegram and other encrypted messaging services. But yeah, terms of service on OnlyFans is pretty strict. There's things that you can't say or you can get your account banned. So I think one guy maybe brought it up and I was like, hey, you need to watch what you're saying. We can't talk about that on here. And also, I don't do that. So do you do just solo content? I started with solo content and I've been branching out into collabing with other creators. It's um yeah, it's interesting. I hear you can make a lot of money on OnlyFans. You can, but it's a lot of work. It's really marketing. Marketing, yeah. Most of it takes place in marketing. So you have to advertise across different platforms. Each platform has a different algorithm and different terms, rules you have to play by. It's very easy to get like um restricted or banned or shadow banned, things like that. You can get your account shut down. Um, I just don't have the patience to keep rebuilding account after account after account. Some people have like 20 Instagram accounts. Yeah. And I can barely keep up with the ones. So I kind of just play by the rules. I'm not super successful because I haven't figured out the marketing thing. Some people go through agencies, but those agencies usually take a lot of money. So if you have like a regular job, it's a bit uh hard to commit to it. You really gotta be online. Like you can take pictures and stuff, and that's kind of the fun part. But being online at night when the dudes are horny and they want to talk, that's really where the money gets made. Do

Marketing And Creator Burnout

SPEAKER_02 3:56

you have a niche? I guess I'm kind of like a soft Dom. I'm still figuring out how the Dom stuff works. Cause in my personal life, I used to be like very submissive and kind of passive. But as I've gotten older, I'm just like, men don't know shit. Like, okay, let me let me do it. And most of them are kind of like offering up their power anyway. They'll say they have a kink, but then you talk to them and they really don't know what they want to do. So they do need direction sometimes. But I'm not mean. Um, I just don't take a lot of shit. It's more like a, I guess, a goddess vibe. It's like, you gotta come in here with gifts and worship me, or I'm not spending my time on you.

SPEAKER_01 4:37

So I have a question because you hear some famous people that are on OnlyFans that claim they don't do any nudity or they do hair stuff, or is there are some people on OnlyFans that do in it like knitting or I believe there are.

SPEAKER_02 4:52

Um, you can really do as much or as little as you're comfortable with on there. I I could see how it could be a gateway, perhaps. Like maybe they did just start knitting or whatever, but there are gonna be people who show up in your DMs and they want extra things. You start out knitting and then you start knitting naked. Possibly, yeah. And you can choose what's on your wall or on your timeline.

SPEAKER_03 5:15

I guess you could then fulfill DM requests without actually putting any nude content on your account page, right? So it would be like the only way that you would sell spicier photos would be through the DM and not through the the public.

SPEAKER_02 5:36

Yeah, that tends to be my my route because my subscription price is not super high. It's like nine bucks. So I was like,

Soft Dom Energy And Pricing

SPEAKER_02 5:44

okay, I need to be at least as entertaining as Netflix if I'm gonna keep people here. Um, what I post mostly is my pole dancing videos. I do pole dancing for fun. I tried it professionally. It's not for me. I'm not a saleswoman. I just like to show off. Um, but I was posting my pole dancing videos on Instagram and I was getting restricted. I couldn't grow my account because they weren't showing it to people because they were saying my pole dancing videos were of sexual nature and whatnot, which they were not. It's just artistic. Women's bodies are regulated in such a contradictory way. I could go off on that variety.

SPEAKER_03 6:19

I took a pole dancing class not long ago, maybe like six weeks ago. I loved it for one. For two, when I got done, I was like, stop. I'm quitting everything. I'm changing my career path. I'm going to be a dancer. I'm like, I think I could make money doing this, and I haven't been back. But so it was so hard and it was so fun, and it was such a good workout. And it's crazy that it's sexualized so much to a point where you can't even record yourself doing something that you enjoy. That's fitness.

SPEAKER_01 6:54

That's true. It's fitness. Why is it restricted?

SPEAKER_02 6:56

Unless you're naked on it. However, we also have to honor the roots of pole dancing, which does come from stripping and sex work. So there's actually a lot of argument in the in the pole fitness realm versus the sex worker realm. Like they kind of come at odds sometimes because there are people in the fitness industry that are trying to like separate from that. And then there's also the other people that are like, no, you can never separate it. Like you have to always remember that this is where it came from. So hopefully it'll change though.

SPEAKER_03 7:25

And I like it. I liked it. It was so fun. I think that you until you've gone and taken a class, you shouldn't say one way or the other because it is hard.

SPEAKER_01 7:35

I have mad respect for pole dancers because I tried it for a bachelorette party and it was hard. I couldn't do it. You need so much upper body strength and leg strength, and it's difficult.

SPEAKER_02 7:44

It's extremely hard. It's the hardest thing I've ever done. I have been a very athletic person since I was a kid. And I was humbled the first time I tried to pull myself up on a pole. I was like, oh wow, I have a lot of work to do. And uh there's a lot of different types of pole. So you can do low flow, you can crawl around on the floor and be very sexy, or you can be up in the air and do more like gymnastic sort of stuff, or you can combine it. It can be slow and sensual, or it can be like rowdy and very spicy, where you're like clacking heels together and like launching yourself into these really dynamic jumps.

SPEAKER_01 8:18

It's an art.

SPEAKER_02 8:20

Yeah. And I think it's a way to connect with yourself. Like there is the tendency, I think, in our capitalistic society, we feel like we have to monetize everything. And so the fantasy of stripping is really fun. Like, I think about it sometimes. Actually, getting money thrown on you is one of the best feelings ever.

SPEAKER_03 8:39

I have like just my premiere and my retirement in the same night. That's all. Like, that's all I want is just one night to be in the retirement. Exactly.

SPEAKER_02 8:52

What's wonderful is that we get to do it for our community of pole friends. And so you don't have to get up on a stage in this like weird, like grimy environment. But uh pole studios will often have like a showcase where they invite members to like put a piece together. And then we all have a night where we get together and we like there's the audience and everybody puts on their performances. And yeah, like we can throw money on each other, and so you can make that come true.

SPEAKER_03 9:18

I will say that I walked into the gym like about 10 minutes early. Class started at 12, and I walked in around 10 to 12. I didn't realize, I didn't look at their schedule. I didn't realize it was open gym hour from 11 to 12 before the class. I walked in and I was like, huh, I was like, ass, ass, titties, titties, heels, clapping. I was like, this is amazing. It was like there was just a girl on every pole, like in a different position, doing a different move. Like some were dressed, some weren't, some were wearing heels, some weren't. It was so cool. I was like, okay, I was like, this, this is the spot.

SPEAKER_02 9:57

Yeah, it's really nice. It's really like a body positive environment. Like the first time I took a class, it was uh awkward at the end because she set us out to freestyle and she said, Okay, half of you go watch, half of you are gonna dance, we're gonna put on two songs, you're gonna freestyle. And it was like froze. Oh my god, stage

Pole Dancing As Art And Fitness

SPEAKER_02 10:16

fright. And so I felt myself like real stiffly trying to get into it. And then I just like took some deep breaths and it was almost like my body took over. And so since then, yeah, I was like, I'm changing my life. Like, I'm all about pole dance from this moment on. I'm gonna go buy my heels. And it does become an obsession for a lot of us because um you just learn to trust your body, you get so strong. How long have you been doing it for? I've been doing it since about 2018 is when I started, and it was kind of like on and off for a little bit, but then consistently since 2021. So you've got to be really good. Uh, you know, it comes and goes. Like it, if you don't practice for a little bit, you can lose your strength pretty easily.

SPEAKER_03 10:58

That's what I was gonna say. It's like a workout, it's like pull-ups. I feel like because like if you can do a pull-up, you can do a like a pull routine, kind of like it's it's training. And if you don't train that way, it becomes harder. So it's like as long as you are doing it in your training.

SPEAKER_01 11:14

Did you guys see that hilarious TikTok video of the girl that was pole dancing in her house and she was filming themselves? And the pole bow in the water.

SPEAKER_03 11:23

Yes, she attached it wrong and it burst up and it was so after my after my day. Okay, so after my day, I told three or four, like I told my male girl, like, I'm giving it all up, no more. Fuck them kids, like I'm I'm I'm getting on the pole, like I'm changing my career path or whatever. So we're laughing about it. I a friend that I had told that to, like, I'm gonna start dancing. This is gonna be my new thing, sent me that video, and she was like, please just don't let this happen to you. And I was like, my contractor is licensed and bonded, goddammit, that's never gonna happen to me.

SPEAKER_02 11:56

My whole poll is gonna be secure. Oh, that's so fun. There's actually an Instagram page called uh poll lulls, and so it's full of all the kinds of people dropping. Oh, I bet there's so many poll fails. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 12:09

Oh god. It was funny though. I was reading, speaking of OnlyFans, one of the girls from Harry Potter, not one of the main stars, but she was so broke after the Harry Potter series, she started OnlyFans, but it's all about her hair. Like, and she's making like she's supporting her five kids. She was like broke, couldn't feed her kids. And then she started her OnlyFans based on her hair, and I guess is making like millions just because of her hair. Like, I guess everyone's definitely helps if you have a platform already.

SPEAKER_02 12:35

So if you have some kind of celebrity, like that's people already know your name. Um me,

Dating After Seeing The Ugly Side

SPEAKER_02 12:40

I'm just a person who teaches fitness for a living and thought uh, you know, I was sick of the dating scene and not satisfied there. So I just needed to express that energy in a different way. Does being on OnlyFans make it hard to date? It does because I've seen the ugly side of men and it's don't let your kids go on Snapchat. Like I was on Snapchat for a while and I've seen things that are like burned into my brain that were like kind of traumatic. Like what? Random people will send you like violent porn.

unknown 13:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 13:14

Snapchat's dangerous. It is very dangerous. Like, I feel like there's a lot of scammers too. It's really easy to be like a fake account or like a troll account or something with no ident like identifying information.

SPEAKER_02 13:28

I feel yeah, it's fine if you're just talking to your friends, but I I know it sounds kind of weird, but it was an accident that I like added some people because I thought that it was suggest because I'm old and I don't know how to use Snapchat. Um, I thought it was suggesting people that I already knew. So I was like, oh, okay, I'll go ahead and add them. But then it like opened the floodgates, and then I started doing OnlyFans. And so I was like, well, maybe I can grow on here. Um, I did get a lot of followers, but it was just too much like stuff to wade through. You can make money on Snapchat, but it's like, is it worth your sanity? Yeah. How is it dating? Dating. Well, um as an OnlyFans creator, I mean I'm not actively dating. Uh and I I haven't had the opportunity to actually like have a conversation with someone and be like, hey, by the way, this is what I do, because nobody ever makes it that far.

SPEAKER_01 14:25

Really?

SPEAKER_02 14:25

Okay. I mean, most guys can't even make it to the date.

SPEAKER_01 14:28

What?

SPEAKER_02 14:28

Like they will, you know, pull some hot and cold push-pull bullshit before the date happens. When do where do you meet people? I was on the apps for a long time. Um, and I did go on lots of dates and I met some all right people, but I also had a lot of just like distasteful experiences. Um, so I swore off the apps and now I'm just kind of living life. I'm open to dating, but I'm not actively seeking it out. So you bodybuild as well, right? I just started, yeah. I'm about to uh enter a bikini competition in January, I believe. I'm in the growth phase.

SPEAKER_01 15:01

I've heard that's a lot of work, and you have to be really strict and disciplined about what you eat and how you work out.

SPEAKER_02 15:07

How has it been? Uh I was already pretty locked in because I'm a fitness instructor and personal trainer, and I'm used to getting up early and fueling my body properly and prioritizing my sleep, and I'm sober, so um, I'm not out at night doing having drinks or making bad decisions or eating things I shouldn't be. So it's not that bad. I can still have some carbs right now because I'm in the growth phase. And I can eat rice crispy treats in the middle of my workout. So I mean it's not that bad.

SPEAKER_01 15:42

Doesn't sound that bad.

SPEAKER_02 15:44

It's just hard for me to eat enough because I'm very, very active. Besides the bodybuilding, I'm like teaching Pilates and sculpt and yoga in a hot room. What is the craziest date you've

Scary Dates And Safety Lessons

SPEAKER_02 15:55

ever been on? There was a well, this is the time I learned not to let someone pick me up on the first date. I was new to California and on Tinder and just like going on dates and whatnot. This guy picked me up and then we were going, I don't wherever we were going, and he had talked to his mom on the speakerphone while I was in there, and that was really awkward. Um, just a little too close, too quick. And then oh, we went to see a movie, that's what it was. And he was like super handsy and just uh I didn't feel safe. So I ended up getting an Uber home from that. I've had a really scary third date where I went over to a guy's house and he seemed to be having some kind of manic episode, maybe. I'm not sure. He just seemed like he was a little bit all over the place. And the vibe I was getting is that he was mad at his dad for something. He seemed kind of like he was a Nepo baby, mad at his dad. What? And then he mentioned that he had a gun and he was asking me if I wanted to see it, and I was like, no, I'm good. What a question! Yeah, it's a little the details are a little foggy because it was a few years ago. Unless it was like, check out these guns of mine.

SPEAKER_01 17:15

I can't see why you'd ever want to be like, want to see my gun?

SPEAKER_02 17:17

Oh my god. So random. I think he even suggested like me having sex on top of him with the gun. What? Yeah, it was like really psycho behavior. No. Um, I had driven from Long Beach to LA, so I was like, well, I was already there. So we did have sex, but then like after like he was being really weird afterwards, like saying some really passive aggressive things, and then he has his like hand on my throat, and like I had to like kind of slide out of bed and just like grab all my things and get out of there because I did not feel safe. I thought he was gonna kill me. Like, I almost thought that he had invited me up there, and then somewhere in there changed his mind, uh, but then had sex with me and then decided to be even extra weird because he wanted me to leave. I'm not sure. It was very weird.

SPEAKER_03 18:08

Yeah, you had to be careful. People are crazy. People are crazy, and it's like, what are some of your so you mentioned that guys often don't get passed either like the first date or to the date. What are some of your icks? Like, what are some of your turnoffs right away that just your like immediate no?

SPEAKER_02 18:25

Judgmental. Like if I if they're talking trash about somebody, that is just a turnoff. Like, you've got to be a positive type of person. Um if they don't work out because that's a big part of my life. Um if they don't have a job, it's amazing how many men are uh ready to date when they're unemployed. We hear that a lot. A lot of guys are trying to date. They're like, oh, I finally have time now. Have you ever walked out mid-date? I've walked out not mid-well, no, that's not true. I walked out once when we were closing down a date. We were walking out of the restaurant. He said he needs to go to the restroom. And while he's in the restroom, I like booked it to my car because I did not want him to walk me to my car. Because he had just said some really like misogynistic things during dinner that were some red flags, and um, I I knew that he was probably gonna, you know, be pushy if he walked me to my car. Um, there was one guy. This is actually funny because three guys disappointed me in one weekend. That's probably when I got off the apps, I think. I was like, I can't do this anymore. Um one guy from the apps, I went to meet him near his apartment. I didn't want to go in his apartment because he's a stranger. Um but I got there and he was not ready. And so he's like, oh, just come on up. And I was like, All right, I'm already compromising my boundaries. So I was annoyed. Um, I went upstairs and he's not even ready. And like, we're kind of like chit-chatting, getting to know each other while he's like in another room with the door cracked, like getting dressed. And I looked at my watch and I was like, I've been here for 15 minutes. This guy is just wasting my time. And I just got up. I was like, you know what? I never mind. I know I drove 30 minutes to get here, but I am more than happy to just drive 30 back and go back home.

SPEAKER_03 20:17

So I saw this, it was a real, or I can't remember if it was a real or

Modern Dating Icks And Boundaries

SPEAKER_03 20:22

a documentary, or where I saw it recently, but it was about this. So there's this thing that has gone on that it's like teaching men this theory that if you get can get a woman just like casually into your place at the beginning of the date, like you're like, oh shoot, I forgot my XYZ, I forgot my wallet. Let me just, you know what? Why don't you just run upstairs with me real quick? If they can get you in before the date, they're more likely to get you home with them after the date to sleep with them. And so this is like something that's being taught to young men to do this.

SPEAKER_01 21:02

That's terrible. Who's teaching this?

SPEAKER_03 21:05

That's so like the math sphere. It's like red pill thing, is what I was watching. And that's kind of what it was saying. That like men will often do that exact same thing. Like, I need to quick get ready. Oh, I didn't, I got stuck on the phone and I didn't have time to XYZ, whatever it was. Like, just come real quick and then we'll head to dinner, whatever it is. Because if they're if they're if they make you feel non-threatened in their place before the date, just really quick, it like desensitizes you to the idea of going back to their place after the date.

SPEAKER_02 21:42

It's kind of like similar to the trauma dumping because it creates this sense of like rushed intimacy. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 21:50

It would kind of be a deal breaker to me though, to have experienced that. Like, oh, I'm not ready yet. Can you come up? Because to me, that shows you don't have time management skills. Like Like we said we were gonna make it this time. Be ready at this time. Don't make a girl wait, especially on the first date. Like that would piss me off. Yeah, making me wait.

SPEAKER_02 22:07

That's an ick. I have uh yeah, chewed a guy out for being like 15, 20 minutes late before. I've gone on dates with guys and they just they're like, okay, so what are we doing now? I'm like, you didn't make a plan. Oh god.

SPEAKER_01 22:20

I have to make the plan. Because and if they're late on a first date, doesn't that also show that they don't really respect you or your time? Like if they feel they can just show up whenever, like, no.

SPEAKER_02 22:30

Yeah, I've had guys uh decide that they're uh not coming like after I've already put on my makeup and stuff. That last minute? Yeah. What was their oh I fell asleep? I've heard that one so many times. So that's a huge red flag when a guy says, Oh, I fell asleep. Right. That's unbelievable. Yeah, one of the guys, I actually started making guys um that tried to come back in after they pissed me off. They were like didn't show up for the first date or like flaked out somehow, try to crawl back a couple months later. I'm like, Well, you have to buy me something now. I was like, here's my Amazon wish list to pick something. Like, this is the forgiveness fee. That's awesome. Yeah, it was just like something small, nothing too crazy. I love that. The forgiveness fee. You have to listen to the slum flower hour. She's is amazing. She talks all about dating and how to like decenter men. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 23:24

Have you ever been cheated on?

SPEAKER_02 23:26

I think when I was in high school, maybe. Yeah. Um, I don't think I've been cheated on during a relationship, but uh it's been a long time since I've been in a serious committed relationship. Um, I've had a couple of like short stints, but the last time I was in a something committed was like 2009. Do you want to get married and have kids?

SPEAKER_00 23:49

No. No.

SPEAKER_02 23:50

No, no marriage, no kids. No, I was always open to it. I was like, well, okay, yeah, if it happens, that would be cool. Like I never really wanted kids for myself, but I was willing to compromise on that if the right guy came along. Um but then I got to like 35, and that was kind of the number where I was like, okay, I need to figure things out now. Like my eggs are whatever, which has been disproven now. It's it's a man's sperm, right? Yeah, our eggs are still good. Women are getting pregnant late. Of course, men blaming us for everything. But it was during COVID, so I had a lot of time to like self-reflect, and I was like, okay, do I want to have kids for me? Is this something I want in my heart of hearts, or is this just something that I am willing to do because I think society wants it? And I was like, Well, I don't want kids, and I've known that since I was seven years old.

SPEAKER_01 24:37

Oh wow.

SPEAKER_02 24:38

Um, my aunt and uncle, when I was seven, they had adopted excuse me, I need some water. My aunt and uncle had adopted a child with cerebral palsy. And so when I met her, I was just astounded that anyone would adopt a child with special needs. I was like, wow, this is way more altruistic than I could ever be. And at seven years old, I was like, I'm not a good enough person to do this. So that means that God is gonna curse me with a special needs child. I don't want children. Whoa, yeah, I knew from seven, but I think I kind of fooled myself for a while. In my 20s and 30s, I was like, oh, maybe. Are you ready for it?

SPEAKER_03 25:19

I'm ready

Listener Question Name Change Suspicion

SPEAKER_03 25:20

for it. The Keep More Minute, brought to you by Tactical Tax Strategies. They help you keep more in your wallet. We help you keep more in your relationship. So we have a listener question. My girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. I recently noticed that she changed my name in her phone from some cute name to initials. My girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. And I noticed that she changed how she called me sweetheart with a red heart emoji behind it in her phone from my actual and my actual name to just my initials. I asked her about it and she said it's nothing and that I shouldn't read too much into it, but honestly, it bothers me more than I expected. I know it might seem like a smaller, stupid thing, but because we're long distance, little things like this can make me overthink. I'm wondering if there's some meaning behind the change, especially since she used to have my actual name saved. I don't want to accuse her of anything or make a big deal out of something that could genuinely mean nothing, but at the same time, I can't seem to shake the feeling that something has changed. Am I overthinking this or would this bother other people too?

SPEAKER_01 26:27

It would bother me. It seems like she's looking at him differently. Yeah. And she doesn't want his number to pop up and some other guy with his name. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 26:35

She doesn't want his name. She doesn't want to name them but behind sweetheart.

SPEAKER_01 26:40

Why else would she take the time and energy to change it? Uh-huh. 100%. Yeah. Or they just got in a fight, he pissed her off, and she did it and never changed it back. I've dated guys and I changed their name to Fuckhead because I get to stuff at them, and then I continue dating them, but their name is still Fuckhead. You know? So that could have happened too.

SPEAKER_03 26:57

But and but if they asked you to change it back, would you?

SPEAKER_01 27:01

Like if I if I like them, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 27:03

Yeah. If I do it. So if she likes them, so if she likes him, she should change it back. Agreed. So for her to say it's no big deal, it doesn't mean doesn't change it back, I think she's being shady.

SPEAKER_01 27:15

She's being shady, a hundred percent.

SPEAKER_03 27:16

Because if your partner asked you to change it back, you'd just do it, right? If you love if you like them, yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 27:22

So yeah, she's she's dating around and doesn't want anyone to see the sweetheart name. Funny. So I have to okay, I have to ask you guys a

Bathroom Selfies And Cake Smashing

SPEAKER_01 27:30

question. How do you feel about women taking bathroom selfies and posting them on social media? Because I have a friend who is actually interested in a guest we had on the show recently. And she's always posting on social media, which for him was like kind of a red flag. Like, wow, can she ever not post on social media? But then she's posting pictures of herself in high-end restaurants in the bathroom where you see the toilet behind her. And it was a deal breaker for him. He's like, the bathroom selfie with the toilet. I I could I can't do it. But a lot of women post bathroom selfies, right? A lot of women. But I think that you should come away from the toilet.

SPEAKER_03 28:04

I think that you should be in the full-length mirror with the nice ladies' lounge behind you. Like it should not be the toilet, like you shouldn't be like, you shouldn't have the Toto in the bathroom. Like just take a step out of the stall.

SPEAKER_01 28:15

Yeah, like don't is this it was a deal breaker for my friend. Do you think it's a deal breaker for many men? I know my husband, it's a deal breaker for him. Like, why do women do it? I guess. Yeah, I don't know. Like you said though, I think if you do it artistically where there's no bug in the background, the toilet, but like wouldn't you edit it out?

SPEAKER_02 28:33

I don't even think, I don't know. There's a lot of men on dating apps with toilets in the pictures. Yes. And that's kind of that's an ick for me.

SPEAKER_03 28:43

I think it's an ick no matter who if it's a woman that doesn't over it. I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 28:47

I think they're just unconscious, right? It's like somebody that you like you're out and they uh you give someone your camera and you trust that they're gonna take a good picture and it's like down at the picture of your feet or it's not centered.

SPEAKER_03 29:00

Like not everybody has attention to detail. Yeah, and not everybody and yeah. And some people care more about how their face looks, that's and more about filtering this and making sure that this looks good, and they forget to filter out toilet.

SPEAKER_01 29:16

The toilet. It's I think they're so concerned about their face and how they look. Uh-huh. Yeah. But PSA don't post, well, you can post bathroom selfies, but edit out the toilet.

SPEAKER_03 29:26

Yeah, I don't know. That's funny.

SPEAKER_01 29:28

Another thing, I see all these videos of cake smashing. Like, how do you feel about that? Like at weddings where the the groom puts the bride and the cake. That would piss me off. Oh, when you spent money to do your makeup and your hair, wouldn't that piss you off? Absolutely. Yeah. Like, I'm surprised some of these men don't get cocked in the side. You know? And then there was one video, and it was a woman that did it to a man, and it was one in one of these like Middle Eastern countries, and he like beat the shit out of her on camera in the video. Like he was not amused. But like that's something I don't get. Or like on birthdays, have you seen a lot of people do it on the people's birthdays? And did you hear that one story? They did it, and the there was like one of the, you know, in the cakes, they have the little tripart and it like when it she just like stayed there. Have you seen that video? No. And she doesn't get up, and they would they thought that she was joking, but it went through her eye into her brain, and she was like severely injured. Like, is it worth the risk? Or like a candle going in your eye, you know?

SPEAKER_03 30:24

Yeah, no, it's just un, it's unnecessary. Not worth it. Yeah, not worth it. I'm not risking that biscuit.

SPEAKER_01 30:29

Um, so now it's time for this celebrity cup where we marinate in the juices of the celebrities.

Brad Pitt Drinking And Cancel Culture

SPEAKER_01 30:33

So, how do you guys feel about Brad Pitt? You know how he was sober? Remember how he stopped drinking? Uh so believe you.

SPEAKER_02 30:41

Was this after he beat up Angelina and the kids on the plane?

SPEAKER_01 30:43

Yeah, so he was on the plane. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're right. Yes. Apparently, allegedly got drunk and like held her up in a chokehold and threw drinks over her and the kids and was physically violent. So then he stopped drinking. Seven years later, he's now drinking again, but he says he's doing it in a professional manner and he's doing it in moderation. Is that possible? I know how difficult it is to practice restraint when you like alcohol. I'm English. We love our pubs, we love our beer. When you enjoy alcohol, can you do it in moderation, especially with his severe history with alcohol and abusing alcohol? Can he drink in a professional manner? Legitimately asking.

SPEAKER_02 31:22

I think it is possible. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 31:23

Espe was he an addict? Like full-fledged. Like, did he go through treatment? Because I feel like it just it kind of depends on the severity of your abuse and addiction. If it was just and your constitution, yeah, we're all kind of built different. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 31:42

Because I know that like me and my family, my friends, British people, you say you're gonna go out for one or two, and it's never just one or two, you know? Maybe one or two bottles, but yeah, once you start, it's kind of hard to stop. So I was just curious. But it's crazy to me how people never really, you know how people um cancelled Johnny Depp after the whole Amberhead thing. People never canceled Brad Pitt after that. Why did they that?

SPEAKER_02 32:04

I don't know. I saw people lifting up Johnny Depp still.

SPEAKER_01 32:07

He's still he's still held now. He went through that court case and she was proven guilty, right? He was proven innocent that she was charged with what is it defamation.

SPEAKER_03 32:18

It also was different times. Cancel cancel culture wasn't really around when the the Brad Pitt Angelina Jolie thing. Like you heard about it and you read about it in the tabloids, but there wasn't really like the social media cancel culture that there is now. Because I think he was kind of canceled.

SPEAKER_02 32:39

They all come back, they just have to hibernate for a little while and let everybody forget about it, and then they come back.

SPEAKER_03 32:45

Chris Brown made a comeback. The paparazzis were writing about him, it was all over the news, like people were bashing him. It just isn't because I think social media forgot about it too. Yeah, and then people forgot about it. And then it's like social media really took off, and then this can't cancel culture started, but it was already old news by then.

SPEAKER_01 33:06

Because I know that a lot of people not blamed Angelina, but she's crazy, Angelina Jolie's crazy, she's the crazy one, you know. Um, but the fact that all of like I just read Vivian, one of his twins, Vivian and is it Vivian and Knox, the two twins. Um, she's just released a newspaper ad to drop her name, Pitt. And they all have, haven't they? They've all dropped Pit. So that to me screams volumes.

SPEAKER_03 33:29

Like well, it's never just it's the person who's yelling the loudest about the other person. It's like usually that means it's both ways. You know what I mean? Like it's never just one person.

SPEAKER_02 33:43

Well, and they love to blame women, like Emily. You know, it's always the woman that gets blessed.

SPEAKER_03 33:48

Yeah. Yeah. So it's like he, you know, is blame her, blame her, blame her. But then it's like, usually it's like you have to look at yourself too, because it takes two to be a toxic relationship.

SPEAKER_01 34:02

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Rapid Fire Dating Rules And Wrap

SPEAKER_01 34:07

yogurt. Okay, rapid fire questions. Are these red flags on it? Make sure you spit the bill on the first date.

SPEAKER_02 34:11

It's a red flag.

SPEAKER_01 34:12

It still follows their ex on Instagram. It depends. What if they're still friends with their ex and hang out with hang out with them?

SPEAKER_02 34:21

That'd be weird.

SPEAKER_01 34:21

Yeah. Bad tipper. A red flag that has no social media. A green flag. Where should someone not take you on a first date? To a movie. Is watching porn considered cheating?

SPEAKER_00 34:33

No.

SPEAKER_01 34:33

Before you're intimate, is it appropriate to ask your date how many people they've been with?

SPEAKER_00 34:37

No.

SPEAKER_01 34:38

Is it acceptable to have sex on a first date?

SPEAKER_00 34:40

Sure.

SPEAKER_01 34:40

Do you have a secret talent that not many people know of besides the pole dancing? Something that not many people know about you?

SPEAKER_02 34:46

I can sing, I guess.

SPEAKER_01 34:47

Yeah, do you karaoke?

SPEAKER_02 34:48

Do I karaoke? No. No? No, because I don't go out at night. I wake up at 4 30 a.m. most mornings. I sing in my car.

SPEAKER_01 34:56

In one sentence, why should someone date you? Because I'm smart, kind, and adventurous. You do seem very down-to-earth, smart, sweet. You seem like a good salt of the earth person. I'm surprised that you're single. Yeah. Um What do you think that is? Do you think it's the OnlyFans that No?

SPEAKER_02 35:13

I think part of it is because I've been self-employed for a long time. And so I was building my business back in New Mexico. Then I moved out to California and I had to start all over again. Um how long have you been single? I mean, it's hard to count the things that lasted two weeks, right? Things don't count. That doesn't count. Like three months, that barely doesn't really count either.

SPEAKER_03 35:36

No long-term relationship is like six months or longer, I feel.

SPEAKER_02 35:39

2009, it's been a long time. Okay. Do you want something serious? I mean, it would be nice, but I feel like the older you get, like love is not the same as like when you're young, you know, you can't just like r run into each other and share everything and be best friends. It's like you really have to come to a compromise on a lot of things. And as you get older, you really have you you know you have your life like you like it. Like a man who snores, like I'm gonna have to get up and leave. Like, if I ever did get married, like we would have to probably have to have separate rooms. And marriage, I would rather just have an awesome life partner who wants to travel. Like marriage, I don't know if that's for me. Last but not least, what is your favorite sexual position and why? I guess missionary, because you can kiss more. Good answer.

SPEAKER_01 36:33

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